Born To Love with Ellie Kemper and Scott EckertEllie and Scott are joined by actress and comedian Alyssa Limperis. Alyssa shares her love of feeding people. We hear all about celebrating Greek Easter, hiding dimes in bread, and her lifelong devotion to Domino's. Plus, Scott shares with Ellie his love of only owning one kind of sock.
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Hey Scott, Hey Ellie.
I'm Ellie Kemper. This is Scott Eckert. This is our podcast Born to Love. Every week on the show we have a guest on to talk about something that he or she loves and we are so excited. Today we have Alyssa elm Paris on the show. She is a very funny comedian. We met her back in November of last year, and she's going to talk about her love of feeding people, of having people over and feeding.
Them, hosting party, feeding people. I mean, I don't know. We'll get into it, hash it out with her. I couldn't be more excited to talk to her. How are you doing, Ellie, I'm well, how are you?
How was your week?
It was fun. It's wintertime now and my children did something that I never did growing up. Over the weekend. We went skiing and skiing. I don't really want to talk about skiing because I mostly just sat around in the lodge because I never went skiing, so I don't know how to ski, so I suck at it, so I sit in the lodge. But one of the things that it made me realize was my love Ellie of socks. What But I have a very This is the first love. It's like a yin and yang because it's also a loathe. I love my socks, but you know what, I loathe lots of different socks. My mom loves novelty socks. She's got so many different socks, all different kinds of socks. I read the best piece of advice This is probably now ten years ago, the best piece of advice that I had ever come across, and it's sock related. You want to know what it was? Yeah, if you are irritated with pairing your socks, isn't you know you do the laundry. Pairing the socks is annoying, thankless task, thankless, totally, nobody enjoys it. Here's a sure fire away, an algorithm, perhaps, if you want to describe it that way too. To make the task of pairing socks easier, you take all of your socks and you throw them in the garbage, and then you go to the store and you buy about thirty to forty pairs of identical socks, and then you never ever have to worry about pairing them again because they all match.
Scott, I love that idea in theory. What do I do?
I wear a lot of they're called no show socks, but they show like their soft like all like, al I see is my socks when I put these no show socks on, and they come in packs of different colors.
So what do I do about that?
Well, that's terrible. You shouldn't buy those socks. You got a pair of them. You have a whole bunch of different socks that are for colors. You got to put the blue in with the pink one. No, I've got The reason that the scheme reminded me of it is that my wife was like rooting through a whole house looking for the kids ski socks. Where are they wear the ski socks, Bob, because apparently you need special socks and you ski.
I don't know.
I'm not a skier, and I don't know. I've never been so smug in my life. Because I have a little box where I keep my socks. They still boxes literally labeled socks, and it is full to the brim of a bunch of identical black socks. And it's like, you know what, these are the only socks I wear. These are the only socks I've worn for years and years and years. They're they're carefree, utterly and completely care free. Now, if you're like you who has to do things like run, I mean, I suppose you might need a couple of different socks, but for me, it's really just one kind of sock. I just I just have the high pull up flash.
Sure, I have to say a knee high. I don't think your socks come up to your knees.
You have dress, yeah, but they're warm, they're not like fancy at all. You could wear them with jeans, which I do every day.
Of course. Why I say dress socks to describe the length more than the occasion. Their socks that come up what six inches to your up to your shin, up your shin six inches?
Yeah, they go up my ship maybe yeah, yeah, yeah you could if you pull them up and stretch them up real high. They might. They might, they're approaching the knee. They don't make it all the way. I mean, I don't pull them up that tight. I just love the fact that they match.
What does this have to do with skiing at the lotch.
Well, the ski Lodch, Because the thing, like I said, I mean.
You had taken me on a roller coaster of a. It was.
It was my smugness that they were the kids. The kids. My wife and kids both had to pair bring multiple pairs of socks. My wife had a hard time finding the socks, and the whole time I was like, I love my fick, your Scott.
You're took so many twists and turns. You're like, you know what, I love my family and I went skiing this week.
Anyone listening any obvious answers, Oh, he must love skiing. No, it's not sking, all right, Okay, okay, Oh he must love the fire at the lodge. No it's not the Oh he loves socks. Well, he must love I keep thinking, Oh, maybe his socks kept him so warm on the ski vacation. No, it has nothing to do with skiing except that your wife, your poor wife, Vanessa, Vanessa, couldn't find the socks, and that's what you loved.
You are sick, man.
I just think bullied for my love are fairness. I didn't do a great job articulating it, but I just I hope that Alyssa is kinder to me and that I'm not relentlessly bullying.
I hope not. I hope nobody makes fun of you in the conversation.
I hope I don't get I am not treated with open disdain.
From my opinion, I really hope that you don't get in any way mocked or ribbed for some light, little fun things that you did to entertain people.
But anyway, Scott, anyway, anyway, guys.
