The hardest part of parenting isn’t managing our kids. It’s facing ourselves.

This week, a heated family moment revealed something uncomfortable — our children often mirror the very behaviours we struggle with. Defensiveness. Blame. Excuses. Denial. And when we see it in them… it’s confronting.

In this honest Friday “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow” episode, we unpack emotional reactivity, accountability, and the power of repairing quickly. Plus, a Brisbane GP’s email sparks an important conversation about ADHD diagnoses, medication culture, and why more labels aren’t fixing our kids.

This one goes deep — into marriage, parenting, and the courage to own our part.

KEY POINTS:
Why kids’ behaviour can be a mirror to our own unresolved habits
The difference between ownership and blame
How defensiveness blocks connection
Why quick repair strengthens relationships
A GP’s concerns about rising ADHD diagnoses and medication culture
The parenting skill we’re rapidly losing: backing ourselves

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
 “If we do dumb things, can we forgive each other and move on and be better as a result of it? That’s literally all that matters.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Searching for Normal by Sami Timimi
Happy Families Podcast
happyfamilies.com.au

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
When conflict flares, ask: What part of this is mine?
Model ownership out loud — let your kids hear you apologise.
Separate accountability from self-blame. Own your part, not theirs.
Repair quickly. Don’t let pride extend disconnection.
Back yourself. Not every struggle needs a label or prescription.

The hardest part of parenting isn&rsquo;t managing our kids. It&rsquo;s facing ourselves.
This week, a heated family moment revealed something uncomfortable &mdash; our children often mirror the very behaviours we struggle with. Defensiveness. Blame. Excuses. Denial. And when we see it in them&hellip; it&rsquo;s confronting.
In this honest Friday &ldquo;I&rsquo;ll Do Better Tomorrow&rdquo; episode, we unpack emotional reactivity, accountability, and the power of repairing quickly. Plus, a Brisbane GP&rsquo;s email sparks an important conversation about ADHD diagnoses, medication culture, and why more labels aren&rsquo;t fixing our kids.
This one goes deep &mdash; into marriage, parenting, and the courage to own our part.
KEY POINTS:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why kids&rsquo; behaviour can be a mirror to our own unresolved habits</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between ownership and blame</li>
<li aria-level="1">How defensiveness blocks connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why quick repair strengthens relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">A GP&rsquo;s concerns about rising ADHD diagnoses and medication culture</li>
<li aria-level="1">The parenting skill we&rsquo;re rapidly losing: backing ourselves</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: &ldquo;If we do dumb things, can we forgive each other and move on and be better as a result of it? That&rsquo;s literally all that matters.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.abbeys.com.au/book/searching-for-normal-a-new-approach-to-understanding-distress-and-neurodiversity-9781911717133.do?srsltid=AfmBOoraBy0LboOr3aQU0Tkfq3PUIC54xyo3pC62zUNndqTSc0Ehxk6b">Searching for Normal</a> by Sami Timimi</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/podcast">Happy Families Podcast</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/podcast">happyfamilies.com.au</a></li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
<ol>
<li aria-level="1">When conflict flares, ask: What part of this is mine?</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model ownership out loud &mdash; let your kids hear you apologise.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Separate accountability from self-blame. Own your part, not theirs.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Repair quickly. Don&rsquo;t let pride extend disconnection.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Back yourself. Not every struggle needs a label or prescription.</li>
</ol>

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Dr Justin Coulson and his wife Kylie bring real parenting solutions every day, cutting through the noise of modern advice with clear, practical guidance for every step of parenting.
From early childhood challenges to the complexities of the teenage years, each daily episode offers simple, evidence-based strategies to help you feel more confident in your decisions and more connected to your kids.

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Does Your Child Mirror Your Worst Habits? [R]

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