Your Internet Moms to the Rescue with Nancy! | Golden Hour

Published Oct 9, 2024, 7:01 AM

Today on “Golden Hour,” we have Nancy joining us! The iconic trio is back together to help answer some of your questions. First, we get into our question of the day: When do you talk about finances with a new partner? Then, we dive into your questions. How do you navigate being the single friend while everyone is starting families? What should you do when your future son-in-law potentially crosses the line with you? Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for joining us. We're so excited to be back. How are you doing today, Susan, I'm doing alsome.

I think it's really hot here and I know Kathy is here in my home and it is the best day ever. There's no humidity, and this girl's cold cold.

It's seventy five degrees here. I came from. I came from over one hundred degrees and now it's seventy five outside, dry as toast. I'm cold. Susan has the air conditioning set down to like Antarctica and hair. It's really enridiculous cold.

But listen, if you haven't done it yet, now's the time to hit that follow button on Bachelor Happy Hours so you can find our podcast.

And you really do want to do that because you're going to get notified every time there is a new podcast out. So while you're there, leave a question, leave a review. We want to hear from you.

We've been having so much fun. You got to check out some of our past episodes. Kat, how about it? Oh god, we've had some great people, our kids. I mean, we've been having a ball and I hope you're enjoying it, so keep those coming at bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour. We have some great questions today that we can't wait to get to with our best Yah.

Sus here ninety, come on, how are you doing? And see? Thank you so much for being here.

Thank you.

I'm happy to be here.

So let's catch up, babe.

What's going on besides you being at my home? Well?

I just got to Susan's last night. It's a quick two and a half hour drive. It's beautiful here, but as Kathy said, she's freezing. I was a little cold, so I put on my jacket.

But Ian and Susan is sweating. But that's just a detail.

I hope they're going to find out more about me this weekend, and so I'm sure you'll all be hearing about that next week when you do another podcast. Because they everything's nothing's off limits.

Let me ask you something as we review Jones, gentleman, was there anybody that stuck.

Out to you?

Well? Several?

Oh, well, here we go.

Several and do you want to know the names?

Sure? Wait, here's the problem. Wait, here's the problem for all three of us. Okay, we don't know if if Joan chose anyone, we don't know, if she's with someone, we don't know. We just know she can only choose one. What if we all picked the one that she chose, we're screwed. We pursued, We'll have to go with number two.

Then sorry, yes, you know what.

I'm the first guy that's stuck out in your head like boom as soon as I asked the question.

Jonathan Okay, okay, he's a.

Little younger than me. He's from IOI wow, Jonathan, Greg I think from Longboat Key and Jordan, those were the three who stuck out. But honestly, I do think until you meet someone you don't really know, and we all know we've met people and dated people, do mean to hold those thank you that you know, maybe they aren't exactly what you thought you were looking for, and then you meet them and you're like, oh my gosh, and then all of a sudden, of course they become more handsome and more or less.

You've got or less.

But you've got to wait and meet people.

All right, Nancy, we want you to join us. Okay, we're going to get your opinion. We have questions coming in that we're all going to answer and to the best of whatever you feel. The way they ask that question, what comes to mind is what you're going to share?

Okay, cool, sounds good?

Okay. Ready. Money is a hot topic when it comes to relationships. Financial problems contribute to twenty to forty percent of all divorces. So when do you think it's the right time to talk about money, debt, spending, habits, savings, et cetera in a new relationship? Is this a first date topic? Three dates in, a year in and how do you know?

I would say, three dates in and how do you know you have? I mean, you have to know, you have to bring it up, and you have to sort of plant a seed. I don't think you have the entire talk talk, but I think you plant the seed and then you can sort of it evolves.

I feel like I want to make sure that I'm in like with this person and I want to invest some time in them before I make it.

Yeah, but conversation, here's the difference. At our age, we already have our savings, our investments are not And to combine do we even combine? That's really where I'm after. Do you combine resources?

Are half of them signed prenups. I mean, what's yours is yours?

What his should be yours too?

Yeah, would you sign a prenup? Absolutely? Absolutely? Yeah.

I don't think there's anything I would sign on.

You know, there was a time when I was much younger that I was appalled by the sound of a prenup, But now I totally get it.

Yeah, but don't you think Yeah, don't you think though that it's if you are young and you both are starting out and you're amassing your wealth, you're putting your money in you know, you're five dollars a week out of your paycheck into the same account. But when you get to be our age, then you Yeah, I think it's it's totally But would I bring it up. Absolutely?

So the question we want to know is it the first date? Absolutely not correct?

Absolutely not three dates and probably not a year.

I said three because what if what if somebody says, well, you know, I.

Really like, what if there's a red flag dropped?

Good to know? Three date? True?

True?

So third date we might not even kiss yet.

I mean a year in talk about money, Yeah, but wait a year in a year.

In like she said, like I said, you have to see what you want to invest. If you're feeling something and you know he's feeling you know what.

You know what I'm looking for. Here's my sex, I mean what, it's always on her mind, you know what I'm thinking. What I'm the way you find out about finances. You don't even have to bring that up. If the guy invites you out and he takes you a happy hour and says, can we split a drink and an appetizer? You probably are going to have serious financial problem or.

Sorry, Or the bill comes and he sits there and he doesn't offer to pay, another red flag.

Wait, I got to I got a winner.

I was on the date. Wait, and it was a happy hour date? You chad?

Last one? He had a second and I went to order a second. He goes, no, no, no, happy hours over. I thought, yeah, you're over too, Okay, no no, no, no, no problem.

I got it. I'll buy my own da Did you hear Nancy? How sad? Is that really?

Very?

Here's the thing. If a guy says to me on a first date, a second date, or a third date, it's happy hours, so why don't we split an appetizer? I'm going to say, you know what, I have a bus to catch and it's leaving in five minutes, so I'm out of here. And now with that being said, let's get on weed some great So, Nancy, the way we do this you were done with, we are done, and we're done with guys. We're done with guys who don't want to who don't want to pay. There you go. Okay, So we do some fan questions and we're going to read them and we're going to ask all this, discuss, sit and give our advice. Are you in you ready? Nancy?

All right?

This one's from Casey, thirty two years old from Los Angeles. Hi, Kathy and Susan. I'm struggling a bit right now and thought I turned to my internet moms for advice. Oh okay, we're internet moms.

We love you, Casey.

All of my friends are in serious relationships and are moving on to new chapters of life. I've never had a serious partner, despite putting myself out there in groups, going on dates, etc. See, I know, it just hasn't happened for me yet. I am trying not to lose hope, but it gets harder every day to watch everyone else move on and feel like I'm falling behind none of my friends really want to go out with me anymore because they are all wifed up, which makes it harder for me to meet new people and go ahead, harder for me to meet new people going places alone.

This experience is making me.

Look back at my life choices, thinking about where I maybe went wrong and why I maybe haven't met my person yet. Do you have any words of wisdom or advice for me? I'm feeling pretty lost and don't want to lose hope that I'll have my life partner family someday. Love you both so much, Thank you for all the joy you bring. Oh Casey, You're never thirty two thirty, don't you right?

You know what I look at it.

She's only thirty two. I know, I'm sure she would want to find her person earlier, but I also think she's living more life and she might be it. I think it works out.

She probably will.

Be more ready when she does meet the right person.

I think Casey might be a guy, be alright, he or she? But I think it might be a guy because he's saying his friends are all wifed up.

Well, that could be, but you know what.

I mean, I feel like.

I feel like thirty two isn't so old to not have a significant relationship.

