Second Date Update: Give A Hero A Chance

Published Apr 5, 2023, 4:20 PM

The guy on the phone today might have set the world-record for “Quickest Time To Ruin A Date” and he did it in under a minute!

Second date is something my dad always used to say to me growing up was you can control all delete a computer virus from an adult Chinese website, but you can't control all delete a bad first impression from an adult date. That it's wise, I know, very wise stuff from my father. Got a super quotable man, your dad, you say that, but those words were ringing in my ear when I read an email from one of our listeners, Kyle, who says he screwed up in the first minute of his date but thinks it went a lot better after that. How do you screw up in the first minute? We're gonna find out, Kyle. Welcome to the show. Good morning, how's it going guys. Okay, hey, you haven't messed this up yet, so congrats. Well we're not. Yeah, we're not through the full minute yet, judgment, and we'll get to your screw up here in just a second. But first, tell us about the person that you went out with. What's their name? Her name is Rebecca and we actually met off of a dating app. Okay, yeah, great. What what did you like about Rebecca? Honestly, I mean, she's beautiful and we really just kind of had a very natural vibrant off the beginning, and it was easy, you know, and a lot of a lot of the times it's not easy, and that's usually when it's like, why am I trying? Everybody? That's great? So what did you and Rebecca do for a date? We got to get to the minute of screw up? Right? Isn't that where we're at? How does that happen in the first minute? So the day of our date, my car actually had to be taken to the shop last minute, so Rebecca had offered to pick me up. So she got there, I invited her in, I introduced her to my roommate, and I should have probably left it at that, but I was a one hundred percent honest with her from the beginning and told her that my roommate and I used to date and that we had broke up two weeks ago. Whoa ago? I thought you're gonna say like that you were high school years they were introducing them. I'd be like moved out by then. I'm having a panic attack for you. I don't know what I honestly, I don't know what I was thinking in the moment. I really felt like if I'm just kind of honest, also this had been a breakup that was like a long time coming, so broken up? Can I ask, though, were you still in a one bedroom apartment or you guys, are you sleeping in different rooms? Yeah? At this point, like we were pretty much sleeping in different rooms. So wait a minute, I think it's a good thing. You're you're not honest. Well, no, you're you're showing Rebecca, like, look what I was working with last time. See now you have. I don't think anyone's yea, it's like, now, look I've moved on to something better. Be honest, you were just doing this to make your ex jealous. No, actually, I really that was not the case, because I'm the one who wanted to end the relationships. So some people like to rub in their new relationships and other people's faces there too. Sounds like an honest mistake that could have happened to anybody. So what did you do for you do? It's so specific? I know, I thought it was funny. Clearly no one else in the room thought it was funny. So immediately just said, we're gonna be late for the reservation and we last ye wait, did Rebecca not ask any other questions? Like in the car when you guys were driving to the restaurant. Yeah. She was a little funny about it. She was like, oh, wow, I didn't know you were living with your ex and you never said that. That's amaya. Let's get past let's get past the x slash roommate and get to the restaurant. Tell us how that one. I don't think I can get past. Ye. So, so we're driving to the restaurant and it's in an area I'm usually never in, and like, I see this, I see a best by. So in the moment, I was just like, oh, can we stop here for a few minutes. Wait, you need to pick up another TV. There's a CD I want to buy a Why would you ever run an errand with you? Well, there's just camera standing there that I wanted to buy for six months and I'm never round this best by. Okay, we weren't. We weren't actually running late for the reservation. I just washed to like kind of get out of the awkwardness of the situations, the geek squad, my excess that we need to mount the camera next time. So up it actually ended being fun. We got to look around, you know, we got a chance to talk about like photography, which is something that we both care about, and telling her why, you know, camera stands are all different in the nuances. And then we look at you know, thrilling. I can't believe hungry waiting for a dinner reservation. At any point do we end up getting to the restaurant or yeah, so that we leave, you know, like at this point we both were ready for dinner. I'd based out the reservation, and we actually couldn't get in when we get there. So I'm just like, what the hell, what happens? What happened with the reservation? So I guess when I booked the reservation, I had, you know, booked it for a different time. I