Alissa Alissa len Paris is our guest today. We are so excited to have Alyssa on the show. She is an actress and a comedian based in Los Angeles. She trained at the Upright Citizens Brigade Theater. She has her own comedy special, No Bad Days on Peacock. She stars as Sydney in the hit Showtime show Flatbush Misdemeanors. Alissa is very well known for her viral comedy videos impersonating her mom.
They are hilarious.
They are on canny. I've never met her mom, but I feel like I know her intimately. Alissa was selected to be part of the Big Money Player Circle back in November, so we got to meet her in IRL in real life.
Then we love her.
She is a delight.
She is a very funny woman. She's on the show today to talk about her love of feeding people.
So when we come back. We're gonna sit down with Alyssa.
We are back.
We are here with Alissa Lecarris, Alyssa.
Hello. I feel like I'm seeing old friends again. It's a reunion.
It is such a reunion. Scott, Alyssa and I first met back in November.
At the hard Rock Hard Rock.
So it was at the hard Rock Hotel in the heart of New York City.
Yes, Alyssa was performing as part of the Big Money Players Circle.
Yes, and we had a time we all met.
It was a night of laughter and.
Rock and roll.
It was so much fun. And we are so happy to be seeing you again. Granted over our computer screens, but still very happy to.
See you again. I feel the same way.
Well, thank you for joining us.
Alyssa is here today to talk to us about her love of feeding people.
Yes, which I want to have some of this love, Alissa, Is that right? Yeah?
Feeding people, having people, over entertaining, the whole all of it causes me stress.
So talk to me.
Okay, very interesting, this is great. Yeah, First of all, how cute is it? Look at all of our setups, don't we all look like we're gabbing from our from our like our childhood bedrooms. We all have our little posters on the wall.
And we're all I hate to interrupt it. Ellie has a blank wall behind her, and so does Melissa. The only person who has anything behind them is me, and it's my it's my adult bedroom that I share with my wife, and it's being openly mocked. The posters that are over my shoulder, Lissa are pictures of my infant children. They're also they're also my decent framed puzzles.
I knew there was a yes.
And Alyssa does have a poster on her wall, Scott, She's got plenty of posters. And I have a little, you know, my little sailboat lamp in the background and like an ikea little desk.
That's something the little nights stand kind of that reminded me of my childhood nights stand.
Yes, you guess what, guess we're this night stand used to me, not not my own. I wish it were my own childhood bedroom, my child's bedroom. So I saved it into this little what do you even call this a niche a nook.
It's a recording studio.
It's my recording studio. It's my recording studio in my home. In Manhattan Recording studio.
It is a white for those of you not on video, it is an undecorated white walled.
Cue Q.
With I like that share though. That's a it's a great chair.
It's from the Pasadena Antique Center anyway. Anyway, Scott, she was not just talking about your rest.
So you got that all the way from here to there. Yep, that's a good chat.
Ellie spent money transporting the world's I don't know, most unremarkable chair. This is tricky, tricky for an audio only format.
And we will say she's not sitting in it.
She's not sitting in it, folks. It's just there, sort of asant decorations directly behind the seat.
My head blocks it for most of it, except except when I need a break.
And it's now I realized that there's there's like a war in my mind. Would I rather see Ellie or would I rather look at that empty chair?
And I disagree with you. It's not an ordinary chair, Scott. It's made of bamboo.
I agree, it's not. I misspoke. I shouldn't have called it ordinary.
It is.
It's an unusual chair, but I don't know.
I mean, it's no framed puzzle.
It's not the kind of chair that you transport across the country. It's the kind of chair that you throw on the curb when you're leaving. That's that's sort of what I was trying.
Yeah, wow, okay, well I'll step out for a seconds.
Are getting heated?
Yeah, let me step out. Let you guys.
Maybe I'll tell you what it's the kind of chair. It's the kind of chair you break out when you're having a dinner.
There we go.
That's a total pro. Riding the train, riding the course, Alyssa, what on earth do you love about having?
Yeah? What what do you like?
So it's so it's isn't it like we all just live in our lives. So in my head, I'm like, everyone loves this because I grew up in just such a I'm Greek and so I like my grandpa lived with me. I grew up in a home that was like big on just hosting, having food all the time. Like I have strong memories of me. I ran track Ellie and I runner. I thought I wish you could.
Do Sorry.
You guys leave me in the dust.
Oh well yeah, well Alyssa would Yeah, well.
No, not anymore. I am an old I'm an old gal. These hips are they?
I can't. I can't if I tried, But yeah, I made a run, but I cannot fast, Okay, go on, No, I walk exclusively.
So yeah. Basically I have a memory of, like after a track meet, calling my mom being like the whole teen's coming over?
Is that okay?
And her being like you got it? So like, I think I associate having people over having food, feeding people as home and I love it. I love, love love the feeling of like people are coming over and I want to make sure that they have more food than they could possibly deal with. I want them to be I'm like big on, like there should never be an empty plate. If I see a plate getting low, I'm refilling it. I kind of am in turbo mode.
