Take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold it now, release slowly again, deep in, helle hold release, repeating internally to yourself as you connect to my voice. I am deeply, deeply well. I I am deeply well. I am deeply well. I'm Debbie Brown and this is the Deeply Well Podcast. Welcome to Deeply Well, a soft place to land in your journey. A podcast for those that are curious, creative, and ready to expand in higher consciousness and self care. This is where we heal, this is where we transcend. Welcome to the show. I'm Debbie Brown and Season four of the Deeply Well Podcast has officially kicked off and I am so excited to share that there is a new way to rep the show. We have merch officially for season four. We have so many cute shirts for you and hats, and I'm so excited to share these. If you're a healer, you can rep it. If you're like me and love just saying oh surprise me God, wear a shirt. And of course we have our Deeply Well podcast, so please enjoy. I am so excited to share this march with you. Get everything that you love and send me all the picks Okay, we are really letting ourselves savor and expand conversations about integrity. So if you happen to be listening to this podcast on your phone or any of your devices, welcome, thank you for being here. And if you're watching us on YouTube, yes, we have a YouTube channel you can subscribe. Then you may notice things look a little bit different this season. So just to set the stage for everyone listening, I am actually doing all of this season now in my workshop, the space that I work out of, that I study out of, that I see clients out of and create things. And I decided this season to do that one because it just felt even more deeply authentic and like that's my jam. But also too, you know, I felt like I wanted to be able to bring to life on this show things that I love bringing to life with people in this actual room, diving into concepts, going a little deeper in certain places, feeling even more at ease and conversation, and so yeah, we're trying it out. This is always growing and evolving. But the walls are yellow. It is a beautifully sunlit day outside. It's a gorgeous day in October here in Los Angeles. I'm looking out of the window at like some big trees and some water. And for those that see me on camera right now, for those listening, you'll see a bookshelf. You'll see some crystals, very on brand, very expected. So thank you for joining me in this space. My look. As I shared in the first episode of this season, that I hope you had a chance to catch up on because I had a really special story about joy that you may receive my intention this season. This is a very important year in life, in human history. This is a very very meaningful, important year, and a lot changes, and I think on one plane, we're kind of looking at the political atmosphere we're in, and we know that we are on the cusp of so much of the unknown. We can really predict or fully prepare for this kind of unknown. We don't know what's coming, but there are shifts. For those that follow astrology, like myself, devoted student, we know that we are in the cusp of coming into a new age what would be considered the Age of Aquarius, and coming out of a very very complex Pluto transit that we've been in since two thousand and eight. And so whether you're looking to the stars, whether you're simply looking out of the window and taking in, you know, the attitudes and the feelings that we see. I think something each of us can agree on is a lot of the things happening right now are first A lot of the things happening right now are also, I believe, really designed to get us looking at the inner nature of everything, at the inner workings of everything. We are gratefully thinking God on the end of what's felt like this fifteen year dance with performance in a way that humans have never really done because of social media, because of celebrity worship culture that especially you know, became so relentless and all consuming in the nineties and the early aughts, Like so many things have been getting us ready for this moment. And I want to say, for probably the last ten years, something that I've been saying among friends and sometimes in interviews is I believe I call this moment that we're in the age of authenticity. And a lot of times I would say that and people would say, what are you talking about. You know, people are faker than ever right now, and it's like, well, everything has to come up for review for it to be useful for us. So if the belief is that everything around us is fake or that's what we're witnessing, is the fakeness and the performance of so much. The place that I first go in my mind and heart is to say, well, then that means we need to meet that with radical authenticity. We need to meet this moment with the exact opposite of everything that we are witnessing around us. We need to be counterculture. You know. I believe that if you use integrity as the measuring stick, it doesn't matter what belief system you hold. It doesn't matter what life experiences you've had, it doesn't matter how different you are from others, how divided we all are. Integrity is what keeps everyone in divine alignment. Integrity is what keeps this place safe for all of us, decent for all of us, healthy for all of us, you know. And that creates some wiggle room for differences in some core beliefs per se. But if we're operating out of true values, out of true, true authenticity, and we're upholding that with a foundation of integrity, I don't believe as human beings. I don't believe as partners, as lovers, as parents, as any of the roles that we play any of the things that we are I don't believe there really is opportunity to be violently at odds with anyone. Integrity as the baseline allows all of us to be an acceptance that we are having some shared experiences and some unique and different experiences, and we are able to have compassion and equanimity and equality irregardless of any of those things. And so my core belief is an integrity. There is very little there is that is more important to me than integrity, and there is almost nothing. There is nothing that is more attractive to me in another person than integrity. And so as we kind of savor in this, as we're gearing up for a world that I believe is really going to require that at the studs. So how I'm holding this, the way that I'm looking at this, and I'm kind of setting us up, and my desire in the way that I am sinking my teeth into this topic is to kind of open up all your portals, open up all the ways that you experience a word or a thing or a thought or a feeling, and bringing up for review so that we can see how we apply it in all the facets that we show up in Okay. So when