Joe and Serena are back for another Golden gals chat with Marina, Edith, and Patty. The women take us into their journey on “The Golden Bachelor,” their dating lives post-show, and so much more!
Hey, everyone, welcome back to Bacheler Happy Hour. And I'm Joel and I'm Serena and we are back with her story another round table with the women from The Golden Bachelor. Stay tuned because it's gonna be great. Marina, Welcome to Bachler Happy Hour. How are you?
Thank you for having me. I'm doing really well.
Where are you? Where are you in the world?
I know I'm in Los Angeles.
Is that where you live?
No? Not really? A live in different places depending on the day.
I feel, Oh really, Okay.
My stage is in Miami, so I'm there most of the time.
Okay.
I like the East Coast actually better than the West Coast. But I work in LA so I am here when Judy calls. Definitely first week of the month. I'm here because we have division meetings, so I try to attend them personally in person or online.
But I try to do And what do you what work do you do in LA?
I'm an instructional designer. I'm a college professor. I teach for a community college here in Los Angeles. I am I manage a program pre nursing and nursing program, and I developed instructional material for health sciences and I have four programs under me, and I have about four hundred students who go to the department on a semester basis.
So I'm very proud of the work I do.
Wow, that's amazing. So you do a nursing program. Were you ever a nurse.
Well, I'm in a nursing school, and I decided I really don't want to be personally close to a person that closed. I was raising my kids at the same time, I had a really hard time dealing with blood and dealing hard time dealing with taking care of people because my kids were young. At the same time, I'm like, no, I can't do this.
One of my good friends went to teacher's college and she's a teacher now and she has longer her boyfriend they lived together, and you know, kids comes up when you're chatting, and she's like, I don't know if I can have my own kids and be a teacher at the same time, because she's like, I go to school and I give so much myself.
To taking care of these kids and teaching these kids.
She's just like younger kids, and she's like, I can't imagine then coming home and having to take care of my own kids at the same time.
Yeah, it's really difficult because I was a late rumor. I was forty when I have my daughter. That was you know, and I had only come to United States when I was thirty, So you can imagine the lifespan I had been in ten years.
And so I was actually going to school.
Majority of my life, had three master's degrees and raising kids at the same time. So I was going to school with them and then the whole nursing part. So I was in the nursing program for two years, and when it came to taking the board, I'm just like, I can't do this. I can't wake up at three o'clock and go go take care of people. It's just not in me. I don't want to do this, so I quit.
Where did you live before the United States?
I was actually I was born and raised in Sri Lanka, and then I went to Fiji Islands. I went to school in Australia for a year. I went to Fiji for two years, and then I came back to Sri Lanka and I became a flight attendant for ten years. So I traveled a lot. I think my whole life is I just love traveling. I just love waking up in the morning and going somewhere. It's always been.
Me, where's your favorite Like, where's your favorite place in the world, Like where would you consider like home where?
I think it's a bit that's a very tough question to answer because I traveled over thirty four countries, and every time I go someplace, the last time I go, I said I'm going to go move there. Last my last NIP was of Portugal in October. In septemb I was in Barcelona, I said I'm going to move here. And then August I was in Wales and Scotland and I said, I'm never you know, I'm going to come back and live here. So I also, I'm not a tourist. I just typically go go for two weeks and Brendon and I just stay an experienced life. I don't try to climb Eiffel Tower or go see historic places. I try to immerse myself in the culture. And I wake up in the morning and walk for coffee and then take my laptop and sit down and work and I write about I write about that, or I you know, blog about that. But I just really like to immerse myself and feel home in the case I am.
I feel like you travel a little bit like that.
I would say I'm pretty similar to Joe.
Yeah, he really He doesn't like to do anything like I would literally go on like guided tourists, like I love ving a tourist. Joe is like not into it. Maybe we'll go see like a museum, but you like to really just like walk the city, like talk to the people, find out where they eat restaurants.
And when you were in Barcelona, did you happen to go to a restaurant called kel Pop?
I don't remember.
I mean I probably I actually want one day, I to my daughter, I walk twenty seven thousand steps.
I walked so much.
I brought my comfortable shoes, bake up in the morning, and I typically don't eat. I fast all throughout the day. I just drink water and I just fast, and I just I just take pictures and I just am constantly immersing myself. I feel like it's a gift to be able to like sit and enjoy. I'm less of a footy but more of an immersing kind of person.
You know.
I walk with the laptop or iPod and I just sit down and just I don't know, it's just a weirdo.
No, that's amazing.
