Bobby Bones Show Best Bits of the Week with MorganBest Bits: Eddie’s Dad Life Updates & Morgan Challenges Eddie To Do Something For Himself
Happy weekend! Eddie was super vulnerable this weekend talking about his life as a dad. Eddie mentioned some things he’s been wanting to do so challenger Morgan came out to convince him of why he needs to make it happen. Then Morgan shares a sweet moment she had on International Women’s Day at a panel she was on.
The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one. I hang a scene with a member of the show.
Happy Weekend Friends. Eddie is joining me this weekend. I'm bested tell.
Us, well, what's up, friends?
I heard this is your favorite thing ever to do?
Oh, you have no idea When you walk up to me and you're like tip it toe and you're like hiy, I'm like, yeah, it's my favorite week of the year or a month. How often do we do this? You ask me that, I think every time. My number six. Yeah, you guys rotated. There's six of you, six of us. What are you gonna get Bobby on here? I've tried that, it doesn't work. I've asked you might have to just go to him.
I think he's busy. Yeah, he's got a busy schedule. Also, he has like eight podcasts, so like, what is one.
More that he's gonna talk about? You know what I mean?
Like, true, he truly talks about a.
Lot of things. Yeah, but you know what, I think that too. I'm like, there's no way he can do another podcast, and then he somehow does it, and he has a lot to talk about. What I don't understand is like how he can just talk to no one, like when he does podcasts by himself. Sometimes he'll do like the Bobbycast all by himself, and it's like, how can you talk to no one for forty five minutes?
You've never done that before.
No, never done it, never tried it, And I don't think I can do it because I need interaction.
Yeah, it is tougher to do it solo than with somebody.
I've done it. You ever do it on your podcast? Just you?
Yeah, we're all talk about things. If I have something to talk about and say, it's.
A lot easier. Yeah. But if I have something to talk about and say, I'm like, I'm hungry, okay, And I.
Think about telling a story okay, right, Like you're reading a book to your kids. Imagine that there's no talking back and you're just reading a story. That's kind of what talking a story is.
What do you visualize while you're talking.
I'm just like picturing the story itself. It's kind of like creating a book and you're saying it out loud.
So it's kind of like that, maybe I'll try it.
I think you could do it.
I did, like back in the day, like when I was younger, there was a guy name I think it was Paul Harvey. What was his name?
And we're looking at me like I could I have no idea who This.
Is no chance you would know who that is. But my mom would listen to it and he would talk. He had this little like these little five minute segments and he would tell like some kind of story, but he'd always just say, like, so the car was just sitting there. There's nothing better than the sound of it. And this is.
How he sound, like, very melodramatic.
And very spacey, like all the little dramatic pauses and everything. And I thought, like, I guess that's one way of doing it, doing it real slow, just.
As the thoughts pop into your brain. That's someone who's actually really good at talking, because they're not using filler words.
I don't know if you've ever.
Put two and two together, but if you listen to somebody talk, unless they just have so much experience that they've edited the filler worth out of their speech. But most of the time, when people talk slower, like you just saw me take a break there instead of saying uh, most of the people talk slower, you know what I mean, Like I even you know what I mean is a filler word?
You know what I mean? So for him, he wasn't doing any filler words, no filler words.
Sharing the story and using his brain to like allow it to think and then process and then talk versus most people use the filler words when their brain is thinking. Yeah, that's a lot of it, but you can do it.
I feel like my my family talks so much that I have nothing to say. I'm surround I got it, I got it. I'm surrounded by so many people that just talk so much that I don't have anything to say.
But let me challenge that. Wouldn't you have more to say because you don't have the space to say it?
Nah? Nah no, But I love having conversations. Yeah, I just have nothing to say for that long without somebody saying a response or like challenging or even just.
Don't think you could talk about the Dallas Cowboys, no golf or hanging out with the boys for ten minutes about somebody else talking, Oh.
Ten minutes, Yeah, I could do ten minutes. Ten minutes is where it starts, not forty five.
Once you get ten minutes, though, you just keep rolling because it keeps going in different directions. They're like, oh, this story and then this part and let me add this.
Yeah, I guess so if you.
Can do ten minutes, then home free.
Maybe I'll try it someday. I think you should see what comes out, to see what happens. I'm not going to release anything, but just I'm going to get in my office and just start talking. You know.
It helped me one time when I was, oh, gosh, this is after my really really bad relationship. I got on a microphone and I just, for like thirty minutes talked about my feelings.
That's pretty good.
It was like my release. It never went anywhere. I never shared it, never to have it. No, I'm pretty sure to leave that one that was evidence of a lot of things in my life. Was more of a release for me. But it felt really good. It was like an audio journal entry, which is kind of like part of what inspired some of the podcasts that I do now. I have moments where I do little audio journal entries where I share moments from my life that are I feel like I can really speak on. But that's even far between, you know, but there's moments of that.
I guess My point is that I really do like doing this podcast because I can't. I think you're kidding, because I'm not. Guys are always kidding. I'm not kidding. We've talked about this. It's just the time. It's just the like, hey, do you have like this time to cut out and do this podcast? That's the hardest part. But once we're in here, I love doing it. I love talking to you, and I think we bounce well off each other.
And oh yeah, we have great conversations, good conversations. But also I have to correct you because I don't come up and say hi anymore. Now. I just come up and see it in front of you and look at you, and you know, you know immediately I just kind of give you a look and you're like, yup, okay, this is best Mians time.
Yeah, which is kind of what everyone does, Like Bobby and I on stage, like you didn't have to say anything because it gives me a look. I'm like, I got it. You want to wrap the song up, let's go now, it's the time. See, it's how long we've all hung out together? All right? Tell me about Live though, Eddie.