I think about some of the themes of integrity that are happening in the greater world, none of this is new or happening for the first time. But I think we're finally allowing ourselves to get into the texture of what that word actually means and require some receipts about it. I think that's the thing that way too often people didn't do. And I don't know if it's because most people tend to surrender to a more dominant energy, don't necessarily want to have to take it on. You know, so many, so many of us alive, like in the Billions, struggle with authority issues, and struggle with issues of people pleasing or fawning, or wanting to fix or wanting to save. And because of that, a lot of people don't tell the full truth. A lot of people want to make things sound nicer than they are or quote unquote give the benefit of the doubt. But when it's issues of integrity, it is dangerous to do that. Give the benefit of the doubt for small mistakes, give the benefit of the doubt for certain levels of fear and withholding that some people carry, we do not need to give the benefit of the doubt for people that cause harm, right, and so like, one of these situations that we're looking at very publicly right now is this situation with Sean Combs, p Ditty, Puffy Puff Day, many names. Right we're seeing something play out on the world stage. And the thing that's been interesting to me about this and even as I'm like expressing this, I don't I don't quite know how I want to unpack this for everyone, But it's been really interesting having people talk about this right now. It's in the news. For those that have been in the industry or connected to the industry, there are a lot of ways that you know, you may have experienced Didty personally, people that know him, been around it. And so I find myself having conversations about Ditty right now with a multitude of perspectives in people, people that I used to work in the industry with or are very deep or have been very deep in the industry, talking to the everyday kind of person about it that doesn't really know the inner wace, hasn't heard some of those deeper rumors. And then other people that are like lifelong fans of his and some are like an utter complete shock that these kinds of things could happen. And you know, the question I hold is this as someone that, to the extent that I did, worked in the industry and was around certain things, certain parts of the culture like big parties after award shows or like you know, just studio culture, things like that, and also as someone that is very highly sensitive and has always operated in the world. As such, it's been interesting to watch the worship of someone, watch the confusion that brings in people when they hear about something that is under the surface. And my question for that always is like, why why didn't we take anything else into count right, It's very realistic that so many people may not have known about some of the darker things we're hearing about him. People can represent a lot of different things for a lot of people. And what seems like and I have no diagnosis for this man, but there is extreme what appears to be extreme extreme, extreme grandiose, narcissistic behavior, as well as probably many other things at play. But everybody can be a little bit different with everyone, and so even figures like that have good days, right, or even figures like that have a couple people they know they have to be a certain way with So some people like this are these manipulative chameleons that are able to show up in a lot of different archetypes for people. But then there's some historical proofs that just ring true irregardless, And so whenever I've looked at P. Ditty, I've always been repelled by the ego. Like when I see people that grandiose like I deeply reject that. It seems for me, it feels predatory, it feels dominating, it feels like that person is manipulating you. And it also feels bizarre and strange because I don't want to exist in any systems that require that I behave like I'm less because I'm around someone else that receives more attention. So the nature of that in the industry always off top is just it's ick. It's just not natural. It's not the way I see the world, where there is no above or below that puce aside. So aside from that, one thing that I've always noticed with Didty is that universally across the board, I've never heard an artist say anything good about him. I've heard other celebrities. I've heard other people that are at the part or successful say those things about him. People that would maybe put themselves shouldered or shoulder have said fun things about him, right, But I've never heard necessarily good things. Right. What's the difference between a fun thing and a good thing. A fun thing is, oh, man, we always have a blast, you know, he holds it down, he lives big, like, oh yeah, always inspired, he's taking it to the next level. Something good is like, wow, he's a really great person, like man like I felt that in my soul, or that changed my life, or he had this kind of a conversation with me, or I felt heard, seen, understood, or you know, something that speaks to someone's decency, someone's character, the way someone behaves as a bean, Like those are like good things you say about other people. We have to look at that. We have to connect the dots. You know, it's so easy to see. Well, I never heard and I never saw. But like the truth of someone's life is always with them. It just depends what you value and what you take the time to notice. So I think you know, this age of authenticity, this age of deeper integrity. These are some of the ways we're peeling back the layers in the big stories, but also in the small stories. Things I'm noticing as well are when people are talking about you know, I'm seeing a lot of people really wanting like deeper friendships and deeper relationships. And it is so beautiful to arrive at that place, I think for so many of us whenever we get there, because you're realizing that your ability, your capacity to hold intimacy is really expanding and you're craving it. You understand intimacy to truly be a fuel. It's this divine given receive between yourself and another. And you know, I think as a lot of people are having those conversations, you're going to notice those subtler tones of integrity, of decency, of reciprocity beginning to come up for review and all of the relationships you currently hold and on all the ones that you're looking to call in. So sink your teeth into that. What are our meanings and definitions of integrity? For integrity, you know, really think about what are the qualities that someone should have as a foundation for being able to be in your life? What are the attributes of their character that are just