Treat Rudeness with Kindness | Golden Hour

Published Oct 14, 2024, 7:01 AM

Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re getting into some of your questions! We kick off the episode recapping last week’s episode of “The Golden Bachelorette.” Then, we ask our question of the day: How do you feel about blocking people on social media? We also respond to some of your questions! What do you do when a friend’s husband gets a little too close? How do adapt to your body changing as you age? We get into all this and so much more. Tune in now, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! 

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Just send them our way and we'll be sure to cover. We look forwarding for you guys. Butt Today we're going to get into some of your questions. But first, Susan, we have got to talk about last night's episode of the Goldenbout Tredda and I'm willing to go first if you don't want to, no.

I think it was difficult and I fear that people all felt the sadness. I mean, it was beautiful about the cancer and the knowledge of them raising money for it. But to watch a show that you want to be hopeful that somebody's going to find love and feel good. I was a little down last night. It was hard to watch.

Yeah, I mean the positives, the guys doing the strip teas, I mean, that was it. That was funny, but it was at the moment they put themselves out there were but I and you, we love for those of you out there. We are good friends with Joan. We love Joan. We think she's doing a great job. But here's the thing for us, and for me, I should speak for me. The show is about love and hope and the next chapter being the best chapter and just the joy and we can find from watching exactly. And to me, Susan and I were watching this last night together because we are in l A. And we were I almost started crying, like I felt holt. Yes, it did. And I think that this show is about hope and love and this was so much looking backwards of and and I know Joan misses our husband, and we know that you can't I can't replace my husband, you know, Joan can't replace hers and Chock's mom and that was a real moment. But the thing is there just seemed to be so much focused last night on loss. So let's pick it up. Let's pick it up from there, right, Let's pick it up and move on. I will tell you. One of the moments I loved though, was those guys coming out to sig the best was the best part of the all show I wish we got to do. That was the camaraderie, the love those men feel for each other. That that was a special mind.

But my hats off to the guys doing the strip tease. I know how uncomfortable and hard, but they rocked that. They did so so well. I mean they really put themselves out there, and kudos to you. And that's another thing that I think this show is getting us to live outside of our comfort yes, and doing crazy things like that.

Wait, can I just say, back on the strip teas Jonathan who said, never done it, You've got a future if everything else doesn't work out for you, you have got a future as a as a chip and down.

And may I say, did Chuck know he was going to get the tuxedo because he, oh, look so handsome?

Man?

He has a great buye. I mean, most of those guys have they all have been good. I love it, And then Mark saying I loved it was so hard felt. Mark said, you know, the hope, the love will always be there for her, but he has room for more. But he's open, he's ready. I think that's why he's on this show. And Joan has struggled a couple of times now, not knowing if she was ready. And something she said last night was I might leave with nobody like and that.

Was that, And yeah, I just I really wanted I want to uplift. I want to uplift. I want to give people hope because you know what, life is good and there is so much to be grateful for and thankful for.

And and I know this journey's hard for Joan number one opening herself up. And I loved the night that she accepted the fact that you're not replacing your husband, and these men are not replacing their their deceased wives for you know, yeah, it's okay to let somebody else in wait.

I just thought of another one that I loved. At the before the Rose ceremony. Do you remember when Joan raised the glass and said, here is to all of you and finding love, and that's the kind of hope. That's what we want more. We want to see way more of that.

It's and I love that they acknowledge everybody's loss. But that's enough, Okay, it's enough. We want happy, we want you know, and it's not it's not. I'm not excusing it or trying to put it away.

I just think that the premise, at least for our show was all about finding happiness, finding love, finding friendships, looking forward, not backward. So I hope that I know Joan, it was hard for her. It was hard, but it was We wish them all the very best. I can't wait till next week. I was just going to say, I can't wait for next week.

So today we're back answering more of your question.

Oh no, Susan, We're gonna do the question of the day first. All right, how do you feel about blocking people on social media? Like? Do you think it's rarely necessary? Do you do it often? What does it take for someone you know personally to get blocked? And I have a great story that I just did. I got a direct message. People always say, you know, do you get direct messages? People asking you out. No, I don't. But I had a guy the other day. Ask me, if I'm not kidding, if he paid me it was on TikTok. If he paid me, could I entertain him on the internet? Can I tell you how fast I blocked and reported him? Well, I don't know. I'm not on those either, but I turned him in and block and I got such satisfaction because you know what happened. They got back to me and they said that he is now restricted from dming anyone. So that's when I block him.

Do I think it's rarely necessary. It depends on how often somebody says something out of line or of color.

Don't you ignore people sometimes when they send you I do you ignore them? Just ignore them? It has to go some for me to block.

I think, what does it take for someone you know personally.

To get a lot? I've never blocked anyone personally, although we've been blocked my people, we've been blocked. Why I'm not can't use names? Oh remember?

But you know what, I don't do it that often because most people are really kind.

Yeah, most people out there. When you write in your supportive and your kind I think, really, it's just remember that we are real people and people who sit behind their computer throwing out insults and cruelty. I will tell you a lot of times, when they say something mean to me, I don't block them. I write back, I really hope you're having a nice day.

It hurts my feelings, it hurts.

Your feelings, but sadeness with kindness.

People say lots of things about me, but I get more positive than I do negative. And you yourself have told me don't read those Yeah, you know, but you'd like to to interact with the people that are your fans and are sharing their experience, so we have to read them.

Yeah, I don't. I think generally, and I know you do too, Susan. I generally believe people are good. And yes, there's some malcontents out there. Every once in a while they're just gonna, you know, throw throw something mean at Usten Apple. Yeah there's I was righting Apple, And you know what, I feel sorry for those people. And we we keep our days bright. You know what.

Positivity yep, be kind happy life.

That's right, Oh right, we love it.

Okay, we're going to get into some of those band questions.

All right, are you right? Go first? All right, all right. H The first one is from anonymous. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I love your podcast and I feel like you guys would have a really good perspective on this. My oldest sister got engaged to her fiance about a month ago. Recently, she asked me if she thought I would be getting engaged to my boyfriend before the end of the year. We've been together for four years and have been living together for a year and a half. I thought she was asking just out of curiosity, so I am honestly. I told her that we've talked about marriage and I know we'll get engaged eventually, but neither of us has expressed a firm timeline because we're not in any rush, but we're open to the idea. She immediately got uncomfortable in short with me when I said that, I was really confused, so I asked her if everything was okay. She said she was fine and changed the subject. I'm fine, yeah, I can hear it okay. A few days later, our other sister told me she was really pissed off at me. Apparently, our oldest sister doesn't want WHOA, doesn't want any of us to do anything wedding related. Until her wedding is over. She's getting married a year and a half from now. I understand not wanting me to get engaged at her wedding, like duh, but do not even want me to get engaged during your wedding year. This honestly isn't a surprise because she's always been like this ever since we were kids. She's always stressed that since she's the oldest, she would get married first. So here's my question. What do I tell my boyfriend if anything? At first, I didn't think it was necessary to tell him because I don't want to live my life based on my older sister's crazy demands. But I would hate for him to propose, have a huge wave of drama come and he's totally caught off guard when I knew this would happen the whole time. But I also don't want him to be discouraged about proposing if he's planning to do it this year, and I don't want him to think I live my life around my sister. I would love to get engaged, but I would hate for a special moment to be tainted by stupid drama that could potentially be avoided. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be so appreciated. God bless you.

She sounds like she's going to be Godzilla, a bridezilla.

I think she's already there. So the baby.

You know what, you have a great relationship with your boyfriend, and you could share Guess.

What she did? You know, guess what she said.

Now listen, if you want to propose to me the even thing twice, I'll accept that ring.

But this is what's happening. I mean, I love you. Couldn't disagree with you more? Why I don't care. Her sister could say she wants to be the first one to fly to the moon. You know what, if I get an invitation to go on the trip to the moon before her, I'm going I think this is absurd. I think you're I think you're letting your disagree with I'm disagreeing that she should tell her boyfriend.

Oh, I would share it with him like you would believe this?

No, because you know what. You know what, First of all, he may not want to. She wants to be engaged. I get it. Yeah, he may not want to. They live together for four years to stop you, honey, Yeah, but that might be the perfect excuse for him. I would just let it go. I would tell your sister that thing exactly. And I'm sorry he popped the question and get the lower. I have to tell you, though, what I did. Wait, wait, wait, just.

Because she's the oldest doesn't mean you get married first. My sister has three daughters, my nieces, and the baby just got engaged and we're all mozzl.

