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We gotta set the story straight because we have to people. I don't know what's up. That's I don't know. People think we're like rival enemy.
And yes, I made we made thirteen thousand dollars for the entire season. I was like ballin, y'all, Yeah, we're falling.
How would that be? Like do you ever sit there and think about like, yeah, when I be who I am with? My mom was not here, Like would she support my career?
Hello, my beautiful people, and welcome to another episode of Cheeky's and Chill, your absolute favorite podcast one world.
And today is going to be an amazing episode.
So get ready and you're gonna want to sit down for this one because we're gonna set the story straight today. Okay, I have a special guest, some one that I'm known for a very long time. She is a self proclaimed queen of Spanish media entrepreneur. She is also a podcast host and a brand.
New mama and a mama. See that her name is Roxy? I like that.
Be it? Yeah, honestly I okay, So we got to said the story straight because we have to people.
I don't know what's up. That's I don't know. People think we're like rival enemy. Yeah, was it the it was the.
Last episode of Chicks and Roxy or what. Yeah, that's what it was. Okay, that's what it was. People think I left you hanging. People think I did thirty because I had to go handle some business when I was on traditional radio and it just, you know, production just kind of did what it did, and it was like what, Yeah, we really kind of didn't have a lot of sake so in that show, like we thought we did, but we kind of did it.
Yes, you know, we were both new to the reality show. I was definitely not an executive producer. Then.
I was just a girl that was coming out of her mama's house. Still lived in my mama's house. Yeah, and it was like girls. So so basically, for those of you that don't know, I started my career off in reality. So it was Cheese and Roxy presented by Jenny rivera Chicks and Roxy, okay, and Roxy was very well known Roxy. She you were a radio I started by radio career fresh out of high school. Yeah, and then I onto a station back in the day's called Latino ninety six three and two thousand and five, interviewed your mom's a few times, got a pretty buzz with her one time, like on air, she would never not come to the studio with the bottle of thing.
That's not all of them. Yeah yeah, yeah.
Then when they presented this opportunity to work with Jenny's daughter, which was you, we literally I think. I don't think a lot of people understand that we kind of were getting to know each other on the show as we were. People thought, and we're going to be straight up because so many years ago, people thought we were friends before we had met before.
Yes, for the show though, They're.
Like, let's get to latinas they're doing their things so that they can inspire other latinas.
I was like, I want to be behind the cameras. I'm too shy, Like I was not.
Nowhere near like I felt ready, you know what I mean, And you were You were more marinated more like you knew what you were doing. And that's why I was like, I want out, first of all, set the story straight, set the record straight, and then also let people know how and where everything started with me, because it had a lot to do with you girl. A lot of people don't know that because I was very shy, I was there. You were super behind the scene, you were your mother's net. Like without you, I don't know if your mom would have been able to build the empire that she built, you know, and like, yeah, she was the senior of the performer, but as you know, as I know that, it takes the team to become absolutely who you are and to build the empire, and so yeah, I got to see you be that for your mom.
So many times, and it was like wow, you know, like what'd your mom be who she was without you? I know a lot of times that she wouldn't be able to do what she did if it wasn't for me. And I'm not changing my own born, but I actually saw you do it that I don't know, you were.
So so bad in the scenes. But if people wonder, like why she gets to be successful in her own businesses out because you kind of formulated all that for your mom, her gene.
Line, her skincare line, all the way, well.
Because I remember you doing it all these Yeah, all the things that were coming up for her and were oh my god, so much, so much war would have came right unless if that strategy would not happened. But I don't know if people really give you the credit to how essential.
You were in your mom's life.
And I was very happy in being there, being behind, you know, the cameras and be behind the seats.
I loved it.
I loved being her right hand, her right arm, and I love being with my siblings. So when this opportunity came and my mom's manager at the time, we were not going to necessarily name right now because.
You know, a lot of things happened there.
But he brought up this opportunity for both house we knew him, and then we met and we did this, and I was not ready when we started okay filming, I was like, okay, Roxy's cool. Cool, Like we had a friendship in front of cameras, and then it really developed into a real friendship. Yeah, but a lot of things happened, and of course producers had a lot to do with it, so a lot of things were.
