Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington, an iHeartRadio podcast.

Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington, an iHeartRadio podcast.

Well, hello, Hello, Hello, Hello Call It crew, and welcome to another episode of Call It What It Is. You know what, I just realized the pause was for a reason. This is our first episode together in twenty twenty five.

Well, hello, Hello, Hello, Hello Call It crew, and welcome to another episode of Call It What It Is. You know what, I just realized the pause was for a reason. This is our first episode together in twenty twenty five.

I thought it as I said hello, Hello, Hello.

I thought it as I said hello, Hello, Hello.

Yeah, I had to do a pause because I was like, wait.

Yeah, I had to do a pause because I was like, wait.

Welcome twenty twenty five. You twenty twenty five. It kind of a dick.

Welcome twenty twenty five. You twenty twenty five. It kind of a dick.

You've feel a huge dick, dude.

You've feel a huge dick, dude.

Yeah, yeah, you've made uh like very hard and sad and challenging and scary.

Yeah, yeah, you've made uh like very hard and sad and challenging and scary.

Yeah we should have joined. Okay, so here here, here's the real deal. You guys. We always plan an episode just and I get into it and we figure out a fun subject and we reach out to you. We reach out to you guys, and we plan these episodes and we get so excited and so we do have an episode that we are going to do. We are going to do the episode we plan today. However, twenty twenty five did a derailing of a lot of people's lives, and so we're going to derail the top of this episode to talk just.

Yeah we should have joined. Okay, so here here, here's the real deal. You guys. We always plan an episode just and I get into it and we figure out a fun subject and we reach out to you. We reach out to you guys, and we plan these episodes and we get so excited and so we do have an episode that we are going to do. We are going to do the episode we plan today. However, twenty twenty five did a derailing of a lot of people's lives, and so we're going to derail the top of this episode to talk just.

Talking about what's been going on.

Talking about what's been going on.

So for those that don't live in Los Angeles, we have been dealing. We haven't been watching the news or haven't yeah, have had the TV off. We've been dealing with fires, active fires that are still active right now. In fact, I my house as I'm talking right now, is still under a an evacuation warning. The block over is a mandatory evacuation. They can't even come go home right now. So let's talk about sort of what happened. Just you were in New York, but you have family here. Your community was the Palisades, which is an area that was severely affected. You want to talk a little bit about that. Yeah, I mean, I.

So for those that don't live in Los Angeles, we have been dealing. We haven't been watching the news or haven't yeah, have had the TV off. We've been dealing with fires, active fires that are still active right now. In fact, I my house as I'm talking right now, is still under a an evacuation warning. The block over is a mandatory evacuation. They can't even come go home right now. So let's talk about sort of what happened. Just you were in New York, but you have family here. Your community was the Palisades, which is an area that was severely affected. You want to talk a little bit about that. Yeah, I mean, I.

As these things are.

As these things are.

It's sick.

It's sick.

You remember the day before, so many people that I do business with are in Los Angeles. It's the beginning of the new year. Obviously, there's so many phone calls where you're just you know, checking in, here's the beginning of the new year. Here's what's happening. And it was all, you know, invigorated, and people were excited to get back to work and everything else. And then as I remember it, it was like the whisperings of like, hey, there's this fire that's happening, and then it was I think physically in person, and then obviously word of mouth, and then the way that things came in through the news. It went from like there's a little fire to there is a fire raging and and taking down everything in its path, and very quickly because of what comes every single year, which is the Santa Ana wins, and they are very very fast winds that pick up any little thing. So in this case, it picked up all the embers and took them through a large, large, large amount of space, densely populated, and there were multiple fires. The fire that was in the area that I spent my high school years.

You remember the day before, so many people that I do business with are in Los Angeles. It's the beginning of the new year. Obviously, there's so many phone calls where you're just you know, checking in, here's the beginning of the new year. Here's what's happening. And it was all, you know, invigorated, and people were excited to get back to work and everything else. And then as I remember it, it was like the whisperings of like, hey, there's this fire that's happening, and then it was I think physically in person, and then obviously word of mouth, and then the way that things came in through the news. It went from like there's a little fire to there is a fire raging and and taking down everything in its path, and very quickly because of what comes every single year, which is the Santa Ana wins, and they are very very fast winds that pick up any little thing. So in this case, it picked up all the embers and took them through a large, large, large amount of space, densely populated, and there were multiple fires. The fire that was in the area that I spent my high school years.

And then you know, yeah, I remember sending Jess last week a list of places in the Palisades, which I wasn't familiar with. That's a little far from me. But actually when we had done the jingle ball, I had stayed with you at your family's house and the Palisades and we sort of like ventured around, but I'd sent you a list of places that I knew had gone within I mean, I want to say, within twenty four hours, and you were like, wow, these are these are all the places that I took my kids to this was my life when I lived in Los Angeles, and this area's gone right.

And then you know, yeah, I remember sending Jess last week a list of places in the Palisades, which I wasn't familiar with. That's a little far from me. But actually when we had done the jingle ball, I had stayed with you at your family's house and the Palisades and we sort of like ventured around, but I'd sent you a list of places that I knew had gone within I mean, I want to say, within twenty four hours, and you were like, wow, these are these are all the places that I took my kids to this was my life when I lived in Los Angeles, and this area's gone right.

Which I had a very very strange relationship with because I this is so not about me, and I was far away and I was getting this information, and I was very mindful and clear that the only thing that mattered in these initial moments was life and those who were in peril, getting people out of the way and containing it. Because it was so clear how devastating it was and how quickly it was taking things down, and because so many of my friends and loved ones are still there, I then again not understanding because you also have to remember, I can't tell you how many times I evacuated my house from when I was fifteen, from when I was you know, twenty, my whole life, you've evacuated because you're near the canyons and that's where the fires come, and they it just it was nothing unfamiliar. But what was unfamiliar was then how quickly I was being sent videos from friends of completely destroyed, like everything was flattened. There was not there wasn't anything. And one particular video I got had you couldn't tell where you were where it was being taken from and then all of a sudden, you see this corner and I saw this small white brick like kind of pony wall that wrapped around this corner, because again I couldn't figure out which street they were videoing, and I was like, oh, I know where I am. That's the white brick pony wall that my kids would stand on top of and foot over foot. They would use the way that kids do walk the balance beam and we would go to Beach Street Peace and then we'd grab frozen yogurt at the yogurt shop, and yeah, everything was gone. It was completely completely gone.

Which I had a very very strange relationship with because I this is so not about me, and I was far away and I was getting this information, and I was very mindful and clear that the only thing that mattered in these initial moments was life and those who were in peril, getting people out of the way and containing it. Because it was so clear how devastating it was and how quickly it was taking things down, and because so many of my friends and loved ones are still there, I then again not understanding because you also have to remember, I can't tell you how many times I evacuated my house from when I was fifteen, from when I was you know, twenty, my whole life, you've evacuated because you're near the canyons and that's where the fires come, and they it just it was nothing unfamiliar. But what was unfamiliar was then how quickly I was being sent videos from friends of completely destroyed, like everything was flattened. There was not there wasn't anything. And one particular video I got had you couldn't tell where you were where it was being taken from and then all of a sudden, you see this corner and I saw this small white brick like kind of pony wall that wrapped around this corner, because again I couldn't figure out which street they were videoing, and I was like, oh, I know where I am. That's the white brick pony wall that my kids would stand on top of and foot over foot. They would use the way that kids do walk the balance beam and we would go to Beach Street Peace and then we'd grab frozen yogurt at the yogurt shop, and yeah, everything was gone. It was completely completely gone.

