Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date UpdateOne of our listeners failed miserably when trying to come up with an excuse for WHY he missed his date… You’re gonna want to hear it and why TELLING THE TRUTH wasn’t an option.. in your Second Date podcast!
Second d women when you started, like, women are always saying that they want a stand up guy, and then a man gives them exactly that stands them up, and suddenly, what is it, ladies? You want a stand up guy? Or don't you not a stand me up guy? You clearly don't know what you want. That's why Nick stood his date up, and now suddenly she's been all weird about it. He just can't win, can we? Man? Apparently not? Yeah? Right, you're calling because you feel bad, right, Nicko? Yeah, I think you hit the nail on the head, Like I gooped on this one. Bro? Why did you stand her off? Okay, well yeah we'll get to why. First tell us about this needy lady? Who is she? God? She just wants someone to actually be there when she has a date and attention to her. She didn't even say that. Yeah, yeah, just show up. I think was the what's her name? Sally? Sally on the Valley? And how did you meet? We met on on an app? Like how do people meet otherwise? These days? I mean, every once in a while it's like Instagram. Yeah yeah no, but even when you meet you're like, okay, now talk to me on Instagram? Yeah, what do you like about Sally? Well, I don't mean this in a shallow way, but like, there was this picture she had of her in a red dress, and there's something about a girl in a red dress and the way that Sally looked at it. I was like, I need to talk to this girl. I don't think that's shallow. I mean that's how it's all done, right, especially when you only have a picture really to go on. It's nicer than I expected. Yeah, so I thought he was going to say boobs. Yeah he did, but those were inside of the dress. So much. From reading your email, Nick, it sounds like you went on one day, but you stood her up on date two. Oh my gosh, Nick, Well what happened on date one? Well, the one was pretty cool because we went to like an old school rap concert. I thought it was a good choice to be fun, so I thought we had a great time. We actually kissed while we were dancing. It went really, it went really, well, you had a great time the first date, obviously, she thought so too. What did you plan for the second? Well, a more traditional date. I thought, okay, well, hey, let's let's get a place where we could talk more. Let's do an improper date. That was her idea. Huh, I thought, okay, sure, but a gentleman, you want to talk to her. That's nice. So you guys were going to meet at the restaurant. Yeah, we were going to meet at the restaurant. And then I fully admit this was my faults up. What happened. So I had to go by my ex's house and I had to pick up the cable box because I had to turn in the cable box because we're no longer or you know, together in that way. Okay, Yeah, and I end up spending a little more time there than expected. It sounds like you were hooking up with your ex. Truth be told, we did hook up. It it was kind of like a farewell, we're not getting back together, but literally you're on the way to meet Sally. Yeah, you couldn't have done it the night before? Yeah, for you, I don't want to say. I'm just being honest about it. Brook. Does it really matter if it happened the night before? Does that make a difference to you? Okay, so what didn't What are your appropriate time period, like an hour before the date would have been okay, Yeah, I mean, just so he can be clean and not be thinking of the last person he was whatever went though he never met up with. Yeah, it sounds like he never even met her, so he did her a favor by not showing up. Okay, that's a gentleman moves, very gentleman. Did we hear the excuse that he used? Like, what did you say? Would you say to Sally? Oh? Yeah, oh I I couldn't think of something, and I told her that I took a nap and my arm I'm still asleep and I wasn't comfortable driving because my arms were so kind of asleep, so I laid on them, said took a nap. I was like, that's not bad there, No, no, because they're not be awake and I'd have to go away. You didn't want to go at that point? I see, I didn't get that because what you say felt dirty with classic coma arms. I think that was a solid choice. And what did she reply? I mean she's already sitting at the restaurant at that point. Yeah she didn't. Yeah, that's obvious. You're made down. That's so rude that she didn't respond back to you. Rude. Oh geez man, Okay, so you got what you had coming to you, which is getting ghosted, and now you want us to salvage it. I'm guessing, Okay, Well Brook, Yeah, it was always say, hey, the best way to just be honest about it? Yeah, Like, well I got to lose at this point, don't You're happy? Brook? It is true, Brook does. Brook does say if you have to be one hundred sent honest with whoever you're dying, She doesn't need this information. This isn't going to make you feel better. Look, I like her, and I want to continue this, and I think it's better to have, like to start out with honesty. I hopefully shall respect that, and but like I'm leaning that way, but I'm open to suggestion. If you guys think there's a better tred Brook is the one that's going to guide you. I mean, I you know, I was like hooking back up with my ex when I met my husband all the truth comes out. I mean, he knew that my X was coming into town at one point. I mean he knew, but then like the X came and I was like, ah, he sucks. I really like this other guy better. Brook. We've been doing the show for a really long time and I did not know that there was overlap with your husband and your as. I mean, we weren't together like on the other side, Michael, are you listen to this. He was coming out of a relationship too. You know, things are messy and go together and got married. No one person cheated. Okay, well, we'll be back with Brooks stories and also getting a second date update for Nick right after this. Hold on, Nick, second, we just heard an admission of guilt, not from brook I mean, yeah, we did hear about some weird stuff going on there. I was talking about from our listener, Nick, who says he wants to come clean about the real reason that he didn't show up to a second date with Sally. And look, I don't feel comfortable saying this, Like, even if you want it to happen, Nick, that's gonna be your choice and it has to come from you and your mouth. I agree, because we were joking a lot. So you should probably think really hard if this is honestly the best way to go about it, because I know you're telling us you think honesty is important, But for you to admit that you blew off Sally that night to hook up with your ex one final time, you know that sounds bad, right, Yeah, yeah, yeah, I do. Okay, I don't know. You just say I was spending time with my axes. So that sounds like you're trying to get back together. But I think that's what the whole relationship will be like. I mean, I think you just try to leave that part out as much as possible. Move forward, talk about what you want to happen, not what happened. I mean, we never know how these calls are going to go before you make them, so Nick, you have to pick the right time if you want to do it. But I'm not going to say it. No one in this room is going to say it has to come from you. Oh yeah, I totally agree that. Yeah, yeah, I'll slay it by her. I'll see how the conversation goes. Just don't play it by your r and cs. We can't count on those. I couldn't drive. All right, man, we're wishing you luck. I'm wishing myself luck. We're gonna make this call right now here we go. Hello, Hey, is it Sally? Yeah? What's up, Sally? My name is jeff from the radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. How you doing. Oh, I'm good. Okay, what's up? Hi, Sally, whole show is here. We all want to talk to you about a guy that you went on a date with the other night. Well, you went on, you went on one day with him, and then not another date with him. His name's Nick. Yeah. Oh it doesn't sound like a surprise to you at all. Um, I'm surprised that you guys are calling me about him. He should know I'm not responding to him, and I'm definitely yeah. Now, well, I think he understands that. He admits that he messed up by not showing up that night to dinner. Okay, good for him. Yeah, I mean i'd be angry too. Were you already at the restaurant when he texted you that he wasn't gonna make it? Yeah, I was already sitting there. First of all, he didn't even call. He texted first problem right there? Yeah, oh, you're already late. You texted me after the fact that you're already late, sitting looking at this restaurant looking like an idiot, and then you text me this ridiculous he has excused about your arms falling asleep and you're not being able to drive. Yeah, like that was pretty lame. I'd be super too. I will say that does happen to me all the time. Arms dead and you can't you can't drive. But that doesn't mean that Nick feels good about that. He still is very, very very regretful of how that night played out. So did he tell you that that was a truth thing, or like, was that a lie? Because that's an unbelievable story. Well, I don't know what the truth is. Only Nick knows what the truth of that night is. We're just trying to help him get back in touch with you. He did, I mean, he said he was an idiot for messing up the second date with you, and that he had a great time when you guys went to the concert the first day, and I think he really saw potential of you two together. I mean, that's why it's even more annoying because we did have such a great time. We even showed a kiss, like I did want to see him again. So I'm open to hearing what he has to say. But I'm pretty disay rotated, right, that's unstable. We get that, yeah, And I mean you have to think about this. We understand how frustrating and disappointing it must have been from your end, but from Nicks end, Like in order for him to organize this second date update, it's a lot of work to email us, to have to talk to our producers and arrange a time to come on the show and reach out to you. It shows that he really does care about you. So I mean, you guys can have him reach out to me. That's fine, but I'm not giving him the guarantees to anything. Okay, Okay, Well what I can actually do you one better? And instead of having him reach out after, I'll have I'll have him reach out right now. His arms are feeling Okay, he is on the other line and he wants to talk to you. So he heard everything I just said. Yeah things, Yeah, I would have unless he fell asleep on his ears and they're not working. Wow. Um okay, Hi Sally, Hey, uh, I'm glad that we're talking. That's sweet. All right. Yeah, Well, what do you even want to say to me? What do you have to say for yourself? Well, one, I want to say, I'm I'm sorry that and that I know I goofed it up and like, yeah, I'm I'm the idiot here. So uh, this this one's on me. That's a big move. I like you, Sally. I think we had a great time, and I wouldn't keep pursuing this if it wasn't a genuine feeling I have for you. Okay, Nick, listen, just just stop for a second. Yes, tell me the truth. What really happened? Well, the good question? Um, there's a compliment. Um, I think she's talking about the dead arms thing. Yeah. Yeah, let's let's start there. Okay, my arms didn't fall asleep that day, so that text was not accurate. No, no, I met Sally's got such a shock face on the other line. The truth, I like, I want, I want to pursue this and be honest. And I was I was debating like telling you, but if if I do get to go out with you again, I don't want to be thinking about like what happened and how I goofed up. I want to just say it in honesty. Okay, Sally, can we agree to do that? If he tells you the truth, will you guarantee you go out on another date with him the truth? And you give him another date. I would listen to what he said and we'll go from there. Well, Nick, this is your moment to come clean. Now, I'm nervous. Um, Okay, what happened is I went to go pick up a cable box from my ex's place, and I inadvertently stayed there longer than I should have, and it was like things happened and it meant nothing, and it was like the very last time, and it didn't feel right going to dinner with you right after, and then I'm like, you don't have Sometimes you like when you make a mistake like that and you realize, like one, I wish it didn't do that. I really liked this other girl, Sally. All I can say is wow, Yeah, who does that? What do you mean? Like, who does the X hook up? He didn't say anything about hook up? Yeah you did and they hooked up. I'm not an idiot. Hello, Yes, I never heard those words. Yeah, okay, Jeff, you can stayed there longer and that you wanted said he did stuff you shouldn't have. He said stuff happened. What you think stuff is? She's not a moron. That's one thing to have a moment of weakness and hook up. That's fine. We weren't in no committed relationship. That's not the issue. Okay. The issue is you knew you were going on a date with me. If this would have happened on any other day whatever, But you knew you were going to come see me, and you still had the thought process to go and hook up with your ex. Yeah. Well no, I didn't go there to go hook up with her. I wanted to get a cable box. Yeah, and you went there and bring happening. And here's how I was thinking. And again, obviously bad move and my mistake. But like what I was thinking was like, oh, well, okay, I just hooked up with my ex. Now I'm going to go out to dinner with her. That seemed worse to me. You don't get kudos for that because you knew you were going on a date before she picked up. I mean, if it doesn't matter, I mean I can see her side too. Like, like we said, you should have picked up the cable box the night before. It would have made all the difference when you stop by your exes. You know, exactly, whenever anybody touches a cable box, the mood just as set. Is there anything he could do, Sally to like get in your good graces again, there's a million other idiots on those dating apps that I can talk to. I don't need to put up with this. Okay, All those are the million other idiots on the dating apps. All those million other idiots probably have exes with cable boxes too, and you're just going to end up right back here in the same situation. Nick actually has gone through this entire process. You know, he's fallen on his swore just for the chance to see you one more time. Good for him. Yeah, and let me say this, just because there's a possibility that I'm going to run into another idiot with a cable box an ex girlfriend, doesn't mean that I'm not going to continue to weave them out because I don't want to end up with someone like that. Why Sally needs to be a dating coach. Yeah that's good Sally. Yeah, it really didn't work out, No, yea, I was open. I wouldn't put it one hundred percent on you, Nick, I would put part of it on Brooke in her dumb, one hundred percent honesty theories. Not to tell all the details, Jeffrey, I didn't all the details. Yeah, let's actually get some of those details. What really happened Brook and Jeffrey in the morning
