This week’s episode is a little different. We’re pulling back the curtain on one of our BJDW Community Masterclasses, the kind of deep, beautiful, heart-level conversations we host each month with special guests to encourage our community gals on the journey to freedom.

We’re joined by Sharon Hodde Miller, author of Free of Me and Gazing at God, to unpack the root of insecurity, and why we often feel insecure when we’re standing on something shaky.

Sharon shares how our culture has taught us to treat insecurity by focusing more on ourselves… when the real freedom comes from shifting our gaze to God. She talks about why self-focus is exhausting, what true biblical self-denial looks like (hint: it’s not self-rejection), and how to spot when we’ve made something about us that was never meant to be.

If you’ve ever found yourself striving for validation, wrestling with comparison, or feeling “not enough” in your faith, parenting, or purpose, this conversation is going to offer you so much encouragement!. 🙌

💡What You’ll Learn in This Episode
Why you sometimes feel insecure because you’re standing on something insecure
The two causes of insecurity and why self-focus is often the hidden one
What the Bible really says when people bring their insecurities to God
The difference between self-denial and self-rejection (and why it matters)
How “self-focus” often masks pain or unhealed wounds
What to do when insecurity or comparison starts spiraling
How to gently re-center your gaze on God instead of yourself


💌 Links & Resources:

Join The January 2026 40-Day Alcohol Fast! 

https://butjesusdrankwine.myflodesk.com/januaryfast

Books by Sharon Hodde Miller:

Free of Me: Why Life Is Better When It’s Not About YouGazing at God: Discovering the Freedom of a God-Centered Life

Sharon’s First Podcast With Us: Free of Me: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/but-jesus-drank-wine-other-stories-that-kept-us-stuck/id1661252590?i=1000651035959

🤝 Join our community:https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community 

📖 Order your copy of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind  https://amzn.to/42l7z9C 

📲 Connect on Instagram:@butjesusdrankwine

🎥 Watch on YouTube: Come hang out with us HERE !

The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.

This week&rsquo;s episode is a little different. We&rsquo;re pulling back the curtain on one of our BJDW Community Masterclasses, the kind of deep, beautiful, heart-level conversations we host each month with special guests to encourage our community gals on the journey to freedom.
We&rsquo;re joined by Sharon Hodde Miller, author of Free of Me and Gazing at God, to unpack the root of insecurity, and why we often feel insecure when we&rsquo;re standing on something shaky.
Sharon shares how our culture has taught us to treat insecurity by focusing more on ourselves&hellip; when the real freedom comes from shifting our gaze to God. She talks about why self-focus is exhausting, what true biblical self-denial looks like (hint: it&rsquo;s not self-rejection), and how to spot when we&rsquo;ve made something about us that was never meant to be.
If you&rsquo;ve ever found yourself striving for validation, wrestling with comparison, or feeling &ldquo;not enough&rdquo; in your faith, parenting, or purpose, this conversation is going to offer you so much encouragement!. 🙌
💡What You&rsquo;ll Learn in This Episode
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why you sometimes feel insecure because you&rsquo;re standing on something insecure</li>
<li aria-level="1">The two causes of insecurity and why self-focus is often the hidden one</li>
<li aria-level="1">What the Bible really says when people bring their insecurities to God</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between self-denial and self-rejection (and why it matters)</li>
<li aria-level="1">How &ldquo;self-focus&rdquo; often masks pain or unhealed wounds</li>
<li aria-level="1">What to do when insecurity or comparison starts spiraling</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to gently re-center your gaze on God instead of yourself</li>
</ul>
 💌 Links &amp; Resources:
Join The January 2026 40-Day Alcohol Fast!&nbsp;
<a href="http://butjesusdrankwine.myflodesk.com/januaryfast">https://butjesusdrankwine.myflodesk.com/januaryfast</a>
Books by Sharon Hodde Miller:
<a href="https://amzn.to/47ZzjDF">Free of Me: Why Life Is Better When It&rsquo;s Not About You</a><a href="https://amzn.to/43rGy60">Gazing at God: Discovering the Freedom of a God-Centered Life</a>
Sharon&rsquo;s First Podcast With Us: Free of Me: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/but-jesus-drank-wine-other-stories-that-kept-us-stuck/id1661252590?i=1000651035959">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/but-jesus-drank-wine-other-stories-that-kept-us-stuck/id1661252590?i=1000651035959</a>
🤝 Join our community: <a href="https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community">https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community</a>&nbsp;
📖 Order your copy of <a href="https://amzn.to/42l7z9C">Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind</a>&nbsp; <a href="https://amzn.to/42l7z9C">https://amzn.to/42l7z9C</a>&nbsp;
📲 Connect on Instagram: <a href="https://instagram.com/butjesusdrankwine">@butjesusdrankwine</a>
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Come hang out with us <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZrjJZX8540dsaAULtVbM0w">HERE</a> !
The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.

Join Meade and Christy, two retired-over-drinkers turned freedom-from-alcohol coaches, as they explore all of the stories that kept them stuck in the nightly over-drinking cycle, including but certainly not limited to "But Jesus drank wine?" If you're looking for two Christian women who get real about how wine held them back and explore tricky questions about drinking (and beyond!) with grace, compassion, and zero judgment, this is the podcast for you.

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Join Meade and Christy, two retired-over-drinkers turned freedom-from-alcohol coaches, as they explore all of the stories that kept them stuck in the nightly over-drinking cycle, including but certainly not limited to "But Jesus drank wine?" If you're looking for two Christian women who get real about how wine held them back and explore tricky questions about drinking (and beyond!) with grace, compassion, and zero judgment, this is the podcast for you.
Want more? Join <a href="https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community">The BJDW Community</a>! We hold space for sober and sober curious women who love Jesus or are eager to reconnect with him.

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