Bobby Bones Show Best Bits of the Week with MorganBest Bits: Amy & Morgan Do Their Dating Wrapped Of 2024
Happy Weekend! Before leaving for Christmas, Morgan and Amy looked back on their 2024! Morgan had a dating wrapped presentation for the year and she got some dating updates and stories from Amy. They also share the full circle moments they’ve had this year, and things to come in 2025.
The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one, behind a scene with a member of the show.
Merry Almost Christmas, everybody, welcome to the Best Bits. It's part one. I've got Amy joining mean me this.
Weekend words or something this weekend?
Amy? Hey, hey, hey, it's almost Christmas. You know the words are mentioned together. The brain is mush.
We've recorded a lot today, so.
So I don't have the THT process happening anymore.
I got a warm up again?
What did you used to do? The uh do? What? No dough?
Ray do? Ray do?
There's another one. There's like a word like.
To sing, Oh, unique New York? Or how now brown cow?
Ow? Now brown cow? I remember unique? Yeah, you're a unique New York, Unique New York.
Oh now brown cow? How now brown cow? Yep? Yeah, I don't know any others. Those the only ones I did.
There used to be another one that I thought for I was like always my singing lessons. They would do these warm ups, and now I can't remember any of them. Anyways. How's life, Amy? How are you doing going into the holidays?
I am doing great and I'm ready to go to Colorado and see my sister. Is that what you guys are doing yep, and I cannot wait. And she's so sweet. She sent me a video yesterday of her fireplace and of course it looks beautiful because she decorated it like the garland and stockings, and I don't know how she does it. It looks like it's out of a magazine. And she got stockings made for me and Stashar and Stevenson like they're hanging just because they're matching. She has their red and green velvet for her whole family and they've had them for years. And she had some maid that say BB which is what her kids call me, and Steven sent is to Shira and so I was going to pack our stockings and take them, but now I don't have to.
Oh that's so sweet.
I think she liked the cohesive vibe. Yeah, so it was sweet and she did it to be thoughtful, and also I think she likes that it's going to look the same. She'd also asked me if my gifts had been wrapped yet and what I was planning on wrapping when I got there or what, and what my paper was looked like, because I think she likes it to all.
She has an aesthetic.
Yeah, but she's like, no, I'd be fine with anything, but I'll go ahead and have some stuff here for you. Because I said, oh, well, when I get to town, I was just gonna go to Walmart and pick up stuff. She's like okay, yeah, well she's like I already got things from there, so we're good, like perfect. I'm like the look at her sister. There was some real I came across yesterday. I was talking about different siblings and how they react when it's holidays, and the oldest is like, okay, yeah, I land at four pm if Grandma could pick me up, Da da da very organized together, and then the youngest is like, shoot, I forgot to book my flight. Can anybody spot me some money? Because I need about eight hundred dollars? And I was like, that's yeah.
That's both of us. I'm always coming in hot from especially because I'll always drive back to Kansas, so I'm always coming in like so hot. I'm like, I don't know what time I'm actually leaving. You guys will see me at some point on this day and all my stuff is in my car and it looks like I'm bringing like my whole home back with me and I'm just like pure chaos. I mean, my old there's the has like wrapped all the presents for my parents that we do together because she it all gets sent to her and she it's all taken care of. She's like, Okay, we're ready. And I'm like thankful for you because I was not so welcome to youngest siblings. Yeah at Christmas time? How is it so this year? You didn't have the kids last year for Christmas? Right? So this is your year? Correct?
And we're both going to be in Colorado. Ben will be there too, so his family will be in Pagosa and that's where my sister is.
And is there any plans to see each other or is it more happens dance If it.
I'm sure we will at some point because his family they go to my sister's coffee shop, and I'm sure we'll see each other. And then you know, we're on a Friday to Friday rotation. So some people do Sunday to Sunday, some people you know, do two days on, three days off. Like the rotation schedule is different for every co parenting situation. Ours is Friday to Friday, and I love it and we're able to stay on that because yeah, they're gonna come be with me this weekend and then we'll fly out, and then next Friday they'll go from my sister's house to his family's house. Stay on Friday to Friday. Oh good, and then I'll come back and then I'm gonna be here the rest of the break. So so you'll be here.
For New Year's Yes, any big plans for New Year's No? Okay? Good?
Is that?
Are you like happy about that? Or you're not?
Fine? Being more low key which some people know some people don't. But that's my wedding anniversary. We have talked about that, Okay, though I don't. It's not like any weird weird feelings around it. But I definitely will be low key. I think we're just gonna do like something of the house and celebrate for sure at New York midnight, not Nashville midnight, because it's ahead of the time. It's an hour earlier, so you'll be in bed when the actual ball drops. Probably got it, okay, Yeah, what about you?
Well, going home for Christmas and then the day after Christmas, I head to Europe.
I know, I'm so jealous and excited.
