Welcome back everybody to Golden Hour from Bachelor Happy Hour. Thanks again for joining us, Kathy. Isn't it awesome that we're sitting here in we.

Welcome back everybody to Golden Hour from Bachelor Happy Hour. Thanks again for joining us, Kathy. Isn't it awesome that we're sitting here in we.

Are here in La in the studio. I love this looking at each other's into our eyes, and I love the.

Are here in La in the studio. I love this looking at each other's into our eyes, and I love the.

Roses behind us in the Bachelor of Nation back drop. It like, it's pretty cool.

Roses behind us in the Bachelor of Nation back drop. It like, it's pretty cool.

That's only roses. You and I ever got anything, it's been. It's so fun to be out here and we are. Have a great guest today. It is Jeremy Simon from Gen season. Welcome Jeremy Jarah. So glad you're here with us. How are you doing today?

That's only roses. You and I ever got anything, it's been. It's so fun to be out here and we are. Have a great guest today. It is Jeremy Simon from Gen season. Welcome Jeremy Jarah. So glad you're here with us. How are you doing today?

Lovely to meet you, guys. I'm not the person, but I can still see your eyes.

Lovely to meet you, guys. I'm not the person, but I can still see your eyes.

I like your hat that says for others. Is there something about that I should know?

I like your hat that says for others. Is there something about that I should know?

It's my buddy's Brandon. He donates a lot of the profits back to the community.

It's my buddy's Brandon. He donates a lot of the profits back to the community.

So that's awesome. That's awesome, So talk to us. How are you?

So that's awesome. That's awesome, So talk to us. How are you?

I'm good. You know, life's been pretty normal and back in society for about six months at this point.

I'm good. You know, life's been pretty normal and back in society for about six months at this point.

Are you dating yet? Are you any of the first question?

Are you dating yet? Are you any of the first question?

Right?

Right?

No?

No?

No, