Bachelor Happy HourGirl Talk with Gerry’s Daughters Jenny & Angie! | Golden Hour
Today on “Golden Hour,” Kathy and Susan are joined by guests Jenny Young and Angie Warner, Golden Bachelor Gerry Turner’s daughters! The ladies are sitting down today to give Bachelor Nation some advice. We kick off with our question of the day: Should you ever talk about past relationships with your current partner? Then, we answer some of your questions. We get into drama-filled sisters-in-law, vasectomies, and trying to move on from an emotional affair. Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thank you so much for coming back and joining us again. We have a great show coming up. Hey Kathy, I'm we have a great show. How are you doing, Susan, I'm good, I'm good.
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Have we had some great episodes lately, gosh, unbelievable. So when you're there, check our past episodes. We have so much fun answering your questions and doling out lots of advice, most of it good. So keep those questions and comments coming to All you have to do is go to Bachelornation dot Com slash Golden Hour. We have some great questions today, Susan. I can't wait to get started. But first we are gonna welcome our special guests, Jenny and Angie, who you probably remember as Gary Turner's daughters.
Welcome, Welcome, girl, Thanks for having us.
We are so excited to have you girls. But we did get to know them during our show, remember Kathy when we met them. Oh yes, we have all remained very close friends. As a matter of fact, they are here at my house along with Kathy and Nancy ch Christina and they just arrived. So we're gonna have them all weekend, girls weekend.
What better than to do a podcast with these fabulous people and hear all their family secrets.
What do you say?
Sure?
Yeah, sure, Now I'll never tell that. Vert tell Gary's going to be on the phone in about a minute, Susan, He'll call you.
You know what, I have Gary on speed dial. He can call me anytime he wants.
All right, so we have a topic of the day, girls. Okay, So do you talk about past relationships with your current partner or is that off limits? If you talk do if you do talk about it, are there any topics that are off limits. Who wants to go first.
I feel like you should be able to talk about it. You learn from each other that way. I would rather hear something crazy has happened in the last relationship or whatever, so I say, talk about it, no limits, okay.
And I think this is interesting too, because I mean, I've been married for twenty four years, so it would have.
Been she doesn't count, so if she had past relationships, she doesn't remember that.
I don't remember them.
No. I mean I think when we early on, when we first started dating, I might have like I would bring something up, and I'm with Angie like nothing is off limits.
I had a horrible boyfriend before.
My Susan and Kathy.
Yeah, yes, so I do know that topics came up, but it wasn't like, oh, I you know, I want to talk to you about this because this is what happened in my past relationship.
It would have just been, you know, off the cuff. If something came up like this is what happened now for you. If it came up now, that would be weird. Later, let me tell you about my ex boyfriend. So I forgot years ago, right, So.
Wait that brings something up because when you do first meet somebody, like you're going on the first date, if they start talking about their ex, that's a red flag for me.
I agree. First, when you're getting to know somebody, it's like, are you over that person or not?
Because clearly not okay, But I'm going to talk about the elephant in the room. Susan, we are not married like these two beautiful women. Well, I know we were, but now that we're in the dating world with no dates.
By the way, is there.
Is there's anything that's off limits for you or do you want to hear Is there anything you don't want to hear about or talk about?
Now?
I'm an open book, and I hope the person that I'm with is just as open. I don't want to be surprised later on down the road. But I wouldn't tell me like a ghost story or something that like, I just.
Don't want to Yeah, when I when I, when I date someone, I do not want to hear all there.
I hate it my ex that is taboo, right.
Yeah, I'm with you on that.
I think it's more like, you know, my ex used to do a B and C and maybe it bothered them. Maybe it's something and then you can look at yourself like, I'm that a B and C person.
Well, it says here if you do talk about it, are there any topics that are off limits? I got name one my sex? Like, wait a minute, we agreed again, and this is.
That we have spent way too much time together, Susan, We're great.
What's that damn game?
I hate moral quandary And if you listened earlier this week, I got a hundred.
No, she didn't.
She had a B plus B plus All right, I think no.