How are things going, how's dad live?
How's individual life? Yeah? Life's good. Life is good. We've It's been a really good mix lately, has been a good mix of like family and work and travel. We got to I didn't get to tell you really talk about the super Bowl with you, which is kind of cool. Oh yeah, you can totally talk about it. I hadn't really talked to anyone. It's weird because like, there are a group of dads that I see probably every week at practices or just different, you know, events that my sons have, and like I see dads and we're like, what's up? And usually you.
Never purposely hang outside of these sporting events.
These I don't have friends like that, Like I don't hang out with there are Okay, I'll backtrack. There are a couple of dads that I I know from my son and his friends. Like they're my son's friend's parents. And if I like the dad and my wife likes the mom, will have him over for dinner. Like we've done that before, not very often.
Yeah, you need some you need some dad time, yeah, or just friend time. This is why Eddie. Every day we always catch Eddie sitting in a guy named mckitty's office here at work.
That's my guy time. This is why you always do this, that's my guy time. But m kitty's different though. Mckitty's like a So McKitty is a he's an on air personality on one of the stations here, Big ninety eight Afternoon Guy. He's way younger than me.
So are you living vicariously through him?
No? What's crazy is this is funny. You're gonna laugh. But what's funny about how kind of how our relationship started was his dad died when he was he's nine or something, when he was a young young boy. And it started off kind of like as a joke but not really because I would just he would do stuff in life and I would say, like, your dad probably wouldn't be proud of that. And for me it was kind of like just a funny little joke, but to him, he was like he would get emotional because he's like, you're right, my dad probably wouldn't like that. And I'm like, so we just kind of started that way, and I would kind of he would come to me and be like, hey, my tires, I'm not joking. I know you're laughing, but I'm not laughing.
I'm smiling because I think it's cool that you guys have a connection.
Like this.
I always love seeing you guys sit together. I think it's cute, Like I think it's a cool thing.
I don't. It's not like i'm his dad's age, but like I'm older. I'm like an older brother to him. And like the other day he like, man, I got a flat tire, Like will you come like look at it? And so I don't know how to do anything with a flat tire. I'm like, here, I am being the dad you know, like, and so that's just kind of our conversations. It's really like I'm older, more mature, he's younger, party phase, and we kind of just meet in the middle. I love this for both of you.
Guys, because it's clearly an outlet for you to have some adult dude time that doesn't have a lot of stipulations to it. And I love it for him because he's getting to have a mentor brother figure in his life. Yeah, and that clearly is important to him.
So I think it's cool that you guys do this.
I joke around with you guys because it's funny because we give you a hard time when you always take your breaks and stuff. We go to Whole Foods on Wednesdays, yeah, like you guys have a whole routine that you set up. But genuinely, I think it's awesome for both of you guys, So you get to have that.
It is cool and he's very just nice and friendly and open to talk about whatever. And I love that with dads. I was just talking to my wife about this. There is some kind of competition interesting with just men. I would say with men in general, Okay, tell me more. Having likes conversations with grown men. Being a grown man is like there's an underlying competition. There's always like a size me up when you first meet a dad and it's like what do you do for a living? Like like that's always the first thing, Like this is gonna establish what I think about you, and and it's it's just very awkward, like this underlying competition where like we can't just be like normal.
There's really interesting, Eddie, because I don't feel like dudes are.
Ever normally like that. Well, from like a kid, from like being a kid, competition was always a thing, like in sports, competition is always a thing when you're a kid, like being competitive in sports. Then you grow up and then the sports competition you no longer play sports. Some play golf, but then that competition kindly becomes like how successful on my versus you? And it's a weird thing. And maybe it's me overthinking it, but I can see it. I can sense it when I have conversations with other dads of just like okay, maybe like all right, you're the radio guy, like you think you're hot. Stuff like a weird barrier that I always have to break, And so maybe they're maybe that's kind of why I'm very reserved on making friends. Don't get me wrong. They're like a handful of dads that I love and that's not an issue and we hit it off right away, and those are the guys I talk to. Yeah, but it's it's really hard to make friends. It's almost like dating when you're older. It's kind of hard to make dad friends when you're a dad.
Well, making friends and finding a partner are comparable, right. These are people you want to spend time with. These are people you want to like, you want to enjoy hanging out with. You're going to spend a lot of time with them, that's the goal. So it is similar in doing that. I'm bummed for you though, that like even these dad friends though that you don't like, you gotta have guys time and hang out with them or have moments of that.
And realistically we don't have a lot of time.
I know. But like, just like for your wife, she should have girls nights and yes, so she.
Has no problem. She's got like a ton of girlfriends and they have dinner. Why you should also have this, Yeah, she says that too. I will. I will say though that there are a couple dads that are always like, hey, man, like, let's go grab breakfast sometime, and like, which is weird because I can't have breakfast during the week, so I have to have it on a Saturday morning, which I'm like, yeah, breakfast really doesn't work for me. But they want to get together to talk about you know, just life, which is really cool. Yeah, and you should be doing that. So that's definitely on my list. And there's one.
Day encountering it with let's have lunch because I think most people can have lunch during the day. That makes it easier totally. Kids are at school, you guys can both take a bag from work. You can get away for lunch, just might be a little bit later, but yeah, you.
Can always have a lunch. Yeah, we could have a lunch, which is I don't know. I think parenting's fun to talk to other parents about because you always wonder like am I parenting the right way? Like how do you do this? Like how do you deal with this?
