Second dating. I think there's a time in everyone's life. Usually it's somewhere in your twenties where you're having a good time, you're care free, the possibilities are endless, and then all of a sudden, it happens your best friend gets engaged. Oh wait a second, the party's about to be over. Yeah, oh crap, I gotta find somebody. It's like dating musical chairs now, and if you don't move quickly, you're going to be left with just a spot on the floor. That type of anxiety saying you got to move fast. And that's kind of where one of our listeners, Mary Anne, found herself a few months back, and she said it changed the way that she thought about dating man. So, mary Anne, welcome to the show. Hey yeah, Mary yea, mary Anne, tell us about your dating life. What's going on. You know, it's been fine and normal and good. I've been trying though, to meet a guy for a while, right, okay, And your requirements are different now is kind of what Jeff is alluding to. You're looking for something more. Yeah, yeah, I'm looking for my soulmate now. Pressure. I mean, it was like, gosh, I guess the phase of life is here. It's like made this alarm go off inside me, you know, like what have I been doing? You know? Just turn around? And I can't be eagle by myself when everybody else is getting married. Don't feel peer pressure. I founding into peer pressure is a good thing always. So it is, okay, how have you tried to pursue a soulmate? Now? What strategy are you using? Most recently, I did speed dating whole school in person, like at a bar or something. Yeah. Yeah, well so this one was interesting because it was lego speed dating. Actually what does that mean? So what you do if you meet and there's like a place with a bunch of tables and then there are lego pieces on each table and they start that timer and you sit down and then the person across from you. You guys are talking, but you create something from the lego while you are talking. You don't have to have like uncomfortable eye contacts. Like there's something else to do, like a big fidget table. Okay, I made an airplane crashing, But it sounds like you're supposed to build something together, Like it's like you're teaming up to make something of that. Okay, that's that's like a metaphor for your relationship, right, also kind of an innuendo there how the pieces fit together. I don't know if nobody would think, but it's good to know how many people are fighting like, no, we need this piece. Well, then you know you're not a good match. So how did it go with the lego building? I thought it went fantastic, Say, really, did you meet someone? Well? When I sat down across from Steve, we decided that we would build Harry Potter's wand yeah, was it just like one giant stack of leg a circular? Oh? Okay, wands come in many shapes and sizes. Are all kinds of wands. It's not just one long stick. So basically he's like a dorky Harry Potter head like you are, which is also another common interest. It sounds like we were like, oh, we totally speak the same language, we have the same interests here. It was going better than I ever could have hoped. And then I was like, okay, we have thirty seconds left. They let you know when your time is rubbing, and I was like, what spell should we cast? That was totally just being ridiculous, and well, I'm going to cast a love spell. On you to put your number in my phone so we can go on a real date. Answer. I think so, And they sat down to a big pile of brown legos. It sounds like, yeah, it was smart and clever and cute, right, and it was like playing along and and so we did. A week later, we went out and we just went to a ping pong bar and pooped around and played ping pong and drank and hissed. And it was his Oh whoa. I mean literally it was perfect. I felt like I had this strong connection with him and we were we were talking about the future and our brains and mind. Well that's what happens when you get a love spell cast on you. Yeah, maybe the spell wear off. That's why, dude. That's crazy though. It's like you put out into the universe that you wanted to meet your soulmate, and it felt like this universe was kind of delivering. Yeah. Like, I mean, here's the deal. I've been on a lot of dates, okay, and I have met a wide variety of people, but I honestly feel like Steve might be my soulmate. WHOA, wow, after one date, I'm not lego building now, that's true. They warn you about that. When you build legos to you, why would you not be calling you back? I have no idea. It just felt like everything quicked so well and we were laughing and the chemistry was good, and I'm not really sure what happened. There's no red flags at all, but that's kind of a red flag in itself. The flag, Yeah, that might be what it is. In fact, if I was doing speed