Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date UpdateThe woman in today’s Second Date says the other patrons of the restaurant were giving her weird looks all night, all because of one thing she was compulsively doing. Did it cause the guy she was with to ditch her?
Second, lately, we've been asking people on this segment to pull up their apps and have them read off the other person's dating profile just to get an idea of who they are in a different kind of way. Right, Yeah, so the US just asking boring questions like who are they? Totally And I don't know if my co host really like that strategy or not. I do think I didn't ask whether you did. I'm just saying I didn't know. But I'm curious what our audience think. So text into seventy five nine, who tell us? Do you like us having them read stuff off of the dating bios? And today we have Samantha on the line. Samantha, are you cool if we did that with you? Because I know some people think of it as a little bit of an invasion of privacy. I personally call it getting the juicy deets. I think it's a same Yeah, you're down to spill some juice on the b and J Yeah, all right, God, pull up the guy's profile and tell us what's his name? Okay? One second, you can't do two things at once, Samantha, his name is okay, Ian? Okay? And what app are we on? Can I ask that Okay, we're on hinge. I got it. Okay, now splash some fresh squeezed Ian juice on us. Tell us what's on his profile? No, no, that's a different app. I'm just trying to get that's okay, I guess read what it says. Okay. So on his bio, his interest say comedy, hip hop, and pizza. Okay, he likes to laugh and he likes pizza. He's a real rebel. But at least it's not the opposite. He's like, I like not laughing in vegetables, then it'd be more boring. That's a good way to look at. What else is all there? Okay? So later his profile, there's a prompt that says I get ways too excited about and he puts birds first? Is he old? Is that why he said that you don't need to be alone. I am a bird watcher, and I can tell you it's a hoot. I think no Brooks laugh on the inside. I'm not, Wow, what did you think of that? Did you? Did you like that he was into bird watching? I mean I like animals. So I was like, all right, I guess we can do the birth. I wonder if people like me and he knows how to spot a woodpecker or a sap suffer bird. Jokes they're always good. Is that a joke? Yeah? Okay? Whatever on? What else? What else? Okay? So, um, under the worst state idea I've ever had, he wrote, getting bangs not good. I thought I thought it was I thought it was a verb, and that would have been worse. They went and got haircuts together. Okay, really straight, he's a guy with bathing like birds. Well, at least he admitted that was a bad idea. Yeah, so does he still have bangs in his profile picture? No? Yeah, that's good. Yeah. So we started messaging and it was just I don't know, it was like really easy and natural with him. Oh that's cool. It's been good pictures if you swipe to that. What did you guys end up going to do for your date? Um? We met up at a bar for some drinks. Okay, yeah. I don't think a lot of people like me there though, because I kept playing Macaelmor's shot like I'm gonna pop fantastic like on the jukebox. Yeah yeah, okay, that could just be a troll. I have a friend. They have Wi Fi juke boxes now, yeah? Yeah, down the street from a bar and he will troll the bar and play like it didn't choose singing. It didn't sound like a troll. Yeah. I literally played it like ten times. Whoa good song though? It was? Yeah, I mean I love that song. Like Ian thought it was funny. He liked the song too. He thought it was funny ten times. That's literally thirty minutes of that song. Yeah. Everyone else thought it was really annoying and was staring. But was this a highlight for you or a low left? It was a highlight because then he was really sweet and he was like, well, can you like blame them for staring at you when you look as good? And sometimes it's nice to have that, like us against the room. He's a little bit cheesy, like pizza, I like that or like you right now? Did anything else happen? Was there some bird watching on this date? No bird watching? Oh see, that's why is a comed back. Not even pigeons. He's gonna be there's always an opportunity. But what else happened? So? I don't know. I was paid him a compliment back and I was like, you're the only guy I'm interested in online. Oh that's a big thing. To say statement. How did he respond? Well, he actually ended up kissing me while we were sitting at the bar. Oh my good, open mouth kiss or a peck. It was a passionate kiss. I'm sure. Was it a passionate kiss? Yeah, it was a good kiss. Okay, so cute. This is all sounding really good. How did you