I will I'll give you the full lowdown because I am going to Paris, that's one of the stops. We'll be in Barcelona for New Year's Eve, that's the plan. Don't know what we're doing. We're like kind of winging it right now, but I'm sure we will be doing something and probably staying up all night would be my anticipation because one never been to Europe and one never been to Europe for a New Year's Eve, so lots of first happening.
Yeah, I feel like you're gonna come back really really tired, but it's gonna be worth it. It won I'm proud of you for booking this and just make making it happen.
You know. I mean I I was thinking about this like two different ways, and I haven't like really said this out loud to anybody. Two things like one, I look at my breakup in this season and how much I love Christmas, like Christmas is my favorite time of year, And if I would have stayed in that relationship, I don't know that I would have been celebrating in the same capacity because he was Jewish. She celebrates a different holiday, which is totally awesome and fine, but because he wasn't open to how much I love Christmas. I don't know that it would have been the same experience for me. And I feel more thankful that that ended than I have at all this year. Like when it happened, I was so devastated and heartbroken, but now looking at it, I just am like, Okay, that was like the universe being like, do you really want to spend the rest of your life not being able to celebrate Christmas in the way that you love it so much and decorating your tree and being so joyful and excited around all of these Christmas activities when that's not something that that person would have wanted, and not in a bad way. Again, it's just a different version. And I think about that a lot right now, where I just feel thankful And that's the.
First time I felt like that gratitude. Yeah, you couldn't see that back then because what was the month?
It was in August?
Yeah, so you weren't even anywhere near Christmas. You weren't able to see it. Plus it was so fresh. But that's the beauty of time mm hmm and healing and then certain life events showing you oh like kind of having those little aha moments.
Yeah, because when we were that are helpful because when we were breaking up. I also did really say this on the show, but like a big conversation was coming up about holidays because it was coming he was about to move in, and I was like, Okay, I go home for the holidays, and that was always okay. But then as we started to talk about the logistics of holidays and may being like, well, you know, this is what my family does, and we go to church and we go see all these lights and we do all these things. He's like, I don't think I can do that, and I just don't think Like, in that moment, so much of me cared for him that I didn't see it as a bigger picture. I was just seen in that moment of like why are you doing this? Why is this happening? And now I think about that conversation and I'm like, I would not have been doing all of the things that I love to do this holiday season because I would have been trying to make something work wasn't meant to.
Yeah, you'd be going through it now. You wouldn't be on the other side of it like you are.
Yeah, because if you waited.
For the Thanksgiving, the Christmas then you would be in it, dimming.
Your light, my little Christmas light.
Your Christmas light out of you know, trying to be respectful to him and merge both of y'all. And I'm sure he would have been okay with you. Yeah, you're doing whatever, and then he goes and does his thing. And then I would imagine, though, you want someone that you can do things with, and so you he saved you a lot of time, Yeah, by breaking up when he did. Yeah, so you'd be going through it like literally right now. No, you'd probably still be with him, and then the new year would come and you'd be like, oh my gosh, that was probably you know, one of my I don't want to say like worse because he has other qualities, but it's like that just wasn't like a great holiday.
And not what I like pictured in my head for holiday. And then the other side of that too was I have kind of been holding on to Europe and just overseas trips in general for like the day when I meet my person, because I do so much stuff, right, I'm a super active person and I have so many adventures and so many memories that I think there was a part of me that was holding on to, like an overseas trip to be like, well, this is the thing that I can share with them and have with them, versus you know, I have all these other things and I'm not going to have first memories with them because I've done so many things. And I just kind of like zat with myself, and I was like, why are you doing this? Why are you waiting? Because like realistically, like genuinely, like I want to be like the most level headed here in saying like it could never happen, and that's okay. I have to be okay with that. Is that probably likely, No, I will probably meet somebody amazing, it's going to be awesome, but there is this chance that I don't find this perfect person. And I spend the rest of my life waiting to take these trips because they never came. What am I doing? Why am I sending here waiting for that to happen or it happens ten years from now, And I waited ten years to not go overseas just because of this.
Yeah, I would look at it more like you need to pursue things you want to do and not put things on hold for anybody else. But I would ditch the this is something that may not ever happen for me. Well, but I don't it's not even necessary, Like I would just not even say it out loud and not even give it, you know, I don't even want to affirm that. Oh okay, yeah, that could be it, but it could be that, you know what, I don't know what is in store. I am excited about the future and what it holds, but I'm no longer going to put certain things on my bucket list on hold as I wait to figure out what the future is. Something like language like that, and.
I know, and I'm getting to there. I think I had to. I had to at least own that reality instead of like allowing it to own me, you know what I mean? Like I think I was allowing it to hold me back, and so now allowing myself to say it out I'd just say, like, accept just what is to come versus.
But it's almost like wait to worry. You don't know that that's what's to come. You need to wait to worry. I feel like you're already kind of worried that that might be the case, and you're trying to convince yourself to accept it when no idea.