Right, yep, yep, yep, I hit a flow state. That's what I'm wondering.
Are you taking the time you know at big events like that you're the host of You're a focus on entertaining, so do you also have a chance to eat or are you in turbo mode taking care of your guests?
Well, it's very funny you say this, Ellie.
I I.
Feel like I am part of a very long standing familial tradition in my Greek home of overwhelming others with food and not eating any of it.
Yes, yep, yep, Well because you can't because you can't relax or maybe yes, I shouldn't say relaxed, but you're you're serving.
Them right, yes, yes, and people will be like, did you have fun? I feel like you had to host, and I'm like, no, that is what's fun for me. I find being at a party harder than I then host.
What you mean, yes, okay, I'm going to step in because I have to my record, my track wreck track record of having people over.
I have maybe them.
I have. When I say Halloween party, it's one set of parents and their kid, and then this year there was another mom and kid case. And that is my idea of me hosting a party. I was like, I hosted a Halloween party this year. We ordered pizza.
It wasn't anything I did put out crud de tay with hummus.
But at the end of that, you know, night of celebration, I was exhausted, and I'm not exaggerating it. I was like, because the all day anticipation of I'm having people over is the apartment clean or what is their wine?
Right?
All of it exhausted me, but I also felt triumphant. I felt like that was very wholesome and healthy. It felt good to have people at my home. Do you feel depleted afterwards? Do you feel like I want to do that again? Are you hot like on a rush?
Yea, literally think I'm.
Like high on a rush slash like said it's over.
Yes, Yeah, I think there's something about like deeply wanting my home to be filled with people at all. Like I remember the first time because my boyfriend, I moved into a two bedroom and that's when I felt I could really start hosting. So this is kind of new. And so my dad passed away and I grew up in this one house my whole life. And then a little over a year ago, my mom finally moved out of that house. So I had this like aching goodbye to this house that it just felt like a real like second loss of my dad. But then also you know the house and the that's where he did die in the house, so there was so much of him in it. And then I came back to La and this is kind of the good part of hard things, as it was like, well, now I have to do that. If I want home, this has to be my home, right. I love that. Yes, if I want traditions, then they have to be here because there's no longer obviously I'm still going to go visit my mom at her place. But it's it was almost like I had this crutch of I can just go back to this home for all the like, yes, that.
Stuff, how interesting, yep yep.
And so I had this big year of just like I had so many dinners and like I had like a Greek Easter, yes, And I was like doing all.
These traditions because I wanted to.
And I was like doing this tradition of like you bake a bread and you put a diame in it and then whoever gets the peace with the dime gets good luck. And I was at church on New Year's and the priest was like, and today we're doing the vassilpita. And I turned to my friend and like, is that a New Year's thing?
And she's like, oh yeah.
So I taught like thirty thirty people that at Greek Easter you kind of bread with a diamond it literally, yes.
How nice to experience other cultures. And now they're spreading the word exponentially. Those thirty people have to hold thirty people each, and you're okay, and that next thing you go, you're no.
Longer welcome at the gree church.
Now the archdiocese has banned me exactly exactly, yes, oh.
Yeah, that I could see myself doing that. Also, I have to be honest, we all thought it.
The size.
Why must it be a dime? It's too small, right, it should be a half a silver dollar.
It should be something that's difficult to choke on.
Is that right?
Really?
Got that's it, that's it, that's it now. Yeah, but it means good luck, and so you know what I think that means. You can't just get an easy pass on good luck. You have to risk choking to get good luck.
I like that.
You have to risk.
Do you know what the Greeks are doing something right?
That's right, we invented the marathon.
You know.
It's torture for forty.
For game day.
So I love you have just set in to motion the idea in my head, which is that, yes, if you, because I absolutely do that with my home in Saint Louis, which my parents moved, but I still feel going home.
It's not the home I grew up in, but it still feels like home.
And I definitely, even though I have children of my own, I do feel like I haven't established home yet.
So I love that notion, yes, of doing that and making that your home.
And I really think I wouldn't have done that if I hadn't lost the house. So it was this like terribly painful thing. And then when I looked back on this year, I was like, oh, so many wonderful Like I had a cookie swap because my mom always had cookie swaps with like her teacher friends, and I did it for the second time this year, and it's like now the one of the highlights of my year. And I'm like, I would have never done that if right, right, right.
Yeah, it's so nice.
Yes, I've got a question for you.
Talk to me, Scott.
I share your enthusiasm for hosting, and I think that it may not be to the same degree that you do. I'm certainly not as good at it. But the obstacle that I used to have, I think I've solved it. But the obstacle that I used to add is the cooking piece of it. You mentioned baking bread that that to me is like the failure point of any sort of party, because I've been to parties where the host is overwhelmed by the cooking and then the food turns out terrible, and then the hose like I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, and everyone's like, oh, it's okay, but everybody knows that the party's ruined, right, so like, yes, how do you handle that piece of it?
