This week – navigating a partner coming out as trans, imposter syndrome after maternity leave & becoming a surrogate for a friend.
My husband, who I’ve been with since I was 21 (I am now 40) has revealed to me very recently that they are trans. I love them so much, and all I want is for them to be happy and fulfilled and completely themself. That said, I am fighting a personal battle. Do I stay married to this person, and change my own identity from a straight woman to a lesbian with a trans wife? Do I end the marriage and support my ex-spouse as a friend instead of a lover? 
Since returning to work after having a baby, I’ve been struck with the most horrific imposter syndrome. I am now doing a full time job in part time hours, and I feel the amount of overtime I’m doing to try and keep up is unsustainable. How can I overcome this awful feeling of trying to keep up and feeling like I’m pretending to know what I’m doing? 
I am considering being a surrogate for one of my friends. She is a trans woman who already has a daughter. She would love another child and I said that I would be open to being a surrogate. I am 36, married with 1 child who is 15. I have no plans on having any more children. I loved being pregnant and it would be nice to experience it again. I would love to know your thoughts. 

If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au

CREDITS

Executive Producer: Edwina Stott 
Audio Production: Adrian Walton 
Managing Producer: Elle Beattie 

For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au

This week – navigating a partner coming out as trans, imposter syndrome after maternity leave &amp; becoming a surrogate for a friend.
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If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: <a href="mailto:dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au">dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au</a> 
CREDITS 
Executive Producer: Edwina Stott  Audio Production: Adrian Walton  Managing Producer: Elle Beattie 
For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help