We become the sum of so many people throughout our lives. Kate speaks with one of the funniest people on the entire planet, comedian Samantha Bee, about the people who made her, her. What virtues did they create? What absurdity ensued? How does she think about how she impacts her own kids? 

In this conversation, Kate and Samantha discuss:
Samantha's hand of God moment that changed the trajectory of her life
How the people who love us shape us into who we become
What siblings or friends or partners teach us about intimacy



Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by clicking here or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts.

Follow Kate on Instagram, Facebook, or X (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.

We become the sum of so many people throughout our lives. Kate speaks with one of the funniest people on the entire planet, comedian Samantha Bee, about the people who made her, her. What virtues did they create? What absurdity ensued? How does she think about how she impacts her own kids? 
In this conversation, Kate and Samantha discuss:
<ul>
<li>Samantha's hand of God moment that changed the trajectory of her life</li>
<li>How the people who love us shape us into who we become</li>
<li>What siblings or friends or partners teach us about intimacy</li>
</ul>
 
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Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by <a href="https://katebowler.com/podcast/">clicking here</a> or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts.
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Are you living your best life now? Not always? This is a podcast for you. Duke Professor Kate Bowler is an expert in the stories we tell about success and failure, suffering and happiness. She had Stage IV cancer. Then she didn’t. And since then, all she wants to do is talk to funny and wise people about how to live with the knowledge that, well, everything happens.  Find her online at @katecbowler.

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Are you living your best life now? Not always? This is a podcast for you. Duke Professor Kate Bowler is an expert in the stories we tell about success and failure, suffering and happiness. She had Stage IV cancer. Then she didn’t. And since then, all she wants to do is talk to funny and wise people about how to live with the knowledge that, well, everything happens.  Find her online at @katecbowler.
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Honest conversation about life's less-shiny moments.

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Samantha Bee: This is Going to Be(e) a Great Story

We need more room to be honest about what it costs when people or institutions fail us. Today's conversation is with Lord Charles Spencer, the 9th Earl Spencer. You might also know him as Princess Diana's brother. His latest book, A Very Private School, is a courageous and beautifully written memoir about his time in an abusive English boarding school that was shrouded in secrets, abuse, and cruelty. While his circumstances may be unlike something you’ve experienced, Charles speaks so candidly and tenderly about his painful childhood and what it has cost him and others too.

In this conversation, Kate and Charles discuss:


the challenge and catharsis of writing about personal trauma


the casual cruelty Charles and his peers endured


what happens when our innocence is stolen from us at a young age


what healing looks like 50 years later

If you liked this conversation, might also like: 


Rachel Denhollender on getting justice you deserve


Tara Westover on how our parents’ best might still not be enough



Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by clicking here or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts.

Follow Kate on Instagram, Facebook, or X (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.

We need more room to be honest about what it costs when people or institutions fail us. Today's conversation is with Lord Charles Spencer, the 9th Earl Spencer. You might also know him as Princess Diana's brother. His latest book, A Very Private School, is a courageous and beautifully written memoir about his time in an abusive English boarding school that was shrouded in secrets, abuse, and cruelty. While his circumstances may be unlike something you’ve experienced, Charles speaks so candidly and tenderly about his painful childhood and what it has cost him and others too.
In this conversation, Kate and Charles discuss:
<ul>
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the challenge and catharsis of writing about personal trauma
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
the casual cruelty Charles and his peers endured
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
what happens when our innocence is stolen from us at a young age
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
what healing looks like 50 years later
</li>
</ul>
If you liked this conversation, might also like: 
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<a href="https://katebowler.com/podcasts/rachael-denhollander-the-pursuit-of-justice/">Rachel Denhollender</a> on getting justice you deserve
</li>
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<a href="https://katebowler.com/podcasts/tara-westover-remaking-home/">Tara Westover</a> on how our parents’ best might still not be enough
</li>
</ul>
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Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by <a href="https://katebowler.com/podcast/">clicking here</a> or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts.
Follow Kate on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/katecbowler/">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/katecbowler">Facebook</a>, or <a href="https://twitter.com/KatecBowler">X</a> (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.

Charles Spencer: Confronting the Past

In every deep relationship, there comes a point where we are asked to give up something of ourselves or change in ways we never anticipated. Who will this make me? What will this love cost? Tembi Locke fell in love with an Italian chef named Saro when she was studying abroad in Italy during college. Their romance was a story for the big screen. (Quite literally. One starring Zoe Saldana.)

A rare illness upended it all. Tembi spent ten years as Saro’s caregiver before he died. In her grief, Tembi took their young daughter back to Sicily to see what of her husband she could find there—in his culture, in his food, and with his family.

