My two guests on today's show flew to my home in Spokane to train me and my wife Jessa in some very special forms of breath work training that they specialize in, particularly for couples and tantric sex, but also for trauma, emotional release and much more.

Stefanos Sifandos describes himself as a relational alchemist, international speaker, and author who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, an integration of spiritual praxis, and western psychology to improve, evolve, and enhance the quality of relationships. By integrating the best of Eastern and Western methodologies and philosophies, and using integrative techniques methods, Stefanos has created programs and systems to enhance the quality of your life, your relationship, and, in essence, bring them closer to their potential.

Christine Hassler is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, master coach, and podcast host who is committed to guiding people and organizations into their highest potential. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about, but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. Her thirst for personal development continued as she dived into self-help books, attended seminars and retreats, got trained in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and eventually pursued her master’s degree in spiritual psychology with an emphasis in consciousness, health, and healing from the University of Santa Monica. As a student (and eventually, faculty member), Christine found that the principles she learned at the USM were foundational to her life and work. In 2005, she wrote her first book 20 Something 20 Everything, and then the 20 Something Manifesto in 2008. Her latest best-selling book, Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself from Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What You Really Want, is the guidebook for how to treat disappointment on the emotional, mental, behavioral, and spiritual levels.

The breath work course we discuss in detail in the show is their Breathwork and Meditation Series (use code BEN to save $30).  During this discussion, you'll discover: -What a "relational alchemist" is...08:15 
Moving from an undesirable place in a relationship to what you love
What's not giving us clarity is a sense of unresolved pain, trauma, fear
First build safety, rapport, trust between Stefanos and his clients -The role of breathwork in Stefanos' practice...10:15 
Recommended by a friend during a turbulent personal time
Similar to Holotropic breathwork
Transcended analytical elements of the mind
Breathwork complemented psychedelics Stefanos had used
Magic Chocolate, Holotropic Breathwork, Grounding, Earthing, Vortexes, Crystals & More With Shamangelic Healer Anahata Ananda.
SOMA Breathwork protocol
Breathwork allows the user more control than things like psychedelics
Stanislav Grof
Not as much "rebuilding" is needed as is the case with psychedelics -How Christine became a life coach...15:55 
Began life coaching in 2004
Blend coaching with psychology
Identify the emotional root cause of an issue
"I've been my own best client"
Left successful career in Hollywood
Masked insecurity by being an overachiever
Wrote first book 20 Something 20 Everything shortly after becoming a life coach
Grain Brain by David Perlmutter
Labels create limitations -How Christine and Stefanos met...23:00 
Both were tired of uncommitted relationships prior to meeting
Nice to have the emotional intimacy prior to meeting physically
Article: The 36 Questions That Lead to Love -The protocols Stefanos and Christine did with Ben and Jessa this past August...31:45 
A few of the questions: 
"When I look at you, I see..."
"When you look at me, I think you see..." (perception checking)
"When you look at me, I want you to see..." (how we want to be perceived)
"When I feel most angry, sad, etc."
Get the intimacy back in the relationship before talking about issues
Create safety so the other feels "seen"
Empathy through stillness -The science behind breathwork that connects couples...38:00 
Voluntary hyperventilation (alters brain chemistry)
Shared experience, sensory overload, brings about camaraderie together
Breathing does not alter the oxygenation of the blood
Regulating CO2, the main driver of respiration
Voluntary hyperventilation blow down CO2 levels
Respiratory alkalosis
Enter a non-ordinary state of consciousness
Access unconscious parts of the self you can't ordinarily access via breath technique
Unconscious memories that precede the relationship come to the forefront -How the body resists anticipated change from breathwork or therapy...47:15 
The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
Ben became very sick during Stefanos' and Christine's visit
We store experiences in the body; pattern-recognizing machine
Resistance vs. releasing -Enhancing lovemaking with the tantric approach...52:05 
Recapture the Rapture: Biohacking Sex, Tantric Breathwork, Plant Medicines For Orgasmic Enhancement & Much More! With Jamie Wheal
The Multiorgasmic Male by Mantak Chia
 Tantra - Sex, Secrecy, Politics and Power in the Study of Religion by Hugh Urban
Tantra is far more than a sexual position
Synchronizing intention accessed via breath
Busyness creates a barrier to intimacy
Intentional practice of connection keeps a family together
Energetic connection leads to sex on a multi-dimensional level, beyond physical and emotional
Infidelity comes from boredom in a relationship (same-sex marriage)
Kundalini is at the root of tantra, begins in the sacrum (in the pelvis)
Stefanos and Christine's Breathwork and Meditation Series (use code BEN to save $30) -How Christine got off antidepressants...1:03:00 
Diet: No gluten, alcohol, sugar
Depression is oftentimes suppression and repression
Emotional release work vs. catharsis
Temper tantrum: Children self-soothe if you let them alone
Intuition was muted while on anti-depressants (her biggest asset as a life coach)
Not wise to quit meds cold turkey
Article: Dark Side of Antidepressants by Chris Kresser
Christine's podcast on the Joe Rogan show
Anxiety, anger, etc. are the body's alarm system (which we can miss with medication)
Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers by Robert Sapolsky
Primal sounding (screaming, guttural sounds) -Rules for getting to the other side of arguments and disagreements...1:14:45 -And much more!            Resources from this episode: 