dating with the legos, I would build a red flag. Actually, just the yeah that you are walking up exact date at your own risk. But we're gonna call Steve here and we're going to ask him if he sees you two as soulmates the same way that you guys do. Can we say that for like a second question, Maybe we'll ask, and then we'll ask if we're going to do it with your second next second, Brook, do you remember the exact moment you first fell in love with your husband? Hush? I remember the first time I saw him, for sure, But we just fell in love. I mean, it takes time, and I don't think it happens in one My husband can tell you the exact moment he knew that he loved me for him? Oh no, yeah, we were on top of a volcano. What true story, true story, flare. We were very well prepared. We had just gone and thought we were going hiking and oh my god, goodness, Okay, he was having a heat stroke. It was very cold. Actually, just saying that special moment looks different for everyone. And for mary Anne, our listener, at moment happened when her speed dates Steve picked up some legos and built her a Harry Potter wand and cast a love spell. That's really cute. But after they went out to a bar, love spell seems to have worn off a little bit, so we're gonna try and reactivate it here with the second date update. How long ago was it that you saw him? Steve? It's been a week since I've heard of him from him, and and just nothing. He hasn't texted you back at all. No, he just disappeared. That wouldn't have happened if your date was on a volcano. Maybe he was actually Cinderella turned into a pumpkin. Oh, Harry Potter, he has the invisibility cloak on is there a shoe involved? Okay, all this talk of magic and eruptions and volcanoes, we gotta just call Steve before it gets too steamy in here? Are you ready? Maryanne? I am all right, let's do this. I'm Donard's number right now. Hey, Hello, Hey, is it Steve? Yees seeking? Who's hey Steve. It's your lucky day. You're on the radio right now with Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Hey, I see Okay, okay, okay, all right, you got a second right now? Um? Yeah, well, yeah, what's up. We're calling because we got your number from one of our listeners named Mary Anne. Oh, okay, okay, okay. She's a woman that you met at speed dating and went out with once. Yeah. Wow, okay, So she asked you to call me. Yeah. Yeah. Are you surprised by that? Uh? No, I guess I'm not surprised by that. I'm surprised it's happening. I'm not surprised that she would do that. I guess. Well, you don't have to sound nervous. It's supposed to be a good thing. It means that she had a really good time with you. It did a great time with you. Yes, I gathered that. Yeah you did well, that's good. Did you have a good time? Honestly? I did? Um, she was very fun to talk to. It just started getting a little weird towards the end. Um, it sounds like you're choosing your words like super carefully. Well, well, I don't. I don't dislike um. It's just a little too unusual for for me. Okay, actual is this before or after you kissed her? Because we heard there was kissing involved at the bar Um. I would say it definitely got the weirdness spike after that. Why is it Sai? Then she said what so she was pretty openly talking about the idea of soulmate? Uh huh? Was that she said that to you? Yeah, but she was just talking about it as like a big idea, right, like not your my soulmate. She opened it like that, and then she was like, you know, I think you might be one of my homemates. Whoa wait and then one of isn't there only one soulmate? Now you can have Mark. Yeah, that's the point. It's not soul mate, it's soul mate. That's That's exactly what I said. And she it is like, yeah, welly, everyone has three soulmates three three. I didn't know that, Brook. This is good news for you and your marriage. No, I can see that though it's like your best friend, your sister. No, you want to bring your sister. It isn't a sexual thing. Soul is just someone who you're like connected with in this beyond any other relationship type of ways. Yeah, exactly. I mean that's that's kind of how we are understanding it. But Steve, how were you understanding what mary Anne was telling you? Oh? I mean what you guys are talking about sounds great, that sounds very reasonable. Um, that is not what I was presented with. Um to her, it's like a thing where you have a past soulmate, a present soulmate, and a future soulmate and these are all romantic. You have three. God, you got to find three of them in your life that you want to want to make it out with a friend. But I don't get it. Yeah, just a little too absurd to me, this idea of like boy friends of past, present and future. Hy Hey, I have something to say, Hey, Steve, Sorry, that that's