thought you said you always spit up the first We're an hour in and it's all bad. I disagree, Kyle. I think you're hitting it out of the park with this. All right, keep going, Thank you, thank you for your encouragement. Yeah, um, you know, obviously it was all going downhill at that point. Yeah, like what was the flow? You know, we made the best of it. We ended up hanging out at the place next door. We drank a decent amount because we both were just probably trying to get like you know Johnkup's point, and I can drink a lot. Anyways, she ended up driving me home after dinner. No kiss. Yeah, but I really do want to make up for the first impression. I feel like I really screwed it up, and I that's why I'm trying to get another shot at it. Can we tell her, like when we talked to her, do you have plans to move out with the apartment with yours? Of course, our lease is ending in two more months. And I get it. I get it. That's hard. Yeah, I mean good for her for sticking out the entire date. She could have just barreled out of her car while she was driving home. I was going to say, leave him a best buy, Jeffrey, but she did, so maybe there's hope here. We're gonna call Rebecca and try and get you your second date update right after this second if you're just joining us for the second date update. Really hard to find any red flags on file with Rebecca. Yeah, I don't see any. Let's just recap his story really quick. He introduced her to his roommate aka ex girlfriend, who he still lives with he broke up with two weeks ago. Will stick the situation, little details. Yeah, and then on the way to the restaurant, they stopped at a best Buy to pick up a camera stand that he really really needed. They ended up missing their dinner reservation, so to make up for it, hit up a bar where he drank heavily and totally redeemed himself. Yeah. So it's such a cute look. If anything, maybe there were a couple of hiccups, But Kyle, the good news here is Brooke has dated much much worse and always rely on, including the dude in Mexico who actually tried to harvest her kidney after they hooked up. So I'm giving you a fifty fifty shot here. I was kind of sweet all the ki I mean, we didn't ask you have you reached out and apologized to her for what a train wreck you guys' first date was. I actually didn't think it was a train wreck. I you know, I basically reached out and was just like trying to focus on the positive and all the good things that came out of that. Again, I like that attitude, and Brooke is always trying to get men to apologize for everything that they do. It doesn't sound like she responded to him, so I don't know. Well, yeah, that's rude of her. Maybe she should apologize for not responding. Okay, that Jeffrey for apology as soon as she picks up the phone. Lets what a rude woman here we got? Oh? Hi is this Rebecca? Hi? Yeah, hey Rebecca. My name is jeff from a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Hi Rebecca, Hey have you ever heard of us before? Um? That's okay, I think my mom. Listen. Thanks for lying. Your mom sounds like a good person, because we do. We do something on the show called a second Date Update, and we'd like you to be a part of one right now, all right? What's that? Um? It's basically where listeners ask us to reach out to a person they went on a date with recently to try and figure out why a second date hasn't happened yet. Okay, you went out with a guy named Kyle the other night who's a little curious what's going on? Okay? Is that a good laugh? Or like Kyle should know? Laugh? Did he talk to you already? Yeah? Weird? A little bit from Kyle. Yeah, just quick summary. Nothing too bad though not in our opinion, was anything In Jeffrey's opinion, Alexis and I saw a couple of red flags when he was describing the date. I would love to hear your side of the story of the first like thirty minutes. Yeah, just like give us the start from your eyes. Okay. So yeah, I went to pick him up, and you know, as a normal person, you text me like I'm hearing they come out, and he was like, oh, come in. So I was like, oh, and when you went into his apartment, what do you think? Um, the apartment was fine, but like he was like, oh, this is my roommate Boa and then he goes, yeah, like we used to date, and and then I find out they broke up like two weeks ago. What was going through your head? What a catch? I was just like, never met a next in the first minute or really at all on a date. And my second thought was she's really pretty like best what he what do he meant when he had car trouble? He just wants to me to meet his bags? Because there were other moments where it was just he just kind of felt like he was posturing or whatever. What do you mean what moment does sound pretty convenient? Well, I would say this is my own thing with people pleasing or whatever. I was like, okay, like I can move on from this. So to get in the car and we're driving and then he's like, oh, can we go to Good Buy and I need to get this camera stand or whatever, and I was like, uh, okay, second thing. That's super weird. But were you sound very patient and nice so far? Just so