guys end the evening? So it started getting late and he offered to walk me home? Okay, he gave me a piggyback ride home and then again at my door. Classic. Oh, and then you guys wait out again at your door? He said, Yeah, it was cute, but you've been texting and trying to get a second date on the books, and nothing's really been working with my schedule. And I was like, please, don't think I'm blowing you off, because I'm definitely not. Yeah. Oh wait, so you're worried that he thinks you're blowing him off. It's not the other way around. I mean it was like that originally, but then it went so long and it took him like such a long time to respond, and he finally said a day later, like, yeah, sorry, I don't think it's gonna work. Oh after you said please, like I'm not trying to blow you off. He still wasn't like never mind. Yeah, So I'm like really confused. Why would he say that he's not answering me anymore. So that's why I reached out to you guys. The its like the telltale sign of like I got back with my ex or I met somebody else. Really nothing wrong, there's no red flags at all. See, I think that he thinks you're trying to blow him off, even though you said it. Yeah, he wants to get ahead of it. He wants to be like, I'm rejecting you're Yeah. I think he thought that was just a pity text. Maybe. Well, let's see if he rejects us when we try and call him. No guarantee he'll answer, We're gonna do it with your second eight update next Hold On. Except for the fifteen straight Macklemore songs we heard maybe the best first date that we've heard on this show in a long time, and we normally don't get those where the guy piggybacks her home, kisses her on the doorstep, and then for the next few days they both try to figure out how to hang out again, and for whatever reason, they just can't and it dissolves well, and he even says, like it's over. I'm not even we could to pursue this anymore after trying it for so long. And you know what, I call that the dating magic window, because there's usually about forty eight hours after your first date where you need to capitalize on that high feeling and see each other again, or the spark goes away and things just kind of fizzle out. She did say she kind of took a while at first, but then she clarified and said, Hey, I'm really sorry. I've been super busy. I wasn't trying to ghost you anything. So maybe that's what it comes down to. Maybe things just took too long and it fizzled. Is that what you're thinking, Samantha, I have no idea. I hope it's not that because I really liked him. See, I think you should hope it is that because that is easy for us to fix. We can refizzle unfizzle situation. Let's just call in now. Okay, I'm ready, Okay, here we go. Hello. Hey is it seing? Uh? It is? Just want to say, one fellow bird watcher to another, how's it going? Man? Oh? I thought there was going to be like a bird. Well okay, it was a dove birdwatchers association. Yeah. Also, you're on the radio with Brooke and Jeffrey right now. What Yeah, not sure if you listen to us, but one show in the in the country that is a verifiable fact. And we're also a show that does something called a second date update. You ever heard of that? I'm not familiar. Well, uh, you're about to be, because you're on one now. We're trying to help out a one of our listeners named Samantha, who you went out on a date with recently. Uh is that ringing about several weeks ago? Ye? And the thing is, your date is a little bit strange compared to most of the ones that we do, because it actually sounded like a good time and then afterwards you two were trying to set up another hangout. But it sounds like maybe it took too long or Samantha was too busy and the spark may have died off. She said you guys were texting after your date and that you were trying to plan something and then suddenly you were just like, nah, I'm done. Yeah, I mean that's true, but like she started sending like mixed messages and like, online dating pretty tough as it is, So I'm not into playing games, And so what do you mean that she was sending mixed messages? When you meet somebody, you go out into the date, it's cool, and like I understand like not checking your profile and like actively like just sort of focusing on one person. That's the way I am. Yeah, she said she told you that she didn't want to date anybody else, that she was going to focus on you. Oh right, and then and then right after that you kissed her. That's all true, and at the time, I like totally believed it. What happened to change? Yeah? That fun. Right after the date, things were good, but like we spent like a few days texting back and forth trying to figure out when to hang out again. Yeah, And like during that time, I had told my friends I'd sent