So, what HAVEN'T you told your spouse? On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the impact of past trauma and secrets on marriage and relationships. We'll also hear from Elizabeth Good who discusses her book 'Speak the Unspeakable,' exploring the impact of adverse childhood experiences, or ACES. Greg and Erin encourage you to play a movie-themed game of 'Never Have I Ever,' and they'll answer a listener's question about handling a potential pornography addiction in a spouse.

 

Speak The Unspeakable

 

Understanding and Overcoming Trauma with Dr. Gregory Jantz

 

Redeeming a Marriage and Childhood Wounds with Russ & Tori Taff

 

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So, what HAVEN'T you told your spouse? On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the impact of past trauma and secrets on marriage and relationships. We'll also hear from Elizabeth Good who discusses her book 'Speak the Unspeakable,' exploring the impact of adverse childhood experiences, or ACES. Greg and Erin encourage you to play a movie-themed game of 'Never Have I Ever,' and they'll answer a listener's question about handling a potential pornography addiction in a spouse.
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Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family. 

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Trading Trauma For Truth

Introduction and Overview

Ron and Nan's Story: The Ultimatum

Finding Hope and Trust in Relationships

Petty Fights Hall of Fame

Q & A

This is a Crazy Little Thing that you have GOT to listen to with your spouse! Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of identifying emotional triggers and managing conflict in marriages with Ron and Nan Deal, who share their personal journey of overcoming repetitive arguments and emotional pain. The Deals recount their transformative experience with a counselor who helped them address their pride and underlying pain points, ultimately leading to a more peaceful and understanding relationship.

 

The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself

 

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This is a Crazy Little Thing that you have GOT to listen to with your spouse! Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of identifying emotional triggers and managing conflict in marriages with Ron and Nan Deal, who share their personal journey of overcoming repetitive arguments and emotional pain. The Deals recount their transformative experience with a counselor who helped them address their pride and underlying pain points, ultimately leading to a more peaceful and understanding relationship.
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Emotional Triggers In Marriage

Whether you're newlywed or if you've been married for years, you may have unspoken and sometimes unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment, conflict, and resentment. On this episode, Greg and Erin help couples develop better conflict resolution techniques such as pausing during escalated arguments, leaning in during moments of conflict, and utilizing empathy in apologies with Christian counselors Chris and Jamie Bailey. They underscore the importance of mutual support, adjustment to changing life circumstances, and maintaining fun and friendship throughout marriage. We also have a tool to help you set boundaries in your marriage, and we answer a listener question about how to encourage a husband to lead his family.

 

Newlywed Couple's Devotional

 

12 Pieces of Advice I'd Tell Newlywed Me

 

5 Traditional Marriage Vows: What They Mean & Why They're Still Important

 

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Whether you're newlywed or if you've been married for years, you may have unspoken and sometimes unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment, conflict, and resentment. On this episode, Greg and Erin help couples develop better conflict resolution techniques such as pausing during escalated arguments, leaning in during moments of conflict, and utilizing empathy in apologies with Christian counselors Chris and Jamie Bailey. They underscore the importance of mutual support, adjustment to changing life circumstances, and maintaining fun and friendship throughout marriage. We also have a tool to help you set boundaries in your marriage, and we answer a listener question about how to encourage a husband to lead his family.
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<a href="https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-crazy-little-thing-2025-12-29?refcd=2396305">Newlywed Couple's Devotional</a>
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/9x18us">12 Pieces of Advice I'd Tell Newlywed Me</a>
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/xfv9jk">5 Traditional Marriage Vows: What They Mean &amp; Why They're Still Important</a>
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Side Stepping Newlywed Pitfalls

Introduction and Christmas Gift Shopping

Biblical Stories of Miraculous Pregnancies

A Transformative Prayer and Celebration

Navigating Doubt and Strengthening Faith

Christmas Love Languages

MERRY CHRISTMAS from everyone at Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage! This episode features a special presentation by Liz Curtis Higgs, who shares faith-filled stories of Zechariah, Elizabeth, Mary, and the miraculous births in the Bible, emphasizing that nothing is impossible for God! Greg and Erin encourage you to look for the love languages of your friends and family at Christmas, and we answer an email from a listener who wonders if she and her husband are managing conflict correctly because they DON'T fight; which leads to a conversation encouraging couples to communicate effectively and grow spiritually together.

 

The Women of Christmas

 

New Year, New Purpose In Your Marriage article

 

Mastering Your Spouse's Love Language article

 

Call our Counseling Line at 1-800-A-FAMILY

 

Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter

 

Send us your email or voice mail here!

 

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If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

MERRY CHRISTMAS from everyone at Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage! This episode features a special presentation by Liz Curtis Higgs, who shares faith-filled stories of Zechariah, Elizabeth, Mary, and the miraculous births in the Bible, emphasizing that nothing is impossible for God! Greg and Erin encourage you to look for the love languages of your friends and family at Christmas, and we answer an email from a listener who wonders if she and her husband are managing conflict correctly because they DON'T fight; which leads to a conversation encouraging couples to communicate effectively and grow spiritually together.
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/yhm8y3">New Year, New Purpose In Your Marriage article</a>
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/svu4ds">Mastering Your Spouse's Love Language article</a>
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/1pg9kr" data-callout-id="edit_links_in_description">Call our Counseling Line at 1-800-A-FAMILY</a>
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/rgmcmu">Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter</a>
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/jf3fuy">Send us your email or voice mail here!</a>
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