I do not live in the Palisades, but I think, you know, we, like Jessica said, we've had fires here before. I've never had to evacuate. I've never had an evacuation warning or anything. And I think you you always feel like, Okay, at some point it's sort of out of the way and it's going to be contained, and it's they're going to send out these warnings, but they'll figure it'll be figured out. And I think that it happened so fast and there was so much destruction so quick.

I do not live in the Palisades, but I think, you know, we, like Jessica said, we've had fires here before. I've never had to evacuate. I've never had an evacuation warning or anything. And I think you you always feel like, Okay, at some point it's sort of out of the way and it's going to be contained, and it's they're going to send out these warnings, but they'll figure it'll be figured out. And I think that it happened so fast and there was so much destruction so quick.

You're making me think of talking to friends who on the day because it was happening so fast, got the faatall from a school in the palasaids saying come pick up, you know if you got to go, and the the the deluge of people in that state of mind trying to get their children and then oh.

You're making me think of talking to friends who on the day because it was happening so fast, got the faatall from a school in the palasaids saying come pick up, you know if you got to go, and the the the deluge of people in that state of mind trying to get their children and then oh.

You mean just grab their children from taking their children up to get them out, and then just just like the orderliness.

You mean just grab their children from taking their children up to get them out, and then just just like the orderliness.

Of it or lack thereof. And then I know many people who once they got their kids, got onto sunset and there was fire all around and they actually had to make the decision to pull their car over and get out of the car. And there were people running in the streets and they were running down towards the water and then to phs further and then back up to their homes if they were not in the evacuation zone. I mean it just listen. These these kinds of situations are just horrific. They're your worst nightmare. And and not being there and hearing about it, but knowing so specifically the places that this was all happening, Yeah, yeah, it was it. And again, like I said, not about me, not about me or my feelings about it at all. All I cared about was how is this being contained, How are people safe and what are they going to do now? And I and it seems like that's what people are focusing on right now, is like what are the next best steps? Because the entirety of it is insane. And then you saw what was happening on social media and people were posting things and it just you.

Of it or lack thereof. And then I know many people who once they got their kids, got onto sunset and there was fire all around and they actually had to make the decision to pull their car over and get out of the car. And there were people running in the streets and they were running down towards the water and then to phs further and then back up to their homes if they were not in the evacuation zone. I mean it just listen. These these kinds of situations are just horrific. They're your worst nightmare. And and not being there and hearing about it, but knowing so specifically the places that this was all happening, Yeah, yeah, it was it. And again, like I said, not about me, not about me or my feelings about it at all. All I cared about was how is this being contained, How are people safe and what are they going to do now? And I and it seems like that's what people are focusing on right now, is like what are the next best steps? Because the entirety of it is insane. And then you saw what was happening on social media and people were posting things and it just you.

Know, I also feel like what people that don't live here maybe don't know is that it wasn't just one fire too. What was happening was fires were picking up over in Pasadena, which is really far from the Palisades.

Know, I also feel like what people that don't live here maybe don't know is that it wasn't just one fire too. What was happening was fires were picking up over in Pasadena, which is really far from the Palisades.

And then the.

And then the.

Eaton, I mean it was written there are so many different fires everywhere, and it traveled so fast in those winds that it was not a lot of time before we saw it the smoke up on the hills. I could see the flames, and then we all got the notices and we had to go. And in that situation, also I realized I'm absolutely fucking terrible in an emergency. First Off, I'm not someone that wants to leave. I don't want to leave. I was, but I was happy to be home because you would need.

Eaton, I mean it was written there are so many different fires everywhere, and it traveled so fast in those winds that it was not a lot of time before we saw it the smoke up on the hills. I could see the flames, and then we all got the notices and we had to go. And in that situation, also I realized I'm absolutely fucking terrible in an emergency. First Off, I'm not someone that wants to leave. I don't want to leave. I was, but I was happy to be home because you would need.

Me in this situation.

Me in this situation.

But I need you. Let's go. We are leaving no that's what Matt was like. We got the notice and he was like, we're gone. We're going right now.

But I need you. Let's go. We are leaving no that's what Matt was like. We got the notice and he was like, we're gone. We're going right now.

Also, growing up in LA maybe it just got ingrained. Not growing up, I grew up everywhere, but having gone to high school in Los Angeles, it was ingrained in me. Like I knew where you always had a double bag. That was the earthquakes and fires. You just were ready to go.

Also, growing up in LA maybe it just got ingrained. Not growing up, I grew up everywhere, but having gone to high school in Los Angeles, it was ingrained in me. Like I knew where you always had a double bag. That was the earthquakes and fires. You just were ready to go.

Here's the thing, though, I did think about this. Earthquakes, yes, but in an earthquake situation, we have like a closet full of stuff. But I don't have anything in my car. I did not have a bag packed. I packed some somewhat of a bag very very fast. I grabed shit that didn't freaking matter. I grabbed a fing curling iron, no deodorant, no bra. But I don't know what. It's like a salon where I'm going. I don't know why.

Here's the thing, though, I did think about this. Earthquakes, yes, but in an earthquake situation, we have like a closet full of stuff. But I don't have anything in my car. I did not have a bag packed. I packed some somewhat of a bag very very fast. I grabed shit that didn't freaking matter. I grabbed a fing curling iron, no deodorant, no bra. But I don't know what. It's like a salon where I'm going. I don't know why.

Yeah, you're not thinking, you're not thinking straight. No one's thinking straight.

Yeah, you're not thinking, you're not thinking straight. No one's thinking straight.

No, no, And now I'm they don't feel out of it is the truth. Because we have the warning. Still, I'm taking my dogs everywhere with me because people got the evacuation. If you get a mandatory evacuation, we're in a warning. Right now, you can't get back into your house if your pets are there. They won't let you go into your home. It's too dangerous. So the dogs are with me everywhere. I mean, I have like five dogs on my lap drive.

No, no, And now I'm they don't feel out of it is the truth. Because we have the warning. Still, I'm taking my dogs everywhere with me because people got the evacuation. If you get a mandatory evacuation, we're in a warning. Right now, you can't get back into your house if your pets are there. They won't let you go into your home. It's too dangerous. So the dogs are with me everywhere. I mean, I have like five dogs on my lap drive.

Wait, let's talk about these unbelievable I already have just a resting, static, deep admiration for firefighters.

Wait, let's talk about these unbelievable I already have just a resting, static, deep admiration for firefighters.

Oh my god.

Oh my god.

But in these situations, they are superheroes. To me, they are superheroes, and it's all been documented. My feeling that they are superheroes is absolutely true. I've seen it on film, I've seen it in stills. I mean, what these women and men are doing to help save people from these fires is absolutely herculean. It is superhero shit. And I mean I just honestly it makes it. It makes me feel really emotional. I know it made me.