Okay, Now I have to fess up. I've never told you this before. Oh Jesus, here we go. So I have a sister. I come from a large family, but I have a sister who is eleven months older than I am. And my now deceased husband asked me to marryhim and gave me a ring the day before her wedding, and I knew it was coming. And let me tell you, Anonymous, I was very happy to receive that wedding I mean that engument. I showed my parents, my siblings. My sister was like, oh that's great. What I didn't do was run around the wedding going, look, look, I'm engaged. I had the ring on, but I didn't. You know, I kept it quiet. You share a little bit. I may have told a few more than but you.

Didn't make a huge announcement like the DJs and say.

No no, So I think anonymous to your sister. Yeah, I think your sister's pushing a little bit too much here, but I hope you get engaged if that's what you want to do too. And I hope your sister's wedding is a blast. I hope Bridezilla pulls it off absolutely, And thanks so much for sharing that book. Let us know what happens, all right.

Question number two, Claire asks, Hi, ladies, I'm wondering how you personally deal with accepting your changing body as you age. I'm only in my thirties, but I don't look the same as I did in my twenties, and I know this is something I'm going to continue dealing with as I get older. You are both beautiful and radiant confidence.

Oh thank you.

I don't want to spend my life longing to get back to how I used to be, because that's unrealistic and such a waste of energy. But I struggle with accepting changes. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this subject. Well, Claire, we do too, and that's just a part of life. But I think we'll both agree no matter what nip tuck or little tweak we get, we're never going to look like we used to look. Accepting at They say age gracefully, Well, I'm graceful about it.

Yeah.

My body when I look in the mirror.

It's not the same as it used to be.

But if I could get a little light bow here, or a little tuck here, or a laser on my face to make it feel better for me, then that's what you do. But you're absolutely right.

I mean, I would say, Claire, you know another little truism from Kathy. I used to weigh two hundred pounds, so I never got to wear bikinis and all that. And yes, I'm much thinner now, but I never had that great body because she doesn't eat. I eat plenty. The woman does not eat plenty. Anyway, My point here is I had a chain. It's sort of the reverse of what you're saying. I wanted to look better as I've gotten older, so I work out regularly. I do all the things I can. But Susan's right, we're all going to age, and you can't hold on to being twenty. Guess what you can't hold on to being thirty? But as you get older, Claire, you will begin to embrace who you are inside and out. And that is my wish for you, because you want to feel good about yourself. For you, but you're going to age, so feel good about it.

How about what she said, though you're both beautiful and radiant and confidence.

We radiate confidence.

But you're looking at us saying that. But we feel the exact same way right that you do when you look in the mirror and say, I don't look like I used to.

You never will again. Embrace it. But don't you think there's something good about getting older and learning to accept I think, Claire, as you get older, you accept who you are. And that doesn't mean you give up or anything. It means make yourself feel good in any way that you can or that you want to. But understand that with age comes so many wonderful things, benefits that that you'll know as wisdom and so so. Best of what, Claire, I'm sure you're a beautiful woman, and guess what, you're going to be beautiful no matter what you do.

Remember that confident And as you age, we have a lot more confidence because of the knowledge and the life experiences that so.

What we're saying Claire is, don't do what we did.

Be confident that when you get to sixty seven and seventy, get a niptok who cares.

Right well, but what she wants to do at thirty and get botox spoken. Do whatever makes you feel good. All rights, Claire, thanks for writing it. Let us know we want to hear all right. Question. The next question is from anonymous. I like anonymous too, and those of you listening. You don't have to give us your name, just so you know. Okay, Hi ladies. I've been married several years and so as one of my closest friends. Over the years, my friend's husband has gotten into the habit of texting me individually without including my best friend or my husband. Recently, the texts have included hidden innuendos. It's almost like he wants to get a rise out of me or shock me, but the undertone is romantic. I yeah, ouch. I initially thought it was a joke, but as the comments have gotten weirder, I have stopped reacting via text. I am not a flirtatious person at all, but I am a good listener and very caring. I also cared deeply for my close friend and know in the past they have had challenges, as all marriages do. I know next time, I want to communicate with him directly when he does this. The last time was so shocking. I didn't even know how to react. The problem is that we live in different states and don't see each other face to face. I want to keep my relationship with my friend. I'm thinking maybe I should be there for my friend instead of reacting to our husband's comments. What do you both think? Can I go off first on this? Sure, Anonymous? I get why you're being anonymous. You need you don't need to see him face to face. All you need to do is send him a text and say, I be direct. I find your texts uncomfortable and not appropriate. Please do not text me anymore these kinds of jokes in your windows whatever word you want to use, and then say furthermore, any text you send me please include your wife and my husband period. I guarantee you, Anonymous, it will cease and desist.