I'll say that's a great point, Scott, because I think I need to covey on this by saying I'm a comedian, and I trade in a lot of comedians. I'm on the cusp of like barely an adult, so I think I have the benefit of I'm rarely being like everyone sit down and eat a meal. I'm big in like spread territory, and I think there's less errors that can be done in a spread. I would be overwhelmed by having two couples over and having a sit down meal like that to me, because now that's the focus. Is the food worse. I'm big on what's the music gonna be. We're gonna have a movie on with no volume but with subtitle. There's gonna be a game. I'm gonna have an event. I'm gonna have like picking food.
What's the cool movie that? What's a cool movie selection? Because that the curre. I've heard about the playlist, but the curated silent movie one hundred percent, it's key.
I'll tell you what. It's not too cool. I just for the cookie swap. It's elf. For Greek Easter. It was my big fat Greek wedding. I mean, we're not reinventing the wheel here, We're just going to people come in and they go, yes, ah, that old thing. I gotta sit down. Look and I my boyfriend. I went to a hotel and they were like playing movies on a big screen outside in the patio, and they were like three hour black and white movies. I'm going, no, you can't get into a black and white movie on an outdoor patty.
You gotta go.
That's miss congeniality. I know it. I'll hop in for ten minutes.
Yas exactly right. I don't need sound because I know the line. I know I'm going in and I'm going out. I've never ever, it's never occurred to me to put a movie on mute and to have that in the background.
I love It's brilliant.
Thank you.
I'm thinking Okay, well maybe I'm already brainstoring for my next Halloween fat I'm gonna put.
On the Witch's one. What's the Witch's one?
Yeah? Right, hocus focus, there you go? Is that it?
I'm putting it on beetlejuice nightmare before Christmas?
Yes, gosh's really getting in so yeah, that's a little hack there, Yes, I too, I cannot okay, full confession.
For my wedding, I registered for China.
I'm talking about the kind of china you eat on in a sort of in a nicer setting, like for an event, but.
Taking out the good china. I can hear it in my head, a good china.
Exactly your mom's bringing it.
I have not used it to have other people over once, of course not, And the idea of it sends me into a panic having to cook whatever.
What's a common thing to cook?
Roast?
Yeah, pot roast.
Ellie cooks so infrequently that she cannot come on with the name of a meal.
I literally, I literally was like, what is something people eat? And the first thing I came up with was roast beef? I don't even does anyone eat that? Yeah, roast beef sandwich. I'm serving everybody roast bean sandwiches, which is on the china right, You know what I was thinking of, To be perfectly honest, I was thinking of chicken pacada, because if I'm having adults over, I'm not gonna feed them spaghetti and meatballs. I'm gonna feed them chicken pocada, which I've never caught in my life. The idea of making that with sides and presenting it and having it be hot.
Yeah, very stressful.
Okay, I'll say something else.
Another thing I really think is key to your first Like I started with things I already knew how to make.
So now I take risks at parties like I'll add or introduce one new thing.
But in my first year of hosting, I was just going with like Trader Joe's and then Greek food that I grew up knowing how to make. Because yeah, chicken pocata, I'm like to take a swing to make a new dash for a dinner party. I think it's too brace you.
I am going to now brag because there is one thing I make and I used to do this.
I was on a like sort of I was.
I hit a good streak when I lived in Los Angeles, I got a slow cooker.
You got the chair.
I got a slow cre say, I got the chair. I got two things out of my time in Los Angeles. I got a slow cooker and I got a bamboo chair, and they're both still with me. And one of the things that I haven't made in ages, but I used to make pretty regularly was a turkey passole stew.
Come on, come on, it is.
Nothing you've ever You don't think. Oh, that's what I'm in the mood for. I hope I go to someone's house and have that. Nobody's thinking of it. I found the recipe and my slow cooker recipe. I tried it one time again. All ingredients you can get at Trader Joe's.
Yes, it is.
Everyone loves it. It's delicious. You inspired me these cold winter months. Why don't I break that out recipe out?
You know?
Yes, because that's it. You have something you do well.
It is tried and true.
That's it, tried and true. And then you get a bread you and Scott I said, I make bread. I'll tell you what. I got a bread machine. I got a bread machine. You put water, you put a little butter, you put flour, yeast and salt and coins and two dollars worth of dimes.
You call it a day.
You have to do, that's all. Not when you've had people over, what do you make?
No?