Reality but cut in a way that made.
It seem worse than it really was. Because let me tell you, guys, let's keep it real, let's keep it a butt. Yeah, we got paid.
Thirty ten thousand dollars you guys for the entire entire out of the show. And I'm gonna tell you why.
I remember that because people were like, almost god, it made a lot of but no, her bread and butter was radio. Yeah, and that's why she was like, Okay, I gotta be there, But I told you guys, I have this gig, so I'm not.
She didn't keep she didn't leave me. Hang me. What happens was she had a prior commitment. Yeah, I had to do a live broadcast in the Dominican Republic. I had told him.
I said, hey, I could do this show, but you have to remember that my radio gig is my my main priority here. But of course I could, you know, work around it and fit in a reality show tapeing, you know, but work with me.
Oh yeah, we're gonna work with you.
And then it just seemed like as the show was developing, it was like, no, we need to shoot on this dand and I was like, I told you I had a live appearance this day.
I told you how to be on air this day.
I told you how it's true, this is true, And it just seemed like I was being put like obstacle after obstacle. And so that last episode, which I know y'all remember, we were supposed to be at a club and I don't know what we were celebrating, but we were.
We were filming at a club in Hollywood, yes, And it made it seem like you were waiting for me and waiting for me, and I never showed up because I wasn't even in town. I was the figure got mad at her and everything was like, wait, that's not yeah, and she.
Gets knew where I was at fet like I hated her or I left her out, would never like I am not that person, but I am a person that has integrity when it comes to my work.
And I communicated that to production shit and they when they had it still shot that episode without me. Yeah.
And I knew too, by the way, Yeah, I know all of this too because I think, oh, Jenny was ight at her and that's not the truth, is Jen, I'm mad. I've never super cool and I knew. But again, I was young. I didn't have a backbone. I was scared. I was like, okay, well, this is my first time. That is what I got to do. Is there telling me what to do? And that's just the truth of it. Like, yeah, now if I can go back and be like, well wait a second, that's now, you can't do that to me. Now, I'm like, yeah, you know, I vocal, and I gotta say, like, to see your evolution fifteen years ago to now, it's so beautiful see it because you really didn't have a backbone. I did it like you really even though you were like the backbone of the whole operation.
You never sim it. Yeah, they are like you were more you did what you were told.
Now you're just like I was seeking people's approval. I didn't want to disappoint anyone.
I didn't want to ruffle any feathers.
I first so long in my life, I carried myself that way until I woke up one day I was like, hold the fuck up.
On the phone.
I can't do this, especially when my mom passed. After my mom passed, I was like I got to put all my big girl pantings like I think. That's when I was like, wait a second, Like things have to change because my mom was like protector. She has a person that protected me and I always just need on her. So it was kind of like God saying, girl, you need to step it up now. But back then, I'll say it straight up, No, I didn't have a backbone. I was just doing what the producer told me, and it was a reality show. But let me tell you, guys that there were a lot of things that we had to re enact or that we had to say. It's just the truth. That's how it worked. I mean, I'm sorry to disappoint you guys, but reality shows are not what these seems to be, Okay, And that's all reality yeah shows. And I'm grateful, trust me, I'm grateful because that opened up the doors for me. And yes, I made we made thirteen thousand.
Dollars for the entire season. I was like balling, y'all. Yeah, we were falling.
And I remember, I'm telling you, I remember the amount because I bought a boyfriend of mine that needed a car back there, the six thousand dollars car. And then I bought myself, yes, a temper repeated temperpeedic right, yeah, temper pedic mattress.
I sure did. And that that's where all my moneyway, I'll never forget.
And I was like, because I wanted to forget temper Peeda four thousand dollars freaking I don't know what I was saying, but anyways, people like, oh it we became rich and famous, Like no, it was a great opportunity. He really was what he was and I loved working with you and I had I had a great time and I learned a lot and we had we experienced a lot because of the show, so that I'm grateful for. But yeah, going on red carpet, I remember us going to red carpet and I would hide, I would ride behind Rocks.
I was like no, She's like you you better stop, and she said you better answer that question. She'd pushed me. She's like, you're answering it and I'm like, oh, because the thing is this. It was Jennity that represents is a roxy right, Jenny's daughter.
So the media, we already know how they are when it comes to the Rivetta family. They're nosy, they prow they so we were both the stars of the show, but they wanted to like ask you, like how was it your mom and how is it? So when we would be on red carpets, yes, they would talk to both of us, but they wanted to go to you first, which is understandable.
But then she wouldn't talk. So I was like the voice for both of us, and I'm like, you know, this is just learn how to and then you would just you hated it.
That wasn't your thing because your mom was always the one that would She was always a mouth piece.
And then it just got to a point where I was like, they want to talk to you, like I'm just gonna be quiet, and you just got it.
And then you just kind of you just realized like, Okay, I was pushing you in my own kind strong way because like, yeah, when I met her people, I'm a I'm a I'm a tough mentor because I feel like that's just the way you learn. Then then you like that's how you learn sink or swim. You're the do it or you don't, you know, And that's how you started learning. You started learning your voice, and you ran the show behind the scenes. Do you remember the concert that we went to your mom when your mom had a concert in Vegas and we all you probably don't let her about her line. So we were filming a show. Your mom had a concert in Vegas, and you were doing everything. You were making sure like the merchant money had been collected, and you were making sure your mom boughted aid. That night you were feeding Johnny. He was like in the green room a sleep. I think he was like eight years old. And then that night we were planning on going to the club in Hollywood, I mean in Hollywood in a Vegas and we had set it up and then I was in the room waiting for you and You're like, rock So I'm not going to be able to go, man, Like, I have to take care. I think your mom was a little tipsy coming off of the stage.
And Jennie would get tipsy at the concert if you ever saw her at concert, see and enjoyed her thanking. And but yeah, you were just you were the one that was putting out fires all the time, you know, So that's why. But it sounds like me, yeah, that's why. When I when when all this happened, and I would hear the stuff you were getting accused.
Of, I was like, I know, I was like an older sister that wanted to come to your defense, but there was so much going on that I couldn't. I didn't want to talk to you at that point. It's just how do you how do you even approach someone.
That their mom passes? Yea, what do you? You know what I mean? So it was a crazy time. It was a crazy time. A lot of it is a blur.
A lot of twenty thirteen, twenty fourteen is a blur, and I have SI left the memory because I'm just like, now, my wait a side, kid, Like a lot of traumatic things I just kind of put to the side. I'm like, okay, order for me to make it through this life through the next. I don't know how many years I got to just put that to the side, you know what I mean. But I mean that's crazy because that's the thing was. It was, I don't know, like we went to dinner the other night and I told her, I said rock like, thank you so much. Like I just I felt like we never stopped talking and it wasn't that we stopped talking for any particular reason. It's just life happened. Yeah, And I think also I wouldn't even be upset with you if you were upset with like, dude, you guys left me hanging like in reality, you guys left me hanging.
You guys made less me looking bad on the reality show.
And maybe I again that it have the voice to defend you or to say, wait, guys, it wasn't like that, which I don't really care to people think of me. Yeah, that's what I love about y'all can pay me in whatever whatever you want to think of me in your head. I'm really not in the business of its splaning myself.
What happened happened or let.
Me tell you what happened to see me and Jeanne like you could think what you want, because I think people sometimes because they're your follower or your family.
To an explanation like get into it and speak on my tholo. And it's just like, and I learned that that I don't have to If I want to tell you about certain things, great, but I don't have to, yeah, you know.
And it took me a while to learn that as well, because at first I was like, no, well with everything that happened. But before we get into everything that happened, I do want to say that I'm grateful, you know what I mean, And I don't want to get emotional, but I'm grateful for you. I'm grateful that you taught me the ropes, that you were patient with me, that you you're like this is how you do, and you taught me and you were never you always celebrating, you celebrate women.
It's not just this is what I'm saying and what I portray on social media like she really walks the talk.
Yeah, and I never felt that you were jealous or that you felt like, oh, that's Jenny's daughter. They're giving your a priority. Like you were just like, I'm I am who I am. I feel good And if I had questions.
You were there. Yeah. You never like I don't know.
And that's something that I was, like, I need people to know that you play a huge part in who I am today because I learned a lot from you.