Or a couple choices, ignorance, stop responding completely, or really, really, what do you think your wife would think of this? I think you're stepping a little across the line here.

So and I behave. Yeah, and I didn't like when she said, but I like my friend, so I'm thinking, you know, I should be there for my friend instead of reacting. I don't even know what that means.

Use this phrase, but shut that up.

Yeah, don't make excuses. Stop. Yeah, it needs to stop. And you're you know what, anonymous, You're a strong woman, You're in control. You need to make it stop, and you need to make it stop yesterday.

Nip it in the butt, So good luck and nip it now. Don't be afraid to say it. Absolutely, don't be afraid. Just say, hey, I think you're crossing the line here.

This is not cool. Now. We've been friends a long time and let's not a good friends. I love you, but don't blow it.

I would say, I'm going to hurt you.

Susan brings out the baseball bat on all occasions.

All right, the next one, Okay, we got question number four, another anonymous cat.

I love this.

Okay, Hi, Kathy and Susan, I really need your help. I've been with my fiance for five years and we've been engaged for a little less than a year. We've wanted to save up for a really nice wedding since we're paying for it ourselves, so we have another eight months until we get married. For the past six months, I haven't wanted to have sex. I love kissing him, hugging him, and cuddling him, but seemingly out of nowhere, I have no interest in doing anything. Further, I can't tell if it's my mental health stress, a problem with our relationship, or something else. We've talked about it candidly, and I told him that I'm just struggling with my sex drive, but that I don't know how to fix it. Despite it being frustrating for us both. He's very understanding. I really want to get to the bottom of this, but I feel like I'm also a little scared about what I'm going to uncover. I really love him, and I don't understand why I can't get myself to be intimate. Any suggestions on how to figure out where this is coming from would be helpful, even past my fears that it's about him, which I really don't think it is. I don't even know where to start when it comes to tackling this. For context, I'm thirty and he's thirty two. Love you both, Thank you well. I have to address something immediately in the beginning, here can I reread she loves For the past six months, I haven't wanted to have sex. She loves kissing, hugging, cuddling, but out of nowhere has no interest in anything else. She can't tell if it's a mental health stress problem or with our relationship. Why wouldn't you know If it's with your relationship, that's something you would know.

I think Anonymous help me here. I know I'm agree with you. I think it isn't perfect. Well, she said twice, even my fears that it's about him, which I really don't think it is. She says it twice in her question. So, An, I think you're questioning the relationship and maybe you're afraid to because the wedding's coming up. So here's my advice. I think Susan will probably agree with this. Get yourself to a counselor to a therapist, to a doctor to it well. I would start with a therapist and a doctor because to make sure it's not something chemical in your body, but I think at her age it probably isn't. And then talk it through because if you are starting to doubt you've been you've been engaged for five years and now the wedding's coming up in less than the area. That is stressful. It is stressful, but maybe deep down she's changed her mind and she's not sure he's that guy. We can't figure it out. We can't figure out. I have a question. I don't even know if I'm allowed to say this on air? What say it? Like?

Is it that he's not good it? Did he not make you climax? I mean, could that be a problem?

Who knows? She said she's struggling with her sex drive. That well, if you're not being satisfied, that is it's been so long for me. I don't know what the hell you're talking about. You know what? That is a problem, and not by choice? May I said? Not by choice?

Yeah, hopefully he's satisfying you. And if he's not, that's a whole new Yeah.

I don't think, you know, my women's intuition tells me this is not uh, this is what is happening.

This is about to get matter.

But I'm saying I think there might be something else. Just I'm just guessing there might be more.

To the start sex drive at thirty years old.

Year, I think I think that's right. Okay, So he's either a medical or she's thinking the wedding's coming up and I don't want to get married.

That could be maybe something hidden problems, or like I said, and for therapist, she's not satisfied, it could be. Or perhaps ask yourself this in private, when you look at another man, do you feel that like you want to? You know, somebody that you find very attractive. That'll tell a lot.

Well, yes and no. I mean the old You can look at the menu, but don't sample at the restaurant. If you're in another I mean, oh god, I'm saying you can look at another guy, Oh he's hot, But that's different. Sometimes you might have a desire like oh, man, Susan, you've got to get your mind out of the sex bucket.

I swear to it's not a sex bucket. Kat, it's human nature.

I guess I'm not human. She's not human anyway. I think. I think, Anonymous, you really do? You need to go to a doctor and make sure there's nothing, you know, metabolically wrong or some issue you're having, and then if that's clear, I'd get myself to a therapist so quickly and uncover maybe what is really going on in your head.

I mean, I remember struggling when I was hitting menopause. You know, you kind of lose your disire story, That's what I mean. And they talked about it candidly.

Yeah, so there is And I want to say one way. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and Anonymous, if you decide after whoever you talk to, that he isn't the guy for you. Guess what, You're thirty years old, you have your life in front of you. I'll tell you right now it's I'm not wishing this on you. I'm saying, if you don't think he's the guy, break up and send the wedding gifts back and cancel the caterer because your life will be far better if you do it now.

And that he's understanding and all. But how long do you think he can go without it?

Yeah, I'm just saying, get the wish of it, Anonymous, let us know, Let us know. If you go through the wedding and we hope that it all works out for you. It could be a hormone deficiency. Yes, it could be a hormone. We could fix it. How do you make a hormone You go to the doctor. No, you don't pay her.

No God, oh gosh, I dream it's coming up.

It's my favorite. It's a moral upon me, Susan. Okay, I'm not telling you the rules. I'm going to not waste time in that. We're just going to roll with it, and you're going and I'm gonna start us off, and you're going to see how well you do today. I'm grading you at the end of Oh God help me, Okay, I'm grading you. Okay. You're on an eight hour flight and a five year old is sitting behind you. For the first hour, the child is non stop kicking your chair, playing on their iPad with the volume all the way up, and loudly whining. Despite asking the parents multiple times to do something, their gentle parenting efforts do not change into the child's behavior. What do you do? No?

No, I know, I keep thinking what I would do, but I gotta think about what with cats? I'm taking my time here.

What would you do? Cat? I can tell you what I would do. I cappy would maybe move or see if there was one? Well, no, that are you kidding? Getting on an airplane today is like a cattle call. You're lucky if you get the seat to yourself and you aren't sharing it. Would you tell the flight attendant what would you do? I can't answer your question. I can't help when you're asked.

These moral quandary things. You got to guess what your partner or your friend, I.

Can guess what you would do. What I think you would get up and talk to the parents and say, look, they said several times you already talked. You are going to look at the child and say, if you kick my chair again, I'm going to catapult you right out of this airplane.

I'd probably give them candy or something or something drowsy to make them sleep.

No, that's a tough one. None just say comfortable. Let me just say, playing on their iPad with their volume you can't do that on airplanes. No, you can't do that anymore. That's for starters. But I would say I would not see you. What you missed on me is I wouldn't have asked five times. I would have made it so clear the first time I didn't need to say it. The second time and I said nothing about it, I'd get up and say you apparently didn't hear me. This is a very long flight. You need to get control of your child, and then I'd smile and sit back down and get the kid's face.

I just said that that man up there is going to come back and get you.

Do you hear, Susan? This is why children this is why children's psycholog child psychologists are fully booked because Susan walks around threatenings.

Seriously, that's a nightmare. So I can tell you a little story. And it was the person in front of me. Okay, and I believe I was going to Europe and she was in uniform.

I have nothing but respect military. Absolutely.

Okay, this woman like its ear tight. I wasn't in first class. I wasn't even in business class. Okay for me, I was regular coach.

You got free sodas and peanuts. Stop complaining. She's jerking around.

My trade table is in my lap. I've got hot tea and cookies, which I love to dunk the cookies because that's all.

You freaking get. But I packed my oion stocks.

It's spilled twice. I tapped in front of me on her shoulder.

She turned around.

She glared at me, and I said, excuse me, could you not move so much? I can't help it, but this stuff is spilling.

She ignored me.

She turned around with attitude you know when somebody just says that. I Well, now my cousin's next to me, and she's freaking out, like, oh god, oh god, what is gonna do?

The third time I tapped her. The third time, I said, excuse.

Me if you don't keep still, and she I didn't even finish. She stands up and she's mad. She's a big girl, and I'm sure in shape. She had an army outphi the one. It wasn't an outphib, it was a uniform.

