Want to help your child manage big emotions? Start by understanding what emotional regulation really means. In this episode, we unpack why suppressing emotions isn't always bad, how regulation develops from age three onwards, and why parents might need to work on their own regulation first. Plus, discover three practical strategies that actually work—no more ineffective "just calm down" responses. Whether you're dealing with gaming meltdowns or homework frustrations, these solutions will transform how you handle emotional moments.

Quote of the Episode: "They don't need to be reprimanded. They need to be understanded."

Key Insights:


Emotional regulation means expressing or suppressing emotions appropriately for the context.


Self-regulation begins developing at age 3 and stabilises around age 9.


Parents often struggle with their own regulation while expecting it from their children.


Better regulation leads to improved academic performance, relationships, and life outcomes.


Supporting rather than solving builds autonomy, competence, and connection.


Context matters: hunger, tiredness, and stress all impact regulation ability.


The ability to process emotions is more important than suppressing them.


Breaking down overwhelming tasks helps prevent emotional flooding.

Resources Mentioned:


Walter Mischel's Marshmallow Experiment


Self-Determination Theory


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Action Steps for Parents:


Support, Don't Solve: Help children process emotions without fixing everything for them.


Offer Hints: Break down overwhelming tasks into manageable chunks.


Read the Room: Consider factors like hunger, tiredness, and stress before responding to dysregulation.

Want to help your child manage big emotions? Start by understanding what emotional regulation really means. In this episode, we unpack why suppressing emotions isn't always bad, how regulation develops from age three onwards, and why parents might need to work on their own regulation first. Plus, discover three practical strategies that actually work&mdash;no more ineffective "just calm down" responses. Whether you're dealing with gaming meltdowns or homework frustrations, these solutions will transform how you handle emotional moments.
Quote of the Episode: "They don't need to be reprimanded. They need to be understanded."
Key Insights:
<ul>
<li>
Emotional regulation means expressing or suppressing emotions appropriately for the context.
</li>
<li>
Self-regulation begins developing at age 3 and stabilises around age 9.
</li>
<li>
Parents often struggle with their own regulation while expecting it from their children.
</li>
<li>
Better regulation leads to improved academic performance, relationships, and life outcomes.
</li>
<li>
Supporting rather than solving builds autonomy, competence, and connection.
</li>
<li>
Context matters: hunger, tiredness, and stress all impact regulation ability.
</li>
<li>
The ability to process emotions is more important than suppressing them.
</li>
<li>
Breaking down overwhelming tasks helps prevent emotional flooding.
</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned:
<ul>
<li>
<a href="https://www.simplypsychology.org/marshmallow-test.html">Walter Mischel's Marshmallow Experiment</a>
</li>
<li>
<a href="https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/theory/">Self-Determination Theory</a>
</li>
<li>
<a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au">HappyFamilies.com.au</a>
</li>
</ul>
Action Steps for Parents:
<ol>
<li>
Support, Don't Solve: Help children process emotions without fixing everything for them.
</li>
<li>
Offer Hints: Break down overwhelming tasks into manageable chunks.
</li>
<li>
Read the Room: Consider factors like hunger, tiredness, and stress before responding to dysregulation.
</li>
</ol>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

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#1172 - The 3-Step Solution to Better Emotional Regulation

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