One of reality television's most celebrated love stories, "The Bachelorette's" Charity Lawson and Dotun Olubeko join Dear Future Wifey for a candid conversation that goes far beyond the cameras. Recorded live at the Christian Cultural Center in Brooklyn, NY, the couple opens up about what it really takes to build a relationship after the final rose.

From navigating a highly public engagement to choosing growth over pressure, Charity and Dotun share why they intentionally extended their engagement, the role therapy has played in strengthening their relationship, and how they've learned to prioritize a lasting marriage over public expectations. They also reflect on the unique challenges of finding love on reality TV and whether modern dating has become more about entertainment than genuine connection.

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One of reality television's most celebrated love stories, "The Bachelorette's" Charity Lawson and Dotun Olubeko join Dear Future Wifey for a candid conversation that goes far beyond the cameras. Recorded live at the Christian Cultural Center in Brooklyn, NY, the couple opens up about what it really takes to build a relationship after the final rose.
From navigating a highly public engagement to choosing growth over pressure, Charity and Dotun share why they intentionally extended their engagement, the role therapy has played in strengthening their relationship, and how they've learned to prioritize a lasting marriage over public expectations. They also reflect on the unique challenges of finding love on reality TV and whether modern dating has become more about entertainment than genuine connection.
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Journey with me, Laterras R. Whitfield, as I discover, uncover, and recover love. From interviews with singles, married, divorcees, and maybe even those in polyamorous relationships, we promise every episode to be L.I.T. (Living Intentionally Transparent).

Dear Future Wifey

Journey with Laterras R. Whitfield and Ashley R. Whitfield, co-hosts of the Dear Future Wifey Podcast, as they discover, uncover, and recover love—together.

Created as a platform for Laterras’ public healing after divorce, the podcast has evolved into a powerful space where real love stories are told with honesty, wisdom, and depth. Now joined by his wife Ashley, the conversations expand to include both personal reflection and shared perspective on love, marriage, and growth.

Through candid dialogue with relationship experts, celebrities, and everyday people, Laterras and Ashley dive deep into the realities of relationships—exploring love, loss, healing, and what it truly takes to build something lasting.

Whether you’re searching for love, strengthening your marriage, or healing from heartbreak, Dear Future Wifey offers heartfelt insight, practical tools, and transparent conversations to guide the journey.

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Journey with&nbsp;Laterras R. Whitfield and Ashley R. Whitfield, co-hosts of the Dear Future Wifey Podcast, as they discover, uncover, and recover love&mdash;together.
Created as a platform for Laterras&rsquo; public healing after divorce, the podcast has evolved into a powerful space where real love stories are told with honesty, wisdom, and depth. Now joined by his wife Ashley, the conversations expand to include both personal reflection and shared perspective on love, marriage, and growth.
Through candid dialogue with relationship experts, celebrities, and everyday people, Laterras and Ashley dive deep into the realities of relationships&mdash;exploring love, loss, healing, and what it truly takes to build something lasting.
Whether you&rsquo;re searching for love, strengthening your marriage, or healing from heartbreak, Dear Future Wifey offers heartfelt insight, practical tools, and transparent conversations to guide the journey.
Subscribe and join Laterras and Ashley as they continue to live intentionally and transparently.

Love Beyond The Cameras (Guests: Charity Lawson & Dotun Olubeko)

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Recorded live at Christian Cultural Center in Brooklyn, New York, this unforgettable conversation with Sarkie Ampim peels back the layers of his heart. For months, many people formed opinions about Sarkie based on viral clips and social media debates. But in this candid live interview, he addresses many of the false assumptions people have made about him, revealing the man behind the microphone.

With honesty and vulnerability, Sarkie opens up about the painful ending of his last relationship and the healing journey that followed. He reflects on the lessons, growth, accountability, and emotional work that have reshaped his perspective on love, relationships, and what it truly means to become a husband. This isn't just a conversation about dating—it's a masterclass on emotional maturity, self-awareness, and transformation.

Whether you've agreed with Sarkie in the past or questioned his viewpoints, you'll walk away with a deeper understanding of the experiences that helped shape the man he is today. If you've ever wondered what it looks like when a man chooses healing over hiding, this episode is for you. You'll be shocked to hear a man share his heart like this.