But in these situations, they are superheroes. To me, they are superheroes, and it's all been documented. My feeling that they are superheroes is absolutely true. I've seen it on film, I've seen it in stills. I mean, what these women and men are doing to help save people from these fires is absolutely herculean. It is superhero shit. And I mean I just honestly it makes it. It makes me feel really emotional. I know it made me.

It is amazing. And also I have to shout out. Canada and Mexico sent help. I saw the I could see from our uh from upstairs, from our bedroom, I could see the Canadian super Scoopers, which I had never heard of before. And there are these huge planes that were going and scooping water from Santa Monica and the ocean and bringing it back to the valley and it felt like it felt like miracle had arrived, like it felt it just and and and it's not over. Yeah, Yeah, it's still happening. They're still fighting what needs to be bought. We still have winds.

It is amazing. And also I have to shout out. Canada and Mexico sent help. I saw the I could see from our uh from upstairs, from our bedroom, I could see the Canadian super Scoopers, which I had never heard of before. And there are these huge planes that were going and scooping water from Santa Monica and the ocean and bringing it back to the valley and it felt like it felt like miracle had arrived, like it felt it just and and and it's not over. Yeah, Yeah, it's still happening. They're still fighting what needs to be bought. We still have winds.

Well, we have lots of resources that were lucky to pull together.

Well, we have lots of resources that were lucky to pull together.

Yes, please go to our call at what it is Instagram. We are going to be putting links to.

Yes, please go to our call at what it is Instagram. We are going to be putting links to.

Many different organizations.

Many different organizations.

Yeah, different resources at are helping with all the different things that people need to be helped with right now. And so please go check it out. Yeah, and anything any little amount can can help go a long way at this point.

Yeah, different resources at are helping with all the different things that people need to be helped with right now. And so please go check it out. Yeah, and anything any little amount can can help go a long way at this point.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And I also, I mean personally, just to throw this out there, I have multiple friends who have personal friends that have forwarded me their go fund me pages. I think that when you when you actually know a person that knows the person, it gives me great comfort to know that it's going to be getting to the right place. And I think that there's just there's no too small amount. It's it's really just about all coming together and giving whatever it is that you can.

And I also, I mean personally, just to throw this out there, I have multiple friends who have personal friends that have forwarded me their go fund me pages. I think that when you when you actually know a person that knows the person, it gives me great comfort to know that it's going to be getting to the right place. And I think that there's just there's no too small amount. It's it's really just about all coming together and giving whatever it is that you can.

And I have to say that's about Los Angeles. I've always felt like the city was super magical, and I did not grow up here in it. I felt like very welcomed by this city and the community across the entire city has come together. There's so much I know, it sounds so like cheesy le lab and it feels there's so much love happening right now in Los Angeles that I don't know. I just had to say that because I'm proud of the city.

And I have to say that's about Los Angeles. I've always felt like the city was super magical, and I did not grow up here in it. I felt like very welcomed by this city and the community across the entire city has come together. There's so much I know, it sounds so like cheesy le lab and it feels there's so much love happening right now in Los Angeles that I don't know. I just had to say that because I'm proud of the city.

Yeah, all right.

Yeah, all right.

With that being said, Yes, I We've done an episode where we were just I mean, lots of stuff comes up about parenting and we were talking and I was kind of like, Okay, we can talk about how our kids drive us nuts or the things that the kids you know.

With that being said, Yes, I We've done an episode where we were just I mean, lots of stuff comes up about parenting and we were talking and I was kind of like, Okay, we can talk about how our kids drive us nuts or the things that the kids you know.

Do, which we've done. We've yeah, we've done yeah.

Do, which we've done. We've yeah, we've done yeah.

Yeah, Yeah, You've been very I've brought my full authentic.

Yeah, Yeah, You've been very I've brought my full authentic.

Self to those conversations. Yeah. I probably there's probably my Polly shouldn't have said, but I've said it, and the okay you it's fine.

Self to those conversations. Yeah. I probably there's probably my Polly shouldn't have said, but I've said it, and the okay you it's fine.

It's okay, it's okay, And it just made me wonder, Mmmm.

It's okay, it's okay, And it just made me wonder, Mmmm.

That's the possible.

That's the possible.

I know.

I know.

Oh is that the first of twenty five the first? Oh my god, I wonder back guys, we're back.

Oh is that the first of twenty five the first? Oh my god, I wonder back guys, we're back.

Wonder I wonder what our kids would say drives them nuts about us because I can hear it, and if I can, if I can say.

Wonder I wonder what our kids would say drives them nuts about us because I can hear it, and if I can, if I can say.

Stop.

Stop.

Rude, rude, you should just be grateful.

Rude, rude, you should just be grateful.

I'm gonna edit this down in like two minutes. You're welcome giving you life there.

I'm gonna edit this down in like two minutes. You're welcome giving you life there.

Yeah, because listen, I think parents can drive kids crazy too. We see it all the time. And I've been honest, there's also some parents that can drive me crazy when I watch them parenting their.

Yeah, because listen, I think parents can drive kids crazy too. We see it all the time. And I've been honest, there's also some parents that can drive me crazy when I watch them parenting their.

Kids, and if you know, stop it. But if you listen to this pod, you know that Martin Leunnington and still drives me crazy. And I am four.

Kids, and if you know, stop it. But if you listen to this pod, you know that Martin Leunnington and still drives me crazy. And I am four.

I sometimes do the awful thing where You'll be in a restaurant and I'll be like an infant and it'll be crying and crying and crying and crying, and part of me really just wants to be like, just give me the baby, Just give me the baby. Y, do you have a baby, I'm going to help you out here, or I kind of want to say, like the baby's hungry, just give the baby, give the baby.

I sometimes do the awful thing where You'll be in a restaurant and I'll be like an infant and it'll be crying and crying and crying and crying, and part of me really just wants to be like, just give me the baby, Just give me the baby. Y, do you have a baby, I'm going to help you out here, or I kind of want to say, like the baby's hungry, just give the baby, give the baby.

I would love to see that happen, just see I would start recording that, like you know what go do that?

I would love to see that happen, just see I would start recording that, like you know what go do that?

Can you imagine I don't know what response I would get.

Can you imagine I don't know what response I would get.

No, I wont you of your advice. Back in one of our early episodes, I don't know why, when you were like, we're like, how do you meet people? And you're like, go to the movie theater and strike up a conversation, Like why don't you do that, Jess?

No, I wont you of your advice. Back in one of our early episodes, I don't know why, when you were like, we're like, how do you meet people? And you're like, go to the movie theater and strike up a conversation, Like why don't you do that, Jess?

Yeah, so you think it's not a good idea to take someone's baby and feed.

Yeah, so you think it's not a good idea to take someone's baby and feed.

Them without no. No, So like, next time we're together, why don't you be like just go feed them?

Them without no. No, So like, next time we're together, why don't you be like just go feed them?

Yeah, baby, your baby's hung or your mayby's tired, your baby's.

