She loves her parents. She wants to be a good daughter. So why does it feel so heavy?

In this powerful conversation, Dr Allison Alford names the invisible emotional labour millions of women are carrying — and why being a “good daughter” shouldn’t cost you your wellbeing. From eldest daughter syndrome to guilt, boundaries, and burnout, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and lighter.

If you’ve ever felt stretched thin by family expectations, this one is for you.

KEY POINTS
What “daughtering” really is — and why naming it changes everything
Why guilt is a terrible guide for family caregiving
The hidden emotional and mental load daughters carry every day
Why boundaries don’t make you selfish — they make you sustainable
The freedom of being a “B-plus daughter” instead of burning out

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Being good enough isn’t about doing it all. It’s about doing what is sustainable.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Good Daughtering by Dr Allison Alford
Follow Dr Allison Alford: daughtering101.com
Socials: @daughtering101

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Write down the invisible work you do for your family — and count it
Replace “What should I be doing?” with “What’s sustainable right now?”
Aim to be a B-plus daughter, not an exhausted A-plus one
Talk openly about daughtering with friends and family — language brings relief
Let go of guilt as a decision-maker and choose balance instead

She loves her parents. She wants to be a good daughter. So why does it feel so heavy?
In this powerful conversation, Dr Allison Alford names the invisible emotional labour millions of women are carrying &mdash; and why being a &ldquo;good daughter&rdquo; shouldn&rsquo;t cost you your wellbeing. From eldest daughter syndrome to guilt, boundaries, and burnout, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and lighter.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt stretched thin by family expectations, this one is for you.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">What &ldquo;daughtering&rdquo; really is &mdash; and why naming it changes everything</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why guilt is a terrible guide for family caregiving</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden emotional and mental load daughters carry every day</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why boundaries don&rsquo;t make you selfish &mdash; they make you sustainable</li>
<li aria-level="1">The freedom of being a &ldquo;B-plus daughter&rdquo; instead of burning out</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Being good enough isn&rsquo;t about doing it all. It&rsquo;s about doing what is sustainable.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.harpercollins.com/products/good-daughtering-allison-m-alford-phd?variant=44326693699618">Good Daughtering</a> by Dr Allison Alford</li>
<li aria-level="1">Follow Dr Allison Alford: <a href="daughtering101.com">daughtering101.com</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Socials: @daughtering101</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Write down the invisible work you do for your family &mdash; and count it</li>
<li aria-level="1">Replace &ldquo;What should I be doing?&rdquo; with &ldquo;What&rsquo;s sustainable right now?&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Aim to be a B-plus daughter, not an exhausted A-plus one</li>
<li aria-level="1">Talk openly about daughtering with friends and family &mdash; language brings relief</li>
<li aria-level="1">Let go of guilt as a decision-maker and choose balance instead</li>
</ul>

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Good Daughtering [with Dr Allison Alford]

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