Intro

Pseudo Sense Of Connection

Equation of Us

A Healthy Thriving Marriage

Good Dependence & Healthy Attachment

Marriage Attention Deficit

The Box of Us

Greg & Erin's Critique

Phases of Marriage

Q & A and Close

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley interview Pastor Kevin A. Thompson about his book The Creation of Us. Kevin emphasizes that marriage is its own entity where both spouses maintain individuality while building shared rhythms, mission, and unity. We talk about good dependence versus independence or enmeshment, how marriage reveals and can help heal attachment wounds, and “marital attention deficit.” We'll outline the phases of marriage and we answer a listener question about weaponizing sex.
The Creation of Us: How To Build A Great Marriage Without Losing Yourself

Marriage Assessment Tool

Reactive Cycle Tool

Love Styles: Why You Love The Way You Do (And How to Change It)

Ask Us Your Question via Voicemail or Email

Speak With A Counselor

Marriage Health In America Study

Check Out Hope Restored. 

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley interview Pastor Kevin A. Thompson about his book The Creation of Us. Kevin emphasizes that marriage is its own entity where both spouses maintain individuality while building shared rhythms, mission, and unity. We talk about good dependence versus independence or enmeshment, how marriage reveals and can help heal attachment wounds, and &ldquo;marital attention deficit.&rdquo; We'll outline the phases of marriage and we answer a listener question about weaponizing sex. <a href="https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-crazy-little-thing-2026-09-21?refcd=2534402">The Creation of Us: How To Build A Great Marriage Without Losing Yourself</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/4tnm4r">Marriage Assessment Tool</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/y03343">Reactive Cycle Tool</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/1xr308">Love Styles: Why You Love The Way You Do (And How to Change It)</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/zyl1zy">Ask Us Your Question via Voicemail or Email</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/kobjdk">Speak With A Counselor</a> <a href="https://www.focusonthefamily.com/state-of-the-family/">Marriage Health In America Study</a> <a href="https://hoperestored.focusonthefamily.com/">Check Out Hope Restored. </a>

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family. 

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.