It's like a It's like just I saw something. It was this video. I want to say it was mel Robins, and she was just like, own every single part of the story, even the things that you think could happen or whatever, because if you own it all, then it can't have power over you. So I'm like, owning this version where this could happen, Okay, and try it so because if you own it, then you can kind of let it go.
Okay, gotcha?
Does that make sense? I don't feel like I'm explaining that very well.
I'm I see where you're going. I think I just don't hearing. I'm sitting across from you and I'm watching you say I've had to accept that that may never happen for me, and I'm like, oh, well, we don't have to say that out loud. It doesn't mean you've living in La la land or be in denial, but it's you can. I'm saying, you can use different language that might be helpful for you or maybe not. You can take this or leave it. I just think that I would love to hear you say you know, I've had to accept that I have no idea what the future holds.
That's probably a much more elegant way of putting it.
I'm I'm working on accepting whatever that is that it looks like whatever my future looks like, I know that I will be okay, and I've decided to start moving forward on some of my dreams and not waiting on them. And then, yeah, that's a.
Much nicer way to put it out in the universe. I'm so like brass And.
It's not even just what's putting out in the universe, but it's what's like could end up looping in your head.
And I don't think it has lipped in my head. It's just more that I'm like, I just need to It was like the way that I had to translate in my brain to stop waiting, you know what I mean, Like I just have to surrendering yes, instead of like holding on to this like control of something that I really don't have control over.
I get it.
So I think it was just how it was processing in my brain. But I like the way that you put it much better. But those are the two kinds of things that like, in the past few weeks, I've really like come to my brain and my body's like understanding what's going on in my life right now. It's been a weird, weird time, but also very exciting at the same time, very like you know when you're about to do something and you're like, I'm so nervous and my whole body feels it, but also so excited for what's about to happen. Yeah, that's how I.
Can see it in your face. I'm excited for you. I think it's to be fun. I mean parts of me are you know when I use the word jealous, it's not in a bad way. Oh, pumped for you, but it's inspiring and encouraging to me and probably others listening of like, what are some things you wanted to do? Because I've wanted to go to Paris for a long time and I'm not waiting on anybody. I don't I don't have this thought in my mind of oh I want to share that with a special someone. But Ben actually he took the kids to Paris to his sister was living in London, so they went to go visit her, and then they popped on over to Paris and like, well, shoot, my kids have already gone and I haven't need to I need to figure out a way to go. I just always put it off for some reason and end up going to Colorado. But I love seeing my sister. But you know what, maybe I should see if my sister wants to go to Paris, another place I've always wanted to go to Spain and my niece is studying abroad there this spring, and my sister is going to go and she's invited me. But we don't have off that time frame, so at any point in time while she's there, no, no.
That it always is the beginning of the year when we really don't have dang it.
Yeah, I think she's going like in March, but really, I mean we have off winter and summer, that's true, and that's it for a length of time that it would require to make that sort of trip worth it.
Yeah, I'm not.
It's not one of those you can do for two days and come around in the world and get exhausted to be there for one day. But you know, maybe if I get a wild hair, I just think that it's it's in You're an encouragement because I'm like, I don't need to put this stuff off, Like why have I not gone? It's I'm a whomebody, But it's.
So hard to do that. Right, you're in that moment and you you have every reason and every excuse, and and the world is literally in that situation like fighting against you'd be like, yeah, here's all your excuses. Take them, they're yours. But it really was like a genuine like surrender of just be like, Okay, I just I have to do this. I don't care every every ounce of me is probably like this could all go wrong and everything and whatever, but you're just gonna do it. You have to do it. This is like has to be this first step. And you know, I I think about this also theory, there's this saying that if a city has been calling to you for a long time, it's because your story has already been written there. Oh and it means like there's a reason you're supposed to go what that It could be small, it could be big, it could be all these things. It's good and like for you.
Oh no, this is a good thinking have taken travel. Okay, what's that direction you talking about? The R I know, I know I can't help where my brain went. I'm not going to give it power. I'm just saying like, okay, I mean.
Don't don't go that way, cause I'm not accepting.
The organ I'm not saying like I've had to accept that I might get taken.
Well, I'm telling you this for Paris, Okay, Okay, so there's a reason you need to go to Paris much like me, Like Brussels has been calling to me since I was studying French in college, and it's always been this. It's such a random city to have, Like that's calling to you for some reason too, I know. I was like, why Brussels, Like, So the reason was because my French professor told me that if I really wanted to test my French, I needed to go to Belgium because if they would speak back to me in French, then I nailed the language, and if they didn't, then I had work to do. And so it was this kind of like seed that planting where I was like, Okay, I need to I need to go try this. So I don't know that it's to be able to speak to that. No, No, it's all gone. My house French is gone because that was in college. I was like ten plus years ago, and I have not used my French in any way. I mean, I'm sure I'll pick up on words, and they'll be phrases and things that I understand. But it's funny because it was it was a seed that's been planted for so long and it's been over ten almost eleven years since that, you know, and but it's still there and it was still like when we were looking at the places to go and what we could do, and I was like, I have to go to Brussels. I have to. And it's beyond that because I love chocolate and I love beer and that's what they're known for, and waffles like all things I love, so of course I would love that city. So there was more than that. But it could just be something as small as that, right like where it's just this a closing of a piece of your story that you needed to finish writing the chapter or whatever.
Maybe that's where you're going to meet somebody.
It could be that also, it could be a big part of the chapter. But that's what I'm saying. So you have to go to Paris because there's a reason it's been calling to you. Okay, whatever it may be, there's a reason it's calling. Okay, Okay, we're gonna take a quick break. We'll be right back, Okay, last time we were on, we were talking about dating a little bit.
M hmm.
Do you want to share any updates? You want to talk about any of it?
Still dating?
Still date? Yes, okay, maybe is that all? Is that what we're seeing?
Yeah for now, okay, but it's we'll probably have more of an update soon and yeah, in the new years, just because it's not just my story, so you know. And then I feel like certain things too. Yeah, I don't know. I don't know how it's going to really roll out. I'm trying not to think about it too much. I feel like when I first started dating Ben and I was on the show, I mean we started talking and in the next day I was on air and I was like, oh my gosh, there's the sky air and we called him Air Force Guy, and then we were talking about it right away, and the jury it followed us the entire way, so down the aisle and then all the things and just being a little more cautious. I guess this time around, especially because kids are involved, so.
I understand that I'm pretty sure each relationship because I've had I've had now three significant relationships since I've been with the show. Just a wild look back on the fact that I I've been with the show for almost eight years and that's crazy. But each one I learned something different about how I want to navigate, like my relationship on air and how I talk about it into different things. And you've seen like the evolution of it. Right, Like the first one, everybody knew everything. I posted him all the time, horrible relationship, like and it was a horrible experience for me because that was out there. Second one, I was like, nothing, you will know nothing. There's no nickname, there's no anything. I'm never going to post him whatever. And then that they're one, was like, Okay, here's a nickname. Maybe I'll get a hand. Here's like a little half and a half. It's like, I've had the different variations, So I think it makes sense that you're being cautious. I think you learn a lot from your experiences. And your experience with them was that you shared so much and it stayed with all of that for decades.
Yeah, and he well and Ben was so private, but he was gone a lot, so he wasn't able to listen. So I was like, ah, Plus we were dating, so it's not like I thought we were going to get married. And then all of a sudden things just escalated quickly and we did get married and became a whole thing. So I think it's just yeah, the person would be fine with it, but there are kids for both of us. So are you happy, yes.
Very and enjoying yourself in this new phase of life.
Yeah, it's easy. I like it. That's a good things. I know that sometimes easy can be like, oh, but it's trust me, there are It has its own challenges and one day that may be more known. But I think our whole, the whole thing has been with caution because of certain things. Ah. So yeah, you're like, you start saying more and more.
No, I'm trying to make sure I'm not pushing them different directions.
I'm asking you very base why Yeah, okay, Yeah, we'll see what happens over the break, and then we may have an update. I don't know, Okay, all right, maybe one day I just get crazy and post something.
I did see you post a little soft lunch situation at one point, yeah, like choosing Yeah, and then I saw all the comments just giggling. I was like, I think this is a version of that, but I'm not quite sure. I guess it Yeah, that's what it is.
Yeah, I just liked that picture. I liked that night. It was an impromptu, just little happy hour, like we just popped in this one place, had one drink and then left, so okay, oh I'm gonna take a quick pic of this. And that was just so I guess that was what do they call it? A carousel? Yeah, you had a little photo dump some memories and that was in there. And I'm scrolling through my phone right now, I have so many pictures.
Anyway, there gonna be a potential section of soft lunch over the holidays.
I any point. I mean, I'm not like trying. I don't know. I feel like I don't know that there needs to be another soft because I'm not trying to be weird about it. I guess it's just parts of my life. Also, I want to remember, I mean, that's my Instagram's not just it's public. Yes, but looking back, I want to go through and be like, oh, yeah, I remember that. They we were just driving along and then we were like, wait, pull over, let's pop in there and get a little cocktail. And then yeah, that's all that okay, fun stuff on here, So we'll see.
All right, I'm not pushing it anymore.
I'm allowing you know, listeners are really like, okay, shout up. If you're not going to tell us a.
Goodbye, No, I think they love hearing the little happiness and joys in your voice. I think you are very happy. I can attest to that.
Thank you.
Okay, we'll tell you. So. I had I had prepped this, but it it didn't make it, and it might you might see a version of it, we'll see, who knows. But I had prepped like a dating rapped. Have you been seeing this online? No?
What is that?
So? Like? You know how there's like all these different streaming platforms that are doing like sharing their wrapped for people, their artists that they loved over the ear of the podcast they were listening to.
What are you saying rapped?
Rapped like w R a pp ed Okay, wrapped like you're wrapped for the year. It's like a summing up your year listening to music in a tiny bow or into podcasting.
Okay, I did not know it was called that, but I get it out. Sorry.
