How can you parlay one night of fun with a person you met at the club into something more meaningful? We're going to help one of our listeners try to do exactly that in a brand new Second Date Update!
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Second date up date, when you have that option to spend the night over at your date's place the first time you hang out, Yeah, how do you make that decision?
Wait?
People say no, well yeah.
I mean do you pull a brok and just consult your bottle of wine until you say yes, give me ten minutes. Why do you pull a Jose and check their fridge to make sure they have good breakfast options for the next morning? Or do you pull a Batman villain move like two face and flip a double headed coin? That's again the same answer that again, Yeah, and see that coming. Guess I'm staying the night with you. The other way you have imagine telling the girl I gotta go the coin.
Think that.
But I only asked because one of our listeners had to make that decision, wondering do I stay over or do I go home to night? Now I'm back with Brook though, like, is this a really difficult way to.
Pack a bag? Actually was leaving your car.
You guys have much more of a game plan than I realized.
But we are so easy on this show.
Clearly, Let's talk to our listener and see how she feels. Jackie, Welcome to the show.
Hi, you guys, Hi, jack are you better at playing hard to get than we are? Jackie?
Stop hitting on us. I don't know how did you make your bedtime decision?
Well it was really for the moment, I guess.
I So you didn't pack a bag like Alexis is what you're saying.
No, okay, okay.
Who did you go out with?
His name is Miguel?
Okay, okay, you like the Latin boys. I mean, it doesn't mean he is for sure, but most likely I don't want to assume anything about him. He's probably like a super white guy.
Yeah, no, he is Latin.
Okay, Okay, I don't feel excited you like you. What was the lead up before that decision?
Well?
I met him on Tinder, so we have been like communicating for a while.
And I was out with my girlfriend and they were like taking like.
You know, cute girl snaps. It's Friday night. My homegirl was like, he just sit in this snap you look so cute and like invite and mom, I'm like, oh my.
God, right, your girl asked you up.
And they're the ones I told you.
Don't dude, I've been out with a single girl before where we're like, yeah, have them come and they meet for the first time while we're all there.
As a guy intimidated.
Yeah, I know, but that's a test, right, He's a guy up for it.
So how did it go?
It went great? He showed up. It was like a bar club like they played music though he actually did dance. And when I tell.
You he can move, Oh okay, really dance?
You are a gitty right now?
I love it?
Well, he just I don't know.
It was a good date, right, I had fun?
Can I ask how much alcohol was consumed at this point?
A lot? How much before he got there? Did he show up and you were already?
I wasn't like gone. I was like everybody at the bargaining tipsy, Like you know.
Okay, you weren't brooking it on the first kid, that's fun.
I'm never gone. The key is a glass of water after every drink.
That sounds way too responsible. We're gonna edit that out, okay, So Jackie keep going. What happens after that?
So then like the lights come on and everyone's gone, Like my friends are gone?
What letters are like cleaning up?
Yes, they left me.
But isn't that a good sign? Like when the girls feel like you're safe enough to be on your own with this person. They're like, okay, she's got it.
No, you don't ever leave a girlfriend without checking in. Yeah, first ever.
Remember I was drinking like a lot, so there's a high persent chance that I told them that I was okay.
Okay, yeah, okay, okay, and you felt safe with this guy.
So the lights came on, they're shutting the bar down, and your friends aren't there. What happens next?
We were hungry because you know, we've been drinking, so he got like, yes, some hot dogs and like tug.
I like how you're trying to make this sound all very classy. We've talked. I mean, we made out because you were making out at this point, right.
I mean yeah, in between bites.
Hot dog bites. Yes, yeah, okay. So obviously this ends up over back at Miguel's place somehow.
Yeah. He said that his place was like up the street, and it's not normally something.
I would do.
We all say that you don't need to though, but I said, yes, okay, had a good time. I mean, the description of this though, just sounds like, I don't know, I feel like he was maybe under the understanding this was one night of.
Fun Brook, How dare you it's Tinder? And are you not remembering the hot makeout session in between wiener bites and.
I just I don't know if you're expectations are matching. Maybe what his work?
Well, I kind of wanted to continue to get to know him, Like, I didn't see this as a one off.
Did you tell him that?
I felt like it was implied for my profile?
No, it's good. You do not want to be on the first day, Like, by the way I see this going long term, that's not a good thing. By the way, I.
Could die like this, you guys. So the next morning they could obviously talk about how she hopes this isn't the last time she sees them and that she sees something more with him. I'm just say, like, what was that like?
