"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control..."
Galatians 5:22-23

Why is self-control so hard... even when we know exactly what we should be doing?

In this honest and relatable conversation, Ash Couchman and Shaylee unpack one of the most challenging fruits of the Spirit: self-control. From endless scrolling and phone addiction to discipline, distraction, and the habits that quietly shape our lives, they explore why so many of us struggle to choose what we know is best.

Together, they reflect on the modern world's constant noise, the things competing for our attention, and the uncomfortable question every Christian eventually has to ask: has something taken God's place in my life?

If you've ever felt stuck in unhealthy habits, frustrated by your lack of discipline, or challenged by the amount of time you spend on your phone, this conversation is a practical and encouraging reminder that spiritual growth doesn't happen by accident. It happens one choice at a time.

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"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control..." Galatians 5:22-23
Why is self-control so hard... even when we know exactly what we should be doing?
In this honest and relatable conversation, Ash Couchman and Shaylee unpack one of the most challenging fruits of the Spirit: self-control. From endless scrolling and phone addiction to discipline, distraction, and the habits that quietly shape our lives, they explore why so many of us struggle to choose what we know is best.
Together, they reflect on the modern world's constant noise, the things competing for our attention, and the uncomfortable question every Christian eventually has to ask: has something taken God's place in my life?
If you've ever felt stuck in unhealthy habits, frustrated by your lack of discipline, or challenged by the amount of time you spend on your phone, this conversation is a practical and encouraging reminder that spiritual growth doesn't happen by accident. It happens one choice at a time.
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This One Habit Was Quietly Running My Life! Learning to be self controlled! | Galatians 5:22-23 with Shaylee

"The Lord is my protector; he is my strong fortress. My God is my protection, and with him I am safe. He protects me like a shield; he defends me and keeps me safe."
Psalm 18:2

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at night, trying to plan every detail of the future?

In this honest conversation, Ash Couchman and Shaylee Stansbury unpack the pressure of making big life decisions, navigating financial uncertainty, planning for the future, and wrestling with the feeling that everything depends on getting it right. Together, they explore the reality of anxiety, our desire to control what's ahead, and the freedom that comes when we trust God with the things we were never meant to carry alone.

Reflecting on Psalm 18:2, this episode is a powerful reminder that God isn't distant from our worries. He is our protector, our fortress, and our source of hope, even when the future feels uncertain.

If you've been overthinking, stressing about what's next, or struggling to trust God in the unknown, this conversation will encourage you to take a breath, release control, and remember that God is already holding tomorrow.

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"The Lord is my protector; he is my strong fortress. My God is my protection, and with him I am safe. He protects me like a shield; he defends me and keeps me safe." Psalm 18:2
Have you ever found yourself lying awake at night, trying to plan every detail of the future?
In this honest conversation, Ash Couchman and Shaylee Stansbury unpack the pressure of making big life decisions, navigating financial uncertainty, planning for the future, and wrestling with the feeling that everything depends on getting it right. Together, they explore the reality of anxiety, our desire to control what's ahead, and the freedom that comes when we trust God with the things we were never meant to carry alone.
Reflecting on Psalm 18:2, this episode is a powerful reminder that God isn't distant from our worries. He is our protector, our fortress, and our source of hope, even when the future feels uncertain.
If you've been overthinking, stressing about what's next, or struggling to trust God in the unknown, this conversation will encourage you to take a breath, release control, and remember that God is already holding tomorrow.
Get Connected:
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Follow <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ashcouchman/" data-tabster="{&quot;restorer&quot;:{&quot;type&quot;:1}}">Ash</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/everydayjoypod/" data-tabster="{&quot;restorer&quot;:{&quot;type&quot;:1}}">Everyday Joy</a> on Instagram!
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Lying Awake Worrying About the Future? This Changes Everything | Psalm 18:2 with Shaylee

Speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope. So we’ll all be together in this. No one left out. No one left behind.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:11

What if the encouraging thing you're thinking about saying could completely change someone's day?