Well, I mean I think, first of all, I don't know that I've ever hosted a sit down dinner party, right, So, Melissa, you are trying to I can't handle that. I hosted a Thanksgiving once, which is the closest, and I know how to make Thanksgiving. I'm talking casual, having people over, serve yourself standing kind of thing. And what I've discovered is that I want to keep it to like five items, right, I want to have an abundance, But the mistake is when there's too much going on, and the simpler that you can make it the better. And my hope is that the clarity that the true, like a bell ringing clarity of those items and their abundance carries me through. So I also hosted. I also hosted a Halloween party. As a matter of fact, many more people we had, we like, we had like thirty people, a bunch of kids. We had a giant pinata. But here's the thing, food wise, fifteen Domino's pizzas yep. And then two enormous. They weren't even bulls. What are those big metal trays? Just truly enormous. One of them was pasta that had been dyed orange. If you if you boil pasta with food coloring and the water, it's orange. The other pasta that had been dyed black, and then uh, clementine oranges and that.
Now now, okay, okay, you had me at the five items, the fact that those are your five.
It is actually I understood the pizzas and I thought it was going to end there. I thought it was going to be Domino's and sodas and then the pasta. Two things first, I'm thinking, why didn't you just put sauce right prot sauce?
Yes, we'll hold up. I'm being judged from my amazing orange pasta a little.
It's fantastic, Scott. Did you what did you mix the pasta?
Assuming answers, yes, did you mix the pastas together so they were orange and black?
No?
No, no, no, it appeared to be those were two separate items in his five.
Two giant trays. You could have either orange pasta or black pasta.
And that was for all the people who didn't want pizza.
I mean it's a kid's party. It's a kid's party.
It's a kid's party.
If I was hosting like a five couples, I wouldn't just serve them plain or in fasta.
So there was no sauce.
There was no sauce, No sauce, no s's what the pizzas for.
I love how confidently you're explaining this milk, have no.
Shame, only pride. I was literally like I presented it like, guys, let me let, I've got the perfect solution. Here's how you host a dinner party and you're both horrified. It seems genuine horror in your cleving tines.
At the end of all that the acid of just a sort of like you you're begging for a fat at that point, your body is hoping for a protein, hoping for a fat.
That's it.
It's begging for it.
And then but you understand, the clementines are orange.
It fits the.
Theme, and it's children. They ate those clementines like nobody's business.
I actually I believe that.
But Scott, having poked some fun at you, I have to say, you're honoring of the other. It seems this case, there were four meals that orange.
Black well, we also had salad.
We also had a salade. Yeah.
That's helpful to see because I would have found myself getting broccoli, raw broccoli, rock, carrots and putting those out too.
I like that you had the restraint yes to know Nope, we're not telling me too much. Just keep it to the five.
Yeah, I think.
Can I highlight something that you sort of breezed by and I think is the saving grace of that hellen party. My thing I said is you always have to have an event as well, and then that distress. It's like a magic trick. The more fun things you have going on, the food becomes an afterthought. And you had the pinata. Every kid is leaving there going we had a pinata for something that wasn't my birthday. Yeah, that was heaven. I'm so excited sen that the parents are going. I do it doesn't feel great, but they're not worried about that. The kids had a nice time.
Time and they'll come again because of the pinata.
So I think you really are so right because at my Halloween party, consisting of eight guests, I had no there was no enter what are we calling it entertainment?
I had an activity, an event, entertainment. I need something.
I think there was no event. The pizza.
We had pizza too, that was the event. There was no game, there was no nothing for I thought, Oh, the children will play. They're so hopped up on candy by that point that it's like playing is insane, right, They're just jumping. Yeah, yeah, exactly. So I love the edition of an event Alyssa, you mentioned or somebody mentioned earlier. I'll be honest, I heard about this offline. The ten minutes before, having left ten minutes before where they right can be an adrenaline fuel rush like you've never felt before.
Those are my words. I'm putting my spin on it. But what do you like about or do you like?
The people are talking high? You heard that on the streets.
You heard that onut what I like?
Yeah, yeah, I've said that. I've said that in interview.
Sure, sure, yeah, rush whatever, Sure I like the rush.
But it's true. I have stated to you too prior to this, that there is a a feeling when I know people are coming I have like fifteen minutes to go. That feeling if I could bottle it up, that's the There is no greater feeling in the world to me than like I got to get the finishing touches in pull thing. I like all four burners on the ovens going. I have like the chips, the.
Chips gotta go.
I think, I you know now that I'm saying. I think in many ways, I grew up in a lot of k at home. I think I grew up with a pulse of like frenetic energy, and I wonder if my life doesn't normally have that. And there's a familiar feeling of like, oh my god, we don't we need the ice, we need the ice. There's like I'm like stressing about things that don't really matter. That brings me like weirdly.
Calm up completely know what you mean. Yep, I don't have it with that. But yes, the stress is actually a comfort. Yes, it's yeah, yes, bringing you home.
And it's like who's gonna come? I think, just the feeling of oh gosh, it's about to happen. It's exciting. It's like before Christmas.