Yeah, baby, your baby's hung or your mayby's tired, your baby's.

Tired, you should definitely vocally give advice like that.

Tired, you should definitely vocally give advice like that.

Okay, but here's the thing. Parents drive kids crazy, right, they're constantly nagging, or they're telling you what to do, or maybe they're not listening to the kid's opinions. Maybe they're comparing their kids to other kids, or they're being overprotective I get that one, or not respecting their privacy, not growing with them into their next maturity level and letting them kind of like bigger up right, or giving unsolicited advice. And as we know, this can carry on into your forties. I've spoken about the suggestion box and when it's been open to my parents being overly controlling or feeling to see their kids for who they are or wanting them to be different, and so I, you know, I'm sort of curious about, you know, the kids. How do the kids feel? How do the kids feel about the parents I have recently?

Okay, but here's the thing. Parents drive kids crazy, right, they're constantly nagging, or they're telling you what to do, or maybe they're not listening to the kid's opinions. Maybe they're comparing their kids to other kids, or they're being overprotective I get that one, or not respecting their privacy, not growing with them into their next maturity level and letting them kind of like bigger up right, or giving unsolicited advice. And as we know, this can carry on into your forties. I've spoken about the suggestion box and when it's been open to my parents being overly controlling or feeling to see their kids for who they are or wanting them to be different, and so I, you know, I'm sort of curious about, you know, the kids. How do the kids feel? How do the kids feel about the parents I have recently?

I think I don't know if it's doctor Becky there, somebody, I mean, what we a Lisa Pressman. We need to have all the parents.

I think I don't know if it's doctor Becky there, somebody, I mean, what we a Lisa Pressman. We need to have all the parents.

I want them to so much.

I want them to so much.

I did ask the kids. I've asked them a couple of times now, and I felt like I was doing such a good parenting job and I was like, you guys, yeah.

I did ask the kids. I've asked them a couple of times now, and I felt like I was doing such a good parenting job and I was like, you guys, yeah.

You are, you are whatever it was, you are whatever?

You are, you are whatever it was, you are whatever?

Well, yeah, you know. I was like, you guys, it's time for mom and dad feedback.

Well, yeah, you know. I was like, you guys, it's time for mom and dad feedback.

Why don't you just let us know you send this to your kids?

Why don't you just let us know you send this to your kids?

Yeah. I was like, let us know how we can improve. And it was like such a bullshitty response. I'm asking like four and seven year olds.

Yeah. I was like, let us know how we can improve. And it was like such a bullshitty response. I'm asking like four and seven year olds.

They're like, I feel like Hayden probably had like a list ready to go, and Lucas was kind of what.

They're like, I feel like Hayden probably had like a list ready to go, and Lucas was kind of what.

It was all bullshit. It was all like, let us stay up later.

It was all bullshit. It was all like, let us stay up later.

Yeah, yeah, I want candy for bread, and I was like, never mind, yeah, yeah, we're not ready for this. Nope, no, I know what, I'm just kidding. I take it back. I don't want your feedback. Okay, was there anything that your parents drove did that drove you crazy when you.

Yeah, yeah, I want candy for bread, and I was like, never mind, yeah, yeah, we're not ready for this. Nope, no, I know what, I'm just kidding. I take it back. I don't want your feedback. Okay, was there anything that your parents drove did that drove you crazy when you.

Were kidding me?

Were kidding me?

Are you a million things again? Martin Lueddington, I forgot.

Are you a million things again? Martin Lueddington, I forgot.

Oh, the luds. The luds, I mean, you know, tweets their own. I mean, it's it's much easier. My mom have four kids. You have four kids. You know what it's like, she have four kids, I would have lost my mind. And my parents regularly, uh lost their shit, you know, like it was. You know, we were annoying and we had a small we were in close quarterers with them. And I think one of the most annoying things though, is my dad Martin luds. He does tend to think that he is an expert and he's always been this way on everything. Yeah, that he's had, Like it doesn't matter what job, like coding, you I mean, like he would know how to code. He has, no, he can't even I don't even know if he knows how to turn all laptop at this point. But if I got into coding, he would know the better way to code. And he's been like that since I was little. So even when I was like little taking acting.

Oh, the luds. The luds, I mean, you know, tweets their own. I mean, it's it's much easier. My mom have four kids. You have four kids. You know what it's like, she have four kids, I would have lost my mind. And my parents regularly, uh lost their shit, you know, like it was. You know, we were annoying and we had a small we were in close quarterers with them. And I think one of the most annoying things though, is my dad Martin luds. He does tend to think that he is an expert and he's always been this way on everything. Yeah, that he's had, Like it doesn't matter what job, like coding, you I mean, like he would know how to code. He has, no, he can't even I don't even know if he knows how to turn all laptop at this point. But if I got into coding, he would know the better way to code. And he's been like that since I was little. So even when I was like little taking acting.

Classes, he was doing scene study with you.

Classes, he was doing scene study with you.

I'm not kidding. Yes he would. I would like do a little like monologue or whatever. And now I'm young, like twelve, and he'd like, kime, let me just have a go of this. And you think I'm lying, You think I'm just like making this a good story. Yeah, And his well, he always tells me he's taking on a character in Little Women. Yeah, he's like Joe Moot, hand it over. He tells me that he was in one fucking play back in high school and it was like some Shakespeare thing and that was his moment. And I don't know, and so he knows better. And so the advice, the advice part of the know it all advice part was really irritating. What about you growing up? Like, what was the thing?

I'm not kidding. Yes he would. I would like do a little like monologue or whatever. And now I'm young, like twelve, and he'd like, kime, let me just have a go of this. And you think I'm lying, You think I'm just like making this a good story. Yeah, And his well, he always tells me he's taking on a character in Little Women. Yeah, he's like Joe Moot, hand it over. He tells me that he was in one fucking play back in high school and it was like some Shakespeare thing and that was his moment. And I don't know, and so he knows better. And so the advice, the advice part of the know it all advice part was really irritating. What about you growing up? Like, what was the thing?

Same theme, It's the same theme. It's the unsolicited advice. It's the lecturing, Like even when they're so well meaning and mine all are, you know, like, even when they really are just doing it for your benefit, it still feels like a lecture when you're a teenager. And then I think, because this is just sort of how it goes, they as the youth start to gain independence. I feel like I do this in my own parenting. You like see this window closing, and you're like, oh my god, I need to download all this important information otherwise my child is going to perish in the world. And so I need to like get it all in, even though I was putting it in for the past, yes whatever, however many years, but I need to really really cram it in now. And I feel like that last horizon is usually like sex and alcohol or.

Same theme, It's the same theme. It's the unsolicited advice. It's the lecturing, Like even when they're so well meaning and mine all are, you know, like, even when they really are just doing it for your benefit, it still feels like a lecture when you're a teenager. And then I think, because this is just sort of how it goes, they as the youth start to gain independence. I feel like I do this in my own parenting. You like see this window closing, and you're like, oh my god, I need to download all this important information otherwise my child is going to perish in the world. And so I need to like get it all in, even though I was putting it in for the past, yes whatever, however many years, but I need to really really cram it in now. And I feel like that last horizon is usually like sex and alcohol or.