a couple of photos saying, like, you know, I'm going out with this cute girl Samantha, like wish me luck. Yeah, so you're that excited? Yeah, And they were like they couldn't have been like more excited for me. However, a couple days later, one of my good friends texted me, Hey, what was that girl you went out with. Is this her? Oh no, No, what did they send you? What was the picture of Well, it was on a different dating app that she had matched with him and had reached out to him, not knowing that he's my buddy. And her profile photo on bumble is the photo of the outfit she was wearing the night we went out, in front of the bar we were at. Did you take a picture of her that night? It must have been before our date because she was by herself, but it was clearly the bar we were at. Oh man, I'm sorry. She must have looked really good that night picture and posted on her back after you guys like benefit of the doubt. What if she just messaged you messaged your buddy after you had told her, no, I'm good, I'm gonna move on, or remember because she said it wasn't working, you guys couldn't link up on a date like she didn't say she created a new profile picture from the night that they went out. Well, she didn't say I'm your girlfriend, she's still interested. She said I'm the only You're the only guy I'm interested in someone. Well maybe that was true in that moment. That's totally fine, but don't say that, like you're not interested, that you're only interested in one person, like do what you want? Okay, So right now you feel like you were being deceived by her, and I understand that because kind of we've been deceiving you at the same time by not telling you. Samantha's on the other line what she's been listening, because I'm gonna you know, like I said, I don't what I told you. I'll tell her go ahead. Why would you tell somebody that all you wanted to do with date this one person and that they were the only one for you and then that day start a new dating profile from the photo the night we were out. That's a lot, Samantha say, Hi, there you go. Okay, all right, now answer his twenty questions. UM, well this is really awkward. Um, why did you say that to him? I mean I really did like him and we were talking and I don't know, I feel like when you're on those apps, you just keep your options open. But like he was the only one I was actively talking to like that and going on dates with an interest that rich. Yeah, She literally back and forth that she then matches with my buddy and then tells him it's bumbles. She had to reach out to him say that, hey, let's go out. I mean I could, like, I'll send you the screenshot of their conversation. Yeah, maybe it was like a butt match or a butt text. She accidentally swiped and sent him a message. Is that what happened, Samantha, Give you a benefit of the doctor. I mean, to be fair, I wasn't having like any serious conversation with him. It was very introductory, and I was trying to keep my options open, very light. I was not going deep with anyone. I wanted to go on a second date with him. Yes, And her profile picture on hinges, the profile picture she took on the dates with those other guys. Come on, you're silt on, Samantha, And like I can see like she's caught up in the moment. She's really excited about you. She says something that maybe isn't one hundred percent true, right, Samantha, Yeah, it's not like she's like outright cheating on you, man, And that's a red flag for me to pay. You're dating around, Yes, I like to match for fun. That's a good point, especially when you're feeling a little bit down, you're feeling like you're rejected and the second date isn't happening. You want that that confidence boost with one of his close friends, and I didn't know was his friend. Okay, let's not say that sounds bad. I didn't know. I get caught by that. Samantha. Well, in the spirit of saying things that might not be one hundred percent true, would you like to go out on another date? I am not at all interested in going out. Like you're great and all, but I could never trust you. I mean literally the night we went out, you created a new profiler. In the next couple of days, yeah, and like, I'll never be able to trust you again. Like it's just a waste of both of our times. It wasn't a new profile, so just dated her photo. I mean, come on, hail Mary, what if we send you to the bird sanctuary together? Birds? That's right, you can't say no to birds. But what's the bird thing about? Why does that matter? That's right? I thought you. I thought you were into birds. Bro on your profile. Do you feel deceived, Jeffrey, you're lying to me. Let's go. I never want to talk to you again. This show every screw you in Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,