I learned a lot from you.
So I wanted to like put that out there, you guys, because I'm grateful and I can't say that I learned it.
All myself or no. I have people like roxy. Of course, people like my mom. Yeah, but I just I felt they need to say that. You know.
So your your mom was so special too, man, like you want to work with her and work with you. But I remember on our way to the premiere that was at like the place in Hollywood. Oh yes, yes, our show was premiering, and it was like we were Yeah, your mom would get when your mom would get into storytelling, she was like, you know, rocks there.
I remember this one in.
The house you're performing in Mexico and she would just tell me these stories and she was she was another that another person that literally was one of one.
And you're just like so.
Honored and faithful that that I worked with her and that I got to share space with her and stories and really see like she was.
A diva, you know, she was at her own way. But like certain people I feel can get away with being das because they're that dope. Yeah you're like, you know what, look out yet get out gaa.
And and to know that she spreakled that in you and that yeah, you might've been behind the scenes most of the time, but yeah, you're not anymore.
And honestly, sometimes I think about it.
I'm like, I wonder if Chekis would be who she was if her mom was still here, you know, like she protected you a lot.
From the business she did, and it's just like, you know.
How would that be, Like do you ever sit there and think about, like, yeah, when I be who I am with my mom was not here, Like would she support my career because we don't, you don't know, you know what, I'm gonna keep it real, I don't think so I feel like it's all God's divine plan it is. You know, do I wish my mother was here? Absolutely, I wish she was here to see everything that I'm doing. But also I do feel that my mom protected me so much that even if I wanted to sing or whatever, because she's like.
Okay, I'll support you if you want to sing, but that's not the career I want for you. If you want to maybe be an actress, but a singer. This shit is hard. This ship is very hard for.
Women, and I don't want you to go through that, you know. And I think she would have just been like, I don't know. I think about it, and I think about it too, you know what I mean. I don't know, what do you think?
I don't I don't know.
I don't know if she would have supported your seeing career. I don't know if you would have been like, okay, like am I cool? My daughter weigh in line. Grammy's like, is she gonna, like, am I gonna support that dream? Or is she gonna, you know, way become my competition?
You know?
You just yeah, because the thing is, and this goes for a lot of women that their mom had them at a young age. My mom and my sister, we talk about this all the time of the podcast. My mom had my sister at seventeen, your mom had you at fifteen. Yes, So that relationship.
When a mom has their first born.
At such a young age, it's rocky. And it's not just it's not just Jenny and Cheez y'all, it's my sister and my mom. It's a lot of women that may be watching this podcast that are like, uh, yeah, that's me, and you know, I pray that.
Y'all healed that relationship.
Unfortunately, that wasn't the case in with you and your mom because she got you were you know, but my sister, my mom had definitely healed and talked it out.
But that age gap, it's like you're you're growing up with your mom. You're growing up. That's tough, my mom.
What I always say, it didn't come with the manual, like I don't know what to do with you. And we were so close, we were sisters, we were everything to one another. So it's like for a long time, I mean, I did find myself career resentment towards my mom. But when you know she left, you know, of course, because of how everything is left, I was like I want.
Yeah, I'm just like, what am I? Yeah?
And thank goodness, you know, I look back and I'm like, damn, we've made it this far and just I mean, and I'm not talking about success. I'm talking about just emotionally, how we were able to get here, you know, all of my siblings and I and I don't know.
I mean, but the way the.
Way the media reigned like rained down on you, the hatred and the theist I mean, if you are not raised by a strong woman like your mom and God by your side, and that could have destroyed anybody as the way people came down on you. And I want to deceible comments on social media. I'm not sometimes I'm on your social media and looking at your comments and not I'm like that big sister that wants to come to the rescue hear you, and like sometimes hop or not. Sometimes maybe in my head I typed some people that is.
Illading because that all goes, you know, because that all get.
People coming after me, which is okay, y'all can come after me. I block everybody anyways, yeah bye.
But the way people were.
Come at for you, I'm just like, Wow, if y'all only knew how boyle of the daughter you were to your mom and.
I don't know because their own conclusions.