Draw and our drugs. Right, Okay, so let me ask you this question. If if you have a conversation with your kids about sex, do they want to die a little bit inside?

Draw and our drugs. Right, Okay, so let me ask you this question. If if you have a conversation with your kids about sex, do they want to die a little bit inside?

I mean, I'm assuming they probably do.

I mean, I'm assuming they probably do.

Okay, we had Luke and Eve, those are her two oldest kiddos. If we had them on the show right now and we said, what is the thing that mom does that annoys you the most? What do you think their answers would be?

Okay, we had Luke and Eve, those are her two oldest kiddos. If we had them on the show right now and we said, what is the thing that mom does that annoys you the most? What do you think their answers would be?

It's actually not the open conversations about the sex or alcohol. I like, I will buy that. Maybe I'm totally wrong, but I always kind of think that I come in low pro like not too smooth, not like, guys, I got this, but like I feel like.

It's actually not the open conversations about the sex or alcohol. I like, I will buy that. Maybe I'm totally wrong, but I always kind of think that I come in low pro like not too smooth, not like, guys, I got this, but like I feel like.

I do think you have it.

I do think you have it.

Yeah you were by the way, remember when you were in the car and huh.

Yeah you were by the way, remember when you were in the car and huh.

Yeah, you guys had a great we.

Yeah, you guys had a great we.

Were having a conversation, and I think I'm pretty good at just like listening. Yeah, and then yeah, then I share my feelings if I get my feelings hurt or if I've hurt feelings, I deeply believe in the in the repair and the reset and or getting a redo like I might have totally shit the bed on that one, let's take it back. So yeah, I feel like I have an open suggestion box for them. Doesn't mean I'm always gonna, you know, the regularity with which I read the suggestions.

Were having a conversation, and I think I'm pretty good at just like listening. Yeah, and then yeah, then I share my feelings if I get my feelings hurt or if I've hurt feelings, I deeply believe in the in the repair and the reset and or getting a redo like I might have totally shit the bed on that one, let's take it back. So yeah, I feel like I have an open suggestion box for them. Doesn't mean I'm always gonna, you know, the regularity with which I read the suggestions.

It's open, but it's dusty.

It's open, but it's dusty.

It's a little dusty.

It's a little dusty.

But yeah, I don't know.

But yeah, I don't know.

Yeah, but I think that uh, I think the things that start to become Because I said this before and you really didn't like it, but little kids, little problems, big kids, big problems.

Yeah, but I think that uh, I think the things that start to become Because I said this before and you really didn't like it, but little kids, little problems, big kids, big problems.

Right, I don't like it, I know, but I'm just saying, like little kids.

Right, I don't like it, I know, but I'm just saying, like little kids.

You're there at the park with them, saying like don't go down the slide right behind someone so that you know you don't have a pile up or you hurt each other. And that would really just be like an ouch. But then when they get big, you're talking about you know, you're talking about sex, you're talking about alcohol, you're talking about drugs. One of my biggest and the things that my girlfriends and I talked about that I think is so hard is is the two things can be true. I can say to you, I don't think you should do X Y and Z. I don't want you to do X Y and z. If you do X Y and Z, please know that I'm here to talk to you about it or help you or pick you up or all that. Like, it's a very mixed message. I think when they get older and it's not just an ouch on a slide, it's a real no.

You're there at the park with them, saying like don't go down the slide right behind someone so that you know you don't have a pile up or you hurt each other. And that would really just be like an ouch. But then when they get big, you're talking about you know, you're talking about sex, you're talking about alcohol, you're talking about drugs. One of my biggest and the things that my girlfriends and I talked about that I think is so hard is is the two things can be true. I can say to you, I don't think you should do X Y and Z. I don't want you to do X Y and z. If you do X Y and Z, please know that I'm here to talk to you about it or help you or pick you up or all that. Like, it's a very mixed message. I think when they get older and it's not just an ouch on a slide, it's a real no.

I know big. I mean you talked about like even Luke driving. I mean, now you're dealing. I get it, Like I understand why big problems, right. I don't like it. I don't want to hear it. But driving a car, yeah, that's that's some serious stuff. Obviously. I have to say my parents were really good. There was four of us and you have you know, your parents have eighteen kids. They're really good at not hitting sailings against each other.

I know big. I mean you talked about like even Luke driving. I mean, now you're dealing. I get it, Like I understand why big problems, right. I don't like it. I don't want to hear it. But driving a car, yeah, that's that's some serious stuff. Obviously. I have to say my parents were really good. There was four of us and you have you know, your parents have eighteen kids. They're really good at not hitting sailings against each other.

We never had that, No, But I think I don't know if it was doctor Becky or someone recently, and they were talking about sibling rivalry. It's not even what the parents do to the kids. I mean, I'm sure there are kids where parents might not handle it in the most fist kid way. But even in a family, if like let's say the parents are really even, like very even distribution of praise, love, all the things, the kids are still looking at their siblings, like who's got the stronger connection?

We never had that, No, But I think I don't know if it was doctor Becky or someone recently, and they were talking about sibling rivalry. It's not even what the parents do to the kids. I mean, I'm sure there are kids where parents might not handle it in the most fist kid way. But even in a family, if like let's say the parents are really even, like very even distribution of praise, love, all the things, the kids are still looking at their siblings, like who's got the stronger connection?

There's rivalry.

There's rivalry.

Yeah, yeah, they're like who's in pole position right now.

Yeah, yeah, they're like who's in pole position right now.

It's funny though, because I don't I never felt that. Did you feel that growing up? I did not feel that growing up, probably because I felt the best.

It's funny though, because I don't I never felt that. Did you feel that growing up? I did not feel that growing up, probably because I felt the best.

I was gonna say that's probably because felt like we were.

I was gonna say that's probably because felt like we were.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I was very goal oriented, and I didn't like getting in trouble. I didn't like getting in trouble, so getting inside stuff that as much as I could, I was not. No, I did not like getting in trouble. I also think in the disciplining, very early on, I mean what nerd buckets we were. But like I truly think Luke was six months old when Christopher and I took a parenting class and it was with the most amazing woman named Mary Hartzel who wrote this incredible book and then she wrote another book with this incredible doctor, doctor Dan Siegel. But I remember the very most important first class lynch pin moment and it was up on the chalkboard or dry erase board, whatever it was, and it was the definition of discipline and it is to teach. And I remember that staying with me because I think as a kid, I really thought discipline was like consequences, Yeah, good old fashioned stanking and just being like I am afraid and anyways, so I did always think about it. That is sort of a launching pad and to discipline with the kids where I'm like, okay, if someone if one of the kids has done something really naughty or terrible or has some big fallout or whatever, like what do they need to learn to not do it again? Right? Like what's the teaching what's the teaching piece? And each kid is different each and because each kid learns differently, so I mean, yeah, I think you know.