In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by Shay for a conversation about the power of our words, the importance of encouragement and what it looks like to intentionally build the people around us up.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 reminds us that encouragement isn't just about being nice. We're called to build up hope, strengthen one another and make sure no one is left behind.

Ash and Shay talk about how easy it is to keep a compliment to ourselves, assume someone already knows what we think of them, or focus on what's frustrating rather than what's good. But sometimes the simplest words—"I love that about you," "I'm proud of you," "You're doing a great job"—can make an enormous difference.

They also have an honest conversation about how easy it is to become our own worst critics. We can walk around assuming people are disappointed in us, that we've upset someone or that others see us far more negatively than they actually do. Sometimes we need someone else to speak truth and encouragement into our lives.

But there's a deeper challenge too: are we genuinely encouraging people, or are we only being nice to their face? Ash and Shay unpack the difference between simply being "nice" and allowing God to change what's happening in our hearts, so that our encouragement is genuine both publicly and privately.

The conversation also explores what it means to live out God's Kingdom right now. We don't have to wait for everything to be fixed or for Jesus to return before we start building people up, growing in maturity and bringing hope into the world around us.

Because we are surrounded by enough negativity. We don't need to add to it.

We can choose to be people who build up hope, speak life and make sure the people around us know they aren't alone.

 

Speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope. So we&rsquo;ll all be together in this. No one left out. No one left behind.&rdquo; &mdash; 1 Thessalonians 5:11
What if the encouraging thing you're thinking about saying could completely change someone's day?
In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by Shay for a conversation about the power of our words, the importance of encouragement and what it looks like to intentionally build the people around us up.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 reminds us that encouragement isn't just about being nice. We're called to build up hope, strengthen one another and make sure no one is left behind.
Ash and Shay talk about how easy it is to keep a compliment to ourselves, assume someone already knows what we think of them, or focus on what's frustrating rather than what's good. But sometimes the simplest words&mdash;"I love that about you," "I'm proud of you," "You're doing a great job"&mdash;can make an enormous difference.
They also have an honest conversation about how easy it is to become our own worst critics. We can walk around assuming people are disappointed in us, that we've upset someone or that others see us far more negatively than they actually do. Sometimes we need someone else to speak truth and encouragement into our lives.
But there's a deeper challenge too: are we genuinely encouraging people, or are we only being nice to their face? Ash and Shay unpack the difference between simply being "nice" and allowing God to change what's happening in our hearts, so that our encouragement is genuine both publicly and privately.
The conversation also explores what it means to live out God's Kingdom right now. We don't have to wait for everything to be fixed or for Jesus to return before we start building people up, growing in maturity and bringing hope into the world around us.
Because we are surrounded by enough negativity. We don't need to add to it.
We can choose to be people who build up hope, speak life and make sure the people around us know they aren't alone.
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"START SPEAKING LIFE! " | 1 Thessalonians 5:11 with Shaylee 

What if the thing you’re struggling with isn’t something you have to overcome on your own?

In 2 Peter 1:3, we’re reminded that God has already given us everything we need to live a life that pleases Him. That doesn’t mean we’ll never struggle, get frustrated or get things wrong — it means we never have to face those things alone.

Ash and Shay unpack what it looks like to rely on God in the middle of the struggle, stay aware of His presence and allow Him to challenge us and grow us — even in the small, everyday moments.

Because following Jesus isn’t about getting everything right. It’s about continually becoming more like Him.

What if the thing you&rsquo;re struggling with isn&rsquo;t something you have to overcome on your own?
In 2 Peter 1:3, we&rsquo;re reminded that God has already given us everything we need to live a life that pleases Him. That doesn&rsquo;t mean we&rsquo;ll never struggle, get frustrated or get things wrong &mdash; it means we never have to face those things alone.
Ash and Shay unpack what it looks like to rely on God in the middle of the struggle, stay aware of His presence and allow Him to challenge us and grow us &mdash; even in the small, everyday moments.
Because following Jesus isn&rsquo;t about getting everything right. It&rsquo;s about continually becoming more like Him.

This One Habit Was Quietly Running My Life! Learning to be self controlled! | Galatians 5:22-23 with Shaylee

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