Bachelor Happy HourJared Freid Part 1 — Crying, Laughing, and Chaos! | Golden Hour
Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re sitting down with comedian and Bachelor Nation superfan Jared Freid! Jared is here to catch up with Kathy and Susan and he is spilling all the tea! We get into all things dating — what does Jared consider to be his type? What’s his perspective on the dating scene right now? Then, Jared reveals how he feels entering his 40s and what’s next for this major chapter. Plus, we get into tarot cards, crystals, and how he got his start in comedy. Tune in now for our hilarious part one with Jared and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for joining us today. We are so excited to be back.
How are you doing today.
Susan, I'm still trying to get past being back in the cold weather coming from Saint Martin. But we have such a special guest for today's episode. I can't wait to chat with him, get his advice, bust his stones a little bit. But make sure you guys keep submitting your questions to us, because we wouldn't be here without them.
Just go to.
Bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour and submit away.
We want to hear from you.
We want your questions, we want your updates, we want your comments, we want it all. You can also dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. Okay, we are bringing in our guests, one of my fellow tribe members, please welcome, come here and favorite person, Jared Freed.
Hi, Jared, how are you hello? Kathy and Susan, thank you so much for having me. I'm I'm so such a fan of you. Both excited to be here. This is amazing death. The problem with New York City is that I have to like keep a window open while my heaters on it's like the worst, Like I have no control over my heat, so it's like this like horrific, Like you know, you're it's like you know, it's your fair situation, you know, like too hot, too cold, just right. But it's never just right, especially when it gets freezing like this.
I was like that in Chicago too. I had to buy a humidifier to put humidity back into the air. Or your skin dries up, your mouth, your nose. It's horrible.
Why is it? Why is it in me? Because I'm in these old buildings. I live in the West Village in Manhattan. It's old buildings, and it's why New Yorkers are like crazy. It's like it's a different way to live.
Oh that's what you're a wait a second, that's what you're gonna hang Is that my wife had on?
Are you kidding me? Absolutely? I think it's like you just because like it's it's funny, like my I'm from outside of Boston, like you, Kathy, I'm from Needham, so like I you know, my mom and dad they you know, brought us up out in the suburbs outside of Boston. They live in Florida now, and it's like they don't understand such a thing as trade offs. And I think living in New York is like that's the definition of trade offs. Like I was like, Mom, I got a new apartment. She goes, does it have a parking space? I'm like, what, I'm in New York, Mom, right, come with a butler to her, like she lives on the same planet as me, Like, no, no, listen.
That's my son, who's probably your age, just moved to Richmond, Virginia and he was looking at first. Thing I said to him is I don't want your parking on the street. Do you have a parking spot? There's nothing wrong with that. That's Richmond, Virginia.
Can have all land, you know, Manhattan. She's like, but does it does it come with the butler's pantry? Does it come does it have a second kitchen from when you do the Jewish? Are you out of here? Come on, Jed, do you cook?
Come on?
I do some cooking. I do some I I it's not it's it's heating more than cooking. But it's like microwave. Yeah, I have a micro microwave. You know, I don't have a microwave because I because I I'm such a nighttime eater. Uh that I can't that. I was like, how about I just take away the microwave? So excuse me? Do you have a jar of peanut butter and a knife? What the hell was that? Well, I'm just saying, let's take away one of the options. So like, but it shows you how addicted to nighttime eating. I am, like, I'm like heating a popcorn on a stove. Like I'm like, you know, traveling out west, like I'm like orangon trail or some predible ones.
You could buy it Walmart.
Gosh, I don't even tell me about that, Susan. I don't want to hear it, okay, because.
I'll beat me up.
I'm so bad. I'm eating toothpaste because I'm like, oh, it's candy, you know.
Like, it's just we got to go to New York and visit. Now we've got to help them out.
Wait, I have Before we get into anything, We're going to move into a couple of things here. I just want you to know when you came to Austin and you didn't get me a ticket your show, I was jared.
This is this is unbelievable to me. I would have gotten you anything. You wanted, but like, I don't like, oh, Austin, let me wat. I just I post every day with dates and you know what I do can do Jared.
I wake up in the morning and I say, let me go to Jared Freeze website.
That's the first thing I do in the morning about how about Jared, when's the next time you're here? And I have the dates six months, I asked, And then when I did, and you know what you said? My website, the car, I would all your boyfriends, different boyfriend every show you the driver, Yes, I would have had when Philadelphia? So do you guys want to know? Okay, So I'll probably be back at both those cities in the fall. I'm working on a new hour. I just taped a special in December. I'm trying to like, so you tape a special and then the next morning you wake up with no material, so like, because you want to have you want to basically have a new hour that you can tour once the new special comes out. So like, I'm like out of my mind trying to work on the special. So I've done the show in so many cities that like, I don't want to like bomb, you know, everywhere I go. So I'm literally going to New Zealand tomorrow. I am going to New Zealand and Australia wed. I've never been. Would you like me?
I'll get your we will accompany.
You you're in.
I mean, we can give you some great storylines.
I would love that. I want my God. So I'm going to New Zealand tomorrow. It's my fortieth birthday tomorrow and I'll be on a flight. Sun's age. Happy birthday at least on you.
That makes you a Pisces.
Correct, I am a Pisce.
I am well behind you?
Okay, good goldfish in a tank? Perfect? That's right forgetting five seconds? You know exactly how long are you gone for? Jared? Three weeks? So it's no, this isn't any sort of like nothing trip. This is like a so basically.
Is it a pray love trip?
I don't know what it is. It's not an eat trip. He can't pack a microwave with him, right, well, it'll definitely an eat you know, hopefully. I mean a woman I can go down on. But I I just like I had to wake Kathy up.
She took her a second.
Did you notice I was I was actually deciding which of these many questions I was going to torment you with.
That's the way I you know, I'm going. I feel I feel weird about it, Like I'm going, I'm forty, I've never married, no kids. I remember being what's wrong with you? What's what do you David?
That somebody Kathy said it's a red flag. I said, he's never married kids. Oh, that's a red flag.
Maybe has good taste. Maybe you're you're the you know, you're the fine wine that he's been waiting for. You know, I don't know. I mean to a guy. But when a woman's never married at forty, everyone's like, oh my god, good care do you want to get married? I do you know I have to be Jewish? Yeah? I think she's got to be Jewish just because available do you get thirty years? Okay, listen. The Jewish thing is more like a it's me getting things out of the way. It's like to me, I I I feel the Jewish thing is like a short cut, like I don't have to explain summer camp. I don't have to explain conversions, right, and then like I know Susan's gonna go no. But Italians just like Jews, but only Italians say that. Jews never say that, right, So exactly we go yes, do we just go along with it? Do you say it?
They compare themselves to me every day. I said, I'll go along anything else.
So wait, how do you do it?
Like I was gonna ask you, like, what's the quickest way for a first date to score a second date?
But I got to get you the first date. It's hard. I'm very distracted as far as like busy, you know, busy, But that's an excuse. I do understand that's an excuse. Like, you know, I think men generally have this like weird. Uh, actually, you know you can look at it as romantic. I do think a lot of men and I am. You are twisted. You are. I'm a PMR agent for men. I've been doing for a decament. I've been the spokesan spokesman for the Straight Male Data for over a decade. Okay, and no one else will talk about it about me because I'm the only one who knows how to talk about it in a positive way. I'm just saying, what are you think A lot of men do this thing where they're like someone it's it's out of coming of age movies like that Coming of age movie with this like oh my god, this woman that's perfect tailor made for me shows up out of nowhere and convinces me to go into this thing called delusion that's called marriage. So, like, you know, and I think that's this delusional idea that I'm gonna be happy forever with one person. And that's how men kind of look at it.
It's like whoever said that your well, then you are delusion if you think you're gonna be happy forever.
Wow, I'd like to be like less unhappy than I would be with the next person.
Do you understand if you don't put your socks in the hamper, the marriage is over?
Have you not learned these things yet? I'm one hamper away from being done this.
Once you have to my apartment, they spit out of the stink. If you leave your spit the sink, you're ass.
Yeah, but if I get hungry, I'll look it up. I told you. I I just you know. And so I do think this can be looked at as romantic because like, if a guy is like going after you, you are like whoa he has been like totally deluded into thinking like I don't want to be alone. I don't want to be not be bothered. I don't want to have to worry about stock being in the hamper. So that is like I do have that delusion, but I'm like I I do want to see the next episode of life. I feel like I'm living in reruns. I think i'd be a better person. I think i'd be good at that. I think i'd be fun at that. We had on the Up podcast, we had a uh like a a tarot card reader on and she said something, Listen, I'm looking to the stars, Kathy. I'm forty. I've never had marriage, you know, so I gonna I gotta look at the moon and see what the moon tells me.
You're playing with Wiiji boards, tarot and you wonder why you've never been married?
How much time do.
You have now?
I'm a total believer. Cat Let them tell Katy you have one woman on this show. She'll tell you she burdens stage to try and figure out what her apartments screwed up. So like I I I'm telling a long story, Jared, Listen, I'm a straight guy in a woman's world. That's like everything I end up end up doing is that. So, like, I'm at Betcha's, like, you know, we have this tarot she brings stones. I'm like, I keep an open mind. Okay, I've had this stone up my ass for a week.
Minds of my window still in the bedroom getting light, Susan, Love's coming, Love is coming.
That's too big to go up your ass, Kathy, if that can fit up your ass, I'll go fucking crazy. If you're is this on YouTube? Kathy just pulled up a fucking meteorite.
It looked like a heart.
It's her heart, it's a heart.
It was better that Kathy.
This tarot card reader came on and she was like, she was like, you're going to be the most full version of yourself once you've gotten married, and like started that version. I do believe that, Like I I didn't. That's an original wat to tell you well, it took a witch for me to like, listen.
Okay, do you know what she looks like?
Like?
Do you know how you have to put it out the universe?
We had another esp woman draw picture of my She's going to be curly hair Jewish.
She might be a bleached blonde, but originally she had curly dark hair.
Come on Kathy. It's so funny you say that because the picture they showed, I go, she's not Jewish. This isn't her like this? I like it was it was like some like you know, she looked like she came from Utah. Like it was like I was like, no, this ain't. I want to know how did you get into comedy?
Because actually, I mean the fact that I got you to spit your coke out a little bit makes me think I have a future in comedy.
So let's get the open mics. There's a lot going on and off with your conspiracy theories and you know, yell about you know, the vaccines or some ship.
Ladelia. I'll bring you downtown. We'll hit one if you.
A great club. Philadelphia is a great comedy town. Austin's a great comedy town as well. But I I was, I was twenty five. I was selling life insurance and annuities because like in New York only because like I graduated Econ major and I was like, I'll move to New York because there's like there's there's hustle and women in New York. That's that was my thing. Like I was like, there's hustle and women, but no parking spaces and no parking no cars. Yeah, that's why I got a hustle, got a run everywhere. So I I so, I was like, I'll move to New York and like I kind of like sat down at this you know, I'm cold calling. I'm like out of college trying to figure shit out. And the best part of my day was writing funny emails to friends. Was like ball busting with my friends. So like I I was like, how and my dad and I like we would talk on the phone and like my you know, my family, like everyone's entrepreneurs, everyone's like business people. Everyone everyone was like sales I call. I always say we were salesman Jews. We're not like we're not doctor Jews. We're not lawyer cloth bag Jews. No, no, no, we are sales I come from salesman Jews, So like these are dumb Jews who can sell. So I my dad and I when we talk on the phone, we're talking about like TV. You know, like my dad's seen every sitcom ever that's ever been made. So like we talked about like last night's TV. We're not talking about the markets, Like that's not of interest to me.
So I was like, yeah.
So I was like, right, your mother, Jared, your mother wasn't you got to grow up and be a doctor, you got to be a lawyer.
No, it's a big part of the story, Kathy. I I have my theories on that because I told my parents. I was like, I was like, I'm gonna like treat this like grad school. I'm gonna like like my dad was like, you're not married, you got money, you know, you got savings, go do it like this is an investment. So like he he saw it as like you're in starting a business, which is a little ridiculous from him advice and he was always in family businesses, so I think he was like, do it, do whatever you to do. So like that was my dad's perspective, my mom, and you're right, Kathy, I think Mom's it's my opinion that you just want people to think that you did a good job and when you're wrong.
