Second Date Update: You, Me & Apathy

Published Mar 25, 2024, 3:08 PM

We conducted a mini-experiment with Brooke in today’s new Second Date and it helped us get into the unusual mindset of one of our listeners to try and find him a match!

Second date update. We're going to do a fun little experiment here that's exciting. Before you got together with your husband, mikeel, think about the last couple guys before him that you dated. I need you to rate them based on their attractiveness. Just simply one to ten.

The last two, Oh, they're both well, no, okay, one of us.

They're changing in your head.

I'd give one of them an eight, and then i'd give one of the other ones when he showered five.

Unshowered, I.

Had really greasy hair.

Now, a recent study says if you average out the numbers of your exes, that is what society deems your number is, so Brooke, you would be a solid five.

Wow. I don't actually argue that.

Yeah, okay, I didn't think you would. It's like you are what you eat, you are who you've dated. And one of our listeners may be dealing with a numbers crisis in his dating life. His name and I apologize if I pronounced this wrong. Is it Thom t h O M.

Yeah, there's an h.

Hey guys, So, according to your email, it says that before the date, you considered yourself to be a six, but afterwards you consider yourself a four. Now, why why do you feel that way? Did you fall face down on an escalator? What's going on?

No? No, I mean when I went out with her, I thought she was a six easily, but she's like not calling me back, So now I'm thinking I'm a four.

You know you you can't lock down a six? Then?

Yeah?

What is that?

We just like put it out there that no woman, no matter where you actually think they stand, should ever be called anything but a seven or eight.

Well yeah, yeah, at least not to their face. But she's not on the phone right now, so we're what do you think you failed?

I have absolutely no idea. I mean, look, I didn't put in like a ton of effort.

Maybe that was It's one big clue there.

I don't know what her name is? Yeah, do you know what her name is? Do we put that much effort in?

Yeah?

Tory to is it Torri or is it Tory with an? It's just yeah, okay, where did you meet Tory?

Dating app? Which I normally it was. It was weird, Like I normally I kind of aim higher, I'm going after seven to eight? Hear, No, you gotta wait listen. I mean that was the thing I've been like kind of going after these sort of I guess aesthetically more beautiful women, but it wasn't really working. So I was kind of like, well, you know, I'll go out with this girl. It's probably six.

I feel you do you always think of people on this rating scale?

No?

I mean, okay, all men think that way. Surprise flash. We think beautiful women are beautiful.

Different. That's different than rating every single person. You mean, okay, so here's my question.

Women do this. I know women rate guys.

I don't rate people in my head, like, yes, I find them attractive or not attractive, for sure, but I don't play.

Was one of your boyfriends was the only one? You don't rate people? Okay? I guess you.

Can.

I just ask them a question, go ahead.

I'm curious because it doesn't sound like you are attracted to this woman, and it doesn't sound like you're interested. Why are you calling us to getting in.

Touch with her?

I mean it's not as if I wasn't unattracted to her. I mean we were definitely getting along.

I guess people you keep a he's being rejected and he hates.

It, you know what I mean?

Like, it's what you can't have things.

That's true.

I don't know. I mean, look, we just went to like a dive bar. It wasn't like we did some big fancy dinner. I wasn't exactly willing to spend a lot of money on it. But I don't know.

If she was a seven or eight, then you would have gone the extra mile and like paid it.

I probably would have.

Okay, I think that's for you.

Were you nice to her when you were on the.

Day, I'm being serious.

Did you compliment her a little bit?

I mean, if we hung out and we laughed every once in a while, it was kind of cool. The one thing that was kind.

Of strange, I guess after.

We had been drinking a little bit, like went to the bathroom and I came back and I was going to give her like a surprise hug, but she was she was sitting down on a bar stool, and I kind of like gave her a hug from behind, and it was almost like I got her in like a little headlog.

You're standing up and she's sitting, So, yeah, isn't right really put her in a hand?

No, my husband's height. It's like whenever he hugs me from behind, it is literally like a chokehold.

And I hate it. I hate it so much. Did you let go? After thirty seconds? Consciousness? Literally false sleep?

I gave her like a little nuggie, you know, kind of thing.

Like are you joking? No, that's a joke.

No, it was just like stupid quick thing.

That's a little friend. Okay.

I would never call a man. I don't care if he was a twenty on what other scale you're working on.

And gave me a noogie. Okay, but you're a brook, You're a five. You don't get to choose like that. We're talking about it.

I went what was her response to the new gie?

Yeah, look, she seems startled at first, but we had been drinking, so it kind of she just brushed it off and we just got back to talking.