There was this real were going around that I slept with my stepdad with my golf's husband, which is absolutely not true, and it just it was crazy, you guys, Thank goodness, that is freaking in twenty twelve.
Yeah, we left it there. But at the end of the day, it's a part of.
My guess, my story, Yes, you know it is. Whether I want to admit it, whether it sounds cute or not. I mean, the truth is, it's part of my story. And how you know, I had to just the adversity and all the freaking hate. I really thought, I swear to you, Roxy, I thought that I was gonna go to the just the grocery store, and so I was just gonna come and stepp, I swear to you.
There were some I was like, you were that feutiful.
Yeah, they're gonna come and steppy because these people are probably believing what is being said. That's why I went out of my way. I did interviews, I wrote books. I was like, I'm not going to allow the beautiful relationship that my mom and I had to be.
Destroyed in that way with such a horrible life, you know what I mean.
I'm not saying that I'm perfect at this, no, no, but that's one thing I never, oh never got done.
I was, first of all, I too scared of my mother, you know what I mean?
And not only yeah, like I respect women, I really like there's I was so happy for my mom, Like I just don't now I'm starting to see certain things and maybe one day I'll talk about that. I'm like, Okay, this person was definitely behind it.
You know.
And it's like they you know, like that would definitely be me in my head, Like who mats that nasty seed in like mom's head?
Yeah.
And sometimes it's people that you expect that would stir the pot and you're just like expect what wow that you think?
Love you?
It's are supposed to keep the family together, and in reality, they're planting little seeds just so that they can have the position you had. A lot of people were jealous of what my mom and I had. It was my mom and I like this for everything. Well you remember that that that cover you guys? It was it a cover for it was like.
Your mom and you like bosses and yes, oh my god, I have that I have my glam room.
But that was one of the first things that was in twenty eleven, and people wanted that position in person, wanted that position that MM and I had.
So it's like, you know what, at the end of the day, I know that God is gonna, little by little put everything in its place, and I'm not worried about it. And yeah, her chooses to believe that.
Honestly, I'm at a point where before I was like, I want to show you guys, I'm not this person.
I'm like, I was cool, this sick. Sorry, I know who I am.
Think what you want to think, Like, I know who I am, and God would have brought me, brought me this far. And my mom because I know she's you know, my mom's moving huzzles and doing her thing up there if.
If that was true, you know what I mean?
I love I love seeing how in control of your life you aren't out and how certain these are like the private.
Yeah, you're not out there explaining yourself. You're allowing people.
Like you see it, you sense it, you feel it more importantly, And I love that because you're not out there explaining yourself to everybody. It's and you know what, you. You radiate the happiness. I love that you're happy in your relationship. Like you keep that private, you know, like one day you just need to pop up, Pop up Mary. Nobody needs to know your ceremony that only the real ones pull up. Mind you, I do feel there are certain things that I share because I feel like that's part of my mission and the world is through the things that I've been through. I want to help people grow and stuff like that. But there are certain things that now I'm like, I want to keep to myself. I'm I'm a human being too. I don't necessarily have to share everything with everyone. And I felt like I was obligated, like and it was. It was an obligation because I'm an artists, because I'm on TV, because I have a podcast, I have to share everything. There's certain things that I'm like, no, I'm gonna keep this to myself and it's later on I want to talk about it. Okay, there's nothing wrong with that. Everyone is entitled to their privacy and so nice.
Even if I am, you know, a public figure, which there are ladies.
I swear to you and I don't know if this happened to you, but they'll come up to me and you know I'm eating.
I'm in the middle of me. Literally. No.
First of all, that is so rude whenever you see a celebrity eating it, especially if it see baccol to serve me and ask me for picture and they get so excited that they will. And see I've never said no. I don't one time I.
Said no to a picture and I said eating, I'm gonna say no. Yeah, I know because I see all the road. That's my moment. My mom was like, come on, and but they'll tell me straight up and I'm just saying I ste like who does that? Yeah?
Yeah?
And before I was like, okay, well now I'm like okay, well see woman deta. You know. Now I'll say it. I'm polite about it.
But but you know what now like no, no, I'm also I'm a human being too, And so there's something beautiful about being mysterious.