-Stefanos' and Christine's Breathwork and Meditation Series (use code BEN to save $30).
Stefanos Sifandos
Instagram
Christine Hassler
Christine's podcast Over It and On With It
Instagram
Twitter
Books: 
Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life
20 Something Manifesto: Quarter-Lifers Speak Out About Who They Are, What They Want, and How to Get It
20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction
Christine on the Joe Rogan show

- Podcasts:
Magic Chocolate, Holotropic Breathwork, Grounding, Earthing, Vortexes, Crystals & More With Shamangelic Healer Anahata Ananda.
Recapture the Rapture: Biohacking Sex, Tantric Breathwork, Plant Medicines For Orgasmic Enhancement & Much More! With Jamie Wheal

- Books and articles:
Grain Brain by David Perlmutter
The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
 Tantra - Sex, Secrecy, Politics and Power in the Study of Religion by Hugh Urban
The Multiorgasmic Male by Mantak Chia
Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers by Robert Sapolsky
Is Gluten Killing Your Brain? by Chris Kresser
The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
Negative Effects of Antidepressants: Is There a Dark Side? by Chris Kresser

- Other resources:
SOMA Breathwork Protocol
Stanislav Grof Episode sponsors:      

-Fit Soul: Get Ben Greenfield's newest book for FREE. Fit Soul is filled with practical, easy-to-understand tips, tricks, strategies, and solutions to care for your soul, attain true spiritual fitness, and find the happiness you have always craved and deserve.

-Ben Greenfield Coaching Program: Personally mentored and trained team to coach you on everything from sleep, gut health, performance, weight loss, etc. They do customized nutrition and fitness plans, all-inclusive VIP coaching, consult calls, etc. All at bengreenfieldcoaching.com.

-The Kion Fasting Challenge: The Challenge starts January 6th, it's completely FREE to join, and when you do you'll get a bunch of exclusive content including access to a Q&A by yours truly answering all your burning fasting questions. To join just go to getkion.com/fasting-ben.

-Organifi Green Juice: Now you can get all your healthy superfoods in one glass...with No Shopping, No Blending, No Juicing, and No Cleanup. Get a 20% discount on your entire order when you use discount code BENG20.

-Beekeeper's Naturals: A wellness company specializing in innovative nutraceuticals made from healing hive compounds and plant-based ingredients. Get 15% off your order when you use discount code BEN.

-Butcher Box: Delivers healthy 100% grass-fed and finished beef, free-range organic chicken, and heritage breed pork directly to your door on a monthly basis. All their products are humanely raised and NEVER given antibiotics or hormones.      Got a question or comment for Stefanos, Christine, or myself? Drop a comment below, and one of us will reply!

