It’s happening younger than ever. Girls as young as five are worrying about their weight, and by age nine the insecurities can hit hard. In this episode we unpack a listener’s heartbreaking question: “Is my daughter pretty enough?” - and share the practical steps that protect kids from body image pain without making it worse.

KEY POINTS
Body image worries now start between ages 5–9 for many girls
Why reassurance backfires & curiosity helps
The 3-step approach: Curious → Validate → Reframe
Teach function over appearance to build positive body appreciation
The strongest predictor: how parents talk about their own bodies
What mothers model → daughters absorb (instantly & powerfully)

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Don’t rush in with reassurance - get curious, not furious.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Misconnection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk by Justin Coulson
The Misconnection Summit
Enough - A video resource for teen girls

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Get Curious (Not Furious): Ask where comments came from before correcting.
Validate the Feelings: “That must have felt really crummy. I’m glad you told me.”
Reframe: Shift to body function (what it does, not how it looks).
Model Neutral-to-Positive Self Talk: No dieting talk, no body bashing, no opting out of photos.
Build Gratitude for the Body: Surfing, running, hugging- celebrate capability.

It&rsquo;s happening younger than ever. Girls as young as five are worrying about their weight, and by age nine the insecurities can hit hard. In this episode we unpack a listener&rsquo;s heartbreaking question: &ldquo;Is my daughter pretty enough?&rdquo; - and share the practical steps that protect kids from body image pain without making it worse.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Body image worries now start between ages 5&ndash;9 for many girls</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why reassurance backfires &amp; curiosity helps</li>
<li aria-level="1">The 3-step approach: Curious &rarr; Validate &rarr; Reframe</li>
<li aria-level="1">Teach function over appearance to build positive body appreciation</li>
<li aria-level="1">The strongest predictor: how parents talk about their own bodies</li>
<li aria-level="1">What mothers model &rarr; daughters absorb (instantly &amp; powerfully)</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Don&rsquo;t rush in with reassurance - get curious, not furious.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/miss-connection">Misconnection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk</a> by Justin Coulson</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/the-miss-connection-summit">The Misconnection Summit</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/enough">Enough</a> - A video resource for teen girls</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ol>
<li aria-level="1">Get Curious (Not Furious): Ask where comments came from before correcting.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Validate the Feelings: &ldquo;That must have felt really crummy. I&rsquo;m glad you told me.&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Reframe: Shift to body function (what it does, not how it looks).</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model Neutral-to-Positive Self Talk: No dieting talk, no body bashing, no opting out of photos.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Build Gratitude for the Body: Surfing, running, hugging- celebrate capability.</li>
</ol>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

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Raising Girls Who Like Themselves & Feel Good in Their Own Skin

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