Yes, what is the appropriate time to come to an Alyssa party? Because I share that exact same sensation in the ten minutes before the party is scheduled to begin. But like, let's say that the party's supposed to start at seven. When the clock strikes seven and no one's there, a cold terror overwhelms me. That quick glee transforms into rage because I'm like, where is everyone?
No?
Of course I understand you don't show up to a party like the moment that it starts. My brain understands that, But my soul is full of fury.
Right, there is something childish about like people aren't coming to my birthday part. There's some deep seated fear of like, oh my god, I'm I yeah, but I pushed through, and I know these people are going to be Yes, eight o'clock. But yeah, I like gun time. I think the older we get, the more on time you can be.
I think. So I think that's right. Yeah, And but do you want to know what I'm instantly stressed about in that situation?
I'm thinking already I already I'm thinking, Okay, now, how am I going to make sure that people leave?
Like it's your home? So like, how do you get people out by a certain time?
Yes?
Yes, so see, I think there's just different, different sort of personality traits. There's someone who shall remain unnamed in my home who might share that same feeling. Yes, I have the feeling of don't go, please, never leave, stay as long as you. I have memories of being a kid and like knowing that it was about time to leave and running downstairs with my cousin and being like, maybe if they don't see us down here, they'll forget that we have to leave. Like I think, I never want it to be over, So I'm hoping that people don't leave, which is sort of a yeah. I wouldn't say that out loud to the guests, but I think in my soul of souls, if people are like, Okay, we're gonna sleep over, I'd be like, I'll make the sofa bed.
That is a feeling I cannot relate to at all. That's that is lovely.
Yeah, I don't know. I don't know.
I don't know if it is.
You know, you want a host, you want to take care of people.
I should have a caveat You both have children, is that correct?
That's right? So that could be a too.
I don't have children, so I do wonder also how much of it is, like, you know, you already have a lot of activity in the home ority of people you have to feed and take care of, so it could be like, oh, now there's more. So I wonder if that would change if I also had kids that I was tending to.
I could see what you mean. I could see what you mean. But I I think I've always been that way. I remember having during one of my Turkey pasole stew that era. But I remember having people over when I was serving my stews, and and do you know what, I would often go to bed that was married Michael, would you know, continue to entertain the guests whatever they were often playing?
What's that game?
Katan?
Uh? Yeah, no, not katan risk, it's is it any assassin? Or it's a game where you kill someone werewolf?
Nah?
Mean just going through who know what's the word.
Where you have to guess who killed somebody? It's not assassin.
That one is also called yes yes, Yes, there's there's a version of that that's whirl for like you close your eyes, you tap someone there that yeah, okay, it's.
Affia, maybe it's mafia, Maybe it's mafia, And I would go to bed. So my point is I've always been that way, even pre children. I just want people to leave by a certain time, and when they don't, then I'll go to bed, so you don't have that bone in your body, which I find it's so gracious.
I am like a little kid.
I'm like, please one more game, let's keep playing Mafia.
Yeah.
I am determined to find something that maybe you think, yeah, that can be work. What about the cleanup? You love it? You just love cleaning up?
No, I don't love cleaning up, but I like the I think because I have all this adrenaline. It's like it would be too much if like it just ended. So I think the cleanup is like it's not that it's fun, but there's something almost meditative about Okay, now this is the ending of it.
This is the Yeah, and you always do it the night of. I always do it the night of, which I don't think it's normal. Yeah, you got to get it done.
I like to reset the home. Then you wake up the homes is reset. If I didn't have a dishwasher, hell, that would be help. That would be help.
Yeah.
I also I also again I'm speaking as someone who hosted one party in twenty twenty three, and it was eight people, four of whom were children, so it wasn't like a real but I'll say I think you're still kind of writing on some energy, so you have the it's not like you're collapsing, you actually have energy. I go see the meditative, you know. Aspect of cleaning, I will say.
Like day, I honestly think the hard part is like the it being over. Like I do, think it's sort of a post holiday thing where it's like the next day feeling kind of sluggish or sad because all that it's done. It's done.
Yeah.
Yeah, Well, here's what I like to do when I clean up. If I'm hosting a party, I probably had a couple of drinks.
Okay, so I may I'm maybe not.
I don't have all my wits about me. And I put in my earphones and I turn on a podcast, and I stumble around my house collecting everything and cleaning things and listening to my favorite podcast. Guys, what if there's someone doing that right now? What is there is someone maybe a little tipsy, who's just had the greatest party of their life and is cleaning up the dishes right this moment, and in the way that I used to listening to us. Wouldn't that be America?
That comfull circle?
I mean, I'm speechless. That would be beautiful.
It would be beautiful to be a part of that and to know that we were essentially guests at the dinner as well.
I only hope that that's happening. Yeah, I only can hope if it is.
You threw a great party, You did a great job.
What if that person's name was Jeff. And what if Jeff lives? Where does Jeff live?
Oklahoma?
Yeah?