My two guests on today's show flew to my home in Spokane to train me and my wife Jessa in some very special forms of breath work training that they specialize in, particularly for couples and tantric sex, but also for trauma, emotional release and much more. <a href="https://stefanossifandos.com/#reclaim-your-kingdom" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Stefanos Sifandos</a> describes himself as a relational alchemist, international speaker, and author who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, an integration of spiritual praxis, and western psychology to improve, evolve, and enhance the quality of relationships. By integrating the best of Eastern and Western methodologies and philosophies, and using integrative techniques methods, Stefanos has created programs and systems to enhance the quality of your life, your relationship, and, in essence, bring them closer to their potential. <a href="https://christinehassler.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Christine Hassler</a> is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, master coach, and podcast host who is committed to guiding people and organizations into their highest potential. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about, but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. Her thirst for personal development continued as she dived into self-help books, attended seminars and retreats, got trained in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and eventually pursued her master’s degree in spiritual psychology with an emphasis in consciousness, health, and healing from the University of Santa Monica. As a student (and eventually, faculty member), Christine found that the principles she learned at the USM were foundational to her life and work. In 2005, she wrote her first book <a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/20-something" target="_blank" rel="noopener">20 Something 20 Everything</a>, and then the <a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/20-something-manifesto" target="_blank" rel="noopener">20 Something Manifesto</a> in 2008. Her latest best-selling book, <a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/expectation-hangover" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself from Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What You Really Want</a>, is the guidebook for how to treat disappointment on the emotional, mental, behavioral, and spiritual levels. The breath work course we discuss in detail in the show is their <a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/benbreath" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Breathwork and Meditation Series</a> (use code BEN to save $30). During this discussion, you'll discover: -What a "relational alchemist" is...08:15 <ul> <li>Moving from an undesirable place in a relationship to what you love</li> <li>What's not giving us clarity is a sense of unresolved pain, trauma, fear</li> <li>First build safety, rapport, trust between Stefanos and his clients</li> </ul> -The role of breathwork in Stefanos' practice...10:15 <ul> <li>Recommended by a friend during a turbulent personal time</li> <li>Similar to <a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/article/the-ultimate-breathwork-ninja-guide-how-to-banish-stress-kiss-high-cortisol-goodbye/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Holotropic breathwork</a></li> <li>Transcended analytical elements of the mind</li> <li>Breathwork complemented psychedelics Stefanos had used</li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/podcast/an-interview-with-shamangelic-healer-anahata-ananda/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Magic Chocolate, Holotropic Breathwork, Grounding, Earthing, Vortexes, Crystals & More With Shamangelic Healer Anahata Ananda.</a></li> <li><a href="http://somabreath.com/ben" target="_blank" rel="noopener">SOMA Breathwork protocol</a></li> <li>Breathwork allows the user more control than things like psychedelics</li> <li><a href="http://www.holotropic.com/grof-transpersonal-training/gtt-history-and-founders/stanislav-grof/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Stanislav Grof</a></li> <li>Not as much "rebuilding" is needed as is the case with psychedelics</li> </ul> -How Christine became a life coach...15:55 <ul> <li>Began life coaching in 2004</li> <li>Blend coaching with psychology</li> <li>Identify the emotional root cause of an issue</li> <li>"I've been my own best client"</li> <li>Left successful career in Hollywood</li> <li>Masked insecurity by being an overachiever</li> <li>Wrote first book <a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/20-something" target="_blank" rel="noopener">20 Something 20 Everything</a> shortly after becoming a life coach</li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/grain-brain" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Grain Brain</a> by David Perlmutter</li> <li>Labels create limitations</li> </ul> -How Christine and Stefanos met...23:00 <ul> <li>Both were tired of uncommitted relationships prior to meeting</li> <li>Nice to have the emotional intimacy prior to meeting physically</li> <li>Article: <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The 36 Questions That Lead to Love</a></li> </ul> -The protocols Stefanos and Christine did with Ben and Jessa this past August...31:45 <ul> <li>A few of the questions: <ul> <li>"When I look at you, I see..."