I interviewed my husband about our relationship.

Am I insane? Probably. But we’ve been married twelve years, and I had questions.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever loved someone and thought, Why is this still so hard?

 

Marriage is usually discussed in terms of compatibility, communication, and compromise. But we rarely talk about what happens when two people who love each other realize they have no idea what they’re actually building together.

 

In this episode of Music Is Therapy, DJ Hesta Prynn does something unprecedented: she interviews her own husband, filmmaker Randy Scott Slavin, for raw couples therapy on tape.

 

What starts as a sweet story about how they met through music turns into something deeper — and more uncomfortable. They fight all the time. She doesn’t know why. And when she finally asks the hard questions — Why do we fight so much? What are we building? Do you still want to choose this? — the answers crack something open.

 

This conversation is messy, vulnerable, and uncomfortably real. It’s a reminder that loving someone and knowing how to build a life with them are two different things — and that sometimes you have to admit you forgot to dream together.

 

If you’ve ever had a fight in the car on the way to a rave, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we dive into:
The Magic Man Shift: How one song helps Hesta choose consciousness over autopilot in her marriage
How They Met Through Music: A breakup song, 13,000 stop-motion photos, and “Pictures of You” as their wedding song
Why They Fight: The tension between artistic life (Fred again.. weekends) and regular life (Monday responsibilities)
The Big Reveal: Two people married for 12 years realizing they have no shared vision for their relationship
When the Therapist Is Lost Too: What happens when the expert doesn’t have the answers at home
Want vs. Need: Why looking for someone to fill the hole destroys love
The Hard Question: Asking “do you even love me?” — and sitting with the answer
What They Each Need: Space to create vs. presence when spiraling
The Commitment: Learning how to dream together when you forgot how


Monthly Playlist

The February Playlist:https://open.spotify.com/playlist/07iyBQcQJtSw3PXw7i6S7t?si=f460e6034e6f4769

Featured Song: “Magic Man” – Heart The song that shifts Hesta’s state and brings her back to why she chose him.

Connect with Randy

Randy’s Website: https://www.randyscottslavin.com 

NYC Drone Film Festival: https://www.instagram.com/nycdroneff 

Can We Go Wrong Music Video: https://youtu.be/XreeB1Ljeew?si=929Ou8XZu7WNgz8v

Connect with Hesta

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hestaprynnmusic 

Substack: https://hestaprynn.substack.com/ 

Music Connection Therapy Course: https://mct.hestaprynn.com/

 

Have a question you want DJ Hesta Prynn to answer? musicistherapypod@gmail.com

I interviewed my husband about our relationship.
Am I insane? Probably. But we&rsquo;ve been married twelve years, and I had questions.
This episode is for anyone who&rsquo;s ever loved someone and thought, Why is this still so hard?
&nbsp;
Marriage is usually discussed in terms of compatibility, communication, and compromise. But we rarely talk about what happens when two people who love each other realize they have no idea what they&rsquo;re actually building together.
&nbsp;
In this episode of Music Is Therapy, DJ Hesta Prynn does something unprecedented: she interviews her own husband, filmmaker Randy Scott Slavin, for raw couples therapy on tape.
&nbsp;
What starts as a sweet story about how they met through music turns into something deeper &mdash; and more uncomfortable. They fight all the time. She doesn&rsquo;t know why. And when she finally asks the hard questions &mdash; Why do we fight so much? What are we building? Do you still want to choose this? &mdash; the answers crack something open.
&nbsp;
This conversation is messy, vulnerable, and uncomfortably real. It&rsquo;s a reminder that loving someone and knowing how to build a life with them are two different things &mdash; and that sometimes you have to admit you forgot to dream together.
&nbsp;
If you&rsquo;ve ever had a fight in the car on the way to a rave, this episode is for you.
In this episode, we dive into:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The Magic Man Shift: How one song helps Hesta choose consciousness over autopilot in her marriage</li>
<li aria-level="1">How They Met Through Music: A breakup song, 13,000 stop-motion photos, and &ldquo;Pictures of You&rdquo; as their wedding song</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why They Fight: The tension between artistic life (Fred again.. weekends) and regular life (Monday responsibilities)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The Big Reveal: Two people married for 12 years realizing they have no shared vision for their relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">When the Therapist Is Lost Too: What happens when the expert doesn&rsquo;t have the answers at home</li>
<li aria-level="1">Want vs. Need: Why looking for someone to fill the hole destroys love</li>
<li aria-level="1">The Hard Question: Asking &ldquo;do you even love me?&rdquo; &mdash; and sitting with the answer</li>
<li aria-level="1">What They Each Need: Space to create vs. presence when spiraling</li>
<li aria-level="1">The Commitment: Learning how to dream together when you forgot how</li>
</ul>
 Monthly Playlist
The February Playlist: <a href="https://open.spotify.com/playlist/07iyBQcQJtSw3PXw7i6S7t?si=f460e6034e6f4769">https://open.spotify.com/playlist/07iyBQcQJtSw3PXw7i6S7t?si=f460e6034e6f4769</a>
Featured Song: &ldquo;Magic Man&rdquo; &ndash; Heart The song that shifts Hesta&rsquo;s state and brings her back to why she chose him.
Connect with Randy
Randy&rsquo;s Website: <a href="https://www.randyscottslavin.com/">https://www.randyscottslavin.com</a>&nbsp;
NYC Drone Film Festival: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/nycdroneff/">https://www.instagram.com/nycdroneff</a>&nbsp;
Can We Go Wrong Music Video: <a href="https://youtu.be/XreeB1Ljeew?si=929Ou8XZu7WNgz8v">https://youtu.be/XreeB1Ljeew?si=929Ou8XZu7WNgz8v</a>
Connect with Hesta
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/hestaprynnmusic">https://www.instagram.com/hestaprynnmusic</a>&nbsp;
Substack: <a href="https://hestaprynn.substack.com/">https://hestaprynn.substack.com/</a>&nbsp;
Music Connection Therapy Course: <a href="https://mct.hestaprynn.com/sales-page">https://mct.hestaprynn.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Have a question you want DJ Hesta Prynn to answer? musicistherapypod@gmail.com

