Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.   

Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest  

Takeaways:

Signs it's you: 
All of your problems are someone else's fault 
You take more than you give 
There's so much drama 
You have a major superiority complex 
You’re a Debbie Downer 
You only express love or admiration when you need something. 

How to make the change: 
Watch how people interact around you 
Monitor your own thoughts and actions 
Apologize more and seek understanding 
Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal

Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers  
The Self Compassion Deck   

Relevant Past Episodes:

S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness 
S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis 

Resources: 
Melanin and Mental Health 
Therapy for Black Girls  
Psychology Today 
Therapy for QPOC  

Where to find us: 
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast 
Instagram: @herspacepodcast 
Facebook: @herspacepodcast 
Website: herspacepodcast.com 
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today&rsquo;s throwback episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.&nbsp; &nbsp;
Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest &nbsp;
Takeaways:
Signs it's you: All of your problems are someone else's fault You take more than you give There's so much drama You have a major superiority complex You&rsquo;re a Debbie Downer You only express love or admiration when you need something. 
How to make the change:&nbsp; Watch how people interact around you Monitor your own thoughts and actions Apologize more and seek understanding Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal
Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers&nbsp; The Self Compassion Deck &nbsp; 
Relevant Past Episodes:
S5E3: <a href="https://omny.fm/shows/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman/s5e3-a-fresh-perspective-on-receiving-feedback-and-managing-defensiveness">A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness</a>&nbsp; S5E4: <a href="https://omny.fm/shows/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman/s5e4-how-your-words-are-creating-your-current-reality-put-some-respect-on-your-name">How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name)</a> S3E12: <a href="https://omny.fm/shows/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman/s3e12-healing-intergenerational-trauma-with-dr-thema-bryant-davis">Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis </a>
Resources:&nbsp; Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls&nbsp; Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC &nbsp;
Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:herspacepodcast@gmail.com">herspacepodcast@gmail.com</a> H.E.R Space Sanctuary: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/">https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/</a>

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