I want to be able to go to the country club and say my son who's a lawyer, my daughter who's a physicians.
Talking about my whole point. So when you say my son's a doctor, no one asks any other questions. They don't go they go done, you did good job? A plus what type of doctor is he married? Because they have a doligible guy that is Kathy did a good job doctor son. I want my daughter to marry Kathy's son, even though I have never met the guy fucking once. So so with my my mom, like when I told her I was going to do this, She's like, it was like, how do I sell this?
You know, like she's like, what do I say?
You tell you? Yeah, what do I say? You do? You're twenty five? What am I gonna say? You're a fucking he makes people? But I'll never forget it. I was like, so she never was like she was just like kind of like she was supportive, but not in And I remember I did a show in at a casino in Connecticut at Foxwoods. At Foxwoods in Connecticut, you've been so I'm I'm on stage and I'm bombing my face off. And anytime I did Fox With, my parents would come down from Boston because it was an hour away. So they're watching what's your dad's name? Jerry? Jerry? What's your mother?
I want to hear the story?
Leave please cause because.
I'm telling you, Kimsley, You're going me Jerry a spot for you.
So I I go, I'm bombing so hard, not one laugh. And then suddenly my mom is screaming, laughing at how badly it's going. And I literally look at the crowd and I go, hey, this is how bad this is going. The only one laughing is my mom. So the whole crowd looks over and she's on like like a like a like a tall seat, like a bar seat, and they all start laughing that she's the only one laughing, and they got it. What that was it? Just from then on she was just like she was like into it and like thinks I should be. I can't believe, Like I can't believe I'm not the biggest and like now her friends, like all her friends are going to listen to this show, like all her friends they live in a community in Boca, Like they are like.
My whole single guys.
Yeah, Kathy, I'm telling you, like we're coming down, Kim, you got a whole poolhouse. That's why when you guys did your show, Like I was pretty positive. I was a proponent of it, if I remember correctly, And then like I was so excited and I was proven correct, and I'm not at my own back. But I was like, but I know these women going on this show, like I know them, they're my mom's I hang out with them, like I like going to my parents' house. I have Martini's with my parents. Friends, we do talk about their dating life if they're single. When you Guys came on TV and ever and I was like, listen, if anything, this is going to be the greatest ad for someone to go message them on Facebook that they've ever had in their entire life. And I was right, And that's why we loved the show.
You the men and men they don't go on social media. Women have balls, Women reach out.
I know. Well, the other problem with men is that we don't think we have to work on our dating. We don't know Jordans. Jordan was at my show last night. He came to my show from the Golden Did you get them a ticket? Do you get yeah? Of course?
And he said, what.
Should you know? Let me go into the show. I didn't reach out to him. I didn't go to his door, knock on it. Can I perform in your living room? Okay?
Along, I want to know how you got into Bachelor, I mean, seriously, how.
I'll tell you the story. My brother and I live together. I have a younger brothers four years younger. He moved to New York when I was already living there and we were like, let's get an apartment together. So I do stand up every night. I've been doing stand up every night for almost fifteen years. I started at Open Bikes in New York and then worked my way through the whole kind of system, and now I'm going to New Zealand and Australia. It is like it is who I am as a person. As much as I'm Jewish, I'm a comedian. So through that it's a grueling thing. Like people think stand up because if you're good and you make it look easy, it's a It's grueling because at best you can get like a new working minute every week, and that's if you're going on stage a lot. So like night is a lot every night I was. I did three shows last night, so like and they're fifteen minute sets in the city. But like then I'm gonna go on the road. I do an hour on stage, I'll do two hours in a night. I so while I'm working towards that, you know, I just got it at the Comedy Seller, which is the greatest comedy club in the graduation. Thank you. This was like, yo, eight years when.
You stop, when you stop with the pr selling, I asked you how you got into The Bachelor, just say I get to it.
I like a little workout. Listen, I like four place had that stone up rass, She's ready. So one night I got sick. I was like sick and I had to take the night off. She's got a little Yeah, that's a big one. So I I had worked, I was sick, and so it's my brother and I literally sitting on the couch shirtless watching TV together and he and the Bachelor. I'm what. I love dating shows. I've loved reality shows my whole life. I've seen every reality show and I was like started tweeting about it. I had a little following, but the tweets were like going crazy. So I was like, I'll just tweet the rest of the episode, and like they were getting this like traction. So I was like, like I like to make fun of things that don't matter. This is like my perfect wheelhouse. So then I started taking nights off from stand up to about the Bachelor, and everyone at the comedies are these are like older comedians. They're all like, what the fuck is wrong with you? You take it?
Like they couldn't believe.
I was like no. And then I started doing Instagram comes out with stories and I'm like, I was doing this thing called Dudes watching rom Coms where I was making fun of romantic comedies on my Instagram stories. So I was like, why don't I like combine the two. I'll make fun of the show while it's going on live. And it was like I had my own TV show every Monday night, you know, like and now I'm yelling at the show and like, honestly, the people with the celler like the sellers like my Home. They were like, look at this loser, he's making fun. And then slowly, like a year goes by and like girls are coming up, going hey, I just want to say how big a fan I am. And they're all sitting there like what the fun from the Bachelor? Like they could believe it and to me like it, you know, I only make fun with love. I'm not looking to make anyone mad, Like I'm not looking at anybody.
So were you live when The Golden was on?
Yes, I was doing the whole season I did, and then TikTok like that you know, you find just different avenues for this, Like it's just wild that what I love doing it so like I love that I get to be fun and stupid and playful, like I get in costumes, Like it's like it's stupid. It's just like stupid fun. And I think, like, you know what gets lost in comedy, and like, you know, my stand up is about my family. It's about like I'm not up there to like make anyone angry. I'm not. I don't think that I'm being pulling away from subjects. But the subjects I enjoy talking about are personal stories about my life that someone can go that is how I feel too. And with the bat they can relate Like whenever I go to the make front of the Batchel like with you guys, I could always relate you to how my mom would be. And it's like whenever I say, like, this is not how my mom would act, and now I can do a bit about my mom, Like that's like the most fun thing in the audience.
With Sebastian man Scot, I'm like, yeah.
Yeah, the same. And the Edmunds I got and I gotta tell Bastian's like the best at that he paints a picture better than anyone else, you know, like any paint and it's like that's my family.
Yeah, absolutely, okay, So what was the Who did you like on our season?
What did you like? You know, who is the best? What give me love? I loved the zipp It. I loved that was Susan. I love that you were like the mother hen. I love that it's Kathy. I understood your plight like I understood, and I felt like you and Teresa were just two different mothers in the same pta like, and it was like two different mothering styles. And I could see why I was the president, she was as secretary. Right, this was this is you were definitely the president. You were definitely like you know, and I could feel that, and I just like the whole I just liked, you know what I liked about it. And I think with the Bachelor, uh needs, I like reality in my reality TV and you guys were real and I think more relatable to the everyday dater like and and again, like I'm as I said in the beginning, like I'm kind of like tasked with being this straight man in a woman's world. So my audience, I hear from women, and I'm the U podcast is a dating podcast mostly listened to by women. So like, I know that for all these women that listen to our show, they're like very successful, they're like killing it and everything else, but they have this one issue called dating, you know, and they're like, how did I not figure this out? And I think The Bachelor where it infuriates people is that they're like thirty men in their twenties are just screaming to get married. Fuck off. I don't see that at all.
What else could they do with us Goldens? They gotta think of something.
New, guys, Well, this is what I want. I think The Bachelorette, like the fix of that show is to have it be a thirty five year old woman who's like never married, no kids, great career, lawyer, CEO, whatever that may be, someone like aspirational, and they need the men to be in their forties, like I think that would like. And that's a show that like, why can't it be a forty year old woman with a thirty year old guy. It can be, It can be that way too, But I'm just saying as far.
As excluding us, hello.