I was just saying, if you're going to be talking with your you know, your new person about sex, and you wanted to talk about your ex relationship, do you say, oh, this is what he did that I really liked, and this.
Is that's something that could be shared.
Yeah, you know, I'm sorry. That sucks.
Don't do that right you wait, I just want to paint a picture here. So we're all out to dinner with our special summon. It's not together. We're all there at my table. Do you really think that I am going to say over a glass of champagne and a file a mignon, So let me tell you what I like in the bedroom.
Are you for real?
It's not bringing it up like that. They're saying, if you have that discussion.
I'm going to if I'm at on a date having.
What if you're between this sheet.
That's where you have that conversation there, I would like champagne and a nice steak.
Get straight to the sex talk. I think that comes out.
Everybody's different.
We're moving on here, So okay, ladies, Angie and Jenny, we do advice. We answer some fan questions, and then we give out some advice. So we're gonna be very anxious to hear what y'all think. Y'all that's a Texas term for everyone here.
Even though she's an East Coast girl.
I am an East Coast girl, but I live in Texas, all right.
So let's go with the first one from anonymous, age forty four from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. She's an Oakie, all right. High Golden ladies, I am writing to you and need some advice. I'm not sure if either of you have experienced with this, but maybe you know someone who does. I need some thoughts on staying with someone, making a relation work, a relationship work.
After in fidelity.
My husband and I have been together for fifteen years, and I recently found out that he'd been having an emotional affair for nearly two years. It ended over three months ago, but the lengths he went to to keep it going and hidden have been hard to move past. I have chosen to forgive him. However, I'm finding that I am thinking about it all the time. We'll be talking about something we did as a family and I can't help but think about if he was talking to her. Then I'll sometimes just lay awake in the middle of the night just recounting everything.
I know.
We've been going to therapy and we both want to heal our relationship for the sake of our son. I'm hesitant to talk to friends or family because I already judge myself every day for choosing to stay and forgive him, and don't want further judgment from them. Let me know if you have any advice for getting past something like this. I appreciate you both greatly.
Who wants to go first.
Well, I think the the first thing was that I was like, is trying to make the relationship work? I guess you do have to put the effort in to try and do that, but I feel like an emotional relationship is almost worse than just a sexual relationship. Like there's you're having a lot of conversations, you're having a lot of talks, you're getting kind of deep, and I think that that's just a little bit.
More than you know, kind of having yes, yes exactly.
Now, I'm not in the position to go, oh, you should leave this guy or you should stay with him.
But I mean, I mean, she's she's asking you for your advice, so your advice.
I would have a very hard time with it.
And I yeah, I don't know that I could say, yes, I would leave my husband.
But that's a bad one. I think that's almost like I said, it's it's worse than just.
I think the key to this one, and she said it herself, was I have chosen to forgive him and move on. So people are going to react to cheating differently. I'm a person if you cheat, you're out that. I'm very black and white. If she's choosing to say I'm going to forgive him and I'm gonna move on, then she needs to take that and she needs to move on.
She can't say that she's.
Gonna choose to move on and then lay at night thinking about it.
So that's what I think Angel as well. But there's something here that Anonymous. You wrote that, So I was married for almost forty six years, but I came from a parents who were divorced, and it was an ugly one and it was infidelity.
And I'm here to tell you, Anonymous, if you, in your words, want to heal your relationship for the sake of your son, you're barking up the wrong tree. If you're not saving the relationship because you love your husband and you want to make it work.
If you're doing it for you only for your child, give it up. Now that's my advice to you. I would re examine why you want.
To stay in the relationship. What do you think, Susan.
Well, I would like to know what they talk about in therapy. Where is he coming from and what were his reasons? Did he feel like he wasn't close to his wife and he was reaching out for some emotional support from somebody else, And if so, why so long? And why did you come back to this relationship because you got caught or for the sake of the sun or right, that's the wrong reason because it doesn't save effectively, it makes it worse. But if you can't get over it and therapy's not helping.
That tells you everything you need to know.