Oklahoma, Jeff from Oklahoma? You cleaning up your party? Man, We just blew your mind.
Your mind has been absolutely Jeff, if you're out there from Oklahoma, we'd like to officially invite you to be a come bey on the pod and talk about your experience listening to us.
That would be so trippy.
Jeff, stop what you're doing. Give us a five star rating on Apples.
I definitely thought you were going to say when you put it in your headphones.
I for sure thought you were going to say, you listen to music like that's such a calm down. You're like, oh, I put I listen to a podcast.
You know me well enough, Belly, I don't like music.
Do you know this?
Alyssa Scott doesn't. He claims not to like music, which is an absurd statement.
I mean, this is you know there's something I don't know what it is, but there's something about not liking music and the choices that you made for the food.
Go to get together me. Yeah, are you see? That's the thing?
A man who serves his guest food colored pasta and clementines. You're not surprised, to Lauren.
Yeah, that guy. He also doesn't care for music.
Oh yeh, here we were. I thought that we were landing in such a great place by blowing Jeff's mind, and then we just right back to non Scott.
Non Scott.
We don't want to keep you forever, but you know I want to stay forever because of what I've just told you about. This podcast will be.
Four hours long exact.
She's like, maybe if I just hide, maybe it'll never end. But we do want to make sure we have time to play a game with you. Our game is called love It or Loath It. If you have a few minutes, please when we come back. Okay, you'll play it with us?
Great, Okay, guys, we're back.
We've been chatting with Alyssa and Paris about all of the glorious, glorious aspects of feeding people. I feel inspired. I need to get rid of my hermit ways. I need to invite people over more. I need to feed them my turkey basole stew. That mission has been accomplished. In the meantime, I want to play a game. We play a game Alyssa called love It or Loathe It? And love it or loath it is a rapid fire game sort of where we throw items at you and you tell us if you love that thing or you loathe that thing.
Great, there's no in between.
Okay, okay, you can't be like, oh I feel me about that thing, all right, excellent, Okay.
First thing, Alyssa, love it or Loathe It? Indoor pools.
Love Love it came from the depths of my soul because I think the smell of chlorine, the feeling of either I'm at a swim meet or I'm in a hotel or I'm in like the Motel six with my parents and and there's a pool.
Yeah, yeah, it's the smell of chlorine. It takes you right, it takes your back. I think, if I had more time to.
Think about that, and if you told me, like you have to go in an indoor pool right now, I turned to loath. But in my head that my memory of it is love.
Yeah, I'm right there with you.
I agree completely, because the thing is that when you go in as a kid, especially like the holiday inn or whatever, it's like the most joyful experience ever. But it's also like muggy and crappy and thinking back to our parents just sitting watching their children splash in a hot, chlorine like saturated room less fun.
But well, have you guys been you guys live in Los Angeles. Have you been torn indoor pool recently?
Honestly, no, it's been so so long.
Yeah, I'll tell you I have been. That's why I brought it up.
And Scott, I have been that parent watching the kids in the pool. I want to tell you my love for it hasn't changed.
I really love it.
Love it.
Great.
Yeah, so don't love it's the smell. It's comforting. And also you're not a victim of the elements.
You know that, like the temperatures are going to change, there's not a frog isn't going to hop in the water.
True, it's fine, you know. So loves an indoor.
Loves an interpol Alyssa love it or lo that chain restaurants loveve it, love.
It, love it I'm very similar to what Ellie just said about the elements you are. I feel the same way about a chamber show. You're not at the mercy of the elements. No chef is going to try something crazy today. You go, I'm going to get this Subway sandwich and it's gonna taste the exact.
Same as it tasted when I was twelve after attract me.
There is comfort in that. Do I want to eat it every night?
No?
But there are times when I just.
Am craving the Cheesecake Factory or Dunkin Donuts because I know what it is.
Yep.
Is there a favorite? Or what's the two questions for you? Quick knee jerk response, what's your favorite? What's the last one you've been to?
Yeah? I think those will be the same. And I tweeted that recently.
But do you see it Domino's Pizza and then go ahead and read or recognizing our most loyal members.
That's you, Yeah, that's me.
I am a loyal Domino's number. So yeah, yeah, it's gonna be Dominoes, and it's going to be quite recently.
Ah you and Scott.
Scott, I'm I'm looking up why I didn't get a email from Domino.
I mean, I would not say if you thought, if you put together Domino's loyal customer Scott Eckert, were you the first person comes to my brain.
Now, Alyssa, you two, you guys have just discovered something.
There we go.
You mocked my pasta, but you would have loved my Dominoes and back together mutual love.
Yeah, all right, you've gone to the chain restaurant. But now you gotta do the work.
Love it or low that hit workouts, that's high intensity interval training.
Love it or low it.
God, this is a tough one. I I'll go loath. I'll go loath. I used to be very into this type of thing. Yes, so that's where my hesitation comes from, because there was a point where I would have loved this.
