Julia Samuel is a psychologist in the UK who specializes in working with families who have experienced complicated stories of loss and love. So often we can feel overwhelmed by our histories – our family histories – and need a boost to confront dysfunction, speak the truth, and find trusted people to help us look back and look forward. 

In this episode, Kate and Julia discuss: 
What to do when we’ve inherited the pain of our parents or grandparents and when our own problems might be the pain we pass down
How we navigate generational divides especially around how we express our feelings
How to not pass down inherited trauma by understanding our bigger family webs




This conversation also is a much-needed reminder that you in all your actual problems and actual pain are far better than any idealized version of you. And maybe that is the exact honesty that might offer us and our families the freedom we long for.

CW: mention of suicide, some spicy adult language :) 

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Julia Samuel is a psychologist in the UK who specializes in working with families who have experienced complicated stories of loss and love. So often we can feel overwhelmed by our histories – our family histories – and need a boost to confront dysfunction, speak the truth, and find trusted people to help us look back and look forward. In this episode, Kate and Julia discuss: <ul>
<li>What to do when we’ve inherited the pain of our parents or grandparents and when our own problems might be the pain we pass down</li>
<li>How we navigate generational divides especially around how we express our feelings</li>
<li>How to not pass down inherited trauma by understanding our bigger family webs</li>
</ul> This conversation also is a much-needed reminder that you in all your actual problems and actual pain are far better than any idealized version of you. And maybe that is the exact honesty that might offer us and our families the freedom we long for.CW: mention of suicide, some spicy adult language :) ***Looking for the transcript or show notes? <a href="https://katebowler.com/podcasts/">Click here</a>.Find Kate on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/katecbowler/">Instagram</a> or <a href="https://www.facebook.com/katecbowler">Facebook</a> or <a href="https://twitter.com/KatecBowler">Twitter</a>.<a href="https://katebowler.com/newsletter/">Subscribe to receive blessings in your inbox every week.</a>No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) is now available in PAPERBACK. <a href="https://katebowler.com/no-cure-for-being-human/">Order your copy, today.</a>Looking for some short spiritual reflections and blessings? Check out GOOD ENOUGH: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection. <a href="https://katebowler.com/good-enough/">Available wherever books are sold.</a>We are going to practice the season of Advent together. <a href="https://katebowler.com/advent2022/">Download a free Advent guide, here</a>.Introducing THE LIVES WE ACTUALLY HAVE: 100 Blessings for Imperfect Days (releasing February 14, 2023). <a href="https://katebowler.com/the-lives-we-actually-have/">Learn more, pre-order, and receive a free pennant, here</a>. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: <a href="https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy">https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

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Julia Samuel is a psychologist in the UK who specializes in working with families who have experienced complicated stories of loss and love. So often we can feel overwhelmed by our histories – our family histories – and need a boost to confront dysfunction, speak the truth, and find trusted people to help us look back and look forward.   In this episode, Kate and Julia discuss:   What to do when we’ve inherited the pain of our parents or grandparents and when our own problems might be the pain we pass down How we navigate generational divides especially around how we express our feelings How to not pass down inherited trauma by understanding our bigger family webs   This conversation also is a much-needed reminder that you in all your actual problems and actual pain are far better than any idealized version of you. And maybe that is the exact honesty that might offer us and our families the freedom we long for.  CW: mention of suicide, some spicy adult language :)

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