She turned around and glared at me.

And this is what happens. I mean, I can't hurt a fly.

I really can't.

Don't believe her, But if you're gonna try and come after me, I'm gonna die trying. She turned around and just fletched her muscles and looked.

At me, and I said, you don't sit down, I'm gonna flick you like a fly.

Wait, wait, wait, I'm thinking it wasn't my cousin.

It was my ex husband, Dicky.

Dicky got up, went to the back of the plane, got them flight intend.

He said, you better come up and settle this. But my wife is going to go eightful and this woman wait, this is the woman I just want to point out to everyone listening. This is the woman who just said she couldn't hurt a flea. I just I just want to point out whatever a flea, a fly, a NAT who cares? This is the ilkness Really the one who cannot hurt a fly, flee or NAT is saying, don't piss her off. But I'm going to tell him behaves, sit the freak down. It's just rude. It's rude. It's okay, all right, movie along. I want to do one more p s A. If you are boarding a flight and you see Susan Knowles on the manifest next to me, I'm not sitting next to my share and just don't sit behind her or in front of her.

A lot of people kick behind me. I turn around and look at them like I felt that.

I felt that. Be aware. Wow, all right, move him right along? All right?

Parents, be aware of your children.

Please, it's just not the pre parents should need a license to chold. All right, your boyfriend, are you going to do in the next time?

Your boyfriend has been distant and feeling down for the past few months, but he struggles to open up about his feelings, so you haven't been able to get him to speak about it much.

While he's out of town for work.

You noticed his journal was accidentally left open in the living room.

First of all, he does that.

But do you peek out of concern or respect his privacy?

I know so what you would do, Susan would not worry. It would not be of any concern to her, nor would you give one flip about his privacy. She'd take the deep dive into that journal and have memorized in ten minutes every word of it, and then she'd probably write a handwritten note in there when you found something. She and like, am I right? Maybe I'd figure it out? Am I right?

I don't know if i'd memorize it or write a handwritten No, but yes, what would I do?

You'd look to absolutely we agreed, and I win in the game today. Are you proud? Ladies? All right? Here we go? Okay, isn't she? I just wanted to do it today. I think it's the company.

It's because you're here with me and not just a computer.

I'm giving you the snap. I'll give you the snap, not the hand clap, the snap. A guy comes up to you at a bar, I only wish Okay, sorry, that was not I never do. Never do A guy comes up to you at a bar and you guys immediately hit it off. Wait, I like this question. Where are you sir? He buys you and your friend, Oh, Susan's with me. He buys you and your friend a drink, chats with you, makes you laugh, and eventually gives you his number. Later that same night, you see him holding hands and kissing another woman who has a ring on her finger. Do you confront him, tell her discreetly or let it go? What do I do, Susan? I think we do the same thing. What would I do? I walk away? Yeah? Yeah, no, I think you know I would do lose it. We talked to each other and say look at his asshole? Yeah, and then I'd probably lean over to the candle that's on the bar for ambiance and take his number and watch it burn, or walk by her and say good luck with that? Or what if it's his wife? Yeah, I'm staying out of that. I'm not that girl. Listen, we're not neither one of us. We draw the lot. That's an easy one. So far. What am I getting so far scored one hundred.

Okay, your daughter is happily married and loves her in laws. Recently, however, you noticed her husband's mother making snide comments about her when she's not really paying attention. For example, if someone compliments your daughter's home, her mother in law will say things like, you can thank my son for that. He's always been the ritable type.

What do you do? We're going to agree on't we What do you think I would do? Mhm?

You would say yes, you can thank your son, but without my daughter it wouldn't look like this.

You're close. Actually, we're gonna address it, and I'm going to say I'm going to be this honestly is where I'm very quiet and kind. But I would say did you hear that, ladies? And yes, be very quiet. I can be quiet.

The only time you're quiet is when you're upset about something, right and you don't want to react.

That's right. Well, no, if I'm really upset, I burst into tears. Okay, you're close, I would say no.

You're supposed to say no, you no, you You told me what I would do.

Now I'm telling you, and then I'll tell you what you would do. So so that now you're done to a B plus you want to keep going. So I would say to that mother in law at the right time, very sweet, with a big smile on my face. You know your son is the best thing since slice bread? Aren't you glad that they work so well together? And I would emphasize the word together. She'd get the drift, But I wouldn't you know, ran too rafe And I think you would hit it directly on. You would just say something straight up, because that's who you are.