</li> <li>"When you look at me, I think you see..." (perception checking)</li> <li>"When you look at me, I want you to see..." (how we want to be perceived)</li> <li>"When I feel most angry, sad, etc."</li> </ul> </li> <li>Get the intimacy back in the relationship before talking about issues</li> <li>Create safety so the other feels "seen"</li> <li>Empathy through stillness</li> </ul> -The science behind breathwork that connects couples...38:00 <ul> <li>Voluntary hyperventilation (alters brain chemistry)</li> <li>Shared experience, sensory overload, brings about camaraderie together</li> <li>Breathing does not alter the oxygenation of the blood</li> <li>Regulating CO2, the main driver of respiration</li> <li>Voluntary hyperventilation blow down CO2 levels</li> <li>Respiratory alkalosis</li> <li>Enter a non-ordinary state of consciousness</li> <li>Access unconscious parts of the self you can't ordinarily access via breath technique</li> <li>Unconscious memories that precede the relationship come to the forefront</li> </ul> -How the body resists anticipated change from breathwork or therapy...47:15 <ul> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/body-keeps-score" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Body Keeps The Score</a> by Bessel Van der Kolk</li> <li>Ben became very sick during Stefanos' and Christine's visit</li> <li>We store experiences in the body; pattern-recognizing machine</li> <li>Resistance vs. releasing</li> </ul> -Enhancing lovemaking with the tantric approach...52:05 <ul> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/podcast/biohacking-podcasts/biohacking-sex/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Recapture the Rapture: Biohacking Sex, Tantric Breathwork, Plant Medicines For Orgasmic Enhancement & Much More! With Jamie Wheal</a></li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/ben-recommends/books/the-multi-orgasmic-man-sexual-secrets-every-man-should-know/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Multiorgasmic Male</a> by Mantak Chia</li> <li><a href="http://ndl.ethernet.edu.et/bitstream/123456789/56306/1/pdf25.pdf"> Tantra - Sex, Secrecy, Politics and Power in the Study of Religion</a> by Hugh Urban</li> <li>Tantra is far more than a sexual position</li> <li>Synchronizing intention accessed via breath</li> <li>Busyness creates a barrier to intimacy</li> <li>Intentional practice of connection keeps a family together</li> <li>Energetic connection leads to sex on a multi-dimensional level, beyond physical and emotional</li> <li>Infidelity comes from boredom in a relationship (same-sex marriage)</li> <li>Kundalini is at the root of tantra, begins in the sacrum (in the pelvis)</li> <li>Stefanos and Christine's <a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/benbreath" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Breathwork and Meditation Series</a> (use code BEN to save $30)</li> </ul> -How Christine got off antidepressants...1:03:00 <ul> <li>Diet: No gluten, alcohol, sugar</li> <li>Depression is oftentimes suppression and repression</li> <li>Emotional release work vs. catharsis</li> <li>Temper tantrum: Children self-soothe if you let them alone</li> <li>Intuition was muted while on anti-depressants (her biggest asset as a life coach)</li> <li>Not wise to quit meds cold turkey</li> <li>Article: <a href="https://chriskresser.com/the-dark-side-of-antidepressants/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dark Side of Antidepressants</a> by Chris Kresser</li> <li><a href="https://www.mixcloud.com/TheJoeRoganExperience/866-christine-hassler/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Christine's podcast on the Joe Rogan show</a></li> <li>Anxiety, anger, etc. are the body's alarm system (which we can miss with medication)</li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/why-zebras-dont-get-ulcers" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers</a> by Robert Sapolsky</li> <li>Primal sounding (screaming, guttural sounds)</li> </ul> -Rules for getting to the other side of arguments and disagreements...1:14:45 -And much more! Resources from this episode: -Stefanos' and Christine's <a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/benbreath" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Breathwork and Meditation Series</a> (use code BEN to save $30). <ul> <li><a href="https://stefanossifandos.com/#reclaim-your-kingdom" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Stefanos Sifandos</a> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/?hl=en" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Instagram</a></li> </ul> </li> <li><a href="https://christinehassler.