I was like, am I saying that weird? I could have been, but also you could think I was saying like rapped like I'm rapping a yeah, like a song. Yes, okay, Well I put together my dating rapped and I'm just gonna give you, like, look at my key little presentation I made. It's adorable. It was like pink and orange and bright and fun. We went all out, Okay, I did, but I'm going to give it to you because we didn't do it on the show, at least for now at the point of this recording. So basically the case subject is myself. I'm thirty one years old, I live in Nashville, and I am an independent, stubborn and massive animal lover. Those are some qualities about me. And I went on ten first dates in twenty twenty four.
Okay, okay, good for you and we.
Four of them I met on hinge. Three were met in person, which is wild, I RL. Two were setups from people, and one came from Instagram. This is how I met all these first dates. The dates. One resulted in a relationship man in uniform, three did not live in Nashville. Five resulted in a second date. And I had five first kisses.
So you kissed half of them?
Yeah, yeah, and some of them transpired further than like a second date. Some were like a couple of dates for a whole So yeah there was someone there. Okay, location of first dates. One was on a walk, four were dinner, four were at a bar, and then one has a question marked by it. But it was a CMA after party. That's kind of where we were in that it transpired into a day. It was the whole thing.
Okay, I'm curious how that turns into a date.
But uh, it was like a version. Yeah, we're putting in that category because it was a it was a long night. What did they do for a living? What do you think they did for a living? What do you think I'll be on here?
One was in a uniform.
We do know that about one of them.
I have I were any of them in the industry? No, surprisingly, not even record label type stuff. No, because you said CMA after party. Yeah no, okay, No, I don't know vedinarian.
No, but that'd be cool. I would love to day a veterinarian. Two were in the military, four were in business, so like that coming all over the board. One was in social media, and three I forgot what they did now, so who knows.
So a guy in social media was he an influencer. He worked a branding influencer. Oh really a guy influencer.
Yeah, but not an influencer that you would not like what you're probably picturing.
Did he have a niche?
Yeah?
What was it?
Jokes? Okay, I'll show you off, but like not like not your picture in probably like Kristin Cavalari's ex, the young one, right, who he's like an influencer. Oh you talk about yeah, not like that?
No, is it? I mean I don't he's an influencer. I just feel like he's a TikTok famous.
I mean that's an influencer.
Oh okay, so not like that. Okay.
Different variation reasons we stopped dating. Okay, One religion differences. One he ghosted. We heard about that one, literally ghosting and Halloween ironic one. Uh, he didn't want to celebrate my birthday. We also heard about that one in a variation. Two we didn't live in the same city. Equally, We're just like, this probably isn't gonna work. Two there was just no connection, and three he was Three of them were emotionally unavailable.
Oh you could tell that that quickly, Yes.
Really really strongly emotionally unavailable. I think the the older I get, the more quicker I can pick up on things, especially the experiences I've had. So those are those, and then some lessons I've learned from dating. This is my last side. You'll be okay after being blindsided by a breakup. Men are still emotionally unavailable past the age of thirty. Really really wasn't prepared for that one.
Oh yeah, I've yeah, I don't know someone in their fifties. It's unavailable emotionally.
So past the age.
It is tricky because he seemed secure, and then he's avoidant because he doesn't want to get too vulnerable. But oftentimes avoidance will come across as secure. Yeah, in the very beginning tricky.
It is tricky. You have to stop waiting for a partner to arrive to live your life. We were just talking about that. Meeting in real life is more romantic. I had dated, like so many people from dating apps, but this experiences year, I've met more people in real life and it's just been more fun, more like, Okay, I like dating, not I'm dating for an app kind of version, So it's been more fun. If you're on dating apps prepared to be a raccoon, what does that mean, like you're gonna have to sift through some trash, You're gonna have to go. Yeah, you gotta be prepared, So be a raccoon. If you're on the dating apps. Never ghost somebody. Never, I you know how to being that experience Again. As I'm like thirty one, I'm like, are we really still this emotionally amateur? We don't know how to communicate? Let's not. And I made sure to communicate with all of mine. When they were ending that, I was like, this is not even tho. It was awkward and I hated it, and the text sending the text was you know, it gives you a little deeper's creeper situation, but you do it. You have to do it.
So there was this one guy. I only met up with them once for like a quick drink and at like four pm and I had an out, like I had a work thing I had to go, and he asked me out again, and I sent a note so they didn't want a ghost. And then he didn't reply because it's just kindly saying this is not gonna work, and he just didn't reply. And then three months later Kat and I talked about this on the fifth thing my podcast and I randomly got a reply from him like three months later that was like, okay, thank you, and I'm like, what are to die alive? I don't know. I just assumed he was ignoring me, But I don't know. It's so weird, huh. I don't even have that same number anymore.
But yeah, that one's not normal in any capacity. Like I guess I get it as like a week later because maybe he had some crazy.