I love hearing everyone's unique travel styles because everyone travels so differently.
But we do have to get into the show.
So we saw you come out of the limo at Night one, and I'm half Indian, so it was very my mom's Indian, so it was so exciting for me to see you wearing a sorry, thank you.
It was beautiful, it looked amazing.
Yeah.
I was my mom or sorry every day when I was growing up, and when I became a flight students, we had to wear sorry every day and that was the most complicated thing. Imagine carrying a tray of juices.
We sorry.
No, I can't imagine. It's so much fabric, you're thinking. So I wore a Langa tour rehearsal dinner and I was showing Joe the skirt and I was like, you need to lift this up because it's so heavy. But what my mom and my sister wore were sorries, which is the material that wraps and then.
Less six years of fabric six yards that you wrap around twice.
Yep.
Wow, okay, so we we we love u. Night one. You make it through and then you're gone, you disappear.
I did. I did.
I had more reasons to leave and less reasons to stay.
Okay, let's let's hear the reasons.
I'm a nineteen year old and I just really didn't feel good about leaving her by herself in La.
In the house.
And then it was just like, so I told her, you should go and live with your brother.
She's like, no, all my friends are here.
I also have school, I have work, and and then like it was just it was just very calm, difficult for me. And I asked many of my friends, I asked my ex husband. Nobody really came through. And I said, Okay, so this is it. This is I have to choose between this moment. I have to choose between me and finding love and really loving my daughter. And that was very important. And I'm not usually like that. I'm usually have everything organized and you know, I will move forward and I will give my one hundred percent to something.
That's who I am.
But the entire time I was in the hotel, and then I walked into the mansion and I'm like, oh my god, this is amazing. I want to stay here, but I just couldn't do it. After I got the rose. I started crying. Everybody else I was so mappy. He was the one he was crying after the roads, and I'm like, okay, what is wan here?
Marina?
You have to because he gave you a rose, you have to stay. He wanted you to stay, but I said, but my heart is not in it. I can't do it because my heart is not in it. It will be not fair to me and would not be fair to him and fair to all the other contestants because I will be taking space.
And so what was your what was your connection like with Gary when you met him and spoke with him that first night.
I think we had a lot of comedy going on because my daughter's.
My daughter said, Mom, he's so dope. That's the first thing.
Like Monday morning, when you guys brought him forward, she came running to me and because Mom, he's so dope. And I'm like, what is dope? I'm sixty, I don't know what. Don't really means that? Literally google it. And so I told that to him. I said, you know, my dad, I might have something to tell you, my god things that you're dope.
And then he said, yeah, my grand other thinks I'm riz and I'm like, oh my god.
Riz was named like a new word, like the word of twenty twenty three, which is so funny because I feel like it was used quite a bit on The Golden Bachelor.
Yeah, it's like charisma.
But like Gary had said it a few times, like in settings like that.
He said that would be the first time he did. He did, and he was like, that's me.
And I'm like, oh, that's me too, I said like that, And so I think I think that that really broke the ice, because you know, it's it's it's a it's a like I don't know.
I was just like, I know, I'm different.
And then I I see all the other people, you know, like like I feel like they were not like me. And I was just walking there and i had to make like all these cameras and I'm like, Okay, how do I do this?
How do I do this? I was very shy, But then I when I sat there, He's very warm and very very there.
Yeah, you know, he has a presence about him, which I loved, and you know, and I'm one of those people who I always try to forget anything else and just being there. So that was another thing that was really common, and I think the cur is my part, and I.
Don't know it was.
I wish I'd spend a little bit more time getting to know him.
I wasn't in the card.
Scept I wasn't in the cards. Do you think if if you would have stuck around, you think you would have had a strong connection with him? Or are you just not sure I would have?
You know, I was married to you know, white guy for twenty two years, so I don't look at like color anything like that, but I'm pretty sure I would have. You know, given the opportunity, I would take home, I would bring him home.
Do you think if you had like like a love at first sight connection with him, you might have stayed or was the whole thing just very overwhelming and you were being you know, you felt called to go back home to your daughter.
I think I'm a.
More of a practical person, you know, I'm not the loved, first site person.
So I would evaluate a lot.
Of you know, a lot of the things that are presented to me, and then I will weigh my pros and cons. You know, very pragmatic in my life. And I think it's because I came to this country as an immigrant and you know, survived here for thirty years by myself. I have no family. All I have in my name to my family my son and my daughter. I have no brothers, no sisters, So I have to be pragmatic. So even if I was in love with him, or if I fit this immediate connection, I would feel this burden where I feel like it had to be home.