Well, it's with anything in life that you're going through. You want someone else to have battle scars with. Sure, you know, you want to trade stories, you want to share the experience with someone because having an experience by yourself is lonely totally, So knowing other people are going through similar things as part of the human experience.
Yeah, and sense of like comfort too, like, Okay, I'm not the only one guy.
It is again back to like the loneliness out of it, because even you can have your wife and you have your kids, but there's still loneliness in that. Yeah, you're experiencing something alone that somebody else isn't having those same feelings for. So it makes sense. You were going to say, there's one guy. Is there one guy that you're a.
Little bit more No, there's one guy who's been asking it, has specifically been asking me. I guess he's just kind of having a hard time with work life work family balance. Yeah, he's not really happy at work, and then he also feels like, you know, he's having trouble with some of his kids and like how to do all that? And I think it's so cool that he feels comfortable enough to come to me and say, like, hey, i'd love to talk to you about this. I don't I mean, I'm not an expert. I don't know, but.
Nobody you love to talk. You're an open space.
And I love to talk about that, you know, Like, yeah, I know all about that, I know all about balancing work and family, I know all about dealing. I mean, I have four boys, seventeen the oldest, six the youngest, so like I have experience with all of these different ages with boys, not girls, no experience with girls whatsoever, vastly different life experience. It's totally different. But so I think that's pretty cool and I'm looking forward to I think we're going to do it probably in the next couple of weeks, where we're gonna hang out and talk and I don't know, see what happens.
You know, it's funny you're saying this and talking about this. Women are really good about creating community around them. I don't know that guys have as much of an innate desire to do that, because I think it's really built into us to have a support system like women. I don't know that it's as necessarily built into men because they have always been taught to be the provider and take care of things that you guys don't have this innate Well, I need a village to do this, you know what I mean. Like, I do think there's a difference to that experience too.
I know exactly what you mean. And I don't think we're built to where we don't need it. I think we do need it. We feel it. You shouldn't like we don't need it. Yeah, But when I mean, I'm a I'm a total victim of this. Even when I feel like I don't want to hang out other people, which is most of the time, I'm like, I don't want to I don't want to go to their house, like I don't want to hang out with this family, Like I just want to chill weekend. But when I do, I always leave going like that was nice and that was fun. We should do that again. So I don't. Yeah, I think guys are wired to like we don't need it. I got all myself, like I don't need help doing this, but when you do talk to another male and they're going through certain things that you're going through and like, oh you, oh, you struggle with this too, Like absolutely, it's we all need community. We do. It's a part, it's a part of life.
And it's and it's very much show that it's been driven into you guys to think that you don't or you'll be okay without it. Yep, it's not necessary. I think it's necessary for everyone. I think everybody needs help. I just I don't think it matters your gender. I think we all need someone to lean on in all different spaces of life, not just a partner, not just a friend, not just a family.
I think you need it all to survive. I agree completely. There's a guy that hits me up every year around April. I think it's April, and there's like some retreat. Every April. He emails me and he invites me to this men's retreat. It's like thousands of men go to the mountains and smoke cigars and like talk about just life and God and faith and whatever. And I'm like, no, I'm out, like I can't.
Why does that I don't know. Hold on, we're gonna take a quick break. We're going back, and we're gonna get into that one. Okay, all right, I need to know why you feel.
No, I can't do this. I don't smoot cigars, I don't drink whiskey like I don't.
Like and that's your reason.
No, that's part of my reason. It's I again, from from a distance, that just sounds like it's It's like when I am surrounded by like say, I walk into a book club with twenty women and I sit on the couch and I'm in the middle. I'm like, get me out of here. This is a very weird feeling. Okay, same deal. Like a thousand men that I don't know.
But you eddy thrive in situations of meeting people.
I don't know what it is you love meeting I love what I love sitting next to someone in an airplane. I love talking to the uber driver. I love finding out more about my server, like I love that stuff exactly. Thousand dudes that I don't know weirds me out.
It's just because you're you've been taught to think.
That that's weird. I don't know who taught me that society, you know what I mean. No, obviously, not because a thousand people do this and they.
Have no problem doing it, but that those are people who've finally taken that uncomfortable step and said, I'm just going to try this out.
I feel like they feel very comfortable going.
On probably now. I bet the first time they did it they didn't.
And then I'm like, what am I going to talk about your life?
You're being a dad, how that experience is for you? All the things, do things, sports, you can talk about things you dude news. Literally, you can also bring tequila that's all you want to have instead, and I bet there's somebody else that's going to be there that also wants tequila.
Can I dilute my vibe? Yes?
You could also do that.
I can't. Man, Like the dudes love to drink and I don't mind like a little bourbon with ice or whatever, but I'm sipping it, not drinking it. That's fine, And like dudes like there's bourbons from eighteen forty. I'm like, Wow, you're a you're a man, Eddie.
I would challenge you that I think all of the things that you possibly believe about this situation are so much worse in your.
Head probably that when you would go because I do like the mountains, yeah, and I like campfires.
And you like hanging out and meeting new people. That's all that is, the only difference is that you're adding this label of like there's a.
Thousand men, I don't know, a thousand dudes.
Which is a thousand people out an airport that you'd love to go and talk to on any given day.
It might take me back to you know, middle school. Did you I don't know what your your town was like, but did you make the jump from elementary school to middle school? And it was like year elementary school is one, but then you go to middle school and there's six elementary school people there, so so like you don't know half the people and you're desperately looking for the one person that you know. Yeah, because it's like and you're stuck on the side of the wall, on the corner of the wall, just kind of like cool, cool, this is this is a side of you.
This is like the little kid in you that is not loving this.