foundational to one's life? Right, Like, I think when we really kind of peel back the layers and get down to the studs. We have been requiring so little of the people that we dedicate our lives too often without really looking to say, you know, is this the most godly transaction? Is this what God actually wants from my life? Or is this my own ego? Is this righteousness? Am I feeling a void? Do I think this connection represents or means something about me? Right? Like? Are you looking to be in connection with people that look big to others because you think that makes you look big too? Or you looking to have connection with people because they have decency and inspiration moving in their veins and there's just a safety about them, a goodness about them, no right or wrong answers. Really, like, you get to decide. It's your life, our life. Our lives are simply the sum of our choices, of our experiences, of our decisions, and it's just important to bring things up for review at this time more than ever in the political choices that you make, this needs to be up for review. Aside from what someone's platform is, what are there day to day decisions of decency, of integrity, of honor, of value? Do they move through the world with honor? Do they treat other people with respect. Do they live with self respect or are they always looking for their own aggrandizing Are they always looking to be taken care of by people or to be to receive sympathy from others, or are they here to stand up straight and do the work and lead. We have to look at that when it comes to the politics of this moment of human history. It has to matter. Anybody that we put in office has to be making choices out of integrity, because integrist choices benefit all, even if we don't always love, like, agree or want to support them. There are going to be ways regardless, because we're a bunch of different kinds of people. Where some people are going to have more, some people are going to have less. Some things are going to be like this, some things are going to be like that. Is that fair? No, God, no, of course not. This planet is not fair. None of our life experiences have been fair. But do they serve the greater good at least in some way? And can we find ways where that balance does come in for us and we are getting our share in other ways or we're getting a little more in other ways. That's the divine dance and the balance. But when you're voting, when you are making choices that are a part of our human choices that affect all of us. Each of us has to consider is this for the greater good? And look at the full sum of choices that a person running for public office makes. You know, when I hear questions like do you trust politicians? No, I don't trust anybody. I don't trust anyone. I trust myself. I trust my connection with God and the divine. I don't have the expectation that I have to trust everyone around me to make choices for the greater good. It's never going to happen. We've never lived on a perfect planet. God has designed very extensive spiritual curriculum for each of us. I don't have to trust politicians, but I am judging. Are the majority of the choices they make consistently? Do they represent integrity in the way that I understand it, in the way that I live it deeply? Well? So consider this month as we unfold in even more conversations around integrity. You know, what does integrity mean for you? Not just in this political landscape that we're walking into. What does integrity mean for you in your own home? What does integrity mean for you and the way you interact with others. What does integrity mean for you in your body, in your decisions, in the way that you show up and serve, and the way that you're able to hold boundaries? You know, not being able to have a lot of boundaries in your life with yourself means that in some ways it's not as honorable as many of us think it is. Right, It's not like I'm so sacrificing, I'm a martyr. It's really, where are you lacking in your personal integrity? Where are you operating in fear? Where are you operating in your wounding? And where is there opportunity to turn that around? Where is that opportunity to make a different choice, to change your behavior, to change the way you look at and experience and receive yourself. And I think every day we are given these opportunities to evaluate who we are and what our interactions are and how we move in the world, and we're giving we're given opportunities to make new choices, to change things, to do things differently, and that is where our power lies. Can you make those adjustments in real time or do they take decades for you? Again, no right or wrong It just depends on what you want to get out of this lifetime. I'm somebody that made a lot of the same hard choices over and over until I did it. And what I've learned now that I don't is that God life is so much more beautiful and easeful and healing and miraculous and pleasurable if you just do the hard thing when you're told to, just do it. Just do it the first time, do it when you hear the whisper. You don't have to wait for God to punch you in the face every time. Do it. Do it because you trust that your intuition told you to, even without further proof, And over time you'll see the proof come in and it'll all make sense. But be willing to trust yourself, be willing to trust your connection with the divine. And if you're not there yet, I pray and hope for you that there is a willingness, maybe even just in this moment, to stretch your heart open a little more wide, and begin to slowly court and cultivate that relationship with yourself and with the divine, so as they get ready to kind of bring this first conversation about integrity to a close. I want to bring forward a few definitions of integrity for you, because what I have definitely come to find in life, most especially in my own sagas but in my work is we can be using the same words in language but hold such completely different definitions for these words because the ways that we've been introduced to them, or that they have been demonstrated for us since childhood, have all been very different. The word love means very different things to each of us, depending on how much or how little each of us has had of it, depending on how our caretakers or the people that we loved or wanted to love shared it with us. And so because of that, it's really important that we check in and connect. Are we operating from the same baseline understanding of what this feeling or this characteristic or this noun, this verb, this definition means to each of us. So I'm going to start here, And as long as you're not driving, if you're somewhere safe, you might want to just sit down and close your eyes listening to this, or let yourself bring your eyes to looking outside of a window, or just kind of being in a soft gaze so you can connect to the words that I'm saying, and notice where they land. Notice in your body. Notice if there is instantaneously some kind of an example that shoots forward. But just listen to some of these things that I'm going to share. So the Merriam Webster definition of the word integrity is adherence to a code firm, adherence to a code of values, especially moral or artistic values. An incorruptibility, incorrupt ability, an unimpaired condition, a sound, perfect or unbroken condition. Completeness the quality or state of being complete or undivided. Some synonyms of the word integrity include character, decency, goodness, honesty, morality, probity, and rightness, and an antonym. The opposite of the word integrity is dishonesty. Sit in that for a second, and I want you to think about where this conversation has already been. If there is dishonesty connected to a person, they do not have integrity. If someone represents completeness, a state of being complete or undivided, that's integrity. They adhere to a code of values that are moral or and artistic and incorruptible, they have integrity. It's important to note those things. From a psychological standpoint, integrity is considered one of the most important human values. It can promote personal and collective well being, and it is linked to increased self esteem and life satisfaction, mental health, and emotional stability. Wow, that's powerful. Think about how much energy we spend when we are not living in alignment with our values. It drains us, It creates confusion, and it leads to internal conflict. Integrity, on the other hand, promotes well being. It promotes increased self esteem and emotional stability. Oh yeah, okay, Think about how much energy we spend when we are not living in alignment with our values. It drains us, creates confusion, and it leads to internal conflict that constant pull and tug between what we know to be true and what we are choosing to behave as or choosing to pretend to believe. Integrity, on the other hand, innately promotes well being, increased self esteem, and emotional stability. Words that often in a company integrity psychological integrity include accountability, consistency, honesty, sensitivity, and transparency. So if someone who is in a position of leadership or domination or authority does not naturally have the ability to be accountable, consistent, honest, sensitive, and transparent, they are not operating in integrity. Now, spiritual integrity is the practice of living a life that is consistent with one's values and principles and is free of contradictions between what one says and does. It involves being honest with oneself and having a deep understanding of oneself and being willing to be authentic. So another way to look at that is, for instance, I am somebody that does this show deeply well. I am a healing practitioner and facilitator. I'm someone that works with clients and with companies in an advisory position. I'm someone that is deeply studied, meditation teacher. All these things right, If I did not study the things that I talked about, if I did not live the things that I talked about, if I taught meditation but I did not meditate, I would not be in integrity with what I'm saying. I am who I'm saying I am, which means there is a layer of manipulation and dishonesty that I would be coming to you with for whatever kind of personal gain. We need to look at the way we are being talked to by people, the way we are being influenced by people, we need to pay close attention to what we expect in leadership. Because our leaders are in paid positions, we need to constantly be bringing up for review, especially while we're in transition or expanding into a higher version of self. What do I stand for? How much integrity do I live with? And how is everyone else measuring up? Even people I really like, even people I really enjoy, even people I'm nervous around, even people I'm scared to upset. Right, however, you experience certain people in your life hold this value system. We've just now become really clear on up next to them and see how you really feel what is in alignment. There is a real opportunity in this moment in time, and I want you to think about this as we explore integrity. There is a real opportunity to uplevel your life for the better, to heal yourself of wounds and to get into true alignment who you say you are, be, who you say you want to be. Let the healing take root in your life, and let your behavior be the truth of what that healing is. So some soul work for today, and I just want to remind everyone, if you didn't catch it last episode, that now along with every episode, we are going to have a PDF you can print out so you can do the work. You can do the work along with this show. So that PDF is available in our newsletter. You can sign up on Debbi Brown dot com, hit me on my link in bio on Instagram, and you can also go on the website Dewi Brown dot com on the podcast page and download the PDF of the soul work. So for the soul work that is accompanying this episode, I would like to ask everyone to spend some time thinking about and maybe journaling, when is a moment for you personally that you felt like you were in deep integrity doing what's right because it's right, no matter if another person was looking. And I want you to really explore how it felt as you did that, whatever that is big or small, And again it doesn't have to be this like big breakthrough story of like I had integrity and then a miracle happened, right maybe sometimes, but more so I want you to notice the inner feeling and how long you felt connected to that feeling. Did you feel pride about it, did it open up something in you? Did you feel strong? Just notice that for yourself. And then the second question for that in soul work would be notice the time that you didn't have integrity, whatever that is, and just know you're human and alive. It's happened for all of us. None of us have operated out of full integrity twenty four to seven. None of us. It's not possible. We're all learning, we're all growing. But it's important to be willing to bear witness to what is sometimes are painful and bad behavior. So think about when have you not been in integrity and you knew it because you always know it? And how did that feel? And how long did that stay with you? And how do you relate to that experience? Now let yourself think about it for the week, for the month, for however long, and I will see you next week. If you enjoy this episode, please consider giving a five star rating and leaving a comment. I'm really grateful for your time. 