There's something beautiful about it. There's where like like, not everybody knows everything. That's what I look about the media. Actually, my partner he's not all like that social media.
He posts once and I tell him, baby, you gotta post more for your like photography, and he's always busy. But I'm like, you'd be a lot busy here. He's like, I'm good with as busy as I am. I was like, well, post on your work all people to see how talented you are. But he's chill, and I love.
Tell us selfies. I can't. Oh, I can't. Man that post selfies that they park at their lips. Listen.
I don't know about that, girl, I don't know business man that's about his business that they posting on social media.
I love a man that isn't half social. Me too, because I'm sure that your fans and news channels they all but look at his pain and oh yeah, and they'll send him little things there. People are mean. People are mean.
They'll send him like oh, she used to call her exdus or shes or and before I used to bother him.
Now and he's like, oh he knows, he knows. Yeah, yeah, that's what he's like. You know, But he's chill, he's true. I like that. Yeah like that. I love that. And being a mama, girl, I love being a mom.
Let me say, my daughter is a manifestation of my dreams. I prayed about her. I visualized, girl, Remember what we used to do vision board.
Yeah. I was like, oh, he's a vision board man. Remember we were absolutely at the.
House making vision boards and like me, I think we did an entire episode on vision.
You wanted to do conferences. Yeah. So when I tell you that the way my daughter looks, I brought my daughter, y'all, so she felt so good. I swear to you it's that I'm not even that, it's that PIFC. Literally, she's so beautiful. Her head is like perfectly wound round, she's smells delicious.
Her little hand she's talking, she's just like once, she's just so cute, not like saying words, but she's like.
She's babbled, she's babbling.
Yeah, and listen, I'm so happy that I had a baby for you because now whenever you wanted to say be your coach and like, hell, you know what. My mom was actually telling me that that she had a dream the other day that I should help women that feel helpless because this is the the doctors. Okay, a lot of women at pcos and suffer from like infertility, and it's it's not as easy as it was getting pregnant, they d as it was back in the absolutely women back then balas.
Right, women these days they struggle. Yeah, so they're doing like I, yes, and and a surrogate a different things.
Right, So my mom goes, I feel that you should give because I prepared my body chees to get pregnant two years prior to getting pregnant. I legit prepared my body. It's like laying the foundation to like a house. I knew there were certain things that I had to do. I had to I had cysts on my ovaries, got rid of those naturally with herbs, and then I started seeing up for herbologists.
I started getting Yony scenes.
Remember I was slunging you the other day a Yoni scenes. If you don't know bout Yoni scenes, listen, you need to start getting Yoni and steam all in the vagina. Okay, goshold me about this.
I was I need girl and and like it regulates your p H and if immediately eats you up, now he's gonna.
Eat you up even Okay, it's not going to be able to rest chapters.
Okay, so like sex hotng with that. This is how we were all created.
Hell yeah, but so yeah, then I started taking a fertility tea. I'm all about like I met a She pot my uterus back in a place. So when I tell you, my daughter is a manifestation in my dreams, she is.
I prayed for her. The way she looks now is I'm like, this is how I knew she was gonna look like this. It's crazy. I believe in that she's beautiful.
And so I will say sometimes I say I wish I would I had kids younger, right like in my twenties, in my early thirties.
But I'm thankful that I had her when I had her because I'm patient.
Yes, like I think a lot of times when young moms have kids at a young age, to the suspend, I'm like, ah, And I'm.
Like, I'm not in your rush to I try. I've traveled a lot and I'm gonna still travel. Yeah, we're going to assall lot next month with her. Nice. I think I had a daughter to leave her behind. Yeah, everyone's like that, Yeah, because I don't can see I didn't have a daughter to leave her with. The mandis yeah, I know, God, Yeah, you're in a different place.
You're in a different place, you're more patient, you know the knowledge that I'm going to be You would have printed this little girl, and I'm like, I get to be your coach.
I get to be your biggest in this little life. Everyone's like, you didn't, you didn't. But she had a boy. I'm like, nope, how can I teach a boy how to be amazing?
Yeah?
I see, No, you're a total And when I have another one, I want another's gonna be Oh my god. I can already see you're you're a great mom. I can already see. Like it's just I don't know.