mary Anne. She's she's been listening on the other line and clearly wants to talk to you. Usually wait till we call him ghost a Christmas past. Yeah, oh wow, Um, were you going to tell me that? I think I just did. Okay, okay, okay, yes, Hi mary Anne, Marianne something to say. Hi, Hi, Steve. You sound really confused, and I feel like maybe I just didn't do a very good job of explaining it, you know, because it's like this for everyone. It's just the rule of the universe. Right, So you have three soulmates. You have a past soulmate and a present soulmate and a future soulmate. Those was a three fine in your life? Right, Which soulmate and which soulmate is Steve number? Okay? Right? So he I'm pretty sure if my presence soulmatee right, my past my high school boyfriend that was my past soulmate, Steve, I really think has a possibility to be my present soulmate. Yeah, but that kind of indicates to him that he's gonna get dumped for another dude along. It's better to have, you know, a small part of Maryanne than none at all. I would agree with that, sure, but look like it's not me, Like I'm not making this up right, This is like a law of the universe. Okay, Steve, how does that make you feel, figuring that you could possibly be her present soulmate? Well, if I if I'm the present soulmate, and then suddenly there's a future soulmate, then with that future soulmate, then that's your present soulmate, and then I'm your past soulmate. So the whole system falls apart really fast. Yeah, it should be on a numbering system rather that deep and just be like a date. Yeah, Like, I've already had my first soul mate, I can't have another, and I'm fairly certain, like it really feels like you will be the second. And then if you're lucky, right, Like, if every pos well, then I wouldn't even find my future soulmate until after you are dead. Oh okay, let's let's get on that. The most romantic sentence that's ever been up about this show. I mean, wouldn't you want me to find somebody after you die? What are you talking about? We're not even together yet. What are you talking about meeting someone after I die? That's a good point. You aren't together yet until we send you out, and we'll pay for you, guys, to make it official as present soulmates to each other. We'll pay for it. Maybe soulmate is a little bit stronger, we'll send you out on another date better, and then you can figure out if the soulmate thing is real or Now ate I like that? I mean, given that you did have a good time with her. She's got some cookie ideas, but she likes you. You guys had a great time. See. No, it is not cookie. It is the rule of three soulmates. Everybody follows this. Okay, okay, wow? Did that convince you to go out with her this time? Steve? No, I'm sorry. I don't want to find out what other rules of life there are that I didn't know about. I will say it does explain the divorce, right, People are just go into their future soulmates. Yes, that's what's happening. Wait a seconds, wait, Steve, since you said no to the date, does that now make mary Anne your past soulmate or so that means you only have two more to go till you find your forever lady. And does it mean that Maryanne only gets one or maybe? Yeah? Well, when you started talking about this, you know, more and more information sort of came to me, and the energy was just not what I thought it was, and I just canceled you in my mind. So it's unsubscribed from the soulmates this guylmate. I kind of like these universe rules Broke and Jeffrey in the morning. You know, it's funny that girl mentioned that she had a past present in future soulmate somewhere in the world. If I got some funny in it, Well, yeah, sure, it's just funny because I remember when we did a live broadcast from Vegas and I walked into one of the hotel rooms and I met all three of Jose's soulmates. Yeah, remember that their names? Remember their names? I doubt Yeah. I mean it just goes to show that everybody's got a little bit of a different take on what love means. Love is, yeah, and how much you have to pay love that three for one deal on the street. Okay, but you know your soul mate might be different than you're forever person, who might be different than the one who might be different than the love of your life. Oh man, I haven't any of them. It's not the same. Those are all different. Oh my god. Love is hard, and we're here to help you with that hard love. I think we should go with that. I said it was help me in Vegas. I know that dating can be difficult, and if you want to get a little help. Email the show, we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back. You could check out all the second Ey podcasts up online at Brooke and Jeffrey dot com, Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning,

