You’re doing everything “right”… so why is it making things worse?

In this honest and vulnerable episode, Justin shares a parenting tension many of us feel but rarely admit: knowing what matters for our kids - like time, productivity, and healthy habits - but completely missing the mark in how we teach it.

Because when good intentions turn into constant correction, something breaks. And it’s usually connection.

If you’ve ever felt the urge to push harder… only to be met with resistance, this episode will help you rethink what actually works.

KEY POINTS
Why being “right” doesn’t mean your approach is working
How constant correction quietly damages connection
The hidden cost of becoming the “enforcer” in your child’s life
Why kids can’t learn self-regulation if we’re always controlling them
The power of small, everyday moments to rebuild family connection
Why repair - not perfection - is the real goal in family relationships

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
 “Am I helping them… or just making them feel like they’re not enough?”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Pre-order Boys now

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Swap one correction today for a moment of connection
Notice when “helping” starts to feel like pressure
Let your child sit in the natural consequences of their choices (within reason)
Create simple, shared moments (a movie, a meal, a walk) that bring you back together
Practice repair: model how to apologise, reconnect, and move forward

You&rsquo;re doing everything &ldquo;right&rdquo;&hellip; so why is it making things worse?
In this honest and vulnerable episode, Justin shares a parenting tension many of us feel but rarely admit: knowing what matters for our kids - like time, productivity, and healthy habits - but completely missing the mark in how we teach it.
Because when good intentions turn into constant correction, something breaks. And it&rsquo;s usually connection.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt the urge to push harder&hellip; only to be met with resistance, this episode will help you rethink what actually works.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why being &ldquo;right&rdquo; doesn&rsquo;t mean your approach is working</li>
<li aria-level="1">How constant correction quietly damages connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden cost of becoming the &ldquo;enforcer&rdquo; in your child&rsquo;s life</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why kids can&rsquo;t learn self-regulation if we&rsquo;re always controlling them</li>
<li aria-level="1">The power of small, everyday moments to rebuild family connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why repair - not perfection - is the real goal in family relationships</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE &ldquo;Am I helping them&hellip; or just making them feel like they&rsquo;re not enough?&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/boys-book-waitlist">Pre-order Boys</a> now</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Swap one correction today for a moment of connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">Notice when &ldquo;helping&rdquo; starts to feel like pressure</li>
<li aria-level="1">Let your child sit in the natural consequences of their choices (within reason)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create simple, shared moments (a movie, a meal, a walk) that bring you back together</li>
<li aria-level="1">Practice repair: model how to apologise, reconnect, and move forward</li>
</ul>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Raising Capable Kids Without Constant Control

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