In this conversation, Kate and Tembi discuss: 


becoming the architect of your life 


the effects of long-term caregiving (both the beauty and the cost)


who grief makes us

If you liked this episode, you’ll also love: 


Katherine and Jay Wolf on what caregiving costs us


Thomas Lynch on how we become who we miss


John Swinton on living at the speed of love



Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by clicking here or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts.

Follow Kate on Instagram, Facebook, or X (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.

In every deep relationship, there comes a point where we are asked to give up something of ourselves or change in ways we never anticipated. Who will this make me? What will this love cost? Tembi Locke fell in love with an Italian chef named Saro when she was studying abroad in Italy during college. Their romance was a story for the big screen. (Quite literally. One starring Zoe Saldana.)
A rare illness upended it all. Tembi spent ten years as Saro’s caregiver before he died. In her grief, Tembi took their young daughter back to Sicily to see what of her husband she could find there—in his culture, in his food, and with his family.
In this conversation, Kate and Tembi discuss: 
<ul>
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becoming the architect of your life 
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
the effects of long-term caregiving (both the beauty and the cost)
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
who grief makes us
</li>
</ul>
If you liked this episode, you’ll also love: 
<ul>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
<a href="https://katebowler.com/podcasts/wounded-healers/">Katherine and Jay Wolf</a> on what caregiving costs us
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
<a href="https://katebowler.com/podcasts/good_grief/">Thomas Lynch</a> on how we become who we miss
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
<a href="https://katebowler.com/podcasts/john-swinton-the-speed-of-love/">John Swinton</a> on living at the speed of love
</li>
</ul>
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Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by <a href="https://katebowler.com/podcast/">clicking here</a> or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts.
Follow Kate on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/katecbowler/">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/katecbowler">Facebook</a>, or <a href="https://twitter.com/KatecBowler">X</a> (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.

Tembi Locke: Grief of the Almosts

What if you started thinking really concretely about small, hard choices? That’s exactly what palliative care physicians do every day. They help us think about what we really want—knowing that we have limited time and limited resources. You’re going to love our guest today, Dr. Kathryn Mannix, palliative care physician and cognitive behavioral therapist. She offers practical steps to help people and their loved ones make sense of what limited choices they have, navigate any pain and fear they may experience, and gives the most comforting speech on what the end of a life looks like that we’ve ever heard. (I promise this is not scary at all. It is perfect.)

In this conversation, Kate and Kathryn discuss:


Why we want to keep a lid on the scary things of life 


What even is palliative care


How palliative care-type thinking can help us live better 


What happens to hope when facing end of life

This is a masterclass in walking right up to the edge with people, in the most gentle, compassionate way. 

If you liked this episode, you’ll also love: 


Sunita Puri on living in uncertainty


Rev. Tom Long on the importance of the rituals for death and dying



Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by clicking here or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts.

Follow Kate on Instagram, Facebook, or X (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.

What if you started thinking really concretely about small, hard choices? That’s exactly what palliative care physicians do every day. They help us think about what we really want—knowing that we have limited time and limited resources. You’re going to love our guest today, Dr. Kathryn Mannix, palliative care physician and cognitive behavioral therapist. She offers practical steps to help people and their loved ones make sense of what limited choices they have, navigate any pain and fear they may experience, and gives the most comforting speech on what the end of a life looks like that we’ve ever heard. (I promise this is not scary at all. It is perfect.)
In this conversation, Kate and Kathryn discuss:
<ul>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
Why we want to keep a lid on the scary things of life 
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
What even is palliative care
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
How palliative care-type thinking can help us live better 
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
What happens to hope when facing end of life
</li>
</ul>
This is a masterclass in walking right up to the edge with people, in the most gentle, compassionate way. 
If you liked this episode, you’ll also love: 
<ul>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
<a href="https://katebowler.com/podcasts/sunita-puri-the-uncertainty-specialist/">Sunita Puri</a> on living in uncertainty
</li>
<li data-list-indent="1" data-list-type="bulleted">
<a href="https://katebowler.com/podcasts/number-our-days/">Rev. Tom Long</a> on the importance of the rituals for death and dying
</li>
</ul>
<hr>
 
Watch clips from this conversation, read the full transcript, and access discussion questions by <a href="https://katebowler.com/podcast/">clicking here</a> or visiting katebowler.com/podcasts.
Follow Kate on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/katecbowler/">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/katecbowler">Facebook</a>, or <a href="https://twitter.com/KatecBowler">X</a> (formerly known as Twitter)—@katecbowler. Links to social pages and more available at linktr.ee/katecbowler.

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