Second dating. I think there's a time in everyone's life. Usually it's somewhere in your twenties where you're having a good time, you're care free, the possibilities are endless, and then all of a sudden, it happens your best friend gets engaged. Oh wait a second, the party's about to be over. Yeah, oh crap, I gotta find somebody. It's like dating musical chairs now, and if you don't move quickly, you're going to be left with just a spot on the floor. That type of anxiety saying you got to move fast. And that's kind of where one of our listeners, Mary Anne, found herself a few months back, and she said it changed the way that she thought about dating man. So, mary Anne, welcome to the show. Hey yeah, Mary yea, mary Anne, tell us about your dating life. What's going on. You know, it's been fine and normal and good. I've been trying though, to meet a guy for a while, right, okay, And your requirements are different now is kind of what Jeff is alluding to. You're looking for something more. Yeah, yeah, I'm looking for my soulmate now. Pressure. I mean, it was like, gosh, I guess the phase of life is here. It's like made this alarm go off inside me, you know, like what have I been doing? You know? Just turn around? And I can't be eagle by myself when everybody else is getting married. Don't feel peer pressure. I founding into peer pressure is a good thing always. So it is, okay, how have you tried to pursue a soulmate? Now? What strategy are you using? Most recently, I did speed dating whole school in person, like at a bar or something. Yeah. Yeah, well so this one was interesting because it was lego speed dating. Actually what does that mean? So what you do if you meet and there's like a place with a bunch of tables and then there are lego pieces on each table and they start that timer and you sit down and then the person across from you. You guys are talking, but you create something from the lego while you are talking. You don't have to have like uncomfortable eye contacts. Like there's something else to do, like a big fidget table. Okay, I made an airplane crashing, But it sounds like you're supposed to build something together, Like it's like you're teaming up to make something of that. Okay, that's that's like a metaphor for your relationship, right, also kind of an innuendo there how the pieces fit together. I don't know if nobody would think, but it's good to know how many people are fighting like, no, we need this piece. Well, then you know you're not a good match. So how did it go with the lego building? I thought it went fantastic, Say, really, did you meet someone? Well? When I sat down across from Steve, we decided that we would build Harry Potter's wand yeah, was it just like one giant stack of leg a circular? Oh? Okay, wands come in many shapes and sizes. Are all kinds of wands. It's not just one long stick. So basically he's like a dorky Harry Potter head like you are, which is also another common interest. It sounds like we were like, oh, we totally speak the same language, we have the same interests here. It was going better than I ever could have hoped. And then I was like, okay, we have thirty seconds left. They let you know when your time is rubbing, and I was like, what spell should we cast? That was totally just being ridiculous, and well, I'm going to cast a love spell. On you to put your number in my phone so we can go on a real date. Answer. I think so, And they sat down to a big pile of brown legos. It sounds like, yeah, it was smart and clever and cute, right, and it was like playing along and and so we did. A week later, we went out and we just went to a ping pong bar and pooped around and played ping pong and drank and hissed. And it was his Oh whoa. I mean literally it was perfect. I felt like I had this strong connection with him and we were we were talking about the future and our brains and mind. Well that's what happens when you get a love spell cast on you. Yeah, maybe the spell wear off. That's why, dude. That's crazy though. It's like you put out into the universe that you wanted to meet your soulmate, and it felt like this universe was kind of delivering. Yeah. Like, I mean, here's the deal. I've been on a lot of dates, okay, and I have met a wide variety of people, but I honestly feel like Steve might be my soulmate. WHOA, wow, after one date, I'm not lego building now, that's true. They warn you about that. When you build legos to you, why would you not be calling you back? I have no idea. It just felt like everything quicked so well and we were laughing and the chemistry was good, and I'm not really sure what happened. There's no red flags at all, but that's kind of a red flag in itself. The flag, Yeah, that might be what it is. In fact, if I was doing speed