I was very goal oriented, and I didn't like getting in trouble. I didn't like getting in trouble, so getting inside stuff that as much as I could, I was not. No, I did not like getting in trouble. I also think in the disciplining, very early on, I mean what nerd buckets we were. But like I truly think Luke was six months old when Christopher and I took a parenting class and it was with the most amazing woman named Mary Hartzel who wrote this incredible book and then she wrote another book with this incredible doctor, doctor Dan Siegel. But I remember the very most important first class lynch pin moment and it was up on the chalkboard or dry erase board, whatever it was, and it was the definition of discipline and it is to teach. And I remember that staying with me because I think as a kid, I really thought discipline was like consequences, Yeah, good old fashioned stanking and just being like I am afraid and anyways, so I did always think about it. That is sort of a launching pad and to discipline with the kids where I'm like, okay, if someone if one of the kids has done something really naughty or terrible or has some big fallout or whatever, like what do they need to learn to not do it again? Right? Like what's the teaching what's the teaching piece? And each kid is different each and because each kid learns differently, so I mean, yeah, I think you know.

What I love this is off subject a little bit, but I'm just like, this is what I love about us being friends because we're so similar in so many ways and we're so different. You took a parenting class at nine months old six six, sorry six, way too late. At nine you would have missed the window. I didn't read a single book. I got all the books sent to me right like what to expect. Didn't give a shit. I was like, I'll expect whatever it is it comes and single Lama's class.

What I love this is off subject a little bit, but I'm just like, this is what I love about us being friends because we're so similar in so many ways and we're so different. You took a parenting class at nine months old six six, sorry six, way too late. At nine you would have missed the window. I didn't read a single book. I got all the books sent to me right like what to expect. Didn't give a shit. I was like, I'll expect whatever it is it comes and single Lama's class.

I didn't know.

I didn't know.

I just figured I'll get in the room and people have been doing this forever, and I'll figure out the breathing and I'll just push.

I just figured I'll get in the room and people have been doing this forever, and I'll figure out the breathing and I'll just push.

Now.

Now.

Really, I was starting to really understand our trips together. When we land in a new house, well, when we land in a new city, yeah, And I say, what would you like to do? And you're like, I'm just like the windw blow us in the right direction. Yeah yeah, Or you'll carry me. I'll just jump on your back and you'll walk and carry me wherever I need. But I need a you.

Really, I was starting to really understand our trips together. When we land in a new house, well, when we land in a new city, yeah, And I say, what would you like to do? And you're like, I'm just like the windw blow us in the right direction. Yeah yeah, Or you'll carry me. I'll just jump on your back and you'll walk and carry me wherever I need. But I need a you.

That's why I need a you, because I would end up, you know, on the wrong part of town.

That's why I need a you, because I would end up, you know, on the wrong part of town.

Well, and I need a willing participant, that's just gonna listen to me. Tell them that they're gonna have Tai food for dinner tonight.

Well, and I need a willing participant, that's just gonna listen to me. Tell them that they're gonna have Tai food for dinner tonight.

Yeah, I'm like, sounds good, That's great.

Yeah, I'm like, sounds good, That's great.

I'm allergic to that, but I'm fine.

I'm allergic to that, but I'm fine.

Was there anything that your parents did that you actually loved that you now might do with your kids.

Was there anything that your parents did that you actually loved that you now might do with your kids.

I loved so many things. I think the main thing that I really loved is they truly made me feel made all of us feel like we could do anything. Yes, mine too like anything, which is why I came here with zero money and was like, Oh, how take it in Hollywood? I think it. I mean it might have been slight delusion, by the way, but delusion is necessary in that situation for sure, not grandiosity.

I loved so many things. I think the main thing that I really loved is they truly made me feel made all of us feel like we could do anything. Yes, mine too like anything, which is why I came here with zero money and was like, Oh, how take it in Hollywood? I think it. I mean it might have been slight delusion, by the way, but delusion is necessary in that situation for sure, not grandiosity.

I never thought I was bigger than the moment. Like I never thought like, oh, I'm so fantastic. I will clearly master this and they will all be watching. I just felt that I could meet the challenge, like I had the confidence to meet the challenge and know that however, I was going to make it through it. I was going to make it through it, like I didn't know I'd be successful.

I never thought I was bigger than the moment. Like I never thought like, oh, I'm so fantastic. I will clearly master this and they will all be watching. I just felt that I could meet the challenge, like I had the confidence to meet the challenge and know that however, I was going to make it through it. I was going to make it through it, like I didn't know I'd be successful.

Truly, if we're going to call what it is, I think I had a little bit of grandiosity. You did, Okay, yeah I did because I came and I when for actors, you hear the statistic that it's like, you know, point zero zero two percent of people ever even can make a living out of acting, right, And I came and I thought like, I'm gonna take over a stout watch out because Camilla's arrived. And I was walking around, truly with so much confidence that it was going to happen that, you know, when I was waiting tables and they're like, oh, how long have you worked too, I'm like, don't worry about it. I'm going to be an actress. It wasn't about fame, and it wasn't about like winning awards. It was just like, this was my calling. I was going to do it and I'm great at it. But my parents, my parents made me feel that way. So I want I want my kids to have that same feeling.

Truly, if we're going to call what it is, I think I had a little bit of grandiosity. You did, Okay, yeah I did because I came and I when for actors, you hear the statistic that it's like, you know, point zero zero two percent of people ever even can make a living out of acting, right, And I came and I thought like, I'm gonna take over a stout watch out because Camilla's arrived. And I was walking around, truly with so much confidence that it was going to happen that, you know, when I was waiting tables and they're like, oh, how long have you worked too, I'm like, don't worry about it. I'm going to be an actress. It wasn't about fame, and it wasn't about like winning awards. It was just like, this was my calling. I was going to do it and I'm great at it. But my parents, my parents made me feel that way. So I want I want my kids to have that same feeling.

Yeah, that the possibilities are are are endless for them.

Yeah, that the possibilities are are are endless for them.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And if you if you put hard work in, no matter where you're starting from, I believe that you can you can achieve. I don't know what level, but I do believe you can achieve. And you and I say this about ourselves a lot as adults, even which I hope hopefully we've earned. Right is I I don't find myself in situations often where I don't believe that it won't it won't end up being okay. Like I if I get stuck in the mountain, I'm getting down. I don't know how it may but it maybe you know. I don't know, but I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna make it happen.

And if you if you put hard work in, no matter where you're starting from, I believe that you can you can achieve. I don't know what level, but I do believe you can achieve. And you and I say this about ourselves a lot as adults, even which I hope hopefully we've earned. Right is I I don't find myself in situations often where I don't believe that it won't it won't end up being okay. Like I if I get stuck in the mountain, I'm getting down. I don't know how it may but it maybe you know. I don't know, but I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna make it happen.

It's funny you see this because this is off subject too, but I've I recently read about and well, let's do an episode on this because I find it so interesting. I think part of that for me, that feeling for me is faith and like the universe figuring it out, which some people will think it's very woo wo, but that's how I feel. And I read about this lady and she was called the competition Queen, I want to say, and it was basically it's a woman that came up with this formula of entering competitions and winning it and it was through visualizing, really believing in what was going to happen. And she won everything she'd entered, including a house, and she wrote a book and it's the same as sort of the secret that you know we all heard about back in you know, the two thousands. But I think that you can manifest stuff for yourself. Now we're off subject. We need to do a whole manifesting episode.