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Christine Hassler</a> <ul> <li>Christine's podcast <a href="https://christinehassler.com/podcast/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Over It and On With It</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/christinehassler/?hl=en" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Instagram</a></li> <li><a href="https://twitter.com/christinhassler?lang=en" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Twitter</a></li> <li>Books: <ul> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/expectation-hangover" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life</a></li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/20-something-manifesto" target="_blank" rel="noopener">20 Something Manifesto: Quarter-Lifers Speak Out About Who They Are, What They Want, and How to Get It</a></li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/20-something" target="_blank" rel="noopener">20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction</a></li> </ul> </li> <li><a href="https://www.mixcloud.com/TheJoeRoganExperience/866-christine-hassler/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Christine on the Joe Rogan show</a></li> </ul> </li> </ul> - Podcasts: <ul> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/podcast/an-interview-with-shamangelic-healer-anahata-ananda/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Magic Chocolate, Holotropic Breathwork, Grounding, Earthing, Vortexes, Crystals & More With Shamangelic Healer Anahata Ananda.</a></li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/podcast/biohacking-podcasts/biohacking-sex/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Recapture the Rapture: Biohacking Sex, Tantric Breathwork, Plant Medicines For Orgasmic Enhancement & Much More! With Jamie Wheal</a></li> </ul> - Books and articles: <ul> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/grain-brain" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Grain Brain</a> by David Perlmutter</li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/body-keeps-score" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Body Keeps The Score</a> by Bessel Van der Kolk</li> <li><a href="http://ndl.ethernet.edu.et/bitstream/123456789/56306/1/pdf25.pdf"> Tantra - Sex, Secrecy, Politics and Power in the Study of Religion</a> by Hugh Urban</li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/ben-recommends/books/the-multi-orgasmic-man-sexual-secrets-every-man-should-know/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Multiorgasmic Male</a> by Mantak Chia</li> <li><a href="https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/why-zebras-dont-get-ulcers" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers</a> by Robert Sapolsky</li> <li><a href="https://kresserinstitute.com/gluten-killing-brain/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Is Gluten Killing Your Brain?</a> by Chris Kresser</li> <li><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The 36 Questions That Lead to Love</a></li> <li><a href="https://chriskresser.com/the-dark-side-of-antidepressants/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Negative Effects of Antidepressants: Is There a Dark Side?</a> by Chris Kresser</li> </ul> - Other resources: <ul> <li><a href="http://somabreath.com/ben" target="_blank" rel="noopener">SOMA Breathwork Protocol</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.holotropic.com/grof-transpersonal-training/gtt-history-and-founders/stanislav-grof/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Stanislav Grof</a></li> </ul> Episode sponsors: -<a href="https://fitsoulbook.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Fit Soul</a>: Get Ben Greenfield's newest book for FREE. Fit Soul is filled with practical, easy-to-understand tips, tricks, strategies, and solutions to care for your soul, attain true spiritual fitness, and find the happiness you have always craved and deserve. -<a href="https://bengreenfieldcoaching.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Ben Greenfield Coaching Program</a>: Personally mentored and trained team to coach you on everything from sleep, gut health, performance, weight loss, etc. They do customized nutrition and fitness plans, all-inclusive VIP coaching, consult calls, etc. All at bengreenfieldcoaching.com. -<a href="http://getkion.com/fasting">The Kion Fasting Challenge</a>: The Challenge starts January 6th, it's completely FREE to join, and when you do you'll get a bunch of exclusive content including access to a Q&A by yours truly answering all your burning fasting questions. To join just go to getkion.com/fasting-ben. -<a href="http://organifi.com/ben">Organifi Green Juice</a>: Now you can get all your healthy superfoods in one glass...with No Shopping, No Blending, No Juicing, and No Cleanup. Get a 20% discount on your entire order when you use discount code BENG20. -<a href="http://beekeepersnaturals.com/BEN">Beekeeper's Naturals</a>: A wellness company specializing in innovative nutraceuticals made from healing hive compounds and plant-based ingredients. Get 15% off your order when you use discount code BEN. -<a href="http://butcherbox.com/ben">Butcher Box</a>: Delivers healthy 100% grass-fed and finished beef, free-range organic chicken, and heritage breed pork directly to your door on a monthly basis. All their products are humanely raised and NEVER given antibiotics or hormones. Got a question or comment for Stefanos, Christine, or myself? Drop a comment below, and one of us will reply!

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