dating with the legos, I would build a red flag. Actually, just the yeah that you are walking up exact date at your own risk. But we're gonna call Steve here and we're going to ask him if he sees you two as soulmates the same way that you guys do. Can we say that for like a second question, Maybe we'll ask, and then we'll ask if we're going to do it with your second next second, Brook, do you remember the exact moment you first fell in love with your husband? Hush? I remember the first time I saw him, for sure, But we just fell in love. I mean, it takes time, and I don't think it happens in one My husband can tell you the exact moment he knew that he loved me for him? Oh no, yeah, we were on top of a volcano. What true story, true story, flare. We were very well prepared. We had just gone and thought we were going hiking and oh my god, goodness, Okay, he was having a heat stroke. It was very cold. Actually, just saying that special moment looks different for everyone. And for mary Anne, our listener, at moment happened when her speed dates Steve picked up some legos and built her a Harry Potter wand and cast a love spell. That's really cute. But after they went out to a bar, love spell seems to have worn off a little bit, so we're gonna try and reactivate it here with the second date update. How long ago was it that you saw him? Steve? It's been a week since I've heard of him from him, and and just nothing. He hasn't texted you back at all. No, he just disappeared. That wouldn't have happened if your date was on a volcano. Maybe he was actually Cinderella turned into a pumpkin. Oh, Harry Potter, he has the invisibility cloak on is there a shoe involved? Okay, all this talk of magic and eruptions and volcanoes, we gotta just call Steve before it gets too steamy in here? Are you ready? Maryanne? I am all right, let's do this. I'm Donard's number right now. Hey, Hello, Hey, is it Steve? Yees seeking? Who's hey Steve. It's your lucky day. You're on the radio right now with Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Hey, I see Okay, okay, okay, all right, you got a second right now? Um? Yeah, well, yeah, what's up. We're calling because we got your number from one of our listeners named Mary Anne. Oh, okay, okay, okay. She's a woman that you met at speed dating and went out with once. Yeah. Wow, okay, So she asked you to call me. Yeah. Yeah. Are you surprised by that? Uh? No, I guess I'm not surprised by that. I'm surprised it's happening. I'm not surprised that she would do that. I guess. Well, you don't have to sound nervous. It's supposed to be a good thing. It means that she had a really good time with you. It did a great time with you. Yes, I gathered that. Yeah you did well, that's good. Did you have a good time? Honestly? I did? Um, she was very fun to talk to. It just started getting a little weird towards the end. Um, it sounds like you're choosing your words like super carefully. Well, well, I don't. I don't dislike um. It's just a little too unusual for for me. Okay, actual is this before or after you kissed her? Because we heard there was kissing involved at the bar Um. I would say it definitely got the weirdness spike after that. Why is it Sai? Then she said what so she was pretty openly talking about the idea of soulmate? Uh huh? Was that she said that to you? Yeah, but she was just talking about it as like a big idea, right, like not your my soulmate. She opened it like that, and then she was like, you know, I think you might be one of my homemates. Whoa wait and then one of isn't there only one soulmate? Now you can have Mark. Yeah, that's the point. It's not soul mate, it's soul mate. That's That's exactly what I said. And she it is like, yeah, welly, everyone has three soulmates three three. I didn't know that, Brook. This is good news for you and your marriage. No, I can see that though it's like your best friend, your sister. No, you want to bring your sister. It isn't a sexual thing. Soul is just someone who you're like connected with in this beyond any other relationship type of ways. Yeah, exactly. I mean that's that's kind of how we are understanding it. But Steve, how were you understanding what mary Anne was telling you? Oh? I mean what you guys are talking about sounds great, that sounds very reasonable. Um, that is not what I was presented with. Um to her, it's like a thing where you have a past soulmate, a present soulmate, and a future soulmate and these are all romantic. You have three. God, you got to find three of them in your life that you want to want to make it out with a friend. But I don't get it. Yeah, just a little too absurd to me, this idea of like boy friends of past, present and future. Hy Hey, I have something to say, Hey, Steve, Sorry, that that's