I see you on social media, like everything you speak and again, you don't just say ship like you you're about it, about You're about it and in every way. So I needs to imagine. I said, I'm so honored that she picked me and that I and that I picked her. But they say children pick their parents, yes, you know, Like so that's like that's just like your stuff. And I'm like, my guys movies, I will. I know they're all on milk ste that's that's admirable.
And breastfeed her, so like its breastfeeding just it checks you. You can't dream too much.
Alcohol, you shouldn't be you know, alcohol. She don't really smoke cannabis.
Everybody else. I'm a cannabis enthusiast. You know that I was gonna asked the other day, I can't because that bread speed. But you know the prymney, you know what I mean? Like our parents were hippies and they were doing it too. It This is my thing I all get into.
The whole endo cannabinoids is that you don't want me to get started with that, But everybody has an endoc cannabinoids in their body, and in reality, it.
Helps your immune system when you consume the flower the right way, the right way like c med. The cantabinoids are actually super beneficial for the body. But people don't.
They only want to see the cannabis that get too high. Right, And there's different and it's not just that it's we need a.
Whole episode on that, because a lot, especially.
In our community's educated, especially the older generation, that cannabis is is way better than drinking a Thailand.
Let me tell you, guys.
I always say, oh my god, people goes down, Oh my god that I spoke with right now, I'm gonna clean that a very deep cleansed. But when they found out that I smoked cannabis, it was just like, oh my god, how could you go like, wait a second, No, I have more babies, Yes you do.
I want one more. I just want you know what, I can't imagine my life. I can't imagine my life without my siblings. Yeah, can you know? So I'm like I because and when you put it that way, yeah, no, And a lot of women these days.
Are like one and done, and I'm like, I get it because you know it, it ain't easy. It's definitely worth it. But I cannot imagine my life without my sister and my brother because we're tight, you know what I mean. They're so fateful that we're tight. And I love that your mom instilled that in you too. Is that No, Like your siblings are forever people and you know what I mean. So I love that you're close to your siblings.
So when I see my closest or my siblings, I'm like, yeah.
I want to get on it.
I know, I know, girl it okay? Would you you don't mind if it's a boy or girl. At this point, it's like whatever, I mean, I feel like God's gonna give me what's meant for me. But I definitely want another.
Little Oh my God, yes, because like we're so really yeah, like sure, dressing them up.
And I mean I could teach a woman how to be great? Can I teach you?
No?
Yeah? You know that? Yeah?
See and see I have always in my life watered a boy, and I think I always like, I want to be I want to have a boy.
But I've learned through therapy and through healing that the reason I waited so long to have kids was because, of course I'm taking care of my siblings, but also it is that I have been a mockery. Yeah, I've been. I went out all of it, especially with Johnny and Jenica. Oh yeah, those are your freaking mother a parent conferences. I did it all. I did the homework. I it was I did it all.
I mean, so john was more mine, I feel than even my mom did. Sometimes you know, I should, It's understandable. But also I think I waited and I didn't want to grow because I was afraid of my mom and I had such a beautiful relationship, but it was it was hard, you know that I was like, oh what, I don't what if I have a girl, and then we repeat things that I don't know. I thought so many negative things and in reality, I'm like, wait a second, but if I do have a little girl, and I can mend and help that relationship. But hew that relationship because times didn't allow.
It, you know. So now I'm like, God, whatever you want me to have, I'm gonna accept it. Yes.
Yeah, but I could see you having a little girl and doing things completely different with your little girl.
Because you know better. I'm older. You know what boundaries are.
Now, I'm so patty that you know how to set boundaries and based with certain people. Yeah, but boundaries are superper important and you understand that. So like, when you know how to do it another way, you're gonna do it a different way so that we you know, Because believe it or not, girl, there's a lot of broken people raising broken humans. They're emotionally broken. And I love that about you that you encourage therapy. Every human watching this needs to go to thera down. I have a love the therapist since I was nineteen. My parents got divorced fifteen and it affected me. So when when you talk about therapy, when anybody talks about therapy.
I'm like, is that local?