So she says, the mother in law says things like you can thank my son for that.

Would you think I would do I would. I think you would say something like you can thank my daughter just as much because without her he'd be nothing. Something like that.

I walk up to her and say, do you know what you sound like right now? I don't think your son's real proud of that. It takes too babe, shut up?

Would you really do that? Everybody thinks I am so direct. I couldn't do that, I really could, but I do it with a smile.

Just like once before, you said, Susan, if I told somebody to go bank themselves, they would hate you a crucifier. You call you out on it. But if I do it, you go what? I hug them afterwards, But I do right in their eyes. I look at them and tell them, now, come in here, give me a hug, and don't let that shit happen again.

That's it. I mean, it's true. She's a miracle with that. All right? What do you think this was a good episode? Oh? No, we got one more? Oh we do?

Yeah, boy, I'm going to fail. I'm doing a good.

Dude, you're doing a great go all right. Your boyfriend is thrown you your boyfriend. Your boyfriend is throwing a party to celebrate his birthday. During the party, a plus one of one of your guests makes a rude comment about your boyfriend not knowing who you are. The comment, oh, the comment happens to be out about an insecurity your boyfriend has opened up to you about in the past. How do you proceed now? Before you answer me, you make sure you understand in here the party. During the party, a plus one of one of your guests say, you probably don't know this person. Okay, what do you think I would do? Or no, I'm answering you. What do I think you would do? You would look at that person and say, I don't know if you know who I am, but Joe over there is my boyfriend.

And no, I think that's what you would do.

You think that's what I would do? Okay, well, you're right? What would you? I thought that's what you would do too. What would you do? I'm similar? But no, all right, what would you do?

I'd pull him aside and say I don't know who the hell you are or hell you got here, but that's my boyfriend you're talking about, and that is something that's real.

How dare you see? I couldn't. I couldn't do that, but I would. But I would also then later, if I got him alone, I would say, and by the way, you had no right to talk about some telling me.

You would go up to him and.

Say no, you were saying, no, you're overhearing him. He makes a rude comment about your boy friend, and you're right there? You would Why would you? But I'm agreeing we're a green. I'm still giving you a B plus So you didn't right?

No, No, you know how bad I am A discussion excellent Lady and gentlemen, Please I beg of you.

I beg of you. Write in right in to tell me I didn't get an A today. Okay, I know people right, Please write please write in and tell her she didn't get an A. That's what I want them to do to you. That does it? Suan does it by. Susan is a great grubber. I bet the teachers loved her at school. Please? Can I do extra credit? Please?

I got straight a's and failed conduct shocked?

Wait wait, what do you think I got seriously straight a's. I'm both yeah, I did enough. I'm afraid to break? What all right?

You are afraid to break?

Well? Only snows were made once I broke? Can I just tell you? Let me do one blast thing before we close. Susan and I were driving down ninety four. Well, Susan was driving. I was holding on for dear life. She was driving down ninety five, and all of a sudden, the girl hits the brakes because there was a state trooper parked on the left side of the you know, in the median. And I'm like, oh Jesus, she's I mean, she's like twenty five miles over the speed limit. Wait, so she hits the brake, slows down, and then as we go back she goes, oh, it's only a dummy, it doesn't matter, and speeds up again. I'm like, oh my god, the girl. Isn't that what you do? No, you obey the speed limit, you go no more than five? Do you know who she is? Can you imagine us being best friends? I mean serious, I want to go five over the speed list polar opposite best friends. Okay, that does efforts to that doesn't for this episode of Happy Hour. Thank you so much for joining us. I think next week we're going to do the whole episode of Moral Quandary. I can hardly wait now. I'm apposente. But make sure she'd asked. Questions coming and you know what to do.

Send them to Bachelor nation dot com stold an Hour. We really like getting connected with you guys, and we love all your questions.

We want to know what's on your mind. We want to get some advice. We want you to join us in Moral Quandary, maybe because Susan needs help. But in the meantime, listen to Batchelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to podcasts. Thanks so much for joining us. We have fun, We have a great time. In the meantime, opposite, and I get an a. I want you people to I just want.

To Kathy, I did good today.

You did well, not good. I love you too, Love you, have a great week. Everybody. Yes,

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