mary Anne. She's she's been listening on the other line and clearly wants to talk to you. Usually wait till we call him ghost a Christmas past. Yeah, oh wow, Um, were you going to tell me that? I think I just did. Okay, okay, okay, yes, Hi mary Anne, Marianne something to say. Hi, Hi, Steve. You sound really confused, and I feel like maybe I just didn't do a very good job of explaining it, you know, because it's like this for everyone. It's just the rule of the universe. Right, So you have three soulmates. You have a past soulmate and a present soulmate and a future soulmate. Those was a three fine in your life? Right, Which soulmate and which soulmate is Steve number? Okay? Right? So he I'm pretty sure if my presence soulmatee right, my past my high school boyfriend that was my past soulmate, Steve, I really think has a possibility to be my present soulmate. Yeah, but that kind of indicates to him that he's gonna get dumped for another dude along. It's better to have, you know, a small part of Maryanne than none at all. I would agree with that, sure, but look like it's not me, Like I'm not making this up right, This is like a law of the universe. Okay, Steve, how does that make you feel, figuring that you could possibly be her present soulmate? Well, if I if I'm the present soulmate, and then suddenly there's a future soulmate, then with that future soulmate, then that's your present soulmate, and then I'm your past soulmate. So the whole system falls apart really fast. Yeah, it should be on a numbering system rather that deep and just be like a date. Yeah, Like, I've already had my first soul mate, I can't have another, and I'm fairly certain, like it really feels like you will be the second. And then if you're lucky, right, Like, if every pos well, then I wouldn't even find my future soulmate until after you are dead. Oh okay, let's let's get on that. The most romantic sentence that's ever been up about this show. I mean, wouldn't you want me to find somebody after you die? What are you talking about? We're not even together yet. What are you talking about meeting someone after I die? That's a good point. You aren't together yet until we send you out, and we'll pay for you, guys, to make it official as present soulmates to each other. We'll pay for it. Maybe soulmate is a little bit stronger, we'll send you out on another date better, and then you can figure out if the soulmate thing is real or Now ate I like that? I mean, given that you did have a good time with her. She's got some cookie ideas, but she likes you. You guys had a great time. See. No, it is not cookie. It is the rule of three soulmates. Everybody follows this. Okay, okay, wow? Did that convince you to go out with her this time? Steve? No, I'm sorry. I don't want to find out what other rules of life there are that I didn't know about. I will say it does explain the divorce, right, People are just go into their future soulmates. Yes, that's what's happening. Wait a seconds, wait, Steve, since you said no to the date, does that now make mary Anne your past soulmate or so that means you only have two more to go till you find your forever lady. And does it mean that Maryanne only gets one or maybe? Yeah? Well, when you started talking about this, you know, more and more information sort of came to me, and the energy was just not what I thought it was, and I just canceled you in my mind. So it's unsubscribed from the soulmates this guylmate. I kind of like these universe rules Broke and Jeffrey in the morning. You know, it's funny that girl mentioned that she had a past present in future soulmate somewhere in the world. If I got some funny in it, Well, yeah, sure, it's just funny because I remember when we did a live broadcast from Vegas and I walked into one of the hotel rooms and I met all three of Jose's soulmates. Yeah, remember that their names? Remember their names? I doubt Yeah. I mean it just goes to show that everybody's got a little bit of a different take on what love means. Love is, yeah, and how much you have to pay love that three for one deal on the street. Okay, but you know your soul mate might be different than you're forever person, who might be different than the one who might be different than the love of your life. Oh man, I haven't any of them. It's not the same. Those are all different. Oh my god. Love is hard, and we're here to help you with that hard love. I think we should go with that. I said it was help me in Vegas. I know that dating can be difficult, and if you want to get a little help. Email the show, we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back. You could check out all the second Ey podcasts up online at Brooke and Jeffrey dot com, Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning,