Ever catch yourself predicting the worst - no parks, no luck, no chance - and then proving yourself right? In this refreshingly candid solo episode, Hilary unpacks why so many of us default to spotting the glitch instead of the glimmer - and how a tiny shift in focus can change what you notice, how you feel, and the life you build.

Drawing on real-life stories (parking myths, mentoring-room “regrets,” young-Nana trampoline energy, and Toastmasters butterflies) plus bite-sized psychology, Hilary explains negativity bias, the 3-to-1 rule for emotional balance, and learned optimism. You’ll walk away with simple, repeatable practices to re-train your brain’s filter (RAS), flip setbacks into fuel, and start a positive-result spiral on purpose.

In this episode you’ll learn:


Why the brain overweights bad - and how to rebalance with the 3-to-1 rule.


The “Accept or Change” life rule to stop simmering in resentment.


How to reframe in real time (from “I have to” → “I get to”).


A nightly “Three Glimmers” ritual to rewire your RAS for good.


How to surround yourself with glimmer-spotters and visualise the win before it happens.

Your Challenge This Week →
Each night, list three glimmers - moments, conversations, or coincidences that went right. Then, tomorrow, pick one inevitable hiccup and ask: “What’s the glimmer here?” Bonus points for swapping one “have to” for an “I get to.”

🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com
📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in
✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com

Know someone who needs this?
Share this episode with the friend who always says, “Typical, that never happens for me.” Tell them they’re your glimmer - and watch the contagion of optimism do its thing.

 

Ever catch yourself predicting the worst - no parks, no luck, no chance - and then proving yourself right? In this refreshingly candid solo episode, Hilary unpacks why so many of us default to spotting the&nbsp;glitch instead of the glimmer - and how a tiny shift in focus can change what you notice, how you feel, and the life you build.
Drawing on real-life stories (parking myths, mentoring-room &ldquo;regrets,&rdquo; young-Nana trampoline energy, and Toastmasters butterflies) plus bite-sized psychology, Hilary explains negativity bias, the 3-to-1 rule for emotional balance, and learned optimism. You&rsquo;ll walk away with simple, repeatable practices to re-train your brain&rsquo;s filter (RAS), flip setbacks into fuel, and start a positive-result spiral on purpose.
In this episode you&rsquo;ll learn:
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Why the brain overweights bad - and how to rebalance with the 3-to-1 rule.
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The &ldquo;Accept or Change&rdquo; life rule to stop simmering in resentment.
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How to reframe in real time (from &ldquo;I have to&rdquo; &rarr; &ldquo;I get to&rdquo;).
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A nightly &ldquo;Three Glimmers&rdquo; ritual to rewire your RAS for good.
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How to surround yourself with glimmer-spotters and visualise the win before it happens.
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Your Challenge This Week &rarr; Each night, list three glimmers -&nbsp;moments, conversations, or coincidences that went right. Then, tomorrow, pick one inevitable hiccup and ask: &ldquo;What&rsquo;s the glimmer here?&rdquo; Bonus points for swapping one &ldquo;have to&rdquo; for an &ldquo;I get to.&rdquo;
🔗 More tools and resources: <a href="http://www.hilarysaxton.com" data-start="1356" data-end="1376">www.hilarysaxton.com</a> 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: <a data-start="1487" data-end="1510">hilary@hilarysaxton.com</a>
Know someone who needs this? Share this episode with the friend who always says, &ldquo;Typical, that never happens for me.&rdquo; Tell them they&rsquo;re your glimmer - and watch the contagion of optimism do its thing.
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Hey, Hilary here and welcome to the Bounce Back Better podcast. Your past doesn't determine your future, no matter what you've experienced. Just know that it's possible to redesign your life from today by simply drawing a line in the sand and making a choice to live your best life.

Hit follow or subscribe and tune in weekly for episodes from me. 

Chat soon,

Hilary x

Hey, Hilary here and welcome to the Bounce Back Better podcast. Your past doesn't determine your future, no matter what you've experienced. Just know that it's possible to redesign your life from today by simply drawing a line in the sand and making a choice to live your best life.
Hit follow or subscribe and tune in weekly for episodes from me. 
Chat soon,
Hilary x

Bounce Back Better By Hilary Saxton

Hilary Saxton, known as the “Bounce-Back-Better Queen,” Her lifelong mantra is “We only have one life, so don’t settle for mediocre,” which has driven her to dizzying heights of success.

Hilary Saxton, known as the “Bounce-Back-Better Queen,” Her lifelong mantra is “We only have one life, so don’t settle for mediocre,” which has driven her to dizzying heights of success.

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