In the inbox this week: figuring out your sexuality post trauma, feeling obligated to give your husband sex & how to tell your dad that you no longer want his name.

Clementine answers:
5 years ago I was told my boyfriend had been trading my nudes like Pokémon cards at the pub with his friends. When I found out I was furious and left him immediately. Since then the thought of being physical sexually with a man makes me feel repulsed and some anger still flares up. I think I may have become asexual, but part of me feels like a fraud because I never used to be. How do I know what I am? 
I am unhappily married but choose to stay for my child. I really don't enjoy having sex with my husband and I haven't done so for the last five years since the birth of our child. I give him obligatory sex to keep the house peaceful. He is complaining that I am not engaged well enough in sex and its not frequent enough. Am I obligated to give my husband sex?
After a year of productive therapy, a lifetime of evidence pointing toward my father being an actual, clinical narcissist and two years thinking about this decision, I have decided to drop the surname I share with him. But I'm at a loss for how to explain to him my reasoning as it will probably lead to me apologising for something I absolutely do not want to apologise for! How do I have the conversation?

If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au

CREDITS
Audio Production: Adrian Walton 
Managing Producer: Elle Beattie 
Executive Producer: Edwina Stott 

In the inbox this week: figuring out your sexuality post trauma, feeling obligated to give your husband sex &amp; how to tell your dad that you no longer want his name.
Clementine answers:
<ul>
<li>5 years ago I was told my boyfriend had been trading my nudes like Pokémon cards at the pub with his friends. When I found out I was furious and left him immediately. Since then the thought of being physical sexually with a man makes me feel repulsed and some anger still flares up. I think I may have become asexual, but part of me feels like a fraud because I never used to be. How do I know what I am? </li>
<li>I am unhappily married but choose to stay for my child. I really don't enjoy having sex with my husband and I haven't done so for the last five years since the birth of our child. I give him obligatory sex to keep the house peaceful. He is complaining that I am not engaged well enough in sex and its not frequent enough. Am I obligated to give my husband sex?</li>
<li>After a year of productive therapy, a lifetime of evidence pointing toward my father being an actual, clinical narcissist and two years thinking about this decision, I have decided to drop the surname I share with him. But I'm at a loss for how to explain to him my reasoning as it will probably lead to me apologising for something I absolutely do not want to apologise for! How do I have the conversation?</li>
</ul>
If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: <a href="mailto:dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au">dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au</a>  CREDITS  Audio Production: Adrian Walton  Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  Executive Producer: Edwina Stott

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

In need of a little guidance? Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help. Whether you've got a question about family, career, sex or friendships Clementine is the sister you always wanted, the mum you never had, the aunty who always listened and the friend who's got your back. Dear Clementine is a podcast packed with advice you may not want but you definitely need.

Desperate for some advice, but too afraid to ask your friends? Award winning author and proud feminist Clementine Ford is here to help