So we didn't have like a ton of times to talk because I got picked up, but I did text him later.
Did you respond?
See?
That's why he helped, because when I readed, it sounds like he's just being polite, like it's a different tone to his text now rather when when we were snapping the night before, it was the.
That's weird when I text super drunk and super sober I sound exactly.
The same ways, but she hadn't talked to him sober, you know, like you said, you had been talking to him for a couple of weeks on TikTok, so you can tell a vibe.
Like you woke up and you're like, oh, you don't look like what.
I remember the bar in full light.
Bar light. But clearly something is off here and you deserve some answers. So let's come back and call Miguel and hopefully he picks up and gives us a little bit of insight when we do your second date update. Right after this second date update, if you missed Jackie's first date, let's quickly go down the checklist of her hangout with Miguel. Okay, so is he a good dancer? Check? Did her friends approve?
Chick? Those are two good things.
Could he make out while also eating a street meat dog at the same time? Check and checks.
I may have the same type of men in mind.
No wonder, people wonder it ended with a little sleepover back at his place, But Jackie's hoping it wasn't just a one night stand thing for sure. The thing is, she can't deny that Miguel has been acting differently towards her, at least over text. He's being more polite now than he is being flirty, and we just want to help her figure out the reason why we just think.
He's the One thing I'm concerned about is that you were sounds like pretty drunk that night, and he may share a story that could be embarrassing.
Did you consider that, Jackie?
I don't think there was anything embarrassing that happened.
Okay, Okay, so you're willing to hear whatever it is.
I mean, yeah, But that's why I'm calling because I like this guy. I thought we had a good connection on Tinder and were fine with my friends. Even my friends are like, well, where's Miguel, And I'm like.
I don't know.
Well, here's the thing. If it does happen to be something embarrassing that you don't remember, the good news is Brooke has done something ten times more embarrassing.
Sober probably even Yeah, in fact, we all have.
That makes me feel better.
Okay. The comparison bar is very low, so we're always here. Do we want to go around the room and give awful examples of embarrass ourselves. Maybe we should save that for once we hear what the issue is?
Got it?
Okay, let's see if Miguel answers the phone. I'm gonna dial his number right now. Here we go. Hello, Hey is this Miguel. Yeah, Hey man, we're a radio show. We're called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. Hey, there's more.
Yeah, I Miguel, How can I How can I help you?
Guys?
Uh, we're calling because we're in the middle of a second right now. That's called a second date update.
Sorry, well, I'm just confused. What to do with me?
Great question? Yeah?
Yeah, Well if you don't if you don't know what it is, it's where we have a listener who has gone out with you and had a really nice time, was hoping to meet up again, but that hasn't been happening, and she's not really sure why.
Who is it?
I don't know if you're seeing multiple people. But the girl who reached out to us about you today, her name is Jackie.
Jackie Okay, Jackie from Tinda.
Yeah, he saved in the phone. Sounds like, yeah, it sounds like your name. You guys met up?
Yeah, I met her and her friends at the club.
Right. We heard the story from her and it sounded like a really fun night. We started the club and it ended up back at your place after some street food hot dogs.
She said, her friends even liked you.
Yeah, she's okay.
Were you going into the night just expecting to just have fun for one night?
Like you?
Weren't thinking of her? Maybe as a multi night type of lady. I don't want to say relationship because I don't know that that's what she's looking for.
But no, we we had a situation the next morning.
What a situation? What happened?
She said she had to hurry out because the car was waiting for her.
Well, yeah, so I heard her get up and call somebody to pick her up, and I told her, like, you know, I can call you or whatever, and she said, no, no, it's it's okay, it's okay. So then she jumps in the shower and about five minutes later, there's a knock at the door and I opened up and it's her mom.
What your mother is standing at your door?
Yeah?
Apparently she was her ride.
Oh wow, I cannot imagine calling my mother after a.
Night like that.
Yeah, she wasn't happy.
Unhappy, Yes, she was not happy.
Oh wait, what did she say?
She started grilling me like, did you have fun last night? She said, how many partners have.
You been with? Oh?
No, it was really really awkward.
Yeah, that.
Would be calling people.
So wait, did Jackie ever come and interfere or know that this was happening.
It took her a while to get out of a shower and get her stuff on everything. So in my mind, before that whole awkward situation with her mom, I was probably going to hang out with her again. But meet her mom on the first day like that where she's grilling me.
Yeah, and.
It's the morning after, like, your mom will always think of you as that guy.