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Take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold it now, release slowly again, deep in, helle hold release, repeating internally to yourself as you connect to my voice. I am deeply, deeply well. I I am deeply well. I am deeply well. I'm Debbie Brown and this is the Deeply Well Podcast. Welcome to Deeply Well, a soft place to land in your journey. A podcast for those that are curious, creative, and ready to expand in higher consciousness and self care. This is where we heal, this is where we transcend. Welcome to the show. I'm Debbie Brown and Season four of the Deeply Well Podcast has officially kicked off and I am so excited to share that there is a new way to rep the show. We have merch officially for season four. We have so many cute shirts for you and hats, and I'm so excited to share these. If you're a healer, you can rep it. If you're like me and love just saying oh surprise me God, wear a shirt. And of course we have our Deeply Well podcast, so please enjoy. I am so excited to share this march with you. Get everything that you love and send me all the picks Okay, we are really letting ourselves savor and expand conversations about integrity. So if you happen to be listening to this podcast on your phone or any of your devices, welcome, thank you for being here. And if you're watching us on YouTube, yes, we have a YouTube channel you can subscribe. Then you may notice things look a little bit different this season. So just to set the stage for everyone listening, I am actually doing all of this season now in my workshop, the space that I work out of, that I study out of, that I see clients out of and create things. And I decided this season to do that one because it just felt even more deeply authentic and like that's my jam. But also too, you know, I felt like I wanted to be able to bring to life on this show things that I love bringing to life with people in this actual room, diving into concepts, going a little deeper in certain places, feeling even more at ease and conversation, and so yeah, we're trying it out. This is always growing and evolving. But the walls are yellow. It is a beautifully sunlit day outside. It's a gorgeous day in October here in Los Angeles. I'm looking out of the window at like some big trees and some water. And for those that see me on camera right now, for those listening, you'll see a bookshelf. You'll see some crystals, very on brand, very expected. So thank you for joining me in this space. My look. As I shared in the first episode of this season, that I hope you had a chance to catch up on because I had a really special story about joy that you may receive my intention this season. This is a very important year in life, in human history. This is a very very meaningful, important year, and a lot changes, and I think on one plane, we're kind of looking at the political atmosphere we're in, and we know that we are on the cusp of so much of the unknown. We can really predict or fully prepare for this kind of unknown. We don't know what's coming, but there are shifts. For those that follow astrology, like myself, devoted student, we know that we are in the cusp of coming into a new age what would be considered the Age of Aquarius, and coming out of a very very complex Pluto transit that we've been in since two thousand and eight. And so whether you're looking to the stars, whether you're simply looking out of the window and taking in, you know, the attitudes and the feelings that we see. I think something each of us can agree on is a lot of the things happening right now are first A lot of the things happening right now are also, I believe, really designed to get us looking at the inner nature of everything, at the inner workings of everything. We are gratefully thinking God on the end of what's felt like this fifteen year dance with performance in a way that humans have never really done because of social media, because of celebrity worship culture that especially you know, became so relentless and all consuming in the nineties and the early aughts, Like so many things have been getting us ready for this moment. And I want to say, for probably the last ten years, something that I've been saying among friends and sometimes in interviews is I believe I call this moment that we're in the age of authenticity. And a lot of times I would say that and people would say, what are you talking about. You know, people are faker than ever right now, and it's like, well, everything has to come up for review for it to be useful for us. So if the belief is that everything around us is fake or that's what we're witnessing, is the fakeness and the performance of so much. The place that I first go in my mind and heart is to say, well, then that means we need to meet that with radical authenticity. We need to meet this moment with the exact opposite of everything that we are witnessing around us. We need to be counterculture. You know. I believe that if you use integrity as the measuring stick, it doesn't matter what belief system you hold. It doesn't matter what life experiences you've had, it doesn't matter how different you are from others, how divided we all are. Integrity is what keeps everyone in divine alignment. Integrity is what keeps this place safe for all of us, decent for all of us, healthy for all of us, you know. And that creates some wiggle room for differences in some core beliefs per se. But if we're operating out of true values, out of true, true authenticity, and we're upholding that with a foundation of integrity, I don't believe as human beings. I don't believe as partners, as lovers, as parents, as any of the roles that we play any of the things that we are I don't believe there really is opportunity to be violently at odds with anyone. Integrity as the baseline allows all of us to be an acceptance that we are having some shared experiences and some unique and different experiences, and we are able to have compassion and equanimity and equality irregardless of any of those things. And so my core belief is an integrity. There is very little there is that is more important to me than integrity, and there is almost nothing. There is nothing that is more attractive to me in another person than integrity. And so as we kind of savor in this, as we're gearing up for a world that I believe is really going to require that at the studs. So how I'm holding this, the way that I'm looking at this, and I'm kind of setting us up, and my desire in the way that I am sinking my teeth into this topic is to kind of open up all your portals, open up all the ways that you experience a word or a thing or a thought or a feeling, and bringing up for review so that we can see how we apply it in all the facets that we show up in Okay. So when