Don't know what the other door hits you in the ass. The other thing she said is though I already judge myself every day for choosing to stay, it sounds to me like she has not chosen and is not happy she's staying under duress. So, Anonymous, it's a shame, it's sad. We wish you all the best. I hope the therapy helps, but re examine actually why you're staying in the relationship.
And one more thing, put yourself in his shoes and just for a second and act as if you did that. So how do you forgive yourself? And do you want your relationship to go on?
Right? Right?
I mean, I don't know what he's saying, but put yourself there. I was it emotionally attached to somebody else, But I think that's.
What she was saying that, you know, I mean, I've never had an affair, but you know, you hear people say it was just sex.
Well that's different, Yeah, this was.
Well no, I think that I think you're agreeing with me, like I just I think the just sex and the emotional, but I think the emotional is bad.
Yeah, there's a there was a good connection there.
That's the hard part I think.
I think at the end of the day, she needs to be happy, and clearly she's not, so that her choice in saying that she could accept it and move on might not be her right choice and she should re examine that and then live her life and be happy.
Yeah, we wish you all the best, Anonymous. Let's know right back in unlet's know how it goes.
And he's a dumb ass. Sorry you shouldn't have done that. But okay, okay, moving right along.
Okay.
This one's from Carrie, age sixty from Norfolk, Virginia. She says, Hi, girls, your podcast makes me smile every week. Something that doesn't make me smile every week is my sister in law. She has been constantly staring up family drama for years. It's not even necessarily with me. She just is always at the center of some family drama and I have had enough. It has ruined so many family gatherings, special occasions, holidays, etc. She is constantly picking fights or commenting about someone's parenting styles or weight or relationship you name. It, she's doing it. I am always nervous about what she's going to say next. She is just one of those people who loves drama and constantly surrounds herself with it. I can't control who my brother married, but I'm seriously considering not inviting their family to any gatherings anymore. I have talked to my brother about it, but he just says, that's how she is and it's not that bad. How would you deal with a family member who is constantly causing drama is always stressing me out and makes our family so tense. I love you all and thank you for any advice.
Okay, Ant, Yeah, So I think the first part of this is that she says she has talked to her brother about this, and he just says, don't worry, that's just her. I think her first nap is to talk to her directly. He chose her, she didn't, And so now it's whenever you're invited, you're causing drama forever. Thing that we do have that conversation. If it doesn't get resolved and they can't take care of.
It, you're saying the sister in law, You're saying that Carrie needs to have a conversation directly, not go to the brother.
Carrie has only talked to her brother, and he's of course defended his wife, which you would. So Carrie needs to go to the sister in law and let her know this is what happens. You caused this drama. You're doing this, You're ruining our family functions. If that doesn't help, then I think Carrie has all right to not invite this person to her own family gatherings and things. I think that's totally up to.
Her fair enough, So I would say, you know, just sitting here amongst girls, we all know someone that's like this.
Yes, I have two sister in laws.
And what fuels their fire attention people giving them attention, letting them get away with this. So I would say that that's exactly what she wants, and the more attention you give her keeps it going. You kind of ignore it, you let it go, that it might team it down just a little bit. But my other thought would be quit inviting her to stuff, and when she starts feeling left out, that's when you can go. Yeah, you know what, you cause problems all the time, You're not fun to be around.
Yeah, but wait a minute, First of all, I swear this letter is about my sister in laws I had, I had, I had two of them, No, I have two of them. One was the nicest person on the other on the planet. The other one, and they're twins by the way, the other one could ruin a party in ten seconds.
So I don't know. But here's the thing.
Are you not as much as you know you'd like to? Can you really not invite your brother and his wife to the family holiday parties?
What about you just say.
Yeah, I'm not inviting you because of your wife?
What about being Susan as she says it, you get in her face and call her on it? What the hell is wrong with you? Why would you say something about somebody's way?
You don't think that's going to escalate it?
Yeah? Mate, and you shut it down.
Remind me to come to your Christmas party next year with your family.
Say I call it like it is and deal with it in the moment. I can't let it fester because then I'll probably flatten tires or I don't know, hit her over the head or something.