Work trip or whatever, but like, no, no, no, three months it's weird. So also there's that if someone is put together a thoughtful reply that's gonna maturely and things. At least you could do is double tap it thumbs up within three months later. I wonder if he was like, oh shoot, I never replied to that, I better send it now. But you would think you'd be like, it's been three months.
That is insane. I cannot believe he responded then, weird. I'm just gonna choose to believe that he like dropped off the map and like his phone got through into an ocean or something.
But then you would say, hey, sorry, I'm just now replying my phone fell in the ocean.
That's the only way that I can like process that in my brain. Yeah, but see this is crazy things that you experienced dating and wow, I really don't have the words for that one. The last thing that I have on here that I learned is you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. So if you're healing and you're growing and you're sharing your experiences, if it's the right person that you're supposed to be with, they're not gonna scare away easy. You're gonna be able to communicate with them. You're gonna be able to share your feelings and obviously, like if you're being a straight up jerk, yeah, that's probably gonna turn some people off.
But mean and the flip side of that too. Sometimes you feel like you can't do or say anything right, Like maybe you can't that's not.
Your person, say the you can't say the right thing.
Right to the wrong person or something. How would we say that? Give me the original quote.
You can't say the wrong thing to the.
Right person, Okay, and then you can't say the right thing to the wrong person.
There you go, Yeah, yeah, you know I was. I remember one of these dates that I was sitting on and it was the guy who wasn't gonna celebrate remember it then and before that had happened, I said, you know, I feel like I'm too much, and I remember having that feeling, and I was like, I think this is it, this is the moment. Yeah, I'm no. Yeah, like I'm recognizing you're making me feel like I'm too much and I'm not well.
To be fair, he can't make you feel like you're You're the one that feels it.
Yeah, because of what he's gerating. His actions were making me feel that way.
Yeah.
So those are my lessons learned. That's my dating raft of twenty twenty four.
And that's fun.
I might do a little video of it or something. We'll see, but yeah, he little pink presentation.
Yeah, I'm like, okay, I think going on, how many did you think?
That?
As like an outline and then people fill it in for themselves. There are three people, three first dates in twenty twenty four.
Okay, that's not bad. How many turned into a second date? Uh?
Two?
Okay? Only first kisses?
Oh not, but not on the first state.
It's okay, just like it's like your first kisses. Oh two, okay, we had two? Where were the other ones? Oh? Where did you meet them? Uh?
One on hinge, oh, two on hinge even one that the one that didn't reply for three months, and then another through a friend.
Okay, oh, set a little setup. What do they do for a livy? You don't have to share the one that's current, you can share.
The other two, uh business, I don't and one you forgot. No, I had them all actually, I mean because it's only three. That hard to keep up. But one like uh arc landscape design okay, stuff, another like water just waters like oil. Other one water sports, water recreation. Like the variety here, I mean business is the next one like so business? Ye that sometimes our conversations, I'm like, we live very different lives.
Those are all.
Yeah. When you have that realization it's a work day compared to mine, it's just almost comical, comicable, it's almost comical.
Ere your guys's first dates.
One was just down close to the office at the top of the Thompson.
What is that called?
Yeah, are you talking about the Jackson? Yeah, l A Jackson, l A Jackson. That was the four pm whatever one. Gosh, where was it?
Uh?
Oh oh oh, the the cute greenhouse thing in Greenhill's the greenhouse bar. That's what's called the greenhouse and uh m Audrey.
Okay, nice, So we got lots of them. Okay, there's our our dating wrap to me and Amy. I just had a little bit more variation in there. But Amy, Amy, I'm really happy for you.
Thank you.
Well, we'll hear more in twenty twenty five, I'm sure of it. Okay, we're gonna take one more quick break. We'll be right back. Okay, very serious question, not at all related to the holidays or anything like that. So I got a facial done lately. I got my pretty.
Face shaved, the whole thing derma planing.
Yes, but I have a question for you. When you go and get like a facial done, they put you in like you're in this cute little room and they like give you a robe and stuff. Do you completely undress or like what do you do in those scenarios? Because I did, and I put the robe on because I had to go under the blankets and it felt weird keeping my pants on, like being under this like heated.
Oh yeah, I would say, I mean I keep mine to wear on.
But yeah, but like you okay, so yous.
It just depends on how cold I am or five on sweatpants or jeans, Like, how comfortable do I want to be? Because if I had on sweats, i'd probab keep them one because it's a facial. They're probably just gonna be working with my neck and chest. Face.
Okay, yeah, you have sweats on. No, I have leggings on. Oh but the bed was heated, and I was like, am I gonna be like sweaty?
And I like, you're fine.
It just felt weird because they were just doing work on my face. But I was like, you know, I have this robot and I'm like naked and it feels a little weird.
No, I think it's okay. I've probably seen it all. It's probably true, but still you know what I mean, Like, I think it's somal. I want to be cozy. Yeah, and leggings sometimes can be uncomfortable under sheets and blankets. Sweatpants different, but leggings, and then sometimes the fuzz gets all over on Yeah.