It's funny you see this because this is off subject too, but I've I recently read about and well, let's do an episode on this because I find it so interesting. I think part of that for me, that feeling for me is faith and like the universe figuring it out, which some people will think it's very woo wo, but that's how I feel. And I read about this lady and she was called the competition Queen, I want to say, and it was basically it's a woman that came up with this formula of entering competitions and winning it and it was through visualizing, really believing in what was going to happen. And she won everything she'd entered, including a house, and she wrote a book and it's the same as sort of the secret that you know we all heard about back in you know, the two thousands. But I think that you can manifest stuff for yourself. Now we're off subject. We need to do a whole manifesting episode.

Yeah, and what that even means, because there's a way to do it.

Yeah, and what that even means, because there's a way to do it.

Yeah, No, she has a specific way of doing it. It's very interesting. Okay, so we threw it out to the crew.

Yeah, No, she has a specific way of doing it. It's very interesting. Okay, so we threw it out to the crew.

We did. Oh, I just want to say this one other piece, which is when I think about the times that I have made mistakes with my kids, Like I've actually named a couple of them on the show at different episodes. But when I've just gotten it wrong right, I've yelled at the wrong kid, or I've been in my own personal crisis and taken it out on someone, or my patience just wasn't where I wanted it to be. I have said it before and I'll say it again. I'm a huge fan of the redo. It's not even the reset, it's a redo, it's the you know what, I really got that wrong? I yelled at you, or I blamed you, or I wasn't even listening to you, and I got it wrong, and I think that people often do get it wrong because that's life, and then they think that's it right as parents, like I completely fucked up my kid, the moment of be yelling is going to live in perpetuity in their mind and it's going to shame them and they're going to have issues around whatever that issue was for the rest of their life. And I think that that's crap. I think that's total bullshit. I think you can go back, and it's hard because it's not fun to have a reckoning with your own wrongness, But I think you really can go back and be like, I messed it up, And if I could do it over again, I would ask this, I would have said this and have that moment, because I do think that that's the key to you know, fostering and developing young people who can communicate efficiently and talk.

We did. Oh, I just want to say this one other piece, which is when I think about the times that I have made mistakes with my kids, Like I've actually named a couple of them on the show at different episodes. But when I've just gotten it wrong right, I've yelled at the wrong kid, or I've been in my own personal crisis and taken it out on someone, or my patience just wasn't where I wanted it to be. I have said it before and I'll say it again. I'm a huge fan of the redo. It's not even the reset, it's a redo, it's the you know what, I really got that wrong? I yelled at you, or I blamed you, or I wasn't even listening to you, and I got it wrong, and I think that people often do get it wrong because that's life, and then they think that's it right as parents, like I completely fucked up my kid, the moment of be yelling is going to live in perpetuity in their mind and it's going to shame them and they're going to have issues around whatever that issue was for the rest of their life. And I think that that's crap. I think that's total bullshit. I think you can go back, and it's hard because it's not fun to have a reckoning with your own wrongness, But I think you really can go back and be like, I messed it up, And if I could do it over again, I would ask this, I would have said this and have that moment, because I do think that that's the key to you know, fostering and developing young people who can communicate efficiently and talk.

And I had this moment actually about three days ago. We'd evacuated. We were out, and my kids have been stuck. You know, we only had one day of school here in Los Angeles and there everything's shut down. So my kids have been together NonStop, right and at this point they want to kill each other. There's no doubt right. They're arguing over everything. We were in the car driving and I was exhausted and all the things, and they were arguing. They'd found this little squidgy toy that had like dog hair on it at the bottom of their seat in the car, and they decided that that was the most important thing they'd ever seen in their lives and it definitely belonged to them, right, And so this argument ensued, and they've been arguing over every single toy that's mine, now, that's your. You gave it to me, you promised me that. And I just lost it, Like I flawn yelled and I was yell. I couldn't stop. There was not the decibel was at like explosive right hours I and it lasted. The yelling lasted a good three full minutes, like I couldn't stop, and they were stunned. And I was like, then that's what you get kind of thing, you know. Not that I was, but that was the vibe. And I came. I came back to where we were staying and I said to Matt, like, I feel so guilty because they're in it's like a pressure cooker here and it's just of course these arguments are.

And I had this moment actually about three days ago. We'd evacuated. We were out, and my kids have been stuck. You know, we only had one day of school here in Los Angeles and there everything's shut down. So my kids have been together NonStop, right and at this point they want to kill each other. There's no doubt right. They're arguing over everything. We were in the car driving and I was exhausted and all the things, and they were arguing. They'd found this little squidgy toy that had like dog hair on it at the bottom of their seat in the car, and they decided that that was the most important thing they'd ever seen in their lives and it definitely belonged to them, right, And so this argument ensued, and they've been arguing over every single toy that's mine, now, that's your. You gave it to me, you promised me that. And I just lost it, Like I flawn yelled and I was yell. I couldn't stop. There was not the decibel was at like explosive right hours I and it lasted. The yelling lasted a good three full minutes, like I couldn't stop, and they were stunned. And I was like, then that's what you get kind of thing, you know. Not that I was, but that was the vibe. And I came. I came back to where we were staying and I said to Matt, like, I feel so guilty because they're in it's like a pressure cooker here and it's just of course these arguments are.

Going to happen.

Going to happen.

We're all tired, we're all we've on top of each other. And so I bought the kids back in and into the room and I said, you know, I'm really sorry, I'm really stressed out, and I'm really sorry to that I had. I had to redo. And it looks at me. She's so cude. She's like, mom, I get it. Yeah, little seven year old. Just like again, they do.

We're all tired, we're all we've on top of each other. And so I bought the kids back in and into the room and I said, you know, I'm really sorry, I'm really stressed out, and I'm really sorry to that I had. I had to redo. And it looks at me. She's so cude. She's like, mom, I get it. Yeah, little seven year old. Just like again, they do.

And hopefully given that you are her you know, truest north and her role model, and I know how much she loves you. You you gave her permission in a future moment that she doesn't even know yet to know that saying that you were wrong is yeah, the right thing to do. Yeah, I just revisit it, and I think that it's really people don't say they're wrong. People have a really hard time with saying that they're wrong, that they got it wrong, or that they need help. It's hard.

And hopefully given that you are her you know, truest north and her role model, and I know how much she loves you. You you gave her permission in a future moment that she doesn't even know yet to know that saying that you were wrong is yeah, the right thing to do. Yeah, I just revisit it, and I think that it's really people don't say they're wrong. People have a really hard time with saying that they're wrong, that they got it wrong, or that they need help. It's hard.

I actually it is hard. I in my twenties I really had a hard time saying I was wrong. For sure. I have learned that it's such a release, honestly, to admit fault. I think that it like really takes the pressure off to be able to say, like own the stories feels good. It really feels good to be like, I'm sorry that. I don't know why I said that, as opposed to like standing your ground in it when you're when you've reached the point of like you're starting a question. You know, back in the day, when I was like arguing with the boyfriend, it didn't whatever that was that I had said. I was like, now you've got to stick, you know, you've gotta.