I don't know if you ladies know this, but Susan has a cadre of baseball bats that she uses for a multiple situations.
But she says, I've had enough, Like she's going to get on somebody about their parenting style. Who the hell died and made you? Boss? You're not God? Where you get on somebody's weights?
Are you going to sit around? I want you to seriously think about this.
Your three children and their families are all sitting around your banquet table that seats twenty, and you're telling me that one of your daughter in law one of them acts up. I know you love your daughter in laws, but Jess would never do I know, but you know what I'm saying.
Just just theoretically.
At the table, you're going to be complete silence when I say, excuse me, what did you just say? Oh no, darling, that doesn't happen here.
Come on, no, I will Angie. We're coming here for Christmas, uir.
I'm coming to watch Susan Yellow Christmas.
But you can see it.
But we don't have that here, but we would. My whole family were loud and we're loving. Nobody insults anybody at my table. And even if I was at your house, I might pause a little bit, but my eyes would make that.
Person Susan and I both are eyes like you know where you stand with eyes?
So Carrie, just to carry right, Carrie, I asked you this, are you not comfortable? You went to your brother and out of respect. I get that. I think that was nice. And he said, that's just who she is. It is what it is. Well that's unacceptable. Why don't somebody put the woman in her place? And then if that don't work?
And you know, all right, Carrie, let us know what happens. We want to give me your address and I'll be over.
Inquiring minds want to know.
And Susan has a baseball bat Chance used in the last month.
She's ready, all can I just tell your way?
Pause?
Will you look at these two eyes. I remember meeting Gary and looking into his Garrie gorgeous. Wait, you see your family's right over there. Gary.
Your dad's eyes are beautiful. I actually said that to him when I met him. I said, you have the most beautifulies. He said to me, so do you, and then he didn't marry it.
Well, Gary, all right, I don't understand that.
If you're listening, well, damn you're listening.
We do love you.
We love you, Gary, all right?
Moving next, question I have personal experience with, so can I answer that?
What has personal experience with? Everything? We said?
You haven't read the question I had.
He has a family member that there, she has the thing that.
I come from a family of seven. I have half brothers, stepsisters. I got it all, okay, go I got the mean stepmother, the great stepmother.
I got it all. Okay.
This is from Sebastian, age fifty one, from the Big Apple otherwise known as New York City, Kathy and Susan. I watched The Golden bats Or with my wife and we've been keeping up with you two ever since.
Well, I'm glad you watched it. Okay.
I started listening to your podcast and thought i'd write in asking for some advice. My wife is thirty seven and I'm fifty one. We have three kids and don't want anymore. She has asked me to get a mastect to me and I really don't want to undergo surgery, as I am deeply afraid of the pain. I know that sounds silly after she's given birth to three kids, but I've seen horror stories online and I don't react well to anesthesia. We have also talked about other forms of birth control like the pill or an IUD, but those all fall on her, and I want to take some ownership here too. We decided to not have sex until we figured this out to be safe. So I want to make a decision soon. Do you think I suck it up and get the best sect to me? Let me know what you think, okay, Sebastian.
Sebastian gross on, will you please still get that stuff?
Let me go do it. They're waiting until he makes a decision, Sebastian.
It could be a long cold winner. You know what I'm saying, Hey, here's you. No I want to say to you. I do have personal experiences. I also have three children, Sebastian. I also asked my husband to have a vest sect to me, and he also said, I refer to the paint And I said, I said, exactly what you said about your wife, Sebastian, I said, are you kidding? May may have been a few exploents in there. I had three children, and you're really given this to me. So he did do it, and let me tell you he was scared to death, Sebastian.
I don't know what you're reading online. Half what you read online.
Isn't true anyway except our podcast. So you know there's that. But I am telling you you need to go and have it done. They don't knock you out. It's like a local. You're fine. My husband had it done on a Friday, and he went back to work on Monday. And you know what your wife is gonna say, Oh, poor baby, let me bring you soup and bed.
Really, what she's thinking is grow a pair, get up, you'll be fine. Go do it.
Sebastia the same thing. It was scared than death. It's like having a little blue balls your sore for a couple of hours. You put some ice on it, your fine four children. Excuse me, excuse me.
I mean, let's discuss he's going through what a couple of days of pain and then die? Okay, let's give Sebastian a couple of days.
You want your thirty.
Seven year old wife to go on birth control, which causes oh, he doesn't wants.
To take you want to take?
Then?
What if you want to take ownership? Guess what?
Get busy.
The big V is coming your way right right, going to it. The first of.
All, you are blessed, buddy, you're fifty one she's thirty seven. I mean, if that doesn't tell you enough, you need to do this and yesterday.
Wait, wait, did I want y'all? Did you hear what? I don't think y'all heard what? Maz No, no, no, did you hear what this beautiful woman said.
I'm sitting.
She said that he wants the big V. He better get the other V.
One be for the other sect.
You got four women here, Sebastian, who love you. We love your wife. More, get it done? Okay, moving run along.
Wait, wait, what's his wife's name? He didn't sayever. Sebastian's wife is call us.
We'll come, We'll come and drag him for you.
No one will ever date me. They think of killer.
I all you on things. Why do I think that suits? All tell them at the dinner table. Let me tell you what I think.
Nobody disrespects at my table.
And you wonder why you can't get a date.
Okay, guess I'm really nice. You were very nice.
Yeah, you're very nice. If you want to date Angie, that's a whole nother story. All right, we're moving on.
I's married.
I do like your husband.
All right, we're moving on to the parenting. Editions.
Would you rather see? You have to answer would you rather this? Or would you rather that? Since we wait, since we all have kids, You don't, Angie, but you have dogs and you're an aunt and whatever, and some of us have grandkids. So I thought it would be fun to play around of parenting.
Would you rather so, Angie? You could say whatever the hell you want because nobody can call you a liar. All right, here we go.
Would you rather hear I love you from your kid for the first time again?
Or see them smile for the first time again?
I would say, smile.
What do you think, Aie?
I mean, I don't have kids, but I if I did, I would think it would be the I love.
You You've met me?
Right?
I want both? Smile makes you crautiful? Yes, beautiful?
I just say, yeah, it's my granddaughter.
It's gass. We think the smile.
Look do smile? Look she smiled at me.
It's a gas bubble.
When my granddaughter smiled for the first time, it was me and my daughter was so angry, and it wasn't a gast smile. It was like she was like six weeks old and I walked in and she looked at me this bit, and Kate, my daughter, looked at me, and when.
I said, get ready tailing, all right, go ahead, all right, how about this one?
Clean up? Spilled juice on the carpet or a marker drawn on the walls.
Remember that your kids drew on the walls, you know the tories.
I came, Oh my god, my whole bedroom, the twins.
A minute.
My twins got into my vanity and they drew on each other, on my comforter, on the walls with eyeliner lipsticks. This was just so I could take a shower, Okay.
But that was a lot of fun that they had.
Well, I'm just you know, I'm which would you rather spill on the carpet?
My kids? Water and apple juice? It doesn't stay. Get the hell off my board to die. If my kids and marked up my walls, I would rather have.
The wall because I can paint, So I'd rather just paint up the wall. A carpet, you got to bring somebody in. You got shampoo the carpet. If it doesn't come out sounds like a Do.
You know how many times kids spill formula juice while they're toddlers until it's always it happens.
So my answer is going to be because all of my friends know how great my husband is with getting stains out of the carpet.
So I'm gonna go with the stains in the carpet because I know he can get it out.
So that's a practical answer, all right. This one is a favorite of mine.
Okay. I can't wait to tear your answers.
Watch your kids score the winning point or goal or have them get a perfect report card.
I am a very sporty person and so are my kids. So I'm gonna go with the winning goal.
Because it's just it's fantastic and all my life is baseball, and I'm going for that.
Also. I also because it's exciting, you know, like you see him do it, you don't see him learn and then get the report card.
I mean, you don't want a dumb kid.