Okay, so you guys shouldn't be weird about it. No, okay. Well, another thing that happened recently. I went to the Little Big Town and sugar Land concert.
Oh Ben, was it? That? Was? He?
Really? I did not see him seam. No. I did see a little big town though, and they were amazing. Sugar Land, though, Amy I had like a A I want to know if you've had a full circle moment, maybe it's similar like this or something happen. But I used to, you know, back when I wanted to be a little singer. I used to sing the baby Girl song from sugar Land, which is like dear mom and Dad, I'd placed in money.
Yeah, I'm so broke' funny yeah.
And so I heard this song live for the first time because obviously Shuggarline hadn't meant to, like they had taken some time, and so this was like their first time back on tour and I got to hear that song live for the first time since like I was young and singing that to my parents and I'm like living in Nashville and I have this life here now, and that was always the thing.
Jennifer Nettles said that that song was a self fulfilling prophecy for.
Her, really like where she sang it and it came true. Oh see, that was like mine. I was like singing it to my parents. I was like, I'm gonna move to Nashville. One day and it was specifically Nashville. Now, different career paths, but like it was Nashville always, and just like standing there and I'm like, I have this whole life in this career here and I'm living here, and I was like standing there crying. I'm like, oh my gosh, this is so full circle in this moment.
Oh yeah, that's a Goosebunz moment for sure. I mean I have them right now for you.
Yeah, it was. It was a cool moment. Have you had one of those where you're like, this is this is it? This is this full circle moment?
M not that I can think of off the top of my head right now, And that one's pretty special. I mean you just had it.
Yeah, just so it's top of mind for me too. So and I'm like throwing you out there because I didn't give you time to prepare this one.
Yeah no, but even if you did. I mean, I feel like those are sometimes like maybe I haven't had it yet or it's on the moment. I do think I've had times where I get it, like it all makes sense.
Now, Okay, what's one of those moments?
I can't say them not, I mean only because I would it's just not my story, but so much makes sense now. Okay, this one I can say because we already talked about it on the air, but when we got tested for the dyslexia. We talked about this even recently on the show. But that was a moment where I got goosebumps and cried and had this full circle moment where it all made sense. Now. I know. It's a little bit different than like, I'm not sitting there listening to someone seeing back my dream moving, but it was sort of closure on something.
It's also it was probably a clarity for you for a long time because you didn't feel understood.
Yeah, it asked like, oh this all makes sense now, and uh yeah, there's a couple of other there's very personal and maybe one day I can if there's a story too about we'll call it lunch with I'll just say lunch with Leslie because like, nobody's ever going to know. But I don't think I'll ever write a book, but if I do, one day, I have the title and it's called lunch with Leslie.
And wait, why lunch with Leslie? Can you say?
I don't even know Leslie? But it changed my life.
Hey, okay, this leslie story that.
Yeah, it's uh so in the similar I guess since we were talking about the dating stuff. Sometimes you don't know why something is happening to you. You don't understand because we don't have the full picture. But then if you back up or once you've got some time, like you said with you know, your ex boyfriend in August, when you broke up with you, you're devastated, and now that it's Christmas time, you're like, oh, this all makes sense now. So for me, I was going on a date with somebody and then I got a call from a friend. I was like, Hey, are you still dating so and so I was like yeah, he's like about to pick me up. And she's like, well, I'm with someone that's going to lunch with them tomorrow.
And I was like what.
So I was just very confused. So speaking of open and honest communication and mature communication, I said something to him and then that led to us continuing to date other people because you weren't exclusive. I just was shot. I just wasn't used to adult dating. And I talked to my therapist about it, not even about him, but just this whole idea of adult dating and going on dates and getting to know yourself and what do you want, what do you don't want. I don't think I really had a good handle that anyway, But I didn't want to have to date multiple people to figure it out, and it just didn't seem fun to me. She's like, Look, they don't have to be long dates. They don't have to be intense, Like you can literally go to get a drink or have dinner with somebody, or a hike for a first day. It seems a little weird, but you said you did that.
We did a walk. It wasn't It wasn't like a hike where we were out and you didn't have seale service. It was like a walk at a golf course kind of am.
Akay, yeah yeah good, Yeah, lots of people there to make sure you're saying me was with me.
So yeah, that wasn't allowed.
So anyway, I confronted it. I feel like I'm telling this really slow because I'm like trying to be like, am I really telling this right now? And not that it even matters. Again, it's just like not only my story, but.
It's also at the moment that impacted your life.
