Becoming friends with women who entertain misogyny, whether ambivalence around motherhood is a sign it's not for you & when a friend of 20 years asks you to borrow money - should you lend it to them?

This week, in the Dear Clementine inbox: 
I have made some very lovely new girlfriends however, they are friends with a group of men who are absolute misogynists. Should I speak to my friends about this or just get rid of them all together? 
I’m in a serious relationship with a partner I love. However, we are at something of an impasse when it comes to deciding whether to have kids or not. I just don’t know, all I know is that I’m ambivalent. It seems that so many people around me simply can’t accept that a child-free life can be fulfilling. Is there any right way to work through this ambivalence? Do you have any advice?
I have a best friend of about 20 years. Today for the first time in our friendship she asked me to lend her $350. One of my boundaries is that I don’t lend friends money. When I told my friend she got very upset with me. I feel like the simple act of me saying no has damaged the friendship. What can I do to feel better and hopefully turn this into a learning experience?

If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au

Becoming friends with women who entertain misogyny, whether ambivalence around motherhood is a sign it's not for you &amp; when a friend of 20 years asks you to borrow money - should you lend it to them?
This week, in the Dear Clementine inbox: 
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<li data-leveltext="-" data-font="Calibri" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" aria-setsize="-1" data-aria-posinset="2" data-aria-level="1">I’m in a serious relationship with a partner I love. However, we are at something of an impasse when it comes to deciding whether to have kids or not. I just don’t know, all I know is that I’m ambivalent. It seems that so many people around me simply can’t accept that a child-free life can be fulfilling. Is there any right way to work through this ambivalence? Do you have any advice?</li>
<li data-leveltext="-" data-font="Calibri" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" aria-setsize="-1" data-aria-posinset="2" data-aria-level="1">I have a best friend of about 20 years. Today for the first time in our friendship she asked me to lend her $350. One of my boundaries is that I don’t lend friends money. When I told my friend she got very upset with me. I feel like the simple act of me saying no has damaged the friendship. What can I do to feel better and hopefully turn this into a learning experience?</li>
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If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to <a href="mailto:dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au">dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au</a>

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help