A Jay-Z song changed my net worth.

What if the song you can’t stop playing isn’t random? What if it’s pointing to something you want - or someone you’re becoming?

DJ Hesta Prynn’s Music Is Therapy is a podcast about identity - and how music shapes the way we see ourselves, make decisions, and move through the world.

Hosted by Hesta Prynn, an NYC-based DJ and licensed therapist, each month focuses on one area of life - money, love, self-worth, relationships, career - using music not as entertainment, but as a tool.

Through personal storytelling, conversations with experts, and Hesta’s Music Connection Therapy method, the show explores how the songs you love can help you shift how you show up in your life.

This is not just a podcast.  It's unconventional therapy for your entire life. 

Music is Therapy - your session starts now.

A Jay-Z song changed my net worth.
What if the song you can&rsquo;t stop playing isn&rsquo;t random? What if it&rsquo;s pointing to something you want - or someone you&rsquo;re becoming?
DJ Hesta Prynn&rsquo;s Music Is Therapy is a podcast about identity - and how music shapes the way we see ourselves, make decisions, and move through the world.
Hosted by Hesta Prynn, an NYC-based DJ and licensed therapist, each month focuses on one area of life - money, love, self-worth, relationships, career - using music not as entertainment, but as a tool.
Through personal storytelling, conversations with experts, and Hesta&rsquo;s Music Connection Therapy method, the show explores how the songs you love can help you shift how you show up in your life.
This is not just a podcast.&nbsp; It's unconventional therapy for your entire life.&nbsp;
Music is Therapy - your session starts now.

DJ Hesta Prynn's Music is Therapy

A Jay-Z song changed my net worth.

What if the song you can’t stop playing isn’t random?
What if it’s pointing to something you want -
or someone you’re becoming?

DJ Hesta Prynn’s Music Is Therapy is a podcast about identity - and how music shapes the way we see ourselves, make decisions, and move through the world.

Hosted by Hesta Prynn, an NYC-based DJ and licensed therapist, each month focuses on one area of life - money, love, self-worth, relationships, career - using music not as entertainment, but as a tool.

Through personal storytelling, conversations with experts, and Hesta’s Music Connection Therapy method, the show explores how the songs you love can help you shift how you show up in your life.

This is not just a podcast. 

It's unconventional therapy for your entire life. 

Music is Therapy - your session starts now.

A Jay-Z song changed my net worth.
What if the song you can&rsquo;t stop playing isn&rsquo;t random? What if it&rsquo;s pointing to something you want - or someone you&rsquo;re becoming?
DJ Hesta Prynn&rsquo;s&nbsp;Music Is Therapy&nbsp;is a podcast about identity - and how music shapes the way we see ourselves, make decisions, and move through the world.
Hosted by Hesta Prynn, an NYC-based DJ and licensed therapist, each month focuses on one area of life - money, love, self-worth, relationships, career - using music not as entertainment, but as a tool.
Through personal storytelling, conversations with experts, and Hesta&rsquo;s Music Connection Therapy method, the show explores how the songs you love can help you shift how you show up in your life.
This is not just a podcast.&nbsp;
It's unconventional therapy for your entire life.&nbsp;
Music is Therapy&nbsp;- your session starts now.

DJ Hesta Prynn's Music is Therapy 

Why Do We Fight So Much? (with Randy Scott Slavin)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/b0ee167a-9448-4a5c-9236-b3e900487ce7/transcript