I had to do it in middle school, like my first of middle school, very like lost, and then I found one person that I saw. I'm like, dude, be my friend. I know I never really talked to you in elementary school, but like, be my friend because I don't know anyone else here. Same in high school. Like high school again, it was a bunch of middle schools getting together and all of a sudden, I'm like, I don't know anyone here. This is so weird.
This is a little kid in you that's freaked out by it. Maybe I just feel like it, and I'm warning for you. At the end of the day.
My wife says the same thing. She's like, go like, you might like it, and I'm like, I don't want to.
That's the worst second happen. You're gone for forty eight hours.
No, no, no, I think it's like a it might be like a three four day retreat. Okay, but say you go twenty four hours. It's not a lock in, like they're not. They can't keep me exactly.
Say it's my four hours, Like, this is the worst thing I've ever done. I have to go. Oh my kids got sick.
I gotta go. You want me to go all the way in the mountains and come back like.
Six hours later, Yeah, because I guarantee you're not gonna come.
Back you're so calm it. Yes, I probably wouldn't. I'd probably like it. Yeah, you love socializing. I do. I do. It's just I don't know anything about this.
No. Like, look, change is good. Being uncomfortable is good for you. It would help you. It would help you probably have a new experience that you've been needing.
What was it like? Let me ask you a question. What was it like when you joined the Bobby Bone Show and you didn't know any of us? I was uncomfortable, But like, do you remember that?
Yeah?
I do.
It was uncomfortable and I was like.
We knew each other.
Yeah, but we had one lunch at one point in time.
I'd met you a couple of times. But those are all march people.
And typically when you know, like you're with your people, you're gonna hang to them versus the one person that you maybe kind of know.
Yeah, I was your dude in middle school.
Yeah, and I it was uncomfortable. But now look at this, and if I wouldn't have been uncomfortable, where would I be?
Not here?
Yeah, being uncomfortable is a catalyst for change.
I know. And I feel so stupid because I preached this to my son all the time. My seventeen year old, and he's all like not avoiding uncomfortable situations, and I'm always like, you're to do that.
It's easier to do that because being uncomfortable also sucks, and it gives you feelings that you don't either want to address or you don't want to feel.
And it's hard.
I can recognize that. There's moments where I'm like, I'm not touching that I don't want to do that. There's I can't tell you how many times, Eddie, I've had a date lined up and I have to hype myself up and.
Be like, Okay, we're going to do this where I'm like sitting on couch.
I was like, I really don't want to do this.
Yeah, but it has. Has any of those dates turned into something really cool? Yes, and a lot of them haven't.
So to my point being, I still get up and do it every time because I know there's always the opportunity for something really cool to come of it. Yeah, And this is your opportunity for something really cool and close friendships that you don't currently have, not on that level, not.
On that space. No, I don't. I think this is something you have to Bobby and like I have like our guys here, but it's it.
Is different and you you're looking for dad friends and thinks these are people that are likely on very similar levels and experiences as you, and having that kind of community is so much different having Like I love this community, I say, they're different like my work community.
Love it.
I'm great.
I love coming here.
I don't wake up in the morning and hate coming into work. But I also love that I have my group of friends that I get to spend time with outside of work. I go and we go and do fun things.
But you don't have a family, You're right, But that's my community. I have the family, so is the community. Is the my family and my community.
It's another one of your communities. It's not your only one.
Though, because that family takes a lot of my time. It does.
But it's also important to use a human being to have multiple communities. Yeah, for you to feel good, because how are you going to keep living in this community with your family and at work and feel whole when there's something missing?
Yeah, I think, I mean, there's definitely something to think about because I think a lot of people are in my situation where you really don't have a lot of time to do anything else other than work and your family. You go to work, you're done with work, It's time to cook, it's time to take kids to practice, time to pick kids from school, whatever, whatever it may be. Before you know it, it's eight thirty and it's time to get everyone ready for bed, and you're like, well, what do we do now? Like nothing, but there are the weekends. There are, But this is also challenging you. This is the challenge do you restructure.
You have a son who is old enough to help that you're at least have talked about on the show, where you've struggled with letting go of some things and allowing him to do stuff, which is hard. I know, I remember being a sixteen year old kid or and that was not super responsible. But I also remember my two older sisters spending a lot of time watching me and taking care of me. And I'm sure my parents at one point we're afraid, but we're like, well, we have to let go of this and let it happen.
We've used him before, but there's I have four boys and three of them play sports, so like we literally have to sometimes go three different ways, you know, Like my oldest son will take one of them to practice, my wife will take another one to practice, and I will take the other one to practice practice. So like that's just kind of where we're at.
True, And there's moments in your life where this will happen. Yes, And I can't speak to that not being a parent. But you can restructure enough to have a weekend away. You can restructure enough to have a lunch with somebody. You can restructure enough to keep one night because.
Your wife does I said, my wife does it, and I have no problem just staying at home with the boys while she does that. She and she doesn't have a problem staying home with the boys while I do it. She does it every time I travel, see, like that's part of like, that's part of what we do.
So this is just something you have to restructure to see if it's worthy enough of the time for you to go and do it, like if it's that important.
See. I will say though that when we do travel, like the super Bowl, we were gone for a whole week and me, Kevin, Mike Reid, Bobby and Matt Stell came with us on that, like we do kind of form a bond, yeah, you know, and we do have like a good time together, and we do have good conversations because we're outside of the work environment. We're together the whole time, so that does kind of count.
It does to that, But but you are also still working.
I am still working.
Like, yeah, it's got like how Bobby has a challenge himself to do things that are not work related, right, you almost have to challenge yourself to have friends that aren't work related or within your other community.
It's a tough challenge, and I know it's rewarding at the end. I just it's a challenge where you're like, man, I'm not even willing to play, even though I do know there's a reward at the end you do.