This the Goldens, we're not getting rid of the gold. I'm saying, that's what the you know, like the relatability factor. I'm like, yeah, you know, and and again like why can't it be younger? Well, I'm just trying to play the numbers in the same way I only date Jews because I'm like, I'm like playing the odds that we're gonna like hit it off more so than maybe someone not to say I couldn't. I'm just saying, these are the odds, you know.
I mean, he's just saying he doesn't eat spaghetti every Monday night.
That's all he say.
He said it was Monday's Sunday gravy.
Puts ketchup on a spaghetti. So that's like horrifying to suit.
Okay, I have a question, Jared. When you're a couple of things here, when how do you not be funny all the time? Like how what do you do to come down?
If you people? This is the hard part about like hang like you know, anyone can cut me out at the knees and be like why aren't you being funny? Like like I don't. I'm actually like more reserved than people would assume, Like I know I would do that. Yeah, I don't want.
That's how people think I'm wild and crazy and I.
Just spent two weeks with you and she is wild. Here's the other thing. First, can I give you a rose or two? Do you guys doing your facelifts on social media? What awesome? You look amazing? But I I I because my mom did it like that, like and that is like one of those things they're like, what a what a mitzvah you did? For other women that are like she doesn't know Jared, it's like giving someone some old pasta out of the It's.
Like saying it's okay, I'm doing.
It a good deed, I think.
So we also got crucified for doing it as well.
You know, that's the that's the horrible thing about social media is like you're not doing anything unless there's someone angry, and the crucification like that comes from a place of like hurt and and all their own issues, right, and it is funny, like it sucks, I mean, like the social media and like that's for me, Like I would love to have been more mainstream, just to not have to deal with So I have friends that like, you know, we're casting things and they're like there their Instagram means is fun for them and like for me. You know, the Instagram runs on the fossil fuel of anger, you know, So what do you? What do you I'm the most the least. I'm the least, you know, inflammatory person in the world on there.
So if you're with the woman, you're not funny all the time, right.
I know. It's that's why he's never with a woman, that's right.
You don't know how to shut it all right, I don't know. In the middle of our guys and he's gonna say something funny, I'd kill him.
Is that a fart? Or you know? I don't know. I I can turn it off. I just it's it's hard because I don't I'm not like looking to be. I don't know. I I don't think I'm funny, just like you're just yet, right, Oh.
I need you to be serious for a second because I have an important so you know, you know you've met the Bachelor's you know, if if there were to be a golden or a paradise, golden paradise, who would your mattresses.
I'm not sweating in Mexico. I'm telling you right now, I'm not sweating in Bachelor.
And would have been great they do. If they do one, who would you mattress up with anybody? I don't know who I would I want I think they should do like Bachelor in Paradise style, but I want to guys. Yeah, let's bring in some new some new dudes and bring them in and localize it like. I think localizing to Boca would be like a fun like put you guys in a community, golf club. Community. We'll do like my clubs. I'll bring my let's let's let's rent it out, do it big. I think it would be.
Have your mother drive me around in her golf cart, because.
You can do that.
I'm gonna be looking for all the retired doctors and lawyers on the golf.
Course with his mother's friends. I got news for you. I don't all right, we gotta get serious for one part of this.
I just want to point it wait before season.
I just want to point out he didn't have one name for you or me, not one name yet particular.
Baby, give him a minute.
By the end of the trying to shake someone down for a date.
I have a question for you. What's the quickest way for a first date to score a second date with you.
I don't know.
What would make you want a second d.
Here's the thing. A good first date is good improv. It's not good stand up. A bad first day is someone doing stand up for someone else. A good first date is two people. I have no I have no freaking clue what you just said. Could first date is me performing for someone else. A good first date is me performing with someone. So I want someone that we can go back and forth.
And we're talking to us, the three of us.
I'm going to give you a little friend here. We got Susan. We're in Kathy, trying to come to your house.
We're flying in Philly when you're perform in Philly. Kathy and I are going to come up just first.
Part eyes love it. I'll get a room. I'll make sure it's nice. Four seasons, all right.
That'll do it for part one of our episodes with Jared. Be sure to stay tuned for Part two, dropping later this week.