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Recorded live at Christian Cultural Center in Brooklyn, New York, this unforgettable conversation with Sarkie Ampim peels back the layers of his heart. For months, many people formed opinions about Sarkie based on viral clips and social media debates. But in this candid live interview, he addresses many of the false assumptions people have made about him, revealing the man behind the microphone.
With honesty and vulnerability, Sarkie opens up about the painful ending of his last relationship and the healing journey that followed. He reflects on the lessons, growth, accountability, and emotional work that have reshaped his perspective on love, relationships, and what it truly means to become a husband. This isn't just a conversation about dating&mdash;it's a masterclass on emotional maturity, self-awareness, and transformation.
Whether you've agreed with Sarkie in the past or questioned his viewpoints, you'll walk away with a deeper understanding of the experiences that helped shape the man he is today. If you've ever wondered what it looks like when a man chooses healing over hiding, this episode is for you. You'll be shocked to hear a man share his heart like this.
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The Making of A Husband (Guest: Sarkie Ampim)

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What happens when you believe you're too broken, too flawed, or too unworthy to be loved? And what happens when love finally arrives, but fear won't let you fully embrace it?

In this powerful episode of "Dear Future Wifey", Laterras and Ashley R. Whitfield sit down with Dayron and Whitney Owens (Day & Whit) for an honest conversation about healing, trust, and building a blended family God's way. Whitney opens up about the emotional weight of being a single mother and the internal struggle of making room for another man to step into her son's life. After carrying the responsibility of motherhood alone for so long, surrendering that space wasn't easy.

She shares how fear, protectiveness, and past experiences made it difficult to trust someone else with the role she had guarded for years. Dayron vulnerably reveals his own battle with feeling undeserving of love and how those deep-rooted insecurities nearly prevented him from embracing the relationship God had for him. Together, they discuss how confronting feelings of unworthiness, extending grace, and choosing vulnerability transformed not only their relationship but their family.

If you've ever questioned your value, struggled to trust after heartbreak, or wondered how to successfully blend love and parenthood, this conversation will remind you that healing often begins where fear ends. This is a story of redemption, restoration, and discovering that the love you've been praying for may require you to first believe you're worthy enough to receive it.

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What happens when you believe you're too broken, too flawed, or too unworthy to be loved? And what happens when love finally arrives, but fear won't let you fully embrace it?
In this powerful episode of "Dear Future Wifey", Laterras and Ashley R. Whitfield sit down with Dayron and Whitney Owens (Day &amp; Whit) for an honest conversation about healing, trust, and building a blended family God's way. Whitney opens up about the emotional weight of being a single mother and the internal struggle of making room for another man to step into her son's life. After carrying the responsibility of motherhood alone for so long, surrendering that space wasn't easy.
She shares how fear, protectiveness, and past experiences made it difficult to trust someone else with the role she had guarded for years. Dayron vulnerably reveals his own battle with feeling undeserving of love and how those deep-rooted insecurities nearly prevented him from embracing the relationship God had for him. Together, they discuss how confronting feelings of unworthiness, extending grace, and choosing vulnerability transformed not only their relationship but their family.
If you've ever questioned your value, struggled to trust after heartbreak, or wondered how to successfully blend love and parenthood, this conversation will remind you that healing often begins where fear ends. This is a story of redemption, restoration, and discovering that the love you've been praying for may require you to first believe you're worthy enough to receive it.
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I'm Worthy of Love (Guests; Dayron & Whitney Owens)

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What happened next became a testimony of God's faithfulness.

This conversation is filled with transparency, hope, healing, and proof that even after devastating loss, God still has the final word. If you've ever wrestled with commitment, endured heartbreak, or wondered whether God still performs miracles, this episode will strengthen your faith and remind you that your story isn't over.

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What happened next became a testimony of God's faithfulness.
This conversation is filled with transparency, hope, healing, and proof that even after devastating loss, God still has the final word. If you've ever wrestled with commitment, endured heartbreak, or wondered whether God still performs miracles, this episode will strengthen your faith and remind you that your story isn't over.
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Vulnerability Built Us (Guests: Mondarius & Haley Black)

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Love Beyond The Cameras (Guests: Charity Lawson & Dotun Olubeko)

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