I think about some of the themes of integrity that are happening in the greater world, none of this is new or happening for the first time. But I think we're finally allowing ourselves to get into the texture of what that word actually means and require some receipts about it. I think that's the thing that way too often people didn't do. And I don't know if it's because most people tend to surrender to a more dominant energy, don't necessarily want to have to take it on. You know, so many, so many of us alive, like in the Billions, struggle with authority issues, and struggle with issues of people pleasing or fawning, or wanting to fix or wanting to save. And because of that, a lot of people don't tell the full truth. A lot of people want to make things sound nicer than they are or quote unquote give the benefit of the doubt. But when it's issues of integrity, it is dangerous to do that. Give the benefit of the doubt for small mistakes, give the benefit of the doubt for certain levels of fear and withholding that some people carry, we do not need to give the benefit of the doubt for people that cause harm, right, and so like, one of these situations that we're looking at very publicly right now is this situation with Sean Combs, p Ditty, Puffy Puff Day, many names. Right we're seeing something play out on the world stage. And the thing that's been interesting to me about this and even as I'm like expressing this, I don't I don't quite know how I want to unpack this for everyone, But it's been really interesting having people talk about this right now. It's in the news. For those that have been in the industry or connected to the industry, there are a lot of ways that you know, you may have experienced Didty personally, people that know him, been around it. And so I find myself having conversations about Ditty right now with a multitude of perspectives in people, people that I used to work in the industry with or are very deep or have been very deep in the industry, talking to the everyday kind of person about it that doesn't really know the inner wace, hasn't heard some of those deeper rumors. And then other people that are like lifelong fans of his and some are like an utter complete shock that these kinds of things could happen. And you know, the question I hold is this as someone that, to the extent that I did, worked in the industry and was around certain things, certain parts of the culture like big parties after award shows or like you know, just studio culture, things like that, and also as someone that is very highly sensitive and has always operated in the world. As such, it's been interesting to watch the worship of someone, watch the confusion that brings in people when they hear about something that is under the surface. And my question for that always is like, why why didn't we take anything else into count right, It's very realistic that so many people may not have known about some of the darker things we're hearing about him. People can represent a lot of different things for a lot of people. And what seems like and I have no diagnosis for this man, but there is extreme what appears to be extreme extreme, extreme grandiose, narcissistic behavior, as well as probably many other things at play. But everybody can be a little bit different with everyone, and so even figures like that have good days, right, or even figures like that have a couple people they know they have to be a certain way with So some people like this are these manipulative chameleons that are able to show up in a lot of different archetypes for people. But then there's some historical proofs that just ring true irregardless, And so whenever I've looked at P. Ditty, I've always been repelled by the ego. Like when I see people that grandiose like I deeply reject that. It seems for me, it feels predatory, it feels dominating, it feels like that person is manipulating you. And it also feels bizarre and strange because I don't want to exist in any systems that require that I behave like I'm less because I'm around someone else that receives more attention. So the nature of that in the industry always off top is just it's ick. It's just not natural. It's not the way I see the world, where there is no above or below that puce aside. So aside from that, one thing that I've always noticed with Didty is that universally across the board, I've never heard an artist say anything good about him. I've heard other celebrities. I've heard other people that are at the part or successful say those things about him. People that would maybe put themselves shouldered or shoulder have said fun things about him, right, But I've never heard necessarily good things. Right. What's the difference between a fun thing and a good thing. A fun thing is, oh, man, we always have a blast, you know, he holds it down, he lives big, like, oh yeah, always inspired, he's taking it to the next level. Something good is like, wow, he's a really great person, like man like I felt that in my soul, or that changed my life, or he had this kind of a conversation with me, or I felt heard, seen, understood, or you know, something that speaks to someone's decency, someone's character, the way someone behaves as a bean, Like those are like good things you say about other people. We have to look at that. We have to connect the dots. You know, it's so easy to see. Well, I never heard and I never saw. But like the truth of someone's life is always with them. It just depends what you value and what you take the time to notice. So I think you know, this age of authenticity, this age of deeper integrity. These are some of the ways we're peeling back the layers in the big stories, but also in the small stories. Things I'm noticing as well are when people are talking about you know, I'm seeing a lot of people really wanting like deeper friendships and deeper relationships. And it is so beautiful to arrive at that place, I think for so many of us whenever we get there, because you're realizing that your ability, your capacity to hold intimacy is really expanding and you're craving it. You understand intimacy to truly be a fuel. It's this divine given receive between yourself and another. And you know, I think as a lot of people are having those conversations, you're going to notice those subtler tones of integrity, of decency, of reciprocity beginning to come up for review and all of the relationships you currently hold and on all the ones that you're looking to call in. So sink your teeth into that. What are our meanings and definitions of integrity? For integrity, you know, really think about what are the qualities that someone should have as a foundation for being able to be in your life? What are the attributes of their character that are just