This week, join Greg & Erin as they sit down with Whitney & Tanner Lowe to discuss the struggle many couples face with seeking approval and people-pleasing, especially in today's social media driven world. Then, we debunk the popular marriage myth that says marriage will fix all your problems. Later, we hear a question from a listener who wants to know if her husband is too tied to his family.



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This week, join Greg &amp; Erin as they sit down with Whitney &amp; Tanner Lowe to discuss the struggle many couples face with seeking approval and people-pleasing, especially in today's social media driven world. Then, we debunk the popular marriage myth that says marriage will fix all your problems. Later, we hear a question from a listener who wants to know if her husband is too tied to his family.
 
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Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

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Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family. 

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

When You (or Your Spouse) is a People Pleaser

Introduction

Gary Thomas on Relaying on God in Marriage

Darell's Journey with MS and Humility

The Importance of Self-Care in Relationships

Addressing Double Standards

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of placing more faith in God rather than your spouse with Dr. Gary Thomas. They address various marital challenges, including the impact of adversities, providing both spiritual guidance and practical advice, and they offer recommendations for self-care and self-compassion. Dr. Thomas emphasizes the significance of drawing strength from God and uses personal anecdotes to illustrate how adversity can strengthen marriages. Greg and Erin also tackle listener questions, offering insights on handling emotional abuse and the potential for a healing separation. The episode concludes with critical components in sustaining healthy relationships.

 

 

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Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of placing more faith in God rather than your spouse with Dr. Gary Thomas. They address various marital challenges, including the impact of adversities, providing both spiritual guidance and practical advice, and they offer recommendations for self-care and self-compassion. Dr. Thomas emphasizes the significance of drawing strength from God and uses personal anecdotes to illustrate how adversity can strengthen marriages. Greg and Erin also tackle listener questions, offering insights on handling emotional abuse and the potential for a healing separation. The episode concludes with critical components in sustaining healthy relationships.
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Life Like You Were Reborn To Live

Importance of Marriage Coaching

Interview with Marriage Team Founders

Reflecting on Communication & Listening

Planning for Relapse and Future Goals

The Rose Communication Analogy

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of couples working together on their goals, which research shows leads to higher levels of happiness and progress. We discuss the Marriage Champions program that you can get involved in to coach and support other couples. Our guests are the leaders of Marriage Team, Matthew Zoller and Alan & Autumn Ray. They share key coaching techniques involving communication skills, handling anger, resolving conflict, and planning for relapses. We also will share some practical exercises for couples to evaluate their relationship, appreciate each other, and plan for the future. Plus we answer a listener question what to do when your spouse walks away from their faith.

 

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If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of couples working together on their goals, which research shows leads to higher levels of happiness and progress. We discuss the Marriage Champions program that you can get involved in to coach and support other couples. Our guests are the leaders of Marriage Team, Matthew Zoller and Alan &amp; Autumn Ray. They share key coaching techniques involving communication skills, handling anger, resolving conflict, and planning for relapses. We also will share some practical exercises for couples to evaluate their relationship, appreciate each other, and plan for the future. Plus we answer a listener question what to do when your spouse walks away from their faith.
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Coaching Your Marriage

Introduction and Overview

Ron and Nan's Story: The Ultimatum

Finding Hope and Trust in Relationships

Petty Fights Hall of Fame

Q & A

This is a Crazy Little Thing that you have GOT to listen to with your spouse! Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of identifying emotional triggers and managing conflict in marriages with Ron and Nan Deal, who share their personal journey of overcoming repetitive arguments and emotional pain. The Deals recount their transformative experience with a counselor who helped them address their pride and underlying pain points, ultimately leading to a more peaceful and understanding relationship.

 

The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself

 

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This is a Crazy Little Thing that you have GOT to listen to with your spouse! Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of identifying emotional triggers and managing conflict in marriages with Ron and Nan Deal, who share their personal journey of overcoming repetitive arguments and emotional pain. The Deals recount their transformative experience with a counselor who helped them address their pride and underlying pain points, ultimately leading to a more peaceful and understanding relationship.
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