It totally impacted my life, because in that moment, I said, okay, I believe his response to me was sort of, well, that doesn't mean that I don't think that there's not a future us. I'm just trying to figure it out. And I said, okay, yeah, I have no idea if there's a futuress and we can continue dating, and I am going to date because that is what I do. I adult date now. And I sort of said it like that, and he said to me something like, you're a really good communicator, and I said, well, thank you. I'm trying because I think I could have gone the entire day and not brought it up and held some resentment and then confusion or just huffed and puffed and fine, I'm going to go out with other people. But I just decided that moment, Okay, we're going to adult date. This is what adult dating looks like. And so I did that, and that is what led me to figuring out through another friend that had wanted me to set I had wanted to set me up this one guy, and I would have never gone out with him because I was very much liking this other person, and I think I would have just settled to not the right word, because again, we hadn't even had the exclusive talk, but we'd been out enough to where that was happening, or at least in my mind. I was definitely shocked to hear that there was a lunch with Leslie. But it made me think about all the moments in life that are sort of that it's that one thing that happens that just changes everything. And in that case, for me, it was I'm like, hey.
Thank you lunch with Leslie because.
It got me out there and I I now have you know something that I'm really happy about, and that's weird and that I never and and the thing about this person is now I'm saying more than I thought I was ever gonna say.
I'm not pushing it.
Anyway, I just had not I had for months avoided this person. Well I think not because they're not a good person. I just like, this would never work. Yeah, so it's not gonna happen. And thank you, but I'm busy. I never spoke to him directly, by the way, it was through our friend.
I'm really proud of you, though, because it's hard, like it is hard navigating dating, especially coming out of being married for years. Yeah, and you're thrown into this new world and you're trying to understand and people are complicated, Like I don't think people realize on the scope of dating that you're dating someone as another human and you think about your life and your life is complicated, right, and you're going to date this other person in their life is complicated too, But you can't understand it because you're just meeting each other for the first time. So it's not like you can sit there and be like, I have your whole story and this is why you are the way that you are. You have to figure it out.
I made a lot of assumptions based on paper, Like you know, how you can see someone's good on paper. Yeah, I decided we were bad on paper, you know.
But that was also it was a version of you looking out for yourself.
And it's also a testament to timing too, because had I accepted the connection way before, I wouldn't have been ready. I had to go through more things and healing and growth, and honestly, even in going out, I wasn't trying to go out with the intent of, oh, this is going to be something. I was going out just to learn more about myself. I'm like, okay, fine, since I know this is a person that's no on paper for me at least, I mean, it could be a good practice. And I've even said that to him now, so it's not like hurtful.
Uh.
He totally gets it, and I'm like, look, I just kind of was like, oh, yeah, well I have people that want to date me too, you know, yeah, You've got lunch tomorrow, don't worry. People are been asking me out for a while.
You're having you're experiencing a lot of like first for the first time in that whole moment too, of like the feeling of a version of rejection, but not in a direct a right of like this is how he's setting this up. And you're also experiencing like okay, well I like this person, but also there's no communication here. What is happening. Then you're experiencing like all these other influxes where you're supposed to be casually dating and you're not exclusive, Like you're experiencing in that moment so many firsts that you had. It had so like naturally the experiences that you were having makes makes a lot of sense, Like when you're looking at it now from a bird's eye, view. You know what I mean, yep, And they're just different variations of things you have experienced in life, but it's completely different setting people subject.
Well, since I already said too much, I'm gonna go ahead and say, since people are listening to this and it's best bits, and if they're still listening at this point, I think that they're loyal fans at the show, so let's just keep it all between us here.
Okay, thanks, We will no voicemails to the big show. Leave it here, and it's just a fun girl chat that we just had with microphones. You got. Is that good? Yeah?
No, it's fine. I didn't even reveal anything. I know it's not. I mean people, I don't want anybody be like what, what's a big deal? Who cares?
But it's just you that you also have to remember, like, yes, I love your respect for other people of like, it's not just my story, but also you do have a story and you have a role in it, and it's your prerogative to do what you want with your story.
Right, So I say anything, I think down the line there will be some room for some of that, because I do think it could be helpful for other people. Some of it, some of the stuff that has come full circle that makes sense now that when I was in the thick of it, it was so hard. But now it's like, oh my gosh, that all makes sense now. And look where we are at this moment, and it's it's a place I never thought we could be. But I mean, we all had to put in the work, and sometimes you have to dig in and do the hard thing. Because I could have easily not done some of the hard things through several of these examples that I'm thinking of, and it could have gone a different direction, which wouldn't have been as healing and felt is full circle and probably wouldn't have made sense. I probably would still be living in chaos.
I was gonna say, I don't feel like you would be where you are with who you are and what you're doing now. I don't just based on that, you know what I mean.
So I think it's just some encouragement sometimes to like dig in and do the hard thing because yeah, you got it, it's forge ahead.
Look at us having for full circle moments before we head into the new year. Twenty twenty four has been a.
Year, Yeah it has so, But I'm not I mean it's so weird, yours are so different. I'm like, yeah, it has. But then when I think about it, and I'm like, it's also been one of the best years I've had it in a long time, Like for me twenty twenty, twenty twenty one, twenty four two, twenty twenty three, it's worth like horrible. We're on the up and up, onward and upward. That's right, I love it. Okay, we're getting out of here. Merry Christmas, everybody. Go check out Amy's podcast for things of Amy Brown.
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