But it could be a funny story if you're able to spin it the right way, depending.
Why would Jackie call her mother?
That's a good question, Broke, And actually we should find out because I have to tell you Miguel that Jackie is on the other line right now listening to this phone call.
Yeah, it's her mom on the line too.
I don't know Jackie talk to Miguel here.
Geezhi, girl, I'm so sorry you read all that.
I I'm just I don't know. It's it's weird because like I was waiting for you to like call me back, you know, just like text, text me back or something.
Well, Jackie, did you yet?
Stuff like why didn't you take up his offer on getting an uber instead of calling your mom? Okay, well I get that because you're in your you look like the morning after.
It's tough an uber with your mom. I'm just saying, but what if the uber driver's cute? Yeah? I get where is coming from?
What you have?
All your friends you went out.
With, Like my mom she was like nearby, she was leaving church, and it's like, oh, I spend money.
On a uber.
She came from church to pick her daughter up after a one night stand.
Yeah, she's not. She was upset.
Wow, did you know that?
She was so upset she had to have lectured you.
In the car something to you.
My mom usually picks me up from my one night stands.
Oh oh, she's used to this. That mom knows the rundown. Okay, it's another Sunday, you know what to do.
This is probably why they're all one night and not more.
Yeah, it's a good point, and she doesn't need everybody. I just happened to be in the shower. I didn't know she was gonna grill you the gall I'm so sorry, I had no idea she was going to do that. I mean, my mom is my best friend. She's my favorite person in the whole world, and I brilliant see anything wrong as you're coming to pick me up after church?
I mean she was in the area.
I didn't you have to send money on over.
I didn't want to inconvenience to anybody.
I mean, Miguel, what do you think I get it?
Like, I'm super close with my mom too, and I've had my mom picked me up from some really sticky situations. But I wasn't under eighteen at the time, and you know, I'm an adult.
It's been a while.
It was just really off putting for you to feel like your mom doesn't like me already, you know, like that was weird.
Love you. She was just asking about like the other day, Like wait, she was asking about Miguel.
Yeah, she was asking, like have you heard from him? And he seemed like a nice guy.
Sometimes mom's coming really really hot when they just want to like make sure that he's a good guy. They're not actually angry.
And you already ripped the band aid off with her, like there's no way you could get lower.
And she knows where you live for the next time.
Yeah, oh yeah, I mean she did say that she would pick me up if it ever did happen again. Okay, man, this is so.
Weird, Like I've never dealt with anything like this before.
Well, we'd like to let you deal with it one more time and send you on another date with Jackie and we'd pay for it.
I bet Jackie could even promise that her mom won't come or pick her up or or maybe any interaction with you.
No, she'll have her grandma coming together.
I mean, Miguel, I thought that we had like a really great time. I think it's gonna be better, like mom doesn't have to come. But I also just want to say, like, isn't my mom really hot? Like that's I'm going to look in like the next twenty years, Like she looks amazing.
So if you if you pick me.
If you pick me, Miguel, like, and then he hot for the rest of my life.
That is not a lot of people come on the show and try to sell themselves by saying how hot their mom is. But I should try this. Yeah, but it's up to you, Miguel. We're running out of time here, so we need an answer.
Honestly, that was the weirdest pitch I ever heard. But Jackie, I'm done for it.
Yeah those good yes? Oh my god. Okay, you know the first person she's calling after this is her mom?
Oh yeah, Jeffrey in the morning.
Before I say anything about this, I just want to say make sure if you miss any of our second date updates, you go to our YouTube page at Brooke and Jeffrey.
Yeah.
We put them up every week along with our awkward Tuesday calls. And man, maybe this should have been an awkward Tuesday phone call, having your mom come from church to pick you up after your one night stand.
And then lecture the one night stand? Oh yeah, like that was the part that how did she go from like lecturing him to I like him? Where is Miguel?
Mom came in with the tough love after every one night stand?
That was going to be one mother in law to handle for somebody's.
Oh yeah, man, why didn't we ask? Though? We should have specifically asked who picked her up after the date.
Because who would have been a million years thought it would be her mother?
Well, whose job is it to ask that question? Alexis we need to put you on this Okay? From now on. Okay, anytime we do a second date, you are asked the driver's name, a physical description, license plate number, and relationship status.
It's not gonna give you like flag during anything for us.
You don't let him. It's just gonna help us. This is a good learning moment so that we can help our listeners. Email the show and we will call the person who's not calling you back and grill them like her mom did.
Yeah, that's right, Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.