How do we love our spouse like they've never been loved before? This week, Greg and Erin talk with Gary Thomas about how to show your husband or wife that you love them. We'll also hear some great conversation starters about tenderness and learning to cherish your spouse!



Click here to get Gary Thomas's book about loving your spouse well!



Do you want to ask your spouse the same questions from today's episode? Check out these conversation starters!



Want more from Gary Thomas? Click here to watch his video series about cherishing your spouse!



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How do we love our spouse like they've never been loved before? This week, Greg and Erin talk with Gary Thomas about how to show your husband or wife that you love them. We'll also hear some great conversation starters about tenderness and learning to cherish your spouse!
 
<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/8-7-goaa-cltcm">Click here to get Gary Thomas's book about loving your spouse well!</a>
 
<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/conversation-starters-for-date-nights-8-7-cltcm">Do you want to ask your spouse the same questions from today's episode? Check out these conversation starters!</a>
 
<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/cherish-your-spouse-videos-8-7-cltcm">Want more from Gary Thomas? Click here to watch his video series about cherishing your spouse!</a>
 
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Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family. 

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Loving Your Spouse Well

Importance of Marriage Coaching

Interview with Marriage Team Founders

Reflecting on Communication & Listening

Planning for Relapse and Future Goals

The Rose Communication Analogy

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of couples working together on their goals, which research shows leads to higher levels of happiness and progress. We discuss the Marriage Champions program that you can get involved in to coach and support other couples. Our guests are the leaders of Marriage Team, Matthew Zoller and Alan & Autumn Ray. They share key coaching techniques involving communication skills, handling anger, resolving conflict, and planning for relapses. We also will share some practical exercises for couples to evaluate their relationship, appreciate each other, and plan for the future. Plus we answer a listener question what to do when your spouse walks away from their faith.

 

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Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of couples working together on their goals, which research shows leads to higher levels of happiness and progress. We discuss the Marriage Champions program that you can get involved in to coach and support other couples. Our guests are the leaders of Marriage Team, Matthew Zoller and Alan &amp; Autumn Ray. They share key coaching techniques involving communication skills, handling anger, resolving conflict, and planning for relapses. We also will share some practical exercises for couples to evaluate their relationship, appreciate each other, and plan for the future. Plus we answer a listener question what to do when your spouse walks away from their faith.
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Coaching Your Marriage

Introduction and Overview

Ron and Nan's Story: The Ultimatum

Finding Hope and Trust in Relationships

Petty Fights Hall of Fame

Q & A

This is a Crazy Little Thing that you have GOT to listen to with your spouse! Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of identifying emotional triggers and managing conflict in marriages with Ron and Nan Deal, who share their personal journey of overcoming repetitive arguments and emotional pain. The Deals recount their transformative experience with a counselor who helped them address their pride and underlying pain points, ultimately leading to a more peaceful and understanding relationship.

 

The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself

 

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This is a Crazy Little Thing that you have GOT to listen to with your spouse! Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of identifying emotional triggers and managing conflict in marriages with Ron and Nan Deal, who share their personal journey of overcoming repetitive arguments and emotional pain. The Deals recount their transformative experience with a counselor who helped them address their pride and underlying pain points, ultimately leading to a more peaceful and understanding relationship.
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Emotional Triggers In Marriage

Whether you're newlywed or if you've been married for years, you may have unspoken and sometimes unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment, conflict, and resentment. On this episode, Greg and Erin help couples develop better conflict resolution techniques such as pausing during escalated arguments, leaning in during moments of conflict, and utilizing empathy in apologies with Christian counselors Chris and Jamie Bailey. They underscore the importance of mutual support, adjustment to changing life circumstances, and maintaining fun and friendship throughout marriage. We also have a tool to help you set boundaries in your marriage, and we answer a listener question about how to encourage a husband to lead his family.

 

Newlywed Couple's Devotional

 

12 Pieces of Advice I'd Tell Newlywed Me

 

5 Traditional Marriage Vows: What They Mean & Why They're Still Important

 

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Whether you're newlywed or if you've been married for years, you may have unspoken and sometimes unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment, conflict, and resentment. On this episode, Greg and Erin help couples develop better conflict resolution techniques such as pausing during escalated arguments, leaning in during moments of conflict, and utilizing empathy in apologies with Christian counselors Chris and Jamie Bailey. They underscore the importance of mutual support, adjustment to changing life circumstances, and maintaining fun and friendship throughout marriage. We also have a tool to help you set boundaries in your marriage, and we answer a listener question about how to encourage a husband to lead his family.
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<a href="https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-crazy-little-thing-2025-12-29?refcd=2396305">Newlywed Couple's Devotional</a>
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/9x18us">12 Pieces of Advice I'd Tell Newlywed Me</a>
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<a href="https://sf.fotf.com/xfv9jk">5 Traditional Marriage Vows: What They Mean &amp; Why They're Still Important</a>
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