Okay.

I'm sure when she realized it was you, everything.

Was okay, and her mood didn't change, like shouldn't become more icy or cold towards you?

And now, to be honest, I didn't really notice because I was sort of like not as interested anymore. I suld have lost the desire to taken any further.

I was like, eh, whatever, am trying to be a jerk right now.

No, Look, I mean I'm being honest with you. That's totally how it was. On the date, I was just like not into it. But then when I got home, it was like I realized, out of all the dates I've been on and all the dates that I don't like, I kind of liked her the most was that she.

Was the best of the worst, right right, Okay, Okay, I'm really concerned with myself that I followed that.

Position that some of us have been in many many times. So, okay, how long has it been since your date with Toy?

Then it's been a week, Okay.

Have you tried to put any effort in since it doesn't sound like you put any in it initially?

Yeah. I mean, look, I waited about four days. Then I called once. I didn't leave a message or anything. I just hung up, and then I texted her after that.

Wow, okay, And they say dead Well, some people might think they're coming on a little bit strong. Let it ring once, broing. But we'll see how Tory feels because we're going to come back. We'll call her directly.

I'm actually really excited to hear her opinion of this situation and maybe.

We'll maybe we'll have her rate you see if you.

Guys strongbody, and then we'll rate everybody in this room.

We're gonna come back and not healthy. It's a rape fast when we come back for your second date update.

Right after this second date update, we've got an interesting situation on our hands here with one of our listeners Thumb spelled like Tom but with an h in there, and to a few of us on the show, it sounds like he only wants another date with this woman Tory because he's kind of bored or.

He's being rejected and hates that. I can't decide which He doesn't.

Seem that into her, at least according to some people in this.

Room, according to him.

To me, he said that, well, I don't know how he feels personally. It sounds like he is passionately in love that's trying to play at koils.

He told us that he was being honest like eight times, so.

I don't know that's what a koy person would say. That tricked me to true because there really weren't a lot of highlights to cover from their dive bar hangout, except for when he tried to hug her from behind and accidentally put her into a mini headlock. That's a huge highlight. I mean I'm more a low light for her. It's kind of playful flirtiness there. It's not well to some it could be almost like the I do kiss. It's very cute and romantic potential for it. Anyway, we're hoping to help cure Thomb of his you know, eternal bordness and get him another date with here Brooke. Is there anything disparaging you'd like to say to Thumb before we begin here?

I feel like I covered it all.

Anything left?

Yeah? What I want to ask Skim is if he is going to be embarrassed if he gets rejected on the radio.

No, honestly, not really. Okay, no pressure.

I mean she's already basically rejecting you as it is. Sure can't be rejected.

I don't know how you know how much else I can worry about that if it happens.

Okay, well usual, So you just don't care about that either, Okay, we're just full apathetic.

I can sense the passion in Tom's voice, Racer, Sorry, tom My bad? What if I'm just killing time with us right now?

He's like, Man, I'm kind of bored.

I'm just gonna call this maybe. Well, let's get it done. We'll see what she asked to say. I'm gonna dial her number right now.

You ready, you guys, are you asking me that?

Yes? Yeah, okay, never mind, let me just focus on Tori here.

Okay, so many emails and this is the one we chose to do.

I mean, Brook, we're not going to turn down the chance to interview a hard four on his dating life. Admit, So here we go. This is for Tho.

Let's call her.

Hello, Hi, we're looking to speak with Tory.

Yeah, this is her.

No, it is a dumb joke.

Tory, what's up? You're on the radio with Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

Hey, Torri, Hi, it's weird.

You know it's gonna get a lot weirder a second.

We don't know that for sure. We do want to try into your personal life, just the tiniest bit and ask you about a date that you went on the other day with a guy named thomb.

Oh.

You probably met a lot of thombs, so this one, uh, he was the one that took you to a dive bar.

Yeah thomb Okay, I remember him?

Okay, weird he's weird or it's weird that we're calling.

No, it's weird that you're it's weird that you're calling me.

Well, we're just trying to ask in general, how you felt about the date and how you felt about thomb himself.

I don't know, he's okay, Okay, fine, Okay.

You're going to ask you alexis on a scale.

Let's not let's not go to that's just weird.

Okay.

I don't want to hear that it's weird.

Yeah, I see.

What you want to ask, Like, we want to get a sense of how you really feel about Thom. Is there like a chance that there might be another meetup? Maybe?

I mean, I guess he did like text me. I just I never texted him back. Like it was a fine day. I mean, I didn't really seem like he wanted to be there, but like I didn't really want to be there either, So.