At this point you need to address all the issues and listen, we all got issues, yeah, all of us, all of us. It doesn't have to be Oh I was, you know, because I was sexually abused, like it could be anything and everything, and a lot of people, especially man in our culture, where people think, well, see what you know, if I go to counseling, it's because something's wrong with me, and no, it's that we all need to bounce ideas, let our feelings out with someone that's not gonna that we're gonna feel good to criticize it or we're shy.
It's someone that's just completely separated from your family. Yeah.
Yeah, I love that you encourage your followers of therapy because I do. Do do it, but your pride to the side and deal with it because otherwise that haunts you for the rest of your life and your neighbor.
You're never able to have all of your relationships a.
Quality, that relationship with your siblings, with your parents because you're just holy hot to old shit.
Yes, and it's like they get to see mm hm, oh my god exactly. I always tell you guys that you.
Guys have to release we have to release the baggage and not there's there's no way that we're gonna be able to be our best selves if we're carrying old ship literally old shit.
Well, Ron, thank you so much. She thinks it's so it's so intimate in here. I love it. You think have done a good job.
I wanted something very warm, and I wanted something like apple Hillo. That's gonna give you, like you know, nice point, You're gonna give you a little hugs. So I'm glad to do that here. I'm grateful that you're here.
And I gotta go on your podcast. So tell us about your podcast. So where can people find you? Yeah? So our podcast mine and my sisters called straight Up Sisters.
The podcast, it's my older sister and me and so the older sister and baby is the.
Dynamic is real.
Susie is six years older than me, and she thinks she's always right right because she's got mer life experiences.
We have a lot of opposing views on different things, but it's all love at the end of the day. Like I'm not like I hate you. I mean we we get into disagreements on the podcast. I'm like, no, like that. What makes a strong relationship? Yeah, and so that's what it is.
It's the older sister and a baby sister having a conversation on a set every day and we talk our shit.
We talk our shit but a lot of two and Susie is right, you know what I mean. I'm like, damn yeah, she's like seventy thirty percent of the time.
Right.
Do you ever tell your siblings that no, I don't, but I should. Shit be good. I told you so. Yeah, because a lot, you know, you guys have more life experience. You get the baby. Yeah yeah, like you good guy, Jennica, because she's the baby, right. So it's it's fun.
We have such a good time and we're on all digital platforms straight up. Sisters of the podcast, Susie, I love you. I missed you girl.
I know she loves you too. She was so happy that I was coming to day. She's like, tell her she's just gonna be on the podcast and she's like, you know what, I know, I'm gonna.
I'm gonna go there with her because she's the oldest, and you know, I'm gonna. I'm gonna ask herself that maybe people are free to ask her.
And I'm like, and I'm sure she'll have to make sure. I will. Yeah will, So Susie, bring it on, baby girl and her mom two said to my mom that she made. She gave me my first call on. Yeah, most she did. Did your mom gave me my first colonate way back in the day? Girl? Really is okay? Can you tell that people like kalonics are not painful? Colonies are not people. They're a little uncomfortably it could be a little comfortable, but they're not painful. They're that painful and they're great for you.
So it was because of her mom that I started like getting into it. So thanks, you know, shout out to your mom. Yeah, do you want to share your socials?
Yeah? My social is at roxyes World.
So the cool thing about Roxy's World and the way I spell my name is it's our a Q capital C. Yes, so nobody else has that name on.
I love that. One of a kind, one of one. Yeah.
So it's the rocky r a Q capital seed roxyes World up everything and every weege Snapchat.
You got sapchat please? Yeah? I love Snapchat. Yeah, I love it. You're really good at it. You're really good. Like I'm like, I sit there and I watch it.
I'm like I buy the stuff that she posts to I say stree shots and I'm like, oh, girl, I gotta remember her by this, so yeah, I follow her.
So bros As that's a greed backbone. Now, thank you, thank god. It's like you had no the choice. I had no the choice.
I had to put on my big girl panties. I was like, all right, cool, my mama, here, I gotta I gotta be the one to protect my siblings.
And I so yeah, you do good?
You do?
You so good at that brette. That's what older sisters do. Y'all got our bats forever. Thank you so much, Thank you, Roxy Lovett. I know, thank you. Never again, don't never let go my gardes. I know. Thank you guys so much.
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