Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of sexual abuse & eating disorders

This week in the Dear Clementine inbox:
My kid sister is much younger than me & my brother. She recently shared with me that when she was 16 years old one of my brother’s 34 year old friends started a secret sexual relationship with her. My sister is so ashamed now, she’s sworn my to secrecy. I want to honour that but also want to tell my brother and confront the offender. How can I take action without betraying her trust or undermining her authority?
I get far too many comments on my appearance. It’s often from other women saying I look pale or tired, asking if I’ve lost weight etc. How can I tackle these conversations constructively in a way that makes me feel strong but also isn’t rude?

I'm a childless woman in my mid 30s. I’ve had a long battle with disordered eating, body dysmorphia, self-harm and low self-esteem. I have come to realise that the reason I was putting off having children was because of the fear of what pregnancy & motherhood would do to my body & identity. In recent months I am starting to feel like I’m ready to have a child, but I’m terrified of falling back into a bad place with the sudden changes to my body / hormones. Is this a normal fear?  

If you have a question for Clementine, send her an email at dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au

LINKS
PANDA - Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia – supports the mental health of parents and families during pregnancy and in their first year of parenthood.

CREDITS
Executive Producer: Edwina Stott
Audio Production: Adrian Walton
Managing Producer: Elle Beattie

For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au

Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of sexual abuse &amp; eating disorders
This week in the Dear Clementine inbox:
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If you have a question for Clementine, send her an email at dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au
LINKS <a href="https://panda.org.au/about/about-panda">PANDA</a> - Perinatal Anxiety &amp; Depression Australia – supports the mental health of parents and families during pregnancy and in their first year of parenthood. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie
For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help

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