I don't know, you know why we can say that because where we've lived and we're older. If you are thirty two and you've never had a serious relationship and you haven't, all your friends are married and quote unquote wifed up, casey, I hear you. It's got to be really tough. And my advice to you would be, shake up what you're doing, because you know, if you keep doing what you've been doing, you're gonna keep getting what you've been getting. So, you know, try something new. Try a new activity that's a group activity, you know, pick up a sport. I mean we always say the same thing, but like pickleball is a big thing. Go take a course a lesson in pickleball, right, Do something new or challenge.

The sorry golf meetups have you heard about those where people play golf? You know, you don't have to be a professional, but you get out and play.

I think from our generation, thirty two was old not to have a relationship, But today the kids are doing They're don't even leaving home yet at thirty two when you think about it, so I'm not too We're gone. A lot of your friends are saying or wifed up, or they're married, or they're in a relationship. So change up like you girls just said, but change up the friendships too. Go out with some new.

People, people through people.

And I think you're right.

One of the main things that I didn't listen to when I was given advice when I was searching for somebody is stop looking so hard forget about it. Be in love with you and then young.

Or whoever case you are. You're you're young you, but he or she is also at an age where they want to have a family.

I still want I still want somebody in my life.

So we get it. We want to address Casey as you say, I'm going to give you some words of wisdom. You didn't go wrong. You say you want to know maybe where you went wrong and why you haven't met your person yet. You didn't go wrong. You've been living your life, you have your friends. It may not be the experiences and the life you want right now, but you learn something from every experience you have. You didn't go wrong, Casey, when you just need to give it more time, you know.

And try not to focus on finding that person. Let that it will always be in your mind. But just go about life and enjoy what you're.

Doing and it'll have all right. The other thing I want to say is Casey, if you are a guy, Nancy has a gorgeous daughter that you might want to meet you.

And if you are a girl, I have a very handsome Nicholas and I.

Have two cats. If I'll help you in any way.

But thank you so much for writing it, and we love being your mom's.

You could call us person. We hope you find your person, and really good luck and thank you for listening to our podcast. We love that, okay. Our next question is from Dorothy. She's fifty nine from Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. Cool Love the Beach. Hello girls, I love, love, love your podcast. I love that she had three loves in there. It's so fun to listen to ladies around my age. Gab. I don't know if any other podcasts like you'res so yay yay will yay with you. I have a question for you too about my future son in law. My daughter and are soon to be husband are getting married this fall. As we get excited for the big day, my daughter told me he had a request for me on the wedding day that I find a bit odd. He asked that I cover the tattoos on my arms with makeup for the wedding, as my dress is or it's sleeved. The wedding isn't in a church or anything. He said he would just prefer for the photos if no one had visible tattoos. My daughter said she doesn't care, but just wanted to relay his wishes. My tattoos are a part of me and have been for decades. I'm a cool mom. Lol, Yes you are. I have some flowers on my arm, hearts for each of my kids, and a fish to honor my dad. I feel a bit offended that he would want me to cover these up and feel like it's an off putting start to our mother in law son in law relationship. What would you do in this situation? Do I cover them up because it's their wedding and it's not about me? Or do I leave them because they are a part of who I am and he doesn't care to control how my body looks. So curious for your thoughts. Thank you both and love you to pieces.

Who wants to go first?

Dorothy?

Something comes to mind to me could you meet in the middle. I know tattoos, I know you could put body makeup on, but maybe instead of body makeup, could you wear like a shear, something shear with sleeves so they wouldn't be as obvious and kind of down so they're downplayed a little bit. But then that shows that you tried. You know that you're going to try to be understated about it and not just not do what he asks. I mean, I know that this is a tough one, but I think showing that you've made an effort and showing that you understand how he feels and you want to obviously start on a good foot for the rest of their lives. I think I would compromise.

About me personally. You're not going to like this start things viewpoints, but I want to start that new relationship your new son in law. A cover up the tattoo for a minute. It's not going to kill anybody. He doesn't like them, he doesn't want his photographs to have them. You are who you are, and you're proud, and you should be. I'm sure you love and there's a reason behind every single piece of ink that's on your arm, and I respect that, but I just don't want you to start off on a bad foot with your son in law.

And it is so, believe it or not, I think we are going to have three different viewpoints here. I'm sort of actually between the two of you. I think that she's Dorothy, You're absolutely right. It is a part of who you are, and that's like, that's like Susan is asking you to dye your hair or something to change who you are, and I don't like that. I personally don't like that. I think what I would do, Dorothy is asked to meet with your son in law and explain what the tattoos mean to you, because they obviously are sentimental and they are a part of you.

Wait, Kathy, do you think that would change his mind?

Well, that's where I was going. Okay, it may or may not change his mind, but I would explain it to him and say this is a part of me. I would ask him why he wants me to cover up, and then I would see if there's a compromise. I'm not sure I would cover up it. I'm not sure I would. I might wear something sheer for some of the pictures for him, but I really do think that's tantamount to saying, you know, dye your hair. Uh, you know, like die your hair, that's changing who you are. You don't. He has tattoos, and that's what I'm saying. And he doesn't want to see them. Well, you know I don't want to see.

Yes, it's for the picture, just for the pictures. But no, if you're going to if you're going to cover them up, they're covered for the way.

That's right. If they're covered up, they're covered up. So I get it, it is their day. But I think, as Susan, I always say the big C word communication. I would talk to him.

First, or cover them up for the pictures and I go wash your arms really and show them for the reception.

Of that's crazy. Either she honors his wishes or she does it. You don't think she could talk to him and say that's making a big thing.

Which I also bet that he may already know what they mean.

He's just not Dorothy. It's a tough one, you know. Good luck. I mean, I have the best son in law in the world, and I truly hope that you and you're soon to be son in law develop a great relationship. And it's not worth burning it over this, but exactly, Dorothy, I get it.

I don't like that he even said that either, But trying to make nice, just to keep peace, that's what we do. That's what parents do. How many times have you bait your tongue over something?

Only when I chewed a piece of food in the wrong direction, Dorothy, I don't bite my tongue. Good luck, Dorothy. Send me a picture of what you wore.

I got to know.

Yeah, we want to know. Send us a picture. We want to see it beautiful and we wish you all the best.

Alrighty oh goodness, I'm so excited about this because we do not have to play moral Quandary.

Hate that game we're playing at Nancy. Oh, I'm glad.

It was a relief.

It was h a relief. Yeah, y'all know I love that game so much. Right, but you know what, for those of you who love it like I do, it'll be back next time. But whatever, I might be sick.

I thought of another idea though, for us to try out today.

What do you think?

Girls?

I found a series of questions for besty check in, and I thought it would be fun for all of us to check in about our.

Friendship Okay, I love that idea for sure. We we with o each other. Okay. I feel like people focus so much on romantic relationships, not not I of course, and the health of those dynamics. But I we really liked the idea of checking in about our friendship. Maybe it can inspire others to do the same with their besties. And I will say, people writing a lot, don't they, Susan, about how much they love our friendship and when we post things so you see we're all here together. There was the best part. Will be filming all weekend.

And I was thinking last night when we were sitting outside that a year and a half ago we didn't know each other, or a year ago we didn't know each other, and it's crazy now we're all so close.

It's as if we've known each other for fifty exactly.

I mean, this is great. All right, Go ahead, Susan. Where were we going here? Okay? Yep?

So write down the questions and feel free to go through them with your bff sometime. All right, here's the first question.

What was your first impression of me?

And how did it change since we became besties?

Oh? What do you say, Nancy?

What was your first impression of No, it's of Susan, of me.

It's my question. Oh, it's world return around.

It's not moral.

I knew I liked you from the minute I saw you.

You know why?

You were approachable? You were approachable and you had a big smile on your face, and I thought, I like that.

I'm gonna cry.

I know. No, I'm serious. You're approachable like not everybody was, you know, immediately, and Susan was approachable.

I can I interrupt for one minute the story of my life why I didn't get a ton of dates because men say I wasn't approachable.

I would intimidate. I'm like, are you kidding me?

I love you, all right, Kathy, your first impression of me?

Don't just look at her eyes.

I already know we've like bonded immediately. I literally there was just something magnetic about your charismatic personality that just drew me write in and it still does.

I love these guys.

Okay, all right, now I'm gonna ask one because it's not you, Nancy, it's moral quandary for Susan. All right, let me all right, what is what is something Nancy and Susan that you love about our friendship and something you think we could work on, Susan, there's nothing to work on. Nancy.

What do you think something you love about?

I love that I know I could count on Kathy for absolutely anything.

And what about it?

I thought this was about you. It's about her. I know. You see what goes on here, it's we all got to be in the limelight talking.

That's that's my second part of that's what we work.

Nancy.

What does Nancy want is something?

Anyway? No, but this is so fun in our video. Seriously, people right in to both of us, not just to me. Why don't you let Nancy speak? Let her talk? I try, I can't keep up, so then I'm quiet. I'm just like, okay, keep talking.

Nance you're just telling people that she's not quiet, trusting.

Me all the time.

So I did I answer the question?

No, I didn't, And I love you. I love that you said that you could count on me for anything.

But if you were sick, if you had a problem. Kathy's so smart also, and I know that if when I was buying my daughter a car, I'm like, Kathy, should I finance which? And she taught me all this stuff anyway, She you can count on her, and I believe you are one of the most loyal people I've ever met. Now I'm going to talk, but we do need to work on talking over each other.

That's all of us.

You asking me the question, why not?

You're scared? She scared? This? All right? No, I want to know what you love about our friendship?

Love us, I really do. We are a threesome.

We're dynamic. We love each other. No matter what faults we have, we can get upset from each other.

They have no faults.

The point is this, even if we said something hurtful, we forgive one another. We didn't mean to be hurtful. That's a true friendship and what we could work on.

Yeah, zip it. Don't over talk or try to control this. This interview is over. Yeah, moving right along.

All right, I have a fun one you guys both answer What is your favorite memory of us so far? Go ahead?

What comes first?

The most favorite thing that we've done, you and me or all of us.

Or all of us? I'm asking that. Well, for you and me, the most favorite thing you and I have done was a podcast. Well, of course the podcast, but walking the Red carpet that was un believed well that was just and wait the other thing. The other one is us doing Gary and Triesa's writing, you officiating it, and me am seeing it with Charity and Jesse Palmers life change.

But what if I ask you a favorite memory of the three of us, like, where would it have been?

In the bed room at the mansion?

I was going to say the same thing. We were. There were seven of us to start, and then we had four of us left. We all lined our twin beds together and it was like summer camp. It's true, and we laughed for three weeks.

Don't you think that's where we found it?

Absolutely doubt my favorite memory, even though I'm asking the question, is the laughter like a two pack?

People, You know, when you laughed.

So hard you think you're getting the two pack in your.

Belly, when we know you laughed so hard you pee.

Saint Martin not anymore. I had to pix when we were in Saint Martin's. Do you remember how we were driving and the rainstorm and mission flight like they're the moments that I'll never forget.

Yeah. All for those of you who didn't hear, we discussed at one point Susan's driving, I'm in the front seat, passenger seat, the shotgun and Nancy's in the back. What were you saying to us? Nancy? You idiots? What are we doing? Were you idiots? Where where are we? It was do right. It was when we were lost, and you know what, what did we do?

Signs?

Well we did, Susan. I just all we were doing was laughing.

We were were canceling flights, hurricanes were coming.

I'm like, this is serious, and they're just cracking it up. You can't make it home, Nancy. This is called this is called life. Enter.

Another funny one was I went a little shopping in these two when we went on the the Dutch side of Saint Martin, and these two found a jewelry store which our friendship bracelets came from. But wait, by the time I found them, they had a lot of Champygo.

That was another good movie, drink and buy.

Got to the store and they're like, here's your You got a friendship brace that's only close to one thousand dollars.

Season we got diamonds, and of course we all got them and we all have them.

And of course we're friends now with the owner of the jewelry store. Who wants us to come back this year.

Well, we are, we are going back.

We booked our trip and we're getting another bracelet.

Yeah, I can't wait. All right, Kathy, you got my mortgo? Where am I? Let's say? Okay, I've got another fun one. What are it's all about? Me? Girls? Though I didn't write them, I'm just reading them. What are the top three things you like about me? And don't worry, I'll answer for you too. What are the top three things you like about me? Nancy? About you?

It's just it's just you, I know, No Aunt Nancy, Nancy Anty, Nancy Me?

What are the top three things about her?

Yeah?

I know?

Like about Okay, that was a waste of five minutes. Let the girl talk.

I like Kathy well, like I said, her loyalty, her humor, and her intelligence.

Oh Nancy, Okay, you know what I love about you. I love that you wear your faith on your sleeve, on your heart, and you are not embarrassed for anyone to know your faith in God and Jesus. And I love that. I love your hair. I love that you when we've been at your house, you make us feel so warm. You're just a good friend. You'll always listen you. Nancy is probably one of the best listeners in all seriousness that I've ever met. What about you was that nice? You should have seen the looks she just gave me.

That's your question.

What are the most three things that you love about me? That you make me laugh? That you're a true friend.

And your eyes, Oh my eyes, thank you, thank you?

Okay. I love your energy, Susan. You have incredible positive energy. You also go out of your way. I mean, guys, you cannot believe what just this weekend is a perfect example. Like if you come to my house, I'm going to show where the toaster is, and like hope that you go out to Starbucks and get your own coffee. Susan has all kinds of food. It's it's nuts. She is a host of you like me being Yeah, I like you being Italian. And I also like that you are a take charge person. If something needs to get done, you know how to do it, and you take care of me.

Every It's like she's behind you picking up your cup.

And I do better today. I was trying not to do it before you were finished. Was focused.

So I'm still sitting at the table because I sat down late to no I was late, and so I sat down. They were all had started. That's another thing we can talk about later. But you never start to eating before. Not everybody sits at the table.

Anyway, it was, I know, a.

Podcast to do, I know, and you didn't say grace either.

I sat late, and so I'm still eating.

Well everybody knew that.

But all of a sudden, half the half the food's gone off the table, and I'm like, I'm eating my babel.

Nancy's sitting crab, Susan's at the kitchen sick, scrubbing, getting ready, and I'm like, I'm almost done. Nancy sitting in the corner going guys, I'm still eating, and sports me. Don't mind me. I'm still eating, Okay, because take some more before I take it away. Okay. So I just wanted to wait say one thing in all honesty and our friendship, and I hope everyone hears us and knows that the friendships that we made on the Golden Bachelor are lifelong friendships. We love each other, we take care of each other, and this is not a put on. So be grateful for your friends and take care of your friendships, because.

And I just wish every pretty out.

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Take care. You just never know how you're gonna make great friends. And here we are.

And all you want out there that are interested in calling your datment. Did you see the nice things they said about me? I'm just saying. Think we're all the dolls you get.

Yeah, I have big eyes, I have evertiser and we're not splitting drinks right. All right? We should do this.

Again, definitely every few months. We should do this. Are you angry? I would love it. I love it that well.

I guess that for this step, I went playing World Compass though next one, ladies and gentlemen, when Nansen wants to play that game, I'll step back and have a nice thing.

She'll be in a happy hour having an appetizer. All right, listen, thank you all so much for joining us, and please be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour. We have new episodes coming out every week. You know that by now. And if I have to tell you again to follow, I don't know what. I'm going to tear my.

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