Today we’re talking feeling guilty over a lack of ambition, realising you resent your husband and sons who can’t get along. In this episode Clementine answers:
I have never been ambitious & have always wanted to be a stay-at-home mother, but I feel ashamed by my lack of ambition. I pushed my husband to become the high-income earner so that I could do this, but I now feel like I’m not a productive member of society. When I'm asked what I do, I feel ashamed to say I'm not working, so I say I'm studying. I would be grateful for any advice, even if it is to tell me to get over myself. 
I’m 47 and have been with my partner for 23 years. I’m childfree by choice. I’m going through menopause & I’ve discovered I have deep seated level of regrets and resentment towards my husband, as in retrospect I can see how much I have compromised my life choices since meeting my husband. I did love him, but I don’t think I do anymore. But how do I know this feeling is genuine, and not simply perimenopausal rage?
I have two sons, aged 29 & 32. My older son has decided that his younger brother's girlfriend is no good for him and has got to go. I see his point, but feel it is no one's place to interfere. This has got so bad that we now cannot have family functions involving my older son and younger son's girlfriend. The older son has also attacked the younger son physically. Any insight from you would help. 

If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au

CREDITS
Audio Production: Adrian Walton 
Managing Producer: Elle Beattie 
Executive Producer: Edwina Stott 

For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au

Today we’re talking feeling guilty over a lack of ambition, realising you resent your husband and sons who can’t get along. In this episode Clementine answers:
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If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: <a href="mailto:dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au">dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au</a>  CREDITS  Audio Production: Adrian Walton  Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  Executive Producer: Edwina Stott 
For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help