The harder we try to be the "perfect" parent, the more we can unintentionally hold our children back.

Family therapist Dr Jenny Brown explains why modern parenting has become so intense, how worry fuels conflict, and why the best thing you can do for your child is often to work on yourself instead. This practical conversation will help you step out of exhausting worry cycles, respond more calmly, and create the space your child needs to become more capable and confident.

KEY POINTS
Why parenting has become so overwhelming
The hidden cost of over-monitoring and over-helping
How parents get caught in worry cycles
Why changing yourself is more powerful than changing your child
Simple ways to respond calmly when your buttons get pushed
How giving children space builds resilience and confidence

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"The parent makes a project out of themselves, not their child." — Dr Jenny Brown

RESOURCES MENTIONED
The Parenting Paradox: Loving Our Children by Giving Them Space to Growby Dr Jenny Brown
The Parent Hope Project
The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Notice one situation where you regularly worry or overreact.
Focus on changing your own response instead of your child's behaviour.
Lower your tone and resist over-explaining or rescuing.
If you lose your cool, apologise and reset.
Give your child more room to solve problems independently.

The harder we try to be the "perfect" parent, the more we can unintentionally hold our children back.
Family therapist Dr Jenny Brown explains why modern parenting has become so intense, how worry fuels conflict, and why the best thing you can do for your child is often to work on yourself instead. This practical conversation will help you step out of exhausting worry cycles, respond more calmly, and create the space your child needs to become more capable and confident.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why parenting has become so overwhelming</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden cost of over-monitoring and over-helping</li>
<li aria-level="1">How parents get caught in worry cycles</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why changing yourself is more powerful than changing your child</li>
<li aria-level="1">Simple ways to respond calmly when your buttons get pushed</li>
<li aria-level="1">How giving children space builds resilience and confidence</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
"The parent makes a project out of themselves, not their child." &mdash; Dr Jenny Brown
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://parenthopeproject.com.au/the-parenting-paradox-new-book-2026-bloomsbury/">The Parenting Paradox: Loving Our Children by Giving Them Space to Grow </a>by Dr Jenny Brown</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://parenthopeproject.com.au/">The Parent Hope Project</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/the-parenting-revolution">The Parenting Revolution</a> by Dr Justin Coulson</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Notice one situation where you regularly worry or overreact.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Focus on changing your own response instead of your child's behaviour.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Lower your tone and resist over-explaining or rescuing.</li>
<li aria-level="1">If you lose your cool, apologise and reset.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Give your child more room to solve problems independently.</li>
</ul>

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Deciding which parenting advice to follow?&nbsp;Join the thousands of mums and dads who turn to Australia&rsquo;s most downloaded parenting podcast.
Dr Justin Coulson and his wife Kylie bring real parenting solutions every day, cutting through the noise of modern advice with clear, practical guidance for every step of parenting.
From early childhood challenges to the complexities of the teenage years, each daily episode offers simple, evidence-based strategies to help you feel more confident in your decisions and more connected to your kids.

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