I actually it is hard. I in my twenties I really had a hard time saying I was wrong. For sure. I have learned that it's such a release, honestly, to admit fault. I think that it like really takes the pressure off to be able to say, like own the stories feels good. It really feels good to be like, I'm sorry that. I don't know why I said that, as opposed to like standing your ground in it when you're when you've reached the point of like you're starting a question. You know, back in the day, when I was like arguing with the boyfriend, it didn't whatever that was that I had said. I was like, now you've got to stick, you know, you've gotta.

Oh, it's the hell you'll die on. You're not abandoning your That's what I'm saying.

Oh, it's the hell you'll die on. You're not abandoning your That's what I'm saying.

You're not abandoning No, no, no, even when they've shown you the actual proof that you're wrong, You're like.

You're not abandoning No, no, no, even when they've shown you the actual proof that you're wrong, You're like.

That, no, no, no. And I love debate. I'll go, I'll go, I'll go all day every day.

That, no, no, no. And I love debate. I'll go, I'll go, I'll go all day every day.

Let's go another hill, another one.

Let's go another hill, another one.

Okay, right, so now back to where our crew. Let us know what really annoys them about your parents.

Okay, right, so now back to where our crew. Let us know what really annoys them about your parents.

We asked the tweens, the teens, and the adolescents of the Call It crew, and here is what they had to say.

We asked the tweens, the teens, and the adolescents of the Call It crew, and here is what they had to say.

Clara said, my parents annoy me so much when they'd either tell me that I'm out too much or when I stay home that I stay in too much. So what exactly am I supposed to do here? Oh, Clara, I need more specifics? Yeah, where are you going? And then what are you doing when you're home? Because if you're like looking off and like playing video games and like, you know, acting with a general sloth when you're home, then they're there. They might be right to get you.

Clara said, my parents annoy me so much when they'd either tell me that I'm out too much or when I stay home that I stay in too much. So what exactly am I supposed to do here? Oh, Clara, I need more specifics? Yeah, where are you going? And then what are you doing when you're home? Because if you're like looking off and like playing video games and like, you know, acting with a general sloth when you're home, then they're there. They might be right to get you.

I love a sloth, though I know you do.

I love a sloth, though I know you do.

You're much more slothy than me.

You're much more slothy than me.

I'm way more slothy. Okay, I never heard the.

I'm way more slothy. Okay, I never heard the.

Term couch rot before.

Term couch rot before.

Yeah, bedrot, couch rot. Yeah, it's in baby. Thank god, I'm finally on trend.

Yeah, bedrot, couch rot. Yeah, it's in baby. Thank god, I'm finally on trend.

Oh my god. Okay, tell me what Kyla said.

Oh my god. Okay, tell me what Kyla said.

Kyla said, my mother will ask me what I'm doing, and I will say I'm sitting down relaxing, and she will reply, well, I was too funny. Poor woman must have sore legs and feet. I gotta say this was my dad. My dad is someone that if I was sitting on the couch, I would feel very guilty. He would vacuum right by my feet around the toes, you know, just to make sure I knew that he was up and doing something that I could have also been doing. That's why I love. That's why when I have my own place now, I love it. I can see the couch now. I was going to vacuum my toes.

Kyla said, my mother will ask me what I'm doing, and I will say I'm sitting down relaxing, and she will reply, well, I was too funny. Poor woman must have sore legs and feet. I gotta say this was my dad. My dad is someone that if I was sitting on the couch, I would feel very guilty. He would vacuum right by my feet around the toes, you know, just to make sure I knew that he was up and doing something that I could have also been doing. That's why I love. That's why when I have my own place now, I love it. I can see the couch now. I was going to vacuum my toes.

I know my family is very much that way too. It was like that. I remember there was at one point it was like, if you're if you're if you're leaning, you should be cleaning. If you're if you've got time to lean, you've got time to clean. I just want to lean. I want to lean. Wow, Laura says. Whenever my parents get upset about small things in restaurants, like not enough ketchup or something similar, they call the waiter and complain and argue. I know they're right because they paid for the dish, but I feel ashamed when they argue in front of everyone because I would have let it go. And in those moments, I want the earth to swallow me up.

I know my family is very much that way too. It was like that. I remember there was at one point it was like, if you're if you're if you're leaning, you should be cleaning. If you're if you've got time to lean, you've got time to clean. I just want to lean. I want to lean. Wow, Laura says. Whenever my parents get upset about small things in restaurants, like not enough ketchup or something similar, they call the waiter and complain and argue. I know they're right because they paid for the dish, but I feel ashamed when they argue in front of everyone because I would have let it go. And in those moments, I want the earth to swallow me up.

I'm with you, Laura, and Laura, I'm with you, and I have this parent. My dad is a oh yeah, he's a ketchup complainer, oh big time. In fact, he'll look and it's this is a real story. He came to the restaurant that I was waiting tables at, and I waited on him, and he complained to my manager about me. That's a true story. Well that's real and lud oh yeah, and it is embarrassing. It's definitely embarrassing and they need to chill out, do you know what I mean. We're not even at a fancy restaurant, you know what I mean, Like, we're you know, Chili's. And he's like, well, yeah.

I'm with you, Laura, and Laura, I'm with you, and I have this parent. My dad is a oh yeah, he's a ketchup complainer, oh big time. In fact, he'll look and it's this is a real story. He came to the restaurant that I was waiting tables at, and I waited on him, and he complained to my manager about me. That's a true story. Well that's real and lud oh yeah, and it is embarrassing. It's definitely embarrassing and they need to chill out, do you know what I mean. We're not even at a fancy restaurant, you know what I mean, Like, we're you know, Chili's. And he's like, well, yeah.

Also, I really do believe that people who complain at restaurants never worked in restaurants. It's why I feel that all my kids need to be in food service at some point, because it teaches you how to treat people who are there to be of service. And by the way, this isn't to say that I haven't had shitty waiters and waitresses.

Also, I really do believe that people who complain at restaurants never worked in restaurants. It's why I feel that all my kids need to be in food service at some point, because it teaches you how to treat people who are there to be of service. And by the way, this isn't to say that I haven't had shitty waiters and waitresses.

I have and I have.

I have and I have.

You know, I mean whatever, I think that there's ways you can get back.

You know, I mean whatever, I think that there's ways you can get back.

It's not about like, it's not about you know, your food's cold and you got to send it back. It's just there's My dad does it in a way where he feels as soon as he sits down in that seat, he give you it chuck e cheese, and he feels entitled right like the world is serving him.

It's not about like, it's not about you know, your food's cold and you got to send it back. It's just there's My dad does it in a way where he feels as soon as he sits down in that seat, he give you it chuck e cheese, and he feels entitled right like the world is serving him.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Oh mart, oh god, okay, the mart Okay, Destiny said, being overbearing. I'm twenty two and I haven't lived with my mom since I was nineteen. We're trying to have a relationship again because I just want a mom and she just is so narcissistic and overbearing. I don't know how to have a normal relationship with her when she can't see her own faults. It's hot. This is like the sorry part really right.