If rejection (or even perceived rejection) feels physically painful, overwhelming, or impossible to shake, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we explore the psychology behind Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) a widely recognized experience (though not a formal diagnosis) that’s especially common in people with ADHD, and anyone who struggles with intense emotional reactions to rejection, criticism, or disapproval.

This episode covers:


What RSD actually feels like and why it can feel physically painful


The difference between real rejection and perceived rejection


Common triggers (and why perception matters more than reality)


What’s happening in the brain during an RSD spiral


Signs you may be experiencing RSD


Why people-pleasing, avoidance, overachievement, and rumination don’t actually help


How RSD differs from “normal” emotional sensitivity


The link between RSD, ADHD, and emotional dysregulation

This episode isn’t about “toughening up” or stopping emotions from happening.

It’s about learning how to move through rejection without losing yourself to it and rebuilding a sense of control, safety, and self-trust.

If you’ve ever thought, “I know this is irrational, but it feels unbearable,” this conversation will help you understand why and what to do next.
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If rejection (or even perceived rejection) feels physically painful, overwhelming, or impossible to shake, this episode is for you.
In this episode, we explore the psychology behind Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) a widely recognized experience (though not a formal diagnosis) that’s especially common in people with ADHD, and anyone who struggles with intense emotional reactions to rejection, criticism, or disapproval.
This episode covers:
<ul>
 <li>
What RSD actually feels like and why it can feel physically painful
</li>
 <li>
The difference between real rejection and perceived rejection
</li>
 <li>
Common triggers (and why perception matters more than reality)
</li>
 <li>
What’s happening in the brain during an RSD spiral
</li>
 <li>
Signs you may be experiencing RSD
</li>
 <li>
Why people-pleasing, avoidance, overachievement, and rumination don’t actually help
</li>
 <li>
How RSD differs from “normal” emotional sensitivity
</li>
 <li>
The link between RSD, ADHD, and emotional dysregulation
</li>
</ul>
This episode isn’t about “toughening up” or stopping emotions from happening.
It’s about learning how to move through rejection without losing yourself to it and rebuilding a sense of control, safety, and self-trust.
If you’ve ever thought, “I know this is irrational, but it feels unbearable,” this conversation will help you understand why and what to do next.
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Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.
On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions!
Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions.
Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change at <a href="https://bit.ly/44xwszR">https://bit.ly/44xwszR</a>

Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.

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467. Why Rejection Feels So Painful (Psychology of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/2fb3740d-3436-44af-8cc0-a91900716aa5/clips/c2fcb88d-d6aa-4b0d-b159-b43c002fb527/transcript