foundational to one's life? Right, Like, I think when we really kind of peel back the layers and get down to the studs. We have been requiring so little of the people that we dedicate our lives too often without really looking to say, you know, is this the most godly transaction? Is this what God actually wants from my life? Or is this my own ego? Is this righteousness? Am I feeling a void? Do I think this connection represents or means something about me? Right? Like? Are you looking to be in connection with people that look big to others because you think that makes you look big too? Or you looking to have connection with people because they have decency and inspiration moving in their veins and there's just a safety about them, a goodness about them, no right or wrong answers. Really, like, you get to decide. It's your life, our life. Our lives are simply the sum of our choices, of our experiences, of our decisions, and it's just important to bring things up for review at this time more than ever in the political choices that you make, this needs to be up for review. Aside from what someone's platform is, what are there day to day decisions of decency, of integrity, of honor, of value? Do they move through the world with honor? Do they treat other people with respect. Do they live with self respect or are they always looking for their own aggrandizing Are they always looking to be taken care of by people or to be to receive sympathy from others, or are they here to stand up straight and do the work and lead. We have to look at that when it comes to the politics of this moment of human history. It has to matter. Anybody that we put in office has to be making choices out of integrity, because integrist choices benefit all, even if we don't always love, like, agree or want to support them. There are going to be ways regardless, because we're a bunch of different kinds of people. Where some people are going to have more, some people are going to have less. Some things are going to be like this, some things are going to be like that. Is that fair? No, God, no, of course not. This planet is not fair. None of our life experiences have been fair. But do they serve the greater good at least in some way? And can we find ways where that balance does come in for us and we are getting our share in other ways or we're getting a little more in other ways. That's the divine dance and the balance. But when you're voting, when you are making choices that are a part of our human choices that affect all of us. Each of us has to consider is this for the greater good? And look at the full sum of choices that a person running for public office makes. You know, when I hear questions like do you trust politicians? No, I don't trust anybody. I don't trust anyone. I trust myself. I trust my connection with God and the divine. I don't have the expectation that I have to trust everyone around me to make choices for the greater good. It's never going to happen. We've never lived on a perfect planet. God has designed very extensive spiritual curriculum for each of us. I don't have to trust politicians, but I am judging. Are the majority of the choices they make consistently? Do they represent integrity in the way that I understand it, in the way that I live it deeply? Well? So consider this month as we unfold in even more conversations around integrity. You know, what does integrity mean for you? Not just in this political landscape that we're walking into. What does integrity mean for you in your own home? What does integrity mean for you and the way you interact with others. What does integrity mean for you in your body, in your decisions, in the way that you show up and serve, and the way that you're able to hold boundaries? You know, not being able to have a lot of boundaries in your life with yourself means that in some ways it's not as honorable as many of us think it is. Right, It's not like I'm so sacrificing, I'm a martyr. It's really, where are you lacking in your personal integrity? Where are you operating in fear? Where are you operating in your wounding? And where is there opportunity to turn that around? Where is that opportunity to make a different choice, to change your behavior, to change the way you look at and experience and receive yourself. And I think every day we are given these opportunities to evaluate who we are and what our interactions are and how we move in the world, and we're giving we're given opportunities to make new choices, to change things, to do things differently, and that is where our power lies. Can you make those adjustments in real time or do they take decades for you? Again, no right or wrong It just depends on what you want to get out of this lifetime. I'm somebody that made a lot of the same hard choices over and over until I did it. And what I've learned now that I don't is that God life is so much more beautiful and easeful and healing and miraculous and pleasurable if you just do the hard thing when you're told to, just do it. Just do it the first time, do it when you hear the whisper. You don't have to wait for God to punch you in the face every time. Do it. Do it because you trust that your intuition told you to, even without further proof, And over time you'll see the proof come in and it'll all make sense. But be willing to trust yourself, be willing to trust your connection with the divine. And if you're not there yet, I pray and hope for you that there is a willingness, maybe even just in this moment, to stretch your heart open a little more wide, and begin to slowly court and cultivate that relationship with yourself and with the divine, so as they get ready to kind of bring this first conversation about integrity to a close. I want to bring forward a few definitions of integrity for you, because what I have definitely come to find in life, most especially in my own sagas but in my work is we can be using the same words in language but hold such completely different definitions for these words because the ways that we've been introduced to them, or that they have been demonstrated for us since childhood, have all been very different. The word love means very different things to each of us, depending on how much or how little each of us has had of it, depending on how our caretakers or the people that we loved or wanted to love shared it with us. And so because of that, it's really important that we check in and connect. Are we operating from the same baseline understanding of what this feeling or this characteristic or this noun, this verb, this definition means to each of us. So I'm going to start here, And as long as you're not driving, if you're somewhere safe, you might want to just sit down and close your eyes listening to this, or