Are we protecting our kids or holding them back? In this episode, Justin talks with Lenore Skenazy about the unintended consequences of overprotection and why kids need to experience risk to build confidence, resilience, and essential life skills. From eliminating stairs in homes to constant parental surveillance, we examine how fear-based parenting is shaping modern childhood—and what we can do to change it.

KEY POINTS:


The growing trend of designing homes for maximum parental surveillance and risk elimination.


Why removing all risks from a child’s life can have long-term negative effects on their mental health and independence.


The difference between reasonable safety precautions (e.g., seat belts, helmets) and excessive protection that stifles growth.


How parental fear contributes to anxiety, depression, and dependence in kids.


Practical ways to introduce independence and calculated risk into children’s lives.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
"Fear doesn’t prevent death, but it prevents life."

KEY INSIGHTS FOR PARENTS:


Removing every possible risk doesn't make kids safer—it makes them less capable.


Letting children navigate small risks (like climbing stairs, using a knife, or walking to school) helps them build real-world skills.


Worrying can feel like an action, but it doesn’t change reality—teaching skills and fostering independence does.


Kids don’t need a risk-free life; they need a chance to learn, adapt, and grow.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:


Let Grow – Free resources for fostering childhood independence.


Supervision Not Required podcast – A new podcast on raising confident, capable kids.

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:


Identify one small area where you can give your child more independence.


Teach them practical skills rather than avoiding potential risks.


Shift your mindset from "How do I eliminate all risks?" to "How do I prepare my child to handle them?"


Connect with other parents who value childhood independence to build confidence in your approach.

Are we protecting our kids or holding them back? In this episode, Justin talks with Lenore Skenazy about the unintended consequences of overprotection and why kids need to experience risk to build confidence, resilience, and essential life skills. From eliminating stairs in homes to constant parental surveillance, we examine how fear-based parenting is shaping modern childhood&mdash;and what we can do to change it.
KEY POINTS:
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The growing trend of designing homes for maximum parental surveillance and risk elimination.
</li>
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Why removing all risks from a child&rsquo;s life can have long-term negative effects on their mental health and independence.
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
The difference between reasonable safety precautions (e.g., seat belts, helmets) and excessive protection that stifles growth.
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
How parental fear contributes to anxiety, depression, and dependence in kids.
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
Practical ways to introduce independence and calculated risk into children&rsquo;s lives.
</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "Fear doesn&rsquo;t prevent death, but it prevents life."
KEY INSIGHTS FOR PARENTS:
<ul>
<li dir="ltr">
Removing every possible risk doesn't make kids safer&mdash;it makes them less capable.
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
Letting children navigate small risks (like climbing stairs, using a knife, or walking to school) helps them build real-world skills.
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
Worrying can feel like an action, but it doesn&rsquo;t change reality&mdash;teaching skills and fostering independence does.
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
Kids don&rsquo;t need a risk-free life; they need a chance to learn, adapt, and grow.
</li>
</ul>
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
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<a href="https://letgrow.org/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://letgrow.org/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1741987199101000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0BqN1qk0-sDbp7qzDyKTZY">Let Grow</a> &ndash; Free resources for fostering childhood independence.
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<a href="https://podtail.com/podcast/supervision-not-required/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://podtail.com/podcast/supervision-not-required/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1741987199101000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0CZiZL0RzT9_DhzjdyYLnp">Supervision Not Required podcast</a> &ndash; A new podcast on raising confident, capable kids.
</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
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<li dir="ltr">
Identify one small area where you can give your child more independence.
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
Teach them practical skills rather than avoiding potential risks.
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
Shift your mindset from "How do I eliminate all risks?" to "How do I prepare my child to handle them?"
</li>
<li dir="ltr">
Connect with other parents who value childhood independence to build confidence in your approach.
</li>
</ol>

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#1201 - Free Range Parenting 101 With Lenore Skenazy

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