That's my first responsibility.
You know what convinced you to move to the United States because you said you were living in Sri Lanka before.
Correct.
I came here on vacation actually for my girlfriend's birthday October eighth of nineteen. What was that in nineteen ninety nine? And then she said, why don't you just stayed for a couple more weeks? And then I said sure. And then she's like, say, we were having so much fun, you know, And then I said sure. And then she said, hey, my office, she was working for Levi's in downtown. My office is looking for a receptionist. You wanted to pick up a shift.
I'm like really?
And then I started working and they would pay me, and I said, okay, I'm going to stay.
Wow, that's awesome.
What city was that? Where was that downtown.
Yeah, and I stayed and I was illegal for five years, and I went to school though you know, I paid four in students peace, you know, and got you know, been to Pasading, a community college, could transfer to cal State. And next I got a job, and I got pregnant and I had babies, and I got married and there you.
Go, there you go.
I feel like you have a personality that's like you're just very open to life. Like you're someone that's a good example of like you're just open to new experiences, open to like taking on new things in life, Like you came here and you.
Were like, sure i'll move here. The job's mail, Well, sure I'll take that.
And I feel like that's such a good way to be because I feel like just good things come your way.
Yeah, absolutely sorry. I mean I am that every morning for me, What what am I going to do this day?
Like I love life.
I am the epitomy of life. And that sounds really corny to say that, but like when I was married to my husband and I would say in the weekends, oh, I have an idea, Please, no ideas, because ideas approbage said that I was always wanted to do something and always wanted to go somewhere I could never sit in like my like I made me have parent teacher's meetings. My teacher would say, if Marina could just sit for thirty minutes, she would be very successful. I cannot. I cannot. I cannot see. It's very difficult. I don't know how I have to do master's degrees and of government just set in a place.
What are your master's degrees in?
My first one is in public health health care, and my second one's an MBA, and my third one it's an education and instructional design.
Wow, do you have one that you enjoyed the most.
I don't know.
I mean I think I had evolved. When I was in Kaiser working in healthcare, I was really glad I had my master's in healthcare because I felt very powerful. And then I started the business of my own with my husband, so I wanted to get an MBA, and I because I wanted to really understand the business. So I did that, and then I got into teaching at a community college and I was writing programs, writing courses, and then I said, okay, I need to get her, you know, understanding. So actually I got into a doctoral program. I'm two years away from finishing a doctoral degree, and I said, no, I don't need the doctoral degree. I'm going to go get a master's in education because to me, that mate that resonated more with teaching and learning. It's learning is a psychology. It's really like how we learn. It's not really learning in school, but every day we're learning something and that's the most beautiful thing. So I think I'm more of a learner. I love to learn, and I also love to teach. I also feel like the student. You know, when the student is ready, the teacher appears and asks me. I want to appear in people's life and teach something. So that's why I am so and I think I'm an educator for life.
Yeah, well, you seem like a very busy person. What is dating life like for you right now?
Oh?
I used to be on apps, but then I got really tired because I think when I say sixty, what shows up on apps are like sixty like older men who don't keep themselves. So Joe, always keep yourself good. Okay, that's really important. It's really important. Gary is our standard. He raced the bar and I'm really proud. It's to me that's really important. So I will date, you know, every now and then. But I I mean, I have friends who are ment to go out with them. I know some of them want me to be their girlfriends, but I just really don't think that's a good match. I mean, I went to Peru with this guy, and you know it at really likes me. I was in Peru within brought ten days. He's like, Okay, this is something. This is as far as we do.
Raise a hug.
Yeah.
So I don't know. I haven't really met somebody that really took me to that nice place. So I don't know. And I think I ask a lot. Sometimes I give a lot and I ask a lot. And many men in my age group are not in the place I am, and neither they have to work, they can't travel, or they're poor, or they're married. So that's where you really dissect it. It's real hard to find people like me at the age of sixty, and that's kind of a problem.
Well, I have a good feeling for you after the show, Marina, there's gonna be some guys coming.
Your way, and we're excited to see where life takes you.
It sounds like it's never gonna be boring in your life, whether you're single or not, there's a lot going on.
So yeah, we're so happy to have you and thanks forming on the podcast.
Thank you, thank you so much.
Guys.
This is wonderful, Edith, welcome the happy hour. How are you?
Oh I'm doing great. Thank you.
Where where are you? Where do you live?
I live in Downey in California?
Okay, nice California girl.