And it's like with anything, you have to decide what's actually worth it, you know what I mean?
What do I care enough about? What do I want my rest on Saturdays it's a thing? Or do I want to go meet or hang out with friends? It's true, Yeah, I mean there are like one thing I have been wanted to do is go like on a little trip with friends, you know, like even just like a coffee trip. No, I'm talking about like three of my good buddies that I know or three of Like, there's a buddy I have in Wyoming that I haven't talked to. I went to college with. I haven't talked to him in a long time. Like we kind of chext back and forth once in a while, but like I would love to go spend a few days with him in Wyoming. Like I'd rather do that than go to the mountains with a thousand dudes. Okay, then what has stopped you all of these years? Nothing? Just finding the time to do it and him finding the time that he can do it. Yeah, that's it. Just I mean, if we can kind of say, hey, you know what, how it is March fifteenth, that's great, March fifteenth. I will be there. We will do it. And I know that at some point in the near future we will do that. But that's the kind of stuff I like, rather than jumping into the cold, cold water of hanging out with a thousand dudes of a mountain.
Okay, fair enough, maybe this is your baby step, but I think you just need to do it.
Just do it.
You just need a book it, get it on the calendar, and do it.
You have to.
If you have had any experiences in the last year that have taught you like present moment matters. You can't keep saying yes, at some point it will happen.
You just have to do it.
I know that's hard to do with kids and a family and a whole life. That is existing part of me too, though.
My personality is never to be the party planner, but to be the party attendee. Fair, but all you have to just book a date. Yeah, let me a date.
Yeah, and I bet he'll start planning the rest.
Right. But as the book in the date is kind of is planning the party, okay, d it's literally saying this weekend works for me. It's like, I'll give you a small example playing golf, Like I have a hard time setting a tea time, like a commitment of I'm going to play at eight o'clock today. I'd rather just walk up to the course whenever I'm ready to go and be like, hey, do you ever for one? Yeah, you can walk right up like that's my style.
Spontaneous is not a bad thing. It's also balance. You can have plenty of spontaneity while also having one weekend where you're like, set calendar dead, run it down.
I'm challenging you.
This also has happened a few times where we've like challenged different things and we get follow ups. Next time you come on Best Bits, I hope you have at least booked the trip.
I have something for you. Yeah, the next few days, something that I told you I would get you, and it's coming. Corn. I'm not telling you what it is. I'm not telling you what it is. That's the only thing, right, smoke Corn, No, I'm not telling you.
It's Corn season.
Run it down, goal, go hang out with Scott and Wyoming.
And my only challenge is that by the next time you are on Best Bits, that gives you six weeks.
Oh my gosh, that gives you six weeks. I can't book something in six weeks.
All I'm saying is get it on the calendar and you and you book a flight. It doesn't have to be in the next six weeks that you go on the trip, but in the next six weeks you set and pick a date and you do this.
I think I just text to my friend Scott and be like, hey man, I want to come see you when now let's book it.
Literally, you know my wife too, well, yeah, like hey, be like, hey, wife, when's the good time.
We're going into basketball tournament seasons.
You're always going to have excuses.
This is always something I hear you.
But you're always going to have excuses because life is always going to be busy. You're always going to have something to do for the rest of your life. Because you had four kids, you will always have.
Something to do.
Yeah, yeah, but you know how necessary it is for you to also have personal experiences, even as a dad and adult.
It's necessary. I know, I know, because my sole purpose in this life right now is just to raise my four kids, like in my mind, like that's it. Yeah, like anything else is not important, and that's fine. But also this time.
Is just as important for you being a human on this earth in your life.
I agree, And it takes someone like Morgan Heughlesman to tell me this.
I have to remind you because I am I don't have kids, so I can blatantly say there's a reason you need to do this, and I know that's also easier said than done because I am childless.
Yeah yeah, yeah, but yeah, that's like when Bobby does like parent advice. Yeah, I can.
I can recognize that this is a very difficult ask, but I think it's important.
It's a good challenge. It's a good challenge and a challenge accepted.
It's better than the Mountain retreat.
You know. We found the we found the baby ground for sure.
Okay, we're gonna take a break.
We'll be our back.
I want to tell you about some things that happened. Maybe we can get in some super Bowl stories.
Oh yeah, the super Bowl. I forgot about that, so, Eddie.
We had International Women's Day this past weekend. Cool and I got asked to be on a panel at the Grand hiat Let's Go.
It was so much fun. You did it already, Yeah, yeah, happened.
International Women's Day was on Saturday of this last weekend, not this one that.
We're talking about now. What was the event? It was just a panel of three women.
One was it CEO, another was a general manager, and then there was that's.
Crazy, not in a bad way. That's awesome. Yeah, that's great for you. That's just wow, like a good company to be in in a room of women.
There were some dudes that trickled into like shout out to them. And it was really good, Eddie, Like it felt really good to talk to women and it was really cool to be on a panel, we were all different ages. We had won that was like kind of more my mom's age, and then we had middle and then we had mine. Like we had these different ages in it, which also gave us all a lot of perspective, like we were learning from each other as we're sitting on the panel. And the reason I bring this up though, because at the very end, like they had asked, people in the audience had asked questions. But after we got done, I'm standing waiting for my car to get pulled up, and one of the girls who was in the audience walks up to me and the other the CEO panelist too, and she goes, I didn't want to ask you a question because I don't speak super good English, And she was like, but how do you wake up every day and be confident? How do you do this? You seem really happy? And we sat there and we had like a conversation about for like five minutes and she's like, oh, I have chills on my arms, Like thank you for saying that. But I ended it with also, you should speak up. Do not be afraid because you learned a whole new language, like and why would you not want to use it? You did that on purpose. I don't speak another language, like use it. Don't be afraid just because somebody might not completely understand you, like be confident that you did that. And she like gave me this big hug and she had tears in her eyes, and I was just like, what is my life right now? That I got to have that conversation with that woman and be on this panel and this life is happening. It was a really cool moment. Yeah, and I wanted to share that with you.