let yourself bring your eyes to looking outside of a window, or just kind of being in a soft gaze so you can connect to the words that I'm saying, and notice where they land. Notice in your body. Notice if there is instantaneously some kind of an example that shoots forward. But just listen to some of these things that I'm going to share. So the Merriam Webster definition of the word integrity is adherence to a code firm, adherence to a code of values, especially moral or artistic values. An incorruptibility, incorrupt ability, an unimpaired condition, a sound, perfect or unbroken condition. Completeness the quality or state of being complete or undivided. Some synonyms of the word integrity include character, decency, goodness, honesty, morality, probity, and rightness, and an antonym. The opposite of the word integrity is dishonesty. Sit in that for a second, and I want you to think about where this conversation has already been. If there is dishonesty connected to a person, they do not have integrity. If someone represents completeness, a state of being complete or undivided, that's integrity. They adhere to a code of values that are moral or and artistic and incorruptible, they have integrity. It's important to note those things. From a psychological standpoint, integrity is considered one of the most important human values. It can promote personal and collective well being, and it is linked to increased self esteem and life satisfaction, mental health, and emotional stability. Wow, that's powerful. Think about how much energy we spend when we are not living in alignment with our values. It drains us, It creates confusion, and it leads to internal conflict. Integrity, on the other hand, promotes well being. It promotes increased self esteem and emotional stability. Oh yeah, okay, Think about how much energy we spend when we are not living in alignment with our values. It drains us, creates confusion, and it leads to internal conflict that constant pull and tug between what we know to be true and what we are choosing to behave as or choosing to pretend to believe. Integrity, on the other hand, innately promotes well being, increased self esteem, and emotional stability. Words that often in a company integrity psychological integrity include accountability, consistency, honesty, sensitivity, and transparency. So if someone who is in a position of leadership or domination or authority does not naturally have the ability to be accountable, consistent, honest, sensitive, and transparent, they are not operating in integrity. Now, spiritual integrity is the practice of living a life that is consistent with one's values and principles and is free of contradictions between what one says and does. It involves being honest with oneself and having a deep understanding of oneself and being willing to be authentic. So another way to look at that is, for instance, I am somebody that does this show deeply well. I am a healing practitioner and facilitator. I'm someone that works with clients and with companies in an advisory position. I'm someone that is deeply studied, meditation teacher. All these things right, If I did not study the things that I talked about, if I did not live the things that I talked about, if I taught meditation but I did not meditate, I would not be in integrity with what I'm saying. I am who I'm saying I am, which means there is a layer of manipulation and dishonesty that I would be coming to you with for whatever kind of personal gain. We need to look at the way we are being talked to by people, the way we are being influenced by people, we need to pay close attention to what we expect in leadership. Because our leaders are in paid positions, we need to constantly be bringing up for review, especially while we're in transition or expanding into a higher version of self. What do I stand for? How much integrity do I live with? And how is everyone else measuring up? Even people I really like, even people I really enjoy, even people I'm nervous around, even people I'm scared to upset. Right, however, you experience certain people in your life hold this value system. We've just now become really clear on up next to them and see how you really feel what is in alignment. There is a real opportunity in this moment in time, and I want you to think about this as we explore integrity. There is a real opportunity to uplevel your life for the better, to heal yourself of wounds and to get into true alignment who you say you are, be, who you say you want to be. Let the healing take root in your life, and let your behavior be the truth of what that healing is. So some soul work for today, and I just want to remind everyone, if you didn't catch it last episode, that now along with every episode, we are going to have a PDF you can print out so you can do the work. You can do the work along with this show. So that PDF is available in our newsletter. You can sign up on Debbi Brown dot com, hit me on my link in bio on Instagram, and you can also go on the website Dewi Brown dot com on the podcast page and download the PDF of the soul work. So for the soul work that is accompanying this episode, I would like to ask everyone to spend some time thinking about and maybe journaling, when is a moment for you personally that you felt like you were in deep integrity doing what's right because it's right, no matter if another person was looking. And I want you to really explore how it felt as you did that, whatever that is big or small, And again it doesn't have to be this like big breakthrough story of like I had integrity and then a miracle happened, right maybe sometimes, but more so I want you to notice the inner feeling and how long you felt connected to that feeling. Did you feel pride about it, did it open up something in you? Did you feel strong? Just notice that for yourself. And then the second question for that in soul work would be notice the time that you didn't have integrity, whatever that is, and just know you're human and alive. It's happened for all of us. None of us have operated out of full integrity twenty four to seven. None of us. It's not possible. We're all learning, we're all growing. But it's important to be willing to bear witness to what is sometimes are painful and bad behavior. So think about when have you not been in integrity and you knew it because you always know it? And how did that feel? And how long did that stay with you? And how do you relate to that experience? Now let yourself think about it for the week, for the month, for however long, and I will see you next week. If you enjoy this episode, please consider giving a five star rating and leaving a comment. I'm really grateful for your time. 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