But now I'm in a real zen space of I go on long walks. I don't like dreading. I don't like the feeling like I'm going to be in a lot of pain.
I look forward to a long walk. I'll still feel good after it, but I don't have to go. Oh, there's something big is coming.
I could not be more with you because I'm thinking, why are we still doing that?
Right?
You don't have to. I'm not training for anything, that's right.
So, yeah, you guys like low intensity, low intensity.
Lit low intensity, but long interval, right, Li and Ellie's in New York.
I mean I think that's the obviously it's not a new thought, but gosh, the best part of New York is just you're not even thinking about Like here, I'm like, when am I getting my steps? New York? You don't think about it. You just get them.
And here I'll be like I better run or I better you know, bike or do something to exercise. I think, but I walked ten miles already. Okay, I'm good, exactly.
Yep, all right. Last one, Love it or love it? Alyssa board games?
I love it so much. I yeah, I feel uh probably that goes number two for like happiest and they go in with each other, like to have people over to eat food and then be like is it time? And then we go into the other room when we play board games. That's a perfect night for me. I love it. I get very competitive. I get a little bit aggressive. I don't it's not Luke we were playing bachi the other day and he was like, I was like, what are we playing to and he was like, who cares? And I was like, what, what do you then? What do you mean who cares?
That's why we're playing.
If no point, then this is just recreating.
That's a very different thing I have to have.
Yeah.
Oh yeah, I'm very I am not that way. I will abandon a board game halfway through. I have no follow through when it comes to board games unless it's like shoots and Ladders.
That really gets her going.
She's that ever goes like no other No, but it is yeah that I admire that because it's such a great activity.
Right.
Yeah. I also just grew up really playing boorgames, so I don't know a lot about like politics or the way the world works, or movies or film or TV because I just grew up playing borgames. So anytime it might I'll be like, what happened in the war of you know, the World War One? My boyfriend's like what, And I always just like, we played board games.
That's all we did.
I don't know unlessa yep, that is with me too, because my husband, he's a he's a movie buff.
He loves me and I have never watched any of them. But my my response isn't. I was playing boor games. I was like, I had a life.
Yeah, it's kind of the opposite.
It's like I didn't have a LIFEA yeah, yeah, yeah you were.
You were living.
Yeah what was I doing? Not avoiding having people over? I was sleeping, well, exactly, eating my turkey pa soul. But you know, I think that it's very sweet too, the fact that you can sleep at a party. That also means that you're inviting people over that you feel so comfortable with and that you feel so homey with that you're like, yeah, they won't mind, this is okay.
So I think that's a quite.
Nice spin, thank you, And with that particula, because I remember that night and it was a close group of friends. I'm sorry neither of you were there, but it was a close group of friends. But yeah, so I think maybe that's a nice little spin on it.
But yeah, Scott, where do you land?
On board games?
By the way, huge love, absolutely love for all the same reasons. Like to compete, I like, I like I like little puzzles, I like solving what the best strategy is. I prefer like more modern board games like Catan or whatever, to like old fashioned interminable board games like.
Candy Candy, the Candy One, Candy Land, Candy Land.
You don't like candy, I like if the age. If the age on the box says two plus, then that's usually not going to be one of my favorites.
Uh, fair enough, Okay, shall tire?
Okay, Well it's been it's been just a true delight talking to you, Alyssa. We agree about board games, maybe we disagree about my colored pasta, but it's been wonderful having you. Is there anything that you'd like to plug before we let you go?
No?
No, no, it's been a true delight being here. I love chatting with you guys and hanging. It's been so fun. And please invite me to your Halloween party.
I need to try that on. I will be there.
I don't care what coast you're on your coming. Maybe you're talking to Scott. You have to go one Halloween party, the one night and the other the next night. Scott and I both host Killer Halloween.
I want to be both.
If you fly all the way to Ellie's Halloween party, you'll get a chance to sit in the chair. And it's worth it.
It's worth it, guys.
Oh, bamboo.
I promise to serve you my famous turkey pisole stew next to Halloween and you can eat it in this chair.
I can't wait for the post a here from now. It's just me in the chair with the pizzoli.
And we did it.
We did it.
And you know who else is there?
Gus from Idaho, Jeff from Oklahoma.
Jeff bringing it back, Alissa. That is full circle. Jeff from Oklahoma.
We love you.
We wish you all the best.
Jeff, we love you. And yes, you can watch No Bad Days on Peacock of Mine. That's a solo show about losing my dad. It's funny and it's dark and it's sweet and yet go watch it.
Yes, everybody, go watch that. Alissa. You are a delight. You are so funny. Thank you for being on our show and we can't wait to see you soon.
Feel the same way about you, guys.
Thank you so much. Thank you.
Bye this podcast. Love it or loath it?
Love it?
Yeah, a right answer.
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