That's really really cool and it gives you a little a purpose, like, Wow, that's cool that she's I don't know, she asked me a question, thought I was qualified enough to answer that question, and now it could help her with something in life, which is really really cool. I do understand what she was going through though with not wanting to ask that question. Growing up bilingual, so like the way I grew up was my parents spoke Spanish, some English, mostly Spanish, but I was taught to learn English, so I understood Spanish because my parents spoke Spanish. But I also went into an American school system learning English, so and I was always taught my dad always taught me like English, learn English, Learn English, Learn English, because this is you will live. You're an American, like you will be speaking English for the rest of your life. And but I was always ashamed that I knew Spanish because I didn't really learn Spanish, you know, as far as like educational wise, like, but I new Spanish because of my parents. So like, I understand the whole feeling of feeling a little bit of embarrassment of like, I don't know this language as well as I know my main language. But you're right, it is bad ass to know two different languages.
It is. And I well, I do think people, again in our society have made that complicated for people, right. I'm sure she's had moments in her life where people have been like, I can't understand you, and they get frustrated with her, or they yell out or like tell her to speak you know. Yeah, who knows the experiences that she's had that led it to that. But I just I think it's so beautiful when two cultures can combine. I think that's so cool totally.
And I tell my kids that all the time, because what's funny is my two biological kids half white, half Mexican, half Hispanic. My two adopted kids. One of them is just fully white. He loves it. His last names Garcia. He's like, that's right, I'm Mexican. I'm half Mexican. So he says, have you gotten like the heart to tell him like no, no, no, no, no, no, no no no, I'm letting him roll. I'm letting him just roll with it because at school, I don't know I've ever told you this, but at school they had like a flag day and they're like, if you have like a heritage that you come from, like a culture or whatever, and you want to carry that flag and represent that flag, you can do it. And he was like, where's the Mexican flag? And he's as pale as can be, blonde hair, blue eyes carrying that Mexican flag, while my biological kids was like like I don't want to carry that so wild. Yeah it's a weird thing, where like my biological kids kind of are just like, well, I don't know, like what's weird? Being both like what am I? And I could tell him like it's so cool to have background and culture, Like your grandparents are so different. Both grandparents are so different. They speak two different languages, Like we make different foods. You know, we come from this place. It's very different from the place you live. And I think it's something, really, it's something that I didn't really even understand until probably I was I don't know, you know, twenty thirty years old. Once I left home and realized that it was cool to have a little, you know, a different background. That was pretty cool. But it took me a long time to realize that.
Yeah, because I would imagine it would come with insecurities because of the way that people speak about that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, and people believe that it's not okay when you should be one or the other or whatever. When I'm sitting here, I'm like, give me all. Heck, when I went over to Europe and people spoke like five languages, I was like, are you kidding me?
I don't even think another.
I mean, thankfully, I do have a little bit of French that I happened to remember. But I was like, you speak five languages? Pretty cool, freaking amazing?
Is that? How stupid are we to only know one? Exactly? We shouldn't we wore too two? And I think, you know, a lot of Americans know a little bit of Spanish too, because you kind of have to, but like, okay, two languages. Some of these people in these countries no freaking ten languages, and it's so amazing.
It's incredible. So I think it's so cool. But I knew you like that moment, that is really cool, just because it was so important for me to tell her that. I was like, I know, I don't have any experience in that matter, but like, please speak up.
I don't want you to not to. What did you tell her?
The WHI which, so she had asked, She's like, how do I you know, wake up there? I have really hard moments sometimes where I wake up and I and I don't want to do this, and I just don't know how to.
Be confident and excited like.
You are right now. And I think she was seeing one version of me, of course, And I tell her, I said, just exist in those feelings, like don't put them away.
Those actually help you in the end.
And I know it's really hard when you wake up and you're feeling sad, you and you don't want to do something, but sometimes you have to feel that to get to the other side. And sometimes when we push it away, it never really helps us in the end. So feel the feeling and then encourage yourself to keep pushing through those and I promise you'll start to be able to push through them more often if you just learn.
It's good something to that effect. Yeah, but way to go to come up with that on a fly. I mean it was real. Yeah, it's not like you made it up, but like, yeah, questions on the fly are pretty hard. They are.
But also it's just something I'm passionate about. I mean, even sitting here talking with you about things I love, I'm I'm like or I'm like Bobby. I'm a challenger. So I love to challenge people. I love to to see them become the best version of themselves.
Yeah, but you guys are annoying sometimes. I know it is.
It absolutely is. There's no doubt about it.
Let me, let me be, me, just let me be. That's why I.
Also have moments where I'm like, I get it, like it sucks. I'm not saying that it's going to be easy. But if I can be the one person in somebody's life to be like, no, do this, I will be Even if I'm a little bit of a jerk to push you.
In that direction, at least you acknowledge that.
Yeah, but it's necessary for because I think there's also a said that we want someone to do it for us. We want someone to challenge us like a partner, and one of the qualities. I'm looking for someone who can challenge me and say, no, don't do it that way, or hey, let's talk about that before you pursue it this way, yeah, instead of just allowing me to just bulldoze kind of. I think that's where ours comes from. I don't know, I can't speak for a boppy, but that's where some of mine comes from. Is like I want to do this for other people, and I hope other people do it.
