A viral parenting moment shocked the internet - but what if the real problem isn’t the child… it’s the response?

When a young girl’s bullying leads to a harsh, fear-based punishment, millions applaud the dad’s reaction. But beneath the surface, there’s a deeper, more uncomfortable truth most parents are missing.

In this episode, we unpack what actually works when kids act out - and why fear, shame, and punishment can quietly make things worse.

If you’ve ever felt the urge to come down hard on your child… this conversation might change everything.

KEY POINTS
Why viral parenting advice is often dangerously misleading
The difference between accountability and fear-based discipline
How harsh reactions can damage trust, safety, and connection
The hidden reasons behind “bullying” behaviour in kids
Why empathy - not punishment - is the key to real behaviour change
How parents can model the very behaviour they want to see

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Big people don’t win by overpowering kids - we win by helping them understand.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
21 Days to a Happier Family by Dr Justin Coulson
happyfamilies.com.au

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Pause before reacting - your response shapes the outcome
Get curious about the why behind your child’s behaviour
Lead with connection before correction
Help your child step into someone else’s shoes
Create safety so your child can open up - not shut down

A viral parenting moment shocked the internet - but what if the real problem isn&rsquo;t the child&hellip; it&rsquo;s the response?
When a young girl&rsquo;s bullying leads to a harsh, fear-based punishment, millions applaud the dad&rsquo;s reaction. But beneath the surface, there&rsquo;s a deeper, more uncomfortable truth most parents are missing.
In this episode, we unpack what actually works when kids act out - and why fear, shame, and punishment can quietly make things worse.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt the urge to come down hard on your child&hellip; this conversation might change everything.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why viral parenting advice is often dangerously misleading</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between accountability and fear-based discipline</li>
<li aria-level="1">How harsh reactions can damage trust, safety, and connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden reasons behind &ldquo;bullying&rdquo; behaviour in kids</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why empathy - not punishment - is the key to real behaviour change</li>
<li aria-level="1">How parents can model the very behaviour they want to see</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Big people don&rsquo;t win by overpowering kids - we win by helping them understand.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.harpercollins.com.au/9780733334818/21-days-to-a-happier-family/">21 Days to a Happier Family</a> by Dr Justin Coulson</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="happyfamilies.com.au">happyfamilies.com.au</a></li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Pause before reacting - your response shapes the outcome</li>
<li aria-level="1">Get curious about the why behind your child&rsquo;s behaviour</li>
<li aria-level="1">Lead with connection before correction</li>
<li aria-level="1">Help your child step into someone else&rsquo;s shoes</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create safety so your child can open up - not shut down</li>
</ul>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

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When Parents Become Bullys

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