Okay, why didn't you want.

To be there? I mean, it wasn't like a bad date, It just wasn't a great day. I don't know. I guess I've been like going back and forth on how I feel about him. Okay, Like part of me is like I can probably do better. Then there's another part of me that's like, is it even worth trying to find somebody else? You know, like, don't settle.

Don't settle for bro is our listener. He's asked us for help. I don't want him to settle either. He also, I just you didn't say that to him? Okay, to her Tory.

Is there any highlights or low lights, any moments from the date that really stand out to you?

I mean not not really, like I haven't even really thought about him.

What do you mean you haven't thought about him?

I don't know, just like you know, you have an experience, it's like eh, and then you just kind of like go about your life and don't give it much attention.

Maybe no highlights is a highlight? Like that's actually in itself that's interesting.

I mean, wait, are you guys asking me.

That the similarities are actually pretty striking? I know that's confusing me.

I seem like.

I can't wait to see the fireworks that explode out of a comp when we tell you, toy that thumb is actually on the other line right now listening to this conversation. Oh yeah, and he wants he wants to jump in and talk to you.

Huh hey, yeah, that stuff.

So we're just going to back away and let you two love birds talk this out.

Go ahead, Madic Sorry, I mean, I I don't want to like hurt your feelings. I'm just being honest, Like, I don't know, I just didn't feel like it was that special. Really, no offense to you, like you're a nice guy.

I mean, look, no offense taken. I agree, it was. It was fine. It's not like we we didn't hate each other, you know.

Yeah, no, I don't know. I mean I guess, like I said, I'm like going back and forth. Part of me is like, yeah, why not? It was like fine, And then the other part of me is just like he's not even on my mind at all that we even went out, you know.

Is this where dating's at?

Is this what's happening here?

Yeah? I mean, look, I appreciate the honesty, and I'll be honest with you. I mean I kind of only thought about you when this radio show came on. They sort of asked me if I wanted to do the second date call.

So I mean that's fair, that's totally fair. Like I think back on their days, there's nothing like special about our date, you know, like I get it weird, Like that's what I kind of liked about it, Like the lack of interest, like there was no drama and like that's kind of not bad.

That was actually the most positive thing that I've heard any of them.

Say, the most romantic things I've spoken on the show.

Are you guys attracted to each other?

I thought, very long, thought, I think you guys are actually perfect for each other. You're madly in love and you just don't care enough yet the bar is set so so low for both of you, not even that this might actually work.

Yeah, I think there is a bar. I think the bar is left.

Well, let's find out for sure, because Toy, we love to offer you another date with Thom, and we would pay for that date if you're willing to see him one more time.

I mean, I guess, like the dating apps are just so bad right now, Like I don't know if you guys are on there, but there's just like herves and weirdos and like I had like a group of three things they wanted to add a fourth one time. It's just like rocks out there. So I guess, yeah, like why not it doesn't like her to do another one.

All right, well, Tom, well, hold on, Brooke, he may have changed his mind. Let's ask him, Tom, are you still up for this?

I mean, I think it's great. I mean I'll take a pre date, all right.

I'll take And why not? How much worse can it gets?

Sure?

What the heck?

Well, congratulate I don't even want to congratulate you. It doesn't feel like it deserves a congratulations. It's like I have.

Never been so depressed at the end of a second date.

Now it's officially my favorite second date we've ever done. Now that book's depressed, good works, You're going out one more time?

Good luck?

Are we done.

Woking Jeffrey in the morning? Why do I feel like this is gonna be one of our highest rated second date calls of all time? Tory and Thomb.

I'm gonna go with that. I don't agree with you.

Are you in twenty years? Yeah? I feel like we're all going to look back in this moment and say, Wow, Tory and Thomb were couple's goals. I mean, forget Zendaya and Tom Holland and Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively given me Thomb and Tory for the relationship. They clicked so hard that you realize yeah.

Yeah, sure.

If that's what you want to believe in, is this type of love, then.

I don't be jealous because you'll never feel the type of love that was exploding between them. You know what they say. Sometimes fireworks are silent.

Oh my god, I can't wait until there's a marriage proposal. It's like, so, I don't know. I was thinking, like, if you wanted to, yeah, sure, that's fine, and she's like.

Who are you again? Remember if you ever want to get a second date up, they can always email the show. We'll call that person who isn't calling you back, even if.

You don't really want one, yes, kind of maybe one.

Just bor will help you out. It's broken Jeffrey in the Morning.

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