For me, you know what I mean.
Like you're always a reflection of the things you want.
That's what's happening. See, I'm always just like it's not none of my business, like like she's got it unless you come to me and ask for help. I'm not really gonna like look at you and be like, hey, are you okay? Like I do that. I do that to you sometimes, Hey everything good, Like you seem a little different, But for the most part, it's just like that's okay, Like they'll figure it out. They need help.
They'll come to me true, And I don't ever like, you know, never see a stranger on the street and I'm.
Like, are you kid, let me help you. I'm going to fix this for you.
It's the only people in my life that I know. And we start to have conversations and I can feel like coming out of me where I'm like, oh, this is my time, push them, let's go, let's do this.
Yeah. I just I don't know any other way.
To be, you know what I mean?
That's you. I just love that we're all different. Like, we're all so different. And there was something I kind of wanted to talk about on the show, but I mean it will never It'll never happen because we're just so timed on the.
Show, what do you want to talk about?
But I've always wanted to talk about how I didn't realize how different people were, Like really to the core, how different people are. You look at the human race, We're all the same. We're all we love routine, we love like love to eat at these times, we love to like do these things on the weekends. Like we all just kind of like to do certain things, right. Yeah, But when I adopted my two kids and we've had, you know, we've they've been part of our family for six years now, yeah, six years. When you look at biological your genetics versus two other people's genetics and how different they are, it's unbelievable. It's so crazy to I know what my boys are going to be. I don't know what their jobs are going to be. I don't know like where they're going to work. But I know that one of my boys is not going to be a lawyer. He's not going to be a doctor. He's not going to be anything where he has to go to school for more than like one year. He works with his hands. He is uber talented with his hands. He can already fix things. He can already like just create things with his hands. And he doesn't think about anything. He's not a thinker. He's just watch this. I do this. Boom boom, boom boom. I build a home. Like you see that, You're like, and then you got my oldest and you're like, well, he can never do that, Like he'll never ever be able to do that. But he's got a mind that can create so many cool stories, that can create like anything, he could rap, he could like write a song, he could tell a cool story and make it really funny, like unbelievable. My other one, no chance, couldn't tell a story to save his life. Yeah, but you start looking at these things where you're like, wow, like we are all so different. We like, I don't know, I feel like putting them in school is so hard because like school is such a generic Like yeah.
It's kind of a one size fits all.
Everyone's going to take these classes, everyone's gonna take these tests, but like one cannot do that as well as others can. And like it's so sad to me that, like I look at some of my kids, some struggles so hard, and it's not their fault. They're just not built that way. They're not built to do school the way that the government or whatever the school officials think that that's how it should be. But other ones thriving it so Like I don't know. I think it just came to me the day when I just look at them and like, they're all so different. Isn't it weird too?
When you do look at that and you see all these like you look at your four kids, They're four different little human beings that are going to grow up to do four different completely different things. And then you look at people when we share things, and everybody seems to have an opinion of how you should live their life and it should be the way that they live their life. And you look at that and you say, but we have vastly different experiences, So why should we live the same life. Why should I do it the way that you did it just to make you feel better? But we had different experiences that would dictate that that shouldn't happen. Yeah, I think so much of our understanding of people as understanding that we're and I think a lot of people lack that ability to recognize totally.
I never thought about it. I really just thought like, oh, we're all the same, Like we're all kind of and there's a thought too of just like if I wanted to become a lawyer, I can become a lawyer. Like if I wanted to be a doctor, I could become a brain surgeon. I don't think that's true for me. Like I could try my best, I can try my hardest, and maybe, like I could probably be some kind of brain surgeon, but I don't know if I would be good at it, because but I'm good at what I do now. And I did not try to find this job. I did not try to say I'm going to be on a radio show with all my friends and we're gonna talk in the morning and we're gonna do this. Like I never said that. I never planned that. But I'm able to do this sometimes to think like this is what I'm supposed to be doing.
Well, then it starts coming in the question of your calling your destiny, say are you on the right path?
Those kind of different, but that's what I'm saying, Like I know what my boys are going to do. Don't know how they're going to do it, who they're gonna do it with or whatever, but I know that he is meant to do X, that one's meant meant to do Why that one's meant to do Z? Like you could just see it in them from the day they were born, like from the day they were so young.
Have you not also had to also parent them each differently because of that existence?
Yeah, so differently.
Yeah, before it was really easy to like, oh, well I did this with that one, We're just gonna copy paste.
But again again, like you even look at our show, look at lunchbox, how different he is than I am you know, or Bobby how different Bobby is from you or Amy, Like everyone is just so different that it like we all get along somehow, which is really cool, Like we all get along, but we're all so so, so so different. And Bobby's never going to think the way I do. I'm never going to think the way he does, and we're never gonna think the way Lunchbox does. Like it's just so interesting to me. I just love that about us.
Yeah, it's part of the cool human experience to know that you get to be different, that you get to choose your own path, that life happens the way that it's supposed to. All of those things kind of collide and create one beautiful mess of experience that you're going to live throughout the course of however long you're here. It's weird. It's also weird. Very prestro is like very introspective of you to go in and very psychological, like.
You were having a moment. It was definitely a moment. And it too comes from school a lot, because some of them struggle with school, Like really it's really hard for them, and I feel so bad for them, and I want to tell their teachers, like it's not for them, like school is not for them.
I do wish there was some version of I did go down a rabbit hole at one point with the education system and why schools were created, what that looked like, how that started. And it's fascinating, honestly, the industrial revolution of creating the schools to really create these marketplaces and YadA YadA, yah h yah.