How far is that? How far is that from?
Like l A?
Like?
Ok?
Yeah, that's what. No traffic, traffic forty five.
There's always traffic.
We were we were just we were just in l A. Oh we saw you. We saw you at the Beds Mansion.
Yes, that's true.
You know I got the pleasure to meet in both of you, and I'm so happy to finally meeting you.
Yeah, it was such a fun night.
Yes there was.
Okay, so let's let's hear a little bit more. Do you are you still working? What do you do?
Yes? I still work.
I'm still haven't finished my ADU. I model, I babysit this weekend. I do my website. So I'm a little bit busy. But you know I love to be busy.
That's and what is what is your website.
It's toasty Star.
I've been having this website over two years, and I sell I designed kind of clothes, not a lot, and then I.
Sell jewelry too.
Okay, nice, that's great.
Okay. So then you wind up you wind up on the Golden Bachelor. How does that happen? You know what?
Me and my daughter are watching this almost maybe a year and a half ago, and we were watching the Regular Bachelor and it came on and said, Mom, do you want to get in?
I'm like, oh, you know what, I don't know, and he says, well, let me just submit you.
I said it would be really rare that you know that I'll get cold, but.
Let's do it. And that's how I ended up.
Getting on there.
Wow. So you get there night one, out of the limo? What's going on? What do you think? In what's probably.
Way my first before before we get a little How did you pick your dress? Because it was so gorgeous you were in like that gold dress. You look like you were an Oscar trophy?
How did you pick that?
You know what?
I ended up going to LA and I'm thinking, you know what, I'm going to find me a gold dress and only reason why is.
Because it's the Golden Bachelor.
So when I got the dress, I ended up doing a lot of I cut the train. It was really long, and that's all I did. But I told my daughter, I said, you know, everybody's going to be with gold. I think I should have just picked another dress. So, by my surprise, I was the only one in gold.
I know you, I feel like it's not fair.
It is surprising, though.
It is, but I feel like gold dresses are not very common, you know, like you would have to be specifically looking for a gold dress to find one.
I don't know anyone that just like has one in their closet.
Yeah, you're right, You're right.
I just figure the Golden Bachelor, you know gold. Yeah, that's why I came on my mind. So that's why I got the gold dress. And I was so I was kind of surprised, and I was happy that I was the only one.
Yeah, and then you had your amazing interest to go with it, the gold Convetti Cannon, you are the very very first person.
Out of the level this season. How did that feel?
You know what? I was pretty surprised that I was going to be the first, and I was so nervous. I just I didn't want to get out of the limo, but I was like, I have to do it. And when I went out and I looked at Gary, he gave me that little smile and I kind of blushed, and I'm like, okay, I gotta be okay.
So when you you talked to Gary that in that first you know, that first moment, do you feel a spark? Is he is he your type?
You don't want?
I when I got to see him, I liked him right away. I love Yeah, I love his beautiful blue eyes. And I felt like he was really really nice man and very you know, like I can I say very sincere man, And so that kind of made me ease. I wasn't really you know in that minute thinking about oh am I attracted to him?
No, I was so much. I was so.
Nervous for being the first one being out there that I didn't even think about that.
I was just so happy that he was so nice to me.
You know, Yeah, that that first night is overwhelming, and I can't imagine being the first person to go.
Did you know you were the first one, Like you were going to walk into the house and no one was going to be there yet.
No.
No, they ended up telling me when I got inside a limo, I.
Was like, oh so, I was like, oh no, my nerves has started.
Like oh my goodness.
I started praying, okay, please please let me come out and not follow my face or you know, I just.
Was so nervous.
Yeah, no, you're perfect. It was great. It was a great way to kick off the season.
Yes, it was.
So you're there. I mean you lasted for for quite some time. What what do you think? How was your connection with Gary as time went on?
I thought, you know, we had like some kind of like we liked each other. That's what I thought. We had some kind of connection of like.
We liked each other.
And for me, I was hoping that we were going to have like one on one or like, you know.
Something special. But it didn't happen. So, you know, unfortunately we just didn't have the connection.
Yeah, yeah, it happened. How about how about what the other women? Are you friends with? Any of the other women? You guys close?
Oh my goodness.
I became so close to everyone, And actually I'm very close to Allen because we ended up you know, having our own room at the mansion and then I'm close to Marina too, so they're like sisters.
You know.
We actually just had Marina on the.
Yeah, it's just a beautiful do you have in la? I'm sorry?
Yeah, yeah, here, yes, there you go.
Do you have a type, like a type of guy that you usually go for look for.
You know what. I've been asking that same question, and I'm really don't have like the type out there. I'm just looking for the person that I'm connecting with, and as soon as I get to see.
Him, I will I will feel it.
And then that was that's what's going to make me feel like, Okay, we you know, we like each other, but I don't have like a specific guy out there.
Are you dating right now? Are you? Are you out there? Are you putting yourself out there?
No?
Not yet.
I am a little bit slow because I have so many things going on with me and my daughter just left with my grandson and I've just been so busy with them. But I I said that in the beginning of the year, I'm going on the dating apps. I don't like them, I never really did, but I think I'm going to do that.
Yes, I feel like no one likes dating apps until even like if it works.
I bumped the bike.
Like, I have friends that found boyfriends and relationships through the dating apps, and if they become single again, they're like, oh, I don't want to go back on the dating apps.
Like they they could work, but they're exhausted.
You know what, You're right. You know, my daughter and my son in law they met on an app. So I'm like, you know, I know.
It works, So you know, yeah, they do work.
Yeah, the work. They're married and I have a beautiful, handsome grandson, so it's amazing.
Okay, so your time on the show, Who did you think while you were there? Had the strongest connection with Gary?
I have to say the strongest connection and that I felt is with Teresa.
The look looking at her eyes, I.
Could just see stars going off in her heart and just and I'm like, oh my god, she's head.
Over heels for him.
And then what are your what are your thoughts on Leslie going home the way she did?
You know what?
I feel?
I feel terrible for her, you know, because she had her heartbroken. But in my heart, I somehow I just felt that the connection was going to.
Be with Teresa. I had it in my heart.
And it kind of like I thought for a minute, maybe this lastly, but you know I was always right in the beginning.
It was Teresa.
Yeah, and I feel bad for her, and I feel terrible for her. But you know what is whatever the heart chooses, you know, and you have to just accept that, and you know it wasn't meant for you.
That's how I see it.
So, Edith, we have seen an amazing response to the show. Viewers have really fallen in love with the Golden Bachelor. What do you think it is about the show that is connected with so many viewers.
I think we finally gave the world out there that on my age, I want to look for love, I want to fall in love, and we don't have that much of like you know, like we already have kids, grandkids, you know, we've been married before, you know, divorced. So I think at our age, a lot of people they think even if you know, even have to say even my you know, my kids, they you know, well they think it's it's.
It at all. But no, my heart still thinks, like you know.
Like a regular heart doesn't know the age. That's how I you know, I'm trying to describe it. So at my age, you know, we have so many things going for us, and it will be nice to meet somebody else and share these last twenty years that we have or maybe more. I don't know, but I wanted the world to know that it's okay at our age to date and find love, and a lot of people and my age, they don't think that way, and I want to show them that you could and it's out there.
You know what I loved about the show, Edith? Did you watch the show before you went on it? You watched a few seasons of yes?
Yes.
I feel like The Golden Batcher obviously is so different because you guys are in your later years of life and you've experienced so much more life in the stories that you have to share different, But watching Gary fall in love and watching the women fall in love with Gary was so familiar and similar to watching you know, thirty year old leads fall in love with their people, and like, I don't know, it just kind of goes to show that like love doesn't have an age, falling in love doesn't have an age, and like people I don't.
Know, do you know what I mean?
Like following I have it seventy is like really, it's so the same is falling in love at thirty.
I agree with you because my heart still wants to fall in love.
You know. But my mind is saying, well, you're older, you know, you're okay. Do you need it?
No?
I don't need it because I'm in love with everything. But that would be something like more to bring to my heart, more joy, more of the partner, to wake up in the morning, and to make our coffee, and to go on vacations. I think the heart and the mind are not really like together. I think the heart is still thinks that you know, it's young and it wants love.
Yeah.
Yeah, Well, before before we let you go, what is What is something that you're looking for in a man?
Sincerity, somebody who loves to go out.
I love to travel, have fun, go to the beach, you know.
Make me laugh, you know, just somebody and enjoyable and funny and it doesn't matter.
And the looks, you know, it's more. What is inside is hard?
And I have to ask last question, I promise, what is your beauty secrets?
Edith?
You look amazing, your hair is gorgeous, your skid what are you doing to keep yourself looking so good?
I don't like bulltos because my wrinkles are my age and that's what you botox.
No, I barely got bulltox going back to the entry into the.
Golden Bachelor, and it's only on my on my eyebrows.
That's it.
The only reason because it freezes my eyes.
I never liked that, so it was years that I didn't use it, but I ended up getting a little bit. But what I like for my face is to get the flaxtern or yeah, flacks turner. It's a laser. It kind of like tightens up your skin and all that. And I only could do it once a year because it's so painful.
And that's all I do. Yeah, and just natural everything on my creams. I make them my own, you know.
I like the the olive, the Olivera.
I add Olivera. I love to add.
Coco rosemary. There's so many naturals. I take off my makeup with OLIVERA. I take it off with olive oil too, or you know, but I try to go as natural as I can.
I love that.
I love that too. Wow, that's great. That's a great tip.
Well Edith, thank you so much for coming on Happy Hour.
Thank you so much, So good to see you again.
Oh yes, it was great seeing you right now and before. And I'm just so glad to see you guys again.
Oh, thank you. Day bye, take care bye bye bye.
Patty. Welcome to becher happy out or how are you?
Thank you? I'm great. It's great to be here. Thank you for having me. I love you guys. You're adorable. It's such a and I'm just happy to be here and chitch out catch up.
Thank you so much.
Video to video.
Yeah, so nice to have you.
We're excited to chat more because obviously you have a big story with the franchise, having been the mom of a past Bachelor and then now part of the Golden Bachelor yourself.
So we've lost to chat about today.
Well, I'm really honestly, it's bittersweet because I have a bit of a I'm like mad and angry, but at the same time, you know, anybody would be. I'm embarrassed. I'm humiliated. You know, I got invited to be on the show. I'm there the first night. I don't really get to meet the bachelor that well, because you know the limo, you don't really get to know anybody. And then my little time on the couch at five o'clock in the morning, and then I got sent home, So you know, there's that, and I feel like I really watched the show. I wasn't really on the show, and I guess Joe you might understand part of that. But you know, it's not my favorite thing, and it is humiliating and embarrassing. But besides that, I'm got some nice people.
I was gonna say, you're talking, you're talking to someone who also went home night wine. That can relate a little bit to your journey.
Yeah, I do. Yeah, it is, it is.
It is.
You know, you don't have anything to to feel humiliated about because you looked great, but it is it's tough, like going home that first night, and I get it, like you put yourself out there. There's there's so much hype around it, and and then you go home and it's just like, oh, just you just you feel you're just so disappointed. So I get it.
It is.
It is rough. But let's let's touch on. How how did you get How did you get on?
How did I get on?
Yeah?
I mean probably because Matt, you know adult, I don't think. I mean, I doubt if I were one of thirty six thousand applying. I don't know if I was the right, you know, prototype that they want. I'm a little older, I you know, I don't know that I felt like I identified as much with everybody I had applied like three years before, like some people had never heard a thing. And I figured it may not happen because I've been excited about the building Bachelor for years, and you know, I've been working all my life and I haven't and raising John and Matt and haven't really been able to date. And then to be at seventy and to find quality men, it's so so hard. And I feel like I'm all over the place because I'm in my church, I'm a salesperson, I'm in the grocery store. I mean I'm in all the slots and have I met anybody. No. And I thought, well, maybe this pool, you know, I could. They're gonna interview people from all over and so I was really hopeful. So, you know, it just it just wasn't God's plan, I guess. So it's just interesting. And honestly, I am very spiritual. My faith is the most important part of my life. And I thought maybe I have this as an idol, you know, and I was putting too much on this and the Lord nixed it. It's like, Patty, yeah that's he let me go and he gave me that, and then it was like no that really you see, not all the glitters is gold. It wasn't for you. So I want to meet somebody you are.
It just wasn't Gary. Gary just wasn't your guy. But that doesn't mean that your guys not out there, Patty.
I have to add, So you said that you applied for the Golden Bacheler about three years go. What is the timeline with you applying for Golden Bachelor and then Matt applying to be on the Bachelorette.
Okay, so way after so Matt until Matt, I've been a Bachelor fan from get go. When the original Bachelor show came out, I'm a hopeless sermonic. I love love shows, and the Bachelor's always be my favorite, The Bachelor and the Bachelorette, and I really love Bachelor in Paradise. So I've been a watcher. So then when Tyler got on and he was Matt's you know, good friend, and then Matt got on and I'm like, yeah this maybe I can get on. So that was right after that.
Okay, so it was after he was the Bachelor that you were like, I'm going to give this a shot.
You know, worked for him, maybe it can work for me.
Yeah, but I would have done it before.
I would. This is only the first season. There's more to compatty, so maybe I don't.
Know if they asked you, if they asked you to go back, if they had another bachelor and they were like, we really think you might hit it off with this guy. You know, Gary wasn't for you, but we see there might be something here. Would you ever go back on?
I would never go back on as part of the harem. I would as maybe the bachelorette.
Okay, what if there was a golden Bachelor in Paradise? Would you go? And there was lots of women and lots of men?
I know that's a good question, Serena. I don't know. Were you you that's when you met Joe?
Yeah, we met on Paradise.
I will say Paradise and some For someone like me who did not farewell on the actual show, Paradise is is much easier because there's just more options and it's a more relaxed setting opposed to that first night is just so overwhelming and so hectic. So like me, I am pro pro paradise.
Yeah, well, why wouldn't you be. You know, you've had your life. I would hope you're propared.
I I mean, Serena. Yeah, I think I would be prepared ice to Joe. But I am This is the other thing. I am kind of quiet. I'm a little bit shy. Even though I've been in sales all my life, one on one, I'm not as much and I'm in sales. If I have a goal and I need to sell you on something, I'm all in. But that's professional. But personally I'm kind of quiet and shy until I get to know you. So I'm not going to be that traumatic person doing all that stuff. So I don't know if i'd make good TV. Did you I had to come to that fact.
Did you have an issue with the cameras? Because I know, for for me from my experience, like I had real bad stage frights, so whenever a camera was in my face at the beginning of my journey, like I really struggled, Like I really had a hard time even holding a conversation in front of the camera.
Yeah, Joe, I might have and not even realized it now that you mention it, I might have been because I am more spontaneous. I don't know. I have to think about that.
That's a good point, yeah, because because it could be. It just it it feels like, you know, invasive, and it's it's it's.
If you're a more like introverted personality, like Joe is a bit more of an introvert Patty. You said that in a private setting, like you're a little bit more reserved. It does feel Yeah, I guess invasive is a strong word, but definitely it's overwhelming to have a lot of people watching your conversation and cameras around you, watching your conversation and recording your conversations.
So yeah, do you think maybe looking back, that had an impact on you at all?
Well, I'm self conscious, you know, yes, So that means to me, like if I feel like I'm being watched, it makes me nervous. So you know that could be a really good point.
Yeah, it is nerve wracking.
It's a lot, it's it's a whole new world when you enter that house. We have to ask because obviously your son was the Bachelor and he found love on the show. Did Rachel and Mack give you any like tips or advice going to the show.
I think they they were all in to begin with and they were saying be yourself. They would question if I wanted to get back involved in it and probably think I'm a lunatic, like if I went on Bachelor in Paradise or exposed myself to more of it. So now I get conflicted, like, you know, what do I do? Am I a fool to go back on it and expose myself? And what if my families are not exactly happy about it? I mean, it's a thing, you know, I don't know.
I think I think when it comes to that, like you know, if the if the moment presents itself, it's like one of those things you just got to trust your gut and however you feel about it, that's what you should do.
Yeah, And if they saw, you know, you came off night one, you had a hard time, they're probably just feeling like protective over you, right.
Yeah, yeah, probably. But you know, I want Liam Neeson to be the bachelor in my bachelorette thing. He I want him to be in the group, but he would probably have to be the bachelor himself. But then I don't know if, because you know he's.
A patty, you would have to go back on for Liam Neeson? Are you kidding me? You'd have to Liam Neeson? Anyone's going back on for Liam neesaid?
You know I think he's available?
Is he was? He married to Natasha Richardson, didn't you pass?
Yes?
And actually when I saw the side of Gary in the back when they first like tease us with it or like, oh that looks like me, Liam, and like I was like checking him Liam out and seeing if I thought it was and I was like, maybe, yes, that would.
Be so cool. We're watching Love Actually tonight, which is.
Yeah, I've been watching everything Liam Nisan the Commuter. Last night I watched that That's.
A little weird Commuter. I don't know if I've seen that one.
Yeah, I haven't seen that either, and they're featuring it, so oh okay, but anything with him then I really love it.
But anyway, so is he your type then or do you have a type when it comes to guys that you're dating and looking for.
He's definitely my type. And I guess my type, Serena is just somebody that's male, macho, takes care of themselves. And when I say macho, I don't mean male chauvinists. I mean, you know manly. They're fit. You know, they take care of themselves. They're healthy, and they care about that stuff. They're interesting, they're smart, they're funny, all the good stuff that we women try to be for our man. You know, you try to do those things. And I just feel like at my age, at seventy, a lot of the men just I don't know, it, just don't doesn't seem like they're as conscious of those things or care or they don't Maybe they don't realize that they're not those things. I don't know. What do you think, Joe?
Am I wrong? I know I don't think you're wrong. And I and I like you look great, Like what do you what do you do? Are you exercising every day?
Like?
What's your secret? Oh?
Thank you for that. I really appreciate it. I you know, I don't exercise that much. I try to walk. My thing that I can control this The easiest is I try to eat right, Like that's the one thing that's easiest for me to control.
Do.
I love food? I mean whole I'm a foodie. I'm Matt's mom. I love eating. I love food, all of it. So I I go off, you know, I'll have my weekend off and I'll just really good nuts. I love sweets, like pizza, like pasta.
I love it all.
What are your thoughts on Matt basically running close to a sub three for the marathon Joe Marathon, So, oh my gosh.
You were in New York's. Yeah, I think I did.
Yeah, I ran it as well, but I didn't. I didn't. I ran right around a little under the four hour mark. But he he really he ran that thing fast.
Now, listen, Joe, he took it seriously. He ran it the year before and didn't train. So he did really well. And then you come to that place where I forget what they call it, but he gave out. His legs gave out. He practically, like I think a mile from the finish line, he practically had to be carried in. And he was like, I'm not doing that again, you know, he because it meant a lot to him. He's a competitor, you know. And so the next year, this whole year prior to this, he got a trainer, and he was diligent and he was a fanatic. Yeah, I mean he did it the way she said, you know, Matt's he thinks he knows, and so she was listening and doing things that she told him to do, and he said it made all the difference. It made all the differentference, the eating, the intervals, and just different ways that you train that you wouldn't think. So that's I'm proud of him. But he worked a year for it, So you did great.
I mean, does he get that work ethic from you?
I am pretty focused and when I have a goal, you know, in sales, I've been in commissions most of my life. And if you don't have a goal and you're not oriented and you don't set that discipline to achieve it, you don't get it. And then raising John and Matt, I had to be focused by myself, a single parent, two very active boys doing sports all over the place. You know, when you think of some of the things you did, I would drive from Raleigh to Greensboro and back to a practice and back to Greensboro, which is like an hour and a half. Just crazy stuff you did for your children, Then maybe I guess, you know, I'm pretty goal oriented and focused, but I haven't really been like athletically out there playing tennis every day or doing this and that.
But you're not running marathons, which is okay because neither am I. We can watch from the sideline.
So what is So what's next for you? And are you are you actively dating or what are you doing anything to put yourself out there.
I'm not actively dating. You know, you got to probably like me because you find time is money, time is everything, and it's the one thing that I value more than anything. You don't get it back, and the older you get, the quicker it's going. So I really don't like to waste my time. And I haven't been on the social media dating, the online dating. I'm not ever going to do that. I haven't done it for years because it's been negative for me.
And so.
Ultimately, the Lord knows my heart. He can do anything if he wants me to meet my person. It's a miracle to fall in love, as you guys know, I mean the chemistry that everything has to mesh. Yeah, and at my age for those things to come together, it's just it's a miracle. So I would love for that to happen. So I'm going to try to have it done organically. I'm gonna be prayerical. I'm going to try to keep myself the way I would want my man to keep him that I would want, you know, be that person for him that I want. So that's kind of what I'm.
Trying to do.
Oh, I think that's great.
I feel like a lot of the women we've had on from the Golden Bachelor have said like something along lines of what you just said of they have really like, you guys are all so beautiful, you look amazing, you're successful, if you're active, like you've kept yourself in your prime, like you've kept yourself looking amazing. And you guys all deserve men that also are going to take care of themselves. And you know, you want someone that cares about the way they look and feel and are aging to match what you guys.
Have, right, you know, And I've worked all my life.
I just retired, so that's exciety congratulations.
Yeah great, And you know.
I want to travel and I feel like I can't take anything for granted. You know, when you reach a certain age, anything could happen anytime. So even if you're doing everything you can to keep yourself healthy, I would love to find somebody that wants to travel and have fun, and we're kind of in the same space with all of that, you know. And it is a foody and likes to read and likes to just veg out on Netflix forever. And you know, just I don't know if you.
Can find I think you can, I think you well. I'm optimistic for you.
Oh.
Thanks well, Patti, thank you so much for coming on Happy Hour and talking to us. We really appreciate it, and honestly I wish you the best.
Oh, thank you so much, Love you guys.
Thank you, Kattie, thanks for coming on.
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