When family members step into the role of a caregiver, the sheer volume of daily tasks can easily eclipse their own sense of self. In this insightful episode of Caregiver S.O.S. On Air, hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial are joined by Dr. Grace Macalino, founder and CEO of Kapwa AllCare. Drawing from her background as a public health researcher and her personal journey caring for her aging parents—including her mother, who was diagnosed with vascular dementia—Dr. Macalino shares how she developed the Caregiver Identity Framework.

Together, the hosts and guest explore the profound emotional shifts, cultural expectations, and invisible burdens that come with caring for a loved one. They discuss why acknowledging the transition into a caregiver identity is crucial for long-term well-being and how caregivers can reclaim agency, shift from surviving to thriving, and maintain meaningful family relationships along the way.

Key Takeaways & Highlights:

• Understanding the Identity Shift: Caregiving isn't just a list of tasks to manage—it is a major life transition that redefines who you are. Recognizing this identity shift gives caregivers the language and permission to process feelings of overwhelm and loss of self.

• Navigating Cultural and Family Roles: Dr. Macalino reflects on her experience as the eldest daughter in a Filipino household, balancing cultural duty with the reality that no one is fully prepared for the emotional load of caregiving.

• Reclaiming the Original Relationship: The panel discusses the delicate balance between being a caregiver and maintaining your foundational role as a daughter, son, or spouse. Transitioning care—such as moving a parent into memory care—can allow family members to step out of constant caregiving mode and return to being a loving spouse or child.

• Shifting from Survival to Agency: Beyond just "doing," caregivers need tools to regain control, set healthy boundaries, and find moments of joy amidst the challenges.

• The Power of Workplace and Community Support: Kapwa AllCare aims to foster community connection (Kapwa) and support working caregivers, helping employers recognize the needs of their high-performing employees who manage caregiving duties at home.

About Dr. Schauf

Dr. Grace Macalino Schauf, PhD, MPH, is the Founder and CEO of Kapwa AllCare. Drawing on her background in public health and her personal caregiving experiences, she developed the Caregiver Identity Framework, an evidence-informed approach that helps caregivers better understand their journey, reclaim agency, and build sustainable support systems for themselves and their loved ones.To learn more about her work and framework, visit kapwaallcare.com.

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