But definitely.
Okay, I can't believe we're all agree. But you know why, God, you hear that, ladies, and then I'm gonna gamera on the stairs. You know why? For me though, it's not it's not the excitement of the game.
It's my daughter played soccer all the way through school and played college soccer. Now it works for the professional, even Austin. The confidence that it gives a kid, I we'll score.
The winning goal is amazing.
All right, how about this one? Get up at five am with a crying baby or stay up until two am with a crying baby? Easy? Five am, am.
I'm going to stay up till two am, and I'm gonna do the five am thing because you your question didn't say it specifically, but I might have been in bed since eight and get up at five.
I'm good, Amen. All right, we got two and two.
No so great grandchildren, Susan. You can get up at five and I'll get up at two, all right, perfect?
Or stay up till two the crying baby you're wits in baby, Let me start fresh. I got more patience. Okay, handle a tantrum from a three ager or an actual teenager? Three major? A three year old or a teenager.
I mean, I'm gonna answer for my sister's Definitely you'd rather have a teenagerer.
Yeah, okay, so I will say I my youngest, so, Charlie, she was terrible, absolutely terrible, and you're talking about a temper tantrum.
As a young child.
She was horrible until she oh my gosh. Until she was ten, it was a long road. It was lots of throwing things and this and that and everything. But once she hit ten, she changed and I've had perfect teenage years with her.
So the youngest, yeah, she was kind.
Of a butle. We love.
Charlie, but yeah, so I can't.
I would rather take the teenage at this point because way better.
Than what I had until she was time.
But oh, for me, it's so easy a teenager because you know what, you can say it.
Well, I'll tell you. Why go to your room.
I don't want to talk to you. Come out when you can be civil. You can't do that with a three year old. You have to deal with it. I don't want to deal with that. Go to your room, come out when you can be civil.
Pick a three year old? Absolutely, Why are you going to do because they're not long and you don't have to go through the punishment for a week, because when you punish your teenager, you're punished as well. You remove them and go give them a bottle, do something they quiet them?
Really, you know what?
That's just me, Susan, Yes, I actually I don't know. My children were perfect.
We never had an we go and if you believe that, not even a little bit.
All right, buy your kid a car for their sixteenth birthday, or have a kid who refuses to at their license so you're stuck driving them.
Oh that's so easy.
Okay, this is way new to me.
I don't know what the deal is with this generation that's getting their driver's license where they don't want to go and get their driver's license.
They'd rather have their parents drive them around. I didn't know it was the thing, and no Charlie. So again, back to Charlie, I love.
She was in a boot and on crutches on her sixteenth birthday and I was like, I don't think you can go to the d m V and get a driver's license.
She's like, the hell, I'm not. And so she went. She had to do her driving test and everything. The boot was on the left foot.
But she didn't add that you don't drive.
I know that's what I'm saying.
So she didn't so she could drive, but nope, she was out of there. She's like, Nope, I'm going to go and do it.
I don't understand.
I was going to say, what state would allow you to take a driving test with your right foot in the boat, just saying.
I say, yeah, they got to get out there and drive their own car.
Okay, wait, so what about you.
I did buy my kid's cars when they were.
Six, so I will be honest. I bought my kids cars. My husband and I did, not all of them. They shared one. But if they refuse to get their license, I'm not stuck driving them. Honey, you don't want to get a license on offer to buy you a car, I guess you're gonna figure out how you're gonna get to that baseball practice.
It's true.
There's a lot of people kids out there that are twenty someone didn't get their license yet. It's like amazing, I couldn't wait. All right, how about potty training again? Or changing diapers again? Pick one?
I would probably change diapers again because I feel like everybody that they talked to has a really hard time potty training.
And this one's a hard one for me to answer because my husband stayed at home.
He's been a stay at home dad for twenty years, so.
He potty trained both of my girls.
Yeah.
Well, yeah, let's do you know what you hear what she's saying? Oh no, we'll take the potty trading again because my husband will be doing it.
My husband will do it.
Yeah, I'm good.
Pain in the butt?
Did you wait?
My kids every grocery store it was like a thing. Why no, you don't.
Did you not read the book how to potty train? I'm serious, I'm not instruction. There was a book how that's right.
How to potty train your children in a day? And I'm not kidding you. I did it you. This is I'm not joking. Turn off your phone, which I did, believe it, or not. Flood your child with any popsicles, fruit juice, anything they want.
But before you do that, you buy.
Something that they really want, like it's a lego with doll whatever it is. Stick it up on the shelf so they're watching it. Why can't I have that? Oh, you're gonna have it. We're gonna potty train. You get the excitement going, and then you know what you do? You flood them.
Okay, the surprise every time you no, no.
No, once he's once they pee at the end of the day and they're dry and they've kept dry for the day.
One day they get.
Because once they're trained, they're trained.
That's what you don't do. It in one day.
I did all three of mine in one day.
She's a mirror.
No, it's just the book.
A miracle it was, and I'm just I'm putting myself out there.
I charge a lot, but if anything, you need help.
Made out in the back seat of a car, and her kids were trained in us a book.
I have made out in the backseat of a car and had sex in the backseat of a car.
That was well, her kids are perfect, and you're looking green with them this season. Oh no, I've changed. Okay, let your kids choose what's for dinner every night, or you choose what's for dinner but can only eat their leftovers. You're kind of a question. Is that skip that one?
Oh wait? What how would I How would I so that moral quandary?
I hate that?
How would I answer it?
You would choose I don't cook. That's right, that kids would starve.
I would choose because a lot of things.
I'm a foodie, A lot of things.
We're going to get along so good.
Like I like to eat, and I would what I want. It's not normally what a little kid wants to eat. So I'm cool eating their leftovers because they'll pick it. Something and then I get what I actually order.
You do you cook? What's your husband?
John cooks?
So do your kids get to pick?
They picked when they were younger.
I think the the tagline in our houses is this is not a restaurant.
But it was a restaurant.
Yeah, so they picked so quite a bit. So they got what they wanted.
But I think I'm I'm with Angie, like reading the question and seeing what it is.
I'm with her, like start thinking.
I think we both like to have our food and have what we want. So if we would get to have what we want, we just get to eat our leftovers.
Question for.
Question something like a three year old.
She's speaking questions for both of them. Do you like read me? Do you like shrimp?
Love shrimp?
Do you like scallops? You like wine? I don't think they're leaving. That's for dinner this weekend.
Turns out I now live.
Yes, Yes, I've been very busy being her sou chef. I slice some potatoes, salt and peppered them. She flipped them, and I'm exhausted.
I'm just saying.
Right along, all right, have your kid write you a thoughtful handwritten card, or get or make you a thoughtful gift.
Remember I like the cards.
The cards are.
Cute and you know the scribbly handwriting and whatnot.
Do they still do when your kids went to school and you had to give them like a dollar at Christmas time and they buy you the ring or they get the gifts?
Shout out again to neither of my nieces.
I never got one.
They ran out of You might want to run away before Auntie.
I'll give this one A shout out to Charlie because the last year that she did it, both of those girls never once they ran out of money. So I didn't get my present. The last year that Charlie could do it. I was moving into a new house. Rob and I were renting a house and she bought me a little rock that said welcome, and she said you can put it on your pool.
That means the word I love that my kids. I still have the handwritten upstairs in the door. Or no, I get rid of everything that you still want to kill me that I still have, Mom, I owe you to.
Okay, I have a question. All y'all know I'm a writer by training.
What do y'all think about getting a gift from grandma and grandpa or auntie, angie or whatever it is a thank you, handwritten thank you or a phone call okay, or a text message?
What do you acquire for thank you?
I don't requite. I don't require anything for a thank you.
Usually No.
If you I'm saying, if you had children, would you would you require them to write a thank you?
No? No, no.
I think a verbal thank you is good.
I'm happy that they remember, you know, like that's I think that's important. But like be I think it's just like if we're standing there together and they like look at me and say, hey, thank you.
You just wand to you.
But like if I sent them a gift, Oh I got a teacher, Okay, that's.
The case, then I would say you could pick up the phone.
And call Kathy.
Okay, what about you, Susan?
Definitely I taught my children you must send.
Them Kandre everybody. What would I do, Susan?
Make them say to thank you?
Damn right?
We all agree if someone if someone took the time to give, spend money, give them a gift, they're writing a handwritten bank.
Wait, I can't wait to hear her face, see her face. Just pay attention. Okay, have to spend your retirement money on your kid's wedding or have them elope and marry someone you never met?
Now what do you think?
Go ahead? Do you not know what your retirement money?
Right? Damn? Right now?
Somebody we love to listen this true story. And Susan knows us that's why I thought you were going with this. My husband died before my last child got married, and but we had talked about a budget for my daughter's wedding. And when I tell you, we blew through that budget, like and I but I honestly said to myself, what would Darryl have done? And I could just see him saying to me, are you kidding me? The wedding of her life?
And believe me you and I tell you, I mean she had the wedding of her life.
I may rephrase that question, and the question was spend your retirement money or have them elope, not with a lope with someone never met. I mean I gave Britney a choice. You take the money, that's what they're still going to give you this money buy a house or you know what do you guys, what are.
You gonna do with?
Okay, so ever since my girls were little, basically the what I have told them is that I will pay for their college, and I will give them.
Twenty dollars for their wedding. Twenty Where are they going to McDonald's.
Here's my point to have you know what, to hope you enjoy it.
Here's the thing.
My whole point has been, I will pay for your college, which in my opinion, is the best wedding gift that I can give them.
They're gonna get.
She's gonna go into a marriage, and she's not going to have debt for college unless she chooses to go.
Beyond her Okay, wait, I got a follow up question.
If your daughter gets married before she finishes school, would you.
My first one's done, my second would never do it.
Well, that's not the question. The question is hypothek you, angie. Hypothetically, would you pay for your child's education after they got married paying for education?
Yes, because that's already the promise that I made her that I would pay for.
The first four years of college.
Even if she gets married.
You wouldn't say, at your husband's responsibility to pay for your education or your own now you're married, they're both.
I would finish it.
I would, I would. I've already paid for the first one.
I think it's my due diligence to pay for the second one.
To do it.
However, I have said, if they want, you know, Subway sandwiches and beer, I will.
Pay for that for their wedding.
What about you, Susan, I would spend my retirement money I have twice. She got married twice.
I don't know.
I like my son got married twice. I paid for It's expensive. Okay, wait, wait a minute, who's paid for your wedding?
And if you have said yeah, I'm gonna have to say, have them a lobe. If that's what they really want to do. I mean, we're gonna learn. They're gonna learn a lesson and I.
Because you'll need the money to help pay for the divorce. That's what my money is gonna come.
At some point.
You're gonna have to support them.
Dumpster is gonna have to move into my house. And the money that I would have paid for the wedding is paying for everything.
And so when we come back into a podcast five years from now, if Andie had a kid, we're gonna be given retirement money.
You guys, this has been a lot of fun.
Thank you.
I hope you come back and you love having you to but unfortunately that does it for this episode of Batchelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.
Jenny and and you are welcome here anytime. I actually like doing it live, but instead of like over the because I can really see if they're telling the truth.
The energy. It's the eyes, it's the eyes.
Wait, I can't wait for that. We're gonna go cold. We're gonna we're gonna call Gary as we eat our steak and scallops and shrimp. Ladies and gentlemen, be sure to follow us on Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes coming out all the time, every week, twice a week.
And if you have any questions or advice that you'd like from us, I mean, you might want to know more about our weddings. You might want to know more about our spoiled children. I mean you might want to know what to do with your spoiled children.
Wait, excuse me, Kat, Just yesterday she said to me, you know how you say sometimes, Oh, yeah, she was born with a silver spoon. This one said my daughter was born gold like I said, probably platinum.
I said, my daughter was born with a goldspoon. Her mouth, she goes yeah, make that platinum.
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