One of the things that surprised me the most when I learnt more about ADHD was that we tend to all be people with big feelings. I had always thought that I just ‘felt’ things really deeply and that was just the way it was, but it turns out it isn’t a unique experience at all. Whether it’s a result of constantly being told we are ‘too much’ I’m not sure; but what I am sure about is that consistently being told I was too much left me with a pretty insatiable need for validation. Again, I don’t seem to be alone in that either…

Joining the podcast today is the wonderful Sabrina Zohar! Sabrina is a relationship expert, entrepreneur and podcast host of the Sabrina Zohar show. I was particularly drawn to Sabrina because of her no bullshit, tell it like it is style of communicating. Today we take a big dive into big feelings, our experiences of learning how to accept ourselves and how ADHD has affected our relationships. 

We spoke about:
Being diagnosed later in life, something really common for women
Sabrina’s misdiagnosis of borderline personality disorder, and the dangers of misdiagnosis
How we both found ourselves craving validation from people around us
How we show up in the dating world when we feel like we are ‘too much’ but also not enough
Limerence and hyperfixation on people when you have ADHD
Repetition compulsion 
How ‘the spark’ can feel different for ADHD brains
When to talk about ADHD in relationships

 

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

4:40 - Sabrina's diagnosis

7:45 - Being misdiagnosed with borderline personality disorder

9:10 - The symptoms of ADHD that Sabrina experienced

12:30 - Where the need for validation came from

15:00 - Worthiness & how the dial shifted for Sabrina

18:00 - How long does 'the work' take?

22:15 - Being 'too much' but also not enough

25:20 - Limerence and hyperfixation on people when you have ADHD

31:00 - Make them a real person

34:00 - Big feelings and Repetition compulsion 

33:50 - How ‘the spark’ can feel different for ADHD brains

37:48 - Dating burn out & chasing 'the highs'

41:10 - Looking for something different in dating

45:30 - When to talk about ADHD in relationships

 

You can find more from Sabrina’s website 

And Sabrina’s instagram

You can watch us on Youtube

Find us on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

One of the things that surprised me the most when I learnt more about ADHD was that we tend to all be people with big feelings. I had always thought that I just &lsquo;felt&rsquo; things really deeply and that was just the way it was, but it turns out it isn&rsquo;t a unique experience at all. Whether it&rsquo;s a result of constantly being told we are &lsquo;too much&rsquo; I&rsquo;m not sure; but what I am sure about is that consistently being told I was too much left me with a pretty insatiable need for validation. Again, I don&rsquo;t seem to be alone in that either&hellip;
Joining the podcast today is the wonderful Sabrina Zohar! Sabrina is a relationship expert, entrepreneur and podcast host of the Sabrina Zohar show. I was particularly drawn to Sabrina because of her no bullshit, tell it like it is style of communicating. Today we take a big dive into big feelings, our experiences of learning how to accept ourselves and how ADHD has affected our relationships.&nbsp;
We spoke about:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Being diagnosed later in life, something really common for women</li>
<li aria-level="1">Sabrina&rsquo;s misdiagnosis of borderline personality disorder, and the dangers of misdiagnosis</li>
<li aria-level="1">How we both found ourselves craving validation from people around us</li>
<li aria-level="1">How we show up in the dating world when we feel like we are &lsquo;too much&rsquo; but also not enough</li>
<li aria-level="1">Limerence and hyperfixation on people when you have ADHD</li>
<li aria-level="1">Repetition compulsion&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">How &lsquo;the spark&rsquo; can feel different for ADHD brains</li>
<li aria-level="1">When to talk about ADHD in relationships</li>
</ul>
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Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
4:40 - Sabrina's diagnosis
7:45 - Being misdiagnosed with borderline personality disorder
9:10 - The symptoms of ADHD that Sabrina experienced
12:30 - Where the need for validation came from
15:00 - Worthiness &amp; how the dial shifted for Sabrina
18:00 - How long does 'the work' take?
22:15 - Being 'too much' but also not enough
25:20 - Limerence and hyperfixation on people when you have ADHD
31:00 - Make them a real person
34:00 - Big feelings and Repetition compulsion&nbsp;
33:50 - How &lsquo;the spark&rsquo; can feel different for ADHD brains
37:48 - Dating burn out &amp; chasing 'the highs'
41:10 - Looking for something different in dating
45:30 - When to talk about ADHD in relationships
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You can find more from<a href="https://www.sabrinazohar.com/"> Sabrina&rsquo;s website</a>&nbsp;
And<a href="https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/?hl=en"> Sabrina&rsquo;s instagram</a>
You can watch us on<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@lifeuncutpodcast/featured"> Youtube</a>
Find us on<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lifeuncutpodcast/?hl=en"> Instagram</a>
Join us on<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeuncutpodcast?lang=en"> tiktok</a>
Or join the<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/549565895610504"> Facebook Discussion Group</a>

CLOUD is a podcast series created to discuss ADHD and late age diagnosis. Exploring both deeply personal stories while also speaking to leading experts including guests such as the author of The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck - Mark Manson, Neuroscientist TJ Power and relationship experts Sabrina Zohar and Logan Ury. 

CLOUD is a podcast series created to discuss ADHD and late age diagnosis. Exploring both deeply personal stories while also speaking to leading experts&nbsp;including guests such as&nbsp;the author of&nbsp;The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck -&nbsp;Mark Manson, Neuroscientist TJ Power and relationship experts Sabrina Zohar and Logan Ury.&nbsp;

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