That's history. But it is.
Crazy that we've evolved in schools of what we're learning in a way, but it's still kind of the same.
It's the same created decades ago. Yes, yes, so we've never thought, hey, we should probably rehaul this a little bit.
Yeah, Like I do wonder certain things in life why we don't recall them. Why we don't look at something and say, hey, because it's hard.
It might be way too much work that too, you know, maybe we don't have the resources like to do all that. But yes, there is something. Oh my gosh, mice, do we have time?
So you can keep going as long as you go there.
There is there is something that they do in Nashville and it's called, like I don't know, something biz Town and all the schools can participate in it. But it's a it's a fake city in a big warehouse and do a fake city. There's police officers, there's firefighters, there's there are businesses, there are restaurants, there are hospitals, doctors' offices, a radio station, a TV station, there is everything. It's like a little city, okay. And so these you know, you get your class to go that. The school has to sign them up and they go and it's like, all right, what do you want to be? Like, I want to be a nurse. Okay, cool, Then you're going to go work at the hospital. What do you want to be? And my son said, I want to be on the radio. So he ran the radio station. They just did this like two three weeks ago, and they teach him about like all right, so you work at the radio station. How does the radio station make money? They sell advertisements to that restaurant over there, So you have to go to the restaurant and you have to ask the restaurant if they would like to buy and they all start with like ten dollars.
Okay, wait, hold on. This is so interesting to me.
It's amazing.
It's fascinating that they do this. Are there people in this place, like adults that are working there.
No, they're not working. Well, they work, I mean they they are adults supervising, okay, but they let the and they teach the kids. Like all right, each there's an adult in every building. Got it.
So they have a supervisor for kind of each correct for the restaurant.
So like when you go work for the restaurant, they tell you what your job is, what you need to be doing.
But your son when you had to go to the restaurant ask he was talking to another student, mm hmmm, got it.
That was told that he's going to come and ask you if you want to do advertisements. That means that they they'll say you're name of your restaurant on your on the radio station. Got it. And then and then he once he makes the sell, he goes back to the radio station and writes a little script and he's like go eat at whatever Italian restaurant and then he plays a song and everyone can do requests or whatever. But they give them ten dollars and like everything costs money. Like so you just made a dollar from that from that restaurant. Yeah, so now you have to spend a dollar. Do you want to hire? Like, do you want to hire a salesperson say you going all the way out there, Like, yes, I don't want to sell anymore. So he hired a salespeople that cost three dollars and so vice versa. Or you want health insurance, that costs a dollar, and he'll go to the doctor's office. He bought health insurance. It was amazing.
It's like monopoly kind of in real life. Well to teach them about real life experiences.
Real life how to go to a bank and like you can borrow money, but it's going to cost you to borrow money. Wow, pretty amazing. I not know this existed. And what I loved about it was to see because my son came back and told me, like, well, I was like, what was everyone like your friends? Everyone was pretty much what their dad did or their mom. Did you know like he has he has like his friend his dad's a builder in town, so what did he do? He's a construction guy. But you know, my son was a radio guy. There's a you know, a girl her her mom was a is a doctor, so she was a doctor. Like I think, it's just so cool like that. And they did it for like three days in a row.
I was wondering if they continued it to really have the full experience.
They did. Wow, they did. It's really interesting. It's like, man, that should be school for some people.
Yeah, well it also should just be part of everybody's schooling to really understand, especially in high school when you're getting to the point of understanding like what's after because so many of us got out of high school, we're like, Okay, I guess we're going to college more school, and then you still learn just more advanced things that you learned in high school. And then you start to be like, oh, well, what am I supposed to do? I don't know, I haven't done anything.
How am I supposed to know what I'm going to do? Oh? Do you remember getting your first job and like trying to figure out, like what are benefits? Like what do what do I get?
Well, my first job was working at Buffalo Wildlings as the hostess. And that was a wild wild West experience for me because no pun intended Tally, I like, I was sixteen years old, I got my first paycheck. I'm like, what what was happening here?
What I do with this piece of paper?
And there was I mean that was so eye opening for me, and I was adamant.
It was funny.
My parents were like, well more than you. You like four sports and you're in school. How the heck are you gonna have a job. I was like, I don't know, but I need you need money. They were like okay, but just so you know, this isn't gonna be easy. I was like, well, I need to do it.
And it was.
It was really hard, and I brought sixteen years old, started working like immediately, it was like my sixteenth birthday happened. I was like, okay, time to get a job.
And I was like, why why did I do that? Because you're a worker?
I was, but like I look back on it, like, dang, Morying could have been a little bit lazier.
Yeah, no, no, no, that's not again, that's not your style. That's not morgan was it. Do you remember your first job and being like what is happening? A lifeguard? I was a lifeguard and like, yeah, when I got my first paycheck, I went to the guitar store and bought a guitar. You blew. My check was four hundred dollars. I bought a three hundred and fifty dollars guitar and then I'm like, dang, I land fifty bucks? So what did she do with the last fifteen I don't remember, got whateburgers, I don't know. Yeah, I got lunch. That's funny. We're so stupid. And then all these times too, I'm like, where was my mom and dad? Like why didn't not tell me? Like don't go via guitar.
Oh, I'm pretty sure my parents tried to tell me a bunch of things and I didn't.
Probably that's probably the real story.
It was not what was happening? Okay, Eddie, Well I could keep you here forever already.
Yeah, that was fun. We got to answer favorite my favorite time, maybe my favorite time of every six months, it is we are.
I mean, I had like random things and that was so much better. So I'm really glad it worked out that way.
Thanks for being here ours.
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