Hey eldest sisters! This week, this one is for you. This week’s episode is a love song to the eldest daughters and granddaughters, the backbone of society, whose stories are often overlooked and ignored because their silent labor is the underpinning that keeps modern family life moving forward and families together. Dr. Dom and Terri share their experiences of being the eldest daughter and oldest sister in their immediate family and how it has shaped their worldviews and ways of being – for better or for worse.  

While these experiences are not a monolith, there is enough evidence that this is a growing segment of the population that are expected to care for everyone around them at the expense of their own career growth and health. So what can you do if you find yourself in a position where there is an implicit expectation that you will be the strong one?

Tune in if you are fed up with that role so that you can build a solid toolkit to shift yourself back into the driver’s seat of your life. Lady, this particular journey takes time so pack your patience and carve out intentional time so you can make a realistic plan that works for you. Head over to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop to pick up a journal as your companion to unpack this deep work you’re doing and while you’re at it grab a latte mug to sip on something that will calm your nervous system (you’ll find out why this is important in the episode).

Wishing you lots of a love and lighter load on your plate, lady!

 

Quote of the Day:

"The eldest daughter is the prototypical parentified child. Who’s tucking her in? Who’s feeding her? Who’s nurturing her? Who’s taking care of her?”

– Dr. Mariel Buqué

 

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Check out Drive Boost for libido support. With daily use, many people report improvements within 1–2 weeks. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace

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Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

Branding with Terri

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

 

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

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Website: cultivatingherspace.com

Hey eldest sisters! This week, this one is for you. This week&rsquo;s episode is a love song to the eldest daughters and granddaughters, the backbone of society, whose stories are often overlooked and ignored because their silent labor is the underpinning that keeps modern family life moving forward and families together. Dr. Dom and Terri share their experiences of being the eldest daughter and oldest sister in their immediate family and how it has shaped their worldviews and ways of being &ndash; for better or for worse. &nbsp;
While these experiences are not a monolith, there is enough evidence that this is a growing segment of the population that are expected to care for everyone around them at the expense of their own career growth and health. So what can you do if you find yourself in a position where there is an implicit expectation that you will be the strong one?
Tune in if you are fed up with that role so that you can build a solid toolkit to shift yourself back into the driver&rsquo;s seat of your life. Lady, this particular journey takes time so pack your patience and carve out intentional time so you can make a realistic plan that works for you. Head over to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop to pick up a journal as your companion to unpack this deep work you&rsquo;re doing and while you&rsquo;re at it grab a latte mug to sip on something that will calm your nervous system (you&rsquo;ll find out why this is important in the episode).
Wishing you lots of a love and lighter load on your plate, lady!
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Quote of the Day:
"The eldest daughter is the prototypical parentified child. Who&rsquo;s tucking her in? Who&rsquo;s feeding her? Who&rsquo;s nurturing her? Who&rsquo;s taking care of her?&rdquo;
&ndash; Dr. Mariel Buqu&eacute;
&nbsp;
This episode is brought to you by VB Health, supplements that work and Feeld, a dating app for the curious.
Check out Drive Boost for libido support. With daily use, many people report improvements within 1&ndash;2 weeks.&nbsp;Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: <a href="https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace">https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace</a>
Know what you&rsquo;re looking for? Feeld has rolled out its &ldquo;shared desires&rdquo; feature, which immediately shows you what you have in common with someone else. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.
<a href="https://terrilomax.lpages.co/goal-mapping-starter-guide/">Goal Mapping Starter Guide</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/">Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary</a>
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Resources:
<a href="https://www.drdominiquebroussard.com/">Dr. Dom&rsquo;s Therapy Practice</a>
<a href="https://terrilomax.samcart.com/products/getthatpitch">Get That Pitch Workshop:</a> Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit <a href="https://terrilomax.samcart.com/products/getthatpitch">GetThatPitch.com</a> and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
<a href="https://terrilomax.com/">Branding with Terri</a>
<a href="https://www.melaninandmentalhealth.com/">Melanin and Mental Health</a>
<a href="https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com/">Therapy for Black Girls&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us">Psychology Today</a>
<a href="https://therapyforqpoc.com/">Therapy for QPOC</a>
<a href="https://therapyfundfoundation.org/">Therapy Fund Foundation</a>
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Where to find us:
Twitter:<a href="https://twitter.com/herspacepodcast/"> @HERspacepodcast</a>
Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/herspacepodcast/"> @herspacepodcast</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/herspacepodcast/?modal=admin_todo_tour"> @herspacepodcast</a>
Website:<a href="https://herspacepodcast.com/"> cultivatingherspace.com</a>

In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast.

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In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast. Become a supporter of this podcast: <a href="https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss">https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support</a>.

In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate...

Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

The Strong One: Unpacking Eldest Daughter Syndrome

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