you know again, she said it's her people pleasing problem exactly. Thank you. It's probably not for the best, but something weird happened at best Buy. I mean besides just going there. So besides just going there, he takes about an hour looking at camera stands, and man's playing to me and I'm like, I'm not the one buying a camera, Stan, I don't care. But if you think about it, that's an hour of free electronic education that he gifted to you. Well, I don't like that. I don't want the energy that I'm getting in this moment. Let's move on. Tell us about what happened when you and Kyle were over at the bar together. Oh so you already know that we didn't even go to the restaurant. Okay, yeah, I mean we're calling that a little hiccup. Go ahead. So, like there's a bar nearby, so we just walked over to the bar. He's getting drinks. I don't want to drink that much because obviously I'm driving, And yeah, he goes as let you know that, like I have a blood condition where I can handle a lot of alcohol. And I was like okay, and he takes like six shots and within like thirty minutes he's faced down on the bar. Yeah. I can't believe you drove him home. I wish I didn't. You're so right. But like so I'm like basically dragging him back to my car, and he's like, you do pretty thing. You can't know that. I'm a Navy seal in training, And I'm like, what does this happening feel in trading? Yeah, he's just trying that just even feels like a lie, Like, hello, I am a Navy sealing training. What are you talking about? Wait? What the heck? Hey? Yeah, Rebecca Kylesman on the other line listening this entire time. It was supposed to wait till we called him in, but honestly, I feel like this is something you should tell the people right away. Yes, sorry, you're right, I'm sorry. We were just so caught up in the terrible stories that you were sharing. I didn't get terrible from anything that she seek. On top of all of his other positive qualities, he wants to surprise here too. After hearing all of that, I think it was more positive than negative. To be honest, I do. I think there are a lot of hiccups at the beginning, but I thought it ended on a good note. Would you sloppy drunk in her car? Kyle? Clearly they're not understanding this. Why don't you man explain all the positive things that happened? My headset off? Yeah. Well, initially, you know, when we talked about photography and everything, like, you seemed really into it. So I thought when we were at Best Buys, you seemed pretty engaged. You laugh, I got a couple of laughs and smiles out of you, and we were there for a while, and I thought that was pretty positive. I mean, what was I supposed to say? I feel like it would have been rude for me to be like, well this is boring, let's go. Yeah. I guess that's fair, but I didn't do it that way. Of course, you didn't see anything as rude because you were like, here, picked me up here and meet my roommate here, meet my ex here, Let's go to best Buy here, let's our reservation. And that's a lot of things that he did for you there. What's something that you did for him? Jeff been sarcastic right now? I mean that that is all really selfish stuff. Man. Were you ever thinking of her? Yeah? I mean yeah, I told her she was pretty I was thinking about her. Are you serious? Like I think I'm speechless? Good work, Kyle, you got a speechless fight? Is because Kyle's so clueless. Honestly, I disagree with you guys. Like Jeff said, I gave her like an hour of education on cameras, and I feel pretty good about that. Yeah, you have to pay for that most places. I mean, Kyle, were you training with to be a Navy seal? I'm looking at like YouTube videos? You know, Wait a minute, that's how it's intense training. You can't just learn how to hold your breath for two minutes YouTube. Kyle's going to prove you wrong on that one, Jose. I think, because like he proved me wrong with his blood condition, that he could drink six shots in a row. Yeah, Rebecca, I'm going to ask you a question here, and I really hope that you don't turn down a future Navy seal on a second date that we will pay for. And I promise you that on the date, he'll prove that he can hold his breath for two minutes in the bathtub while is X watching yeahs Navy seal training with that mounted camera that you helped buy circle. What do you say, Rebecca, what an opportunity, Rebecca, do the hero a chance? I mean, that is a very enticing offer. But he's proven everything and I never want to see him again. Yeah, good job, Rebecca finding some boundaries. Yeah, yeah, oh yeah. I'm sweating bullets over here. I'm about to hang up and just hypervently. Oh you'll be good. You'll be good. You're a great sport. Everybody understand. And I think Kyle, like, once he does some reflection, has learned, will kind of soak in some of this, hopefully when he's taken down the next bin. Laden for sure, it's just a drunk guy. I'm calling you back, just see you know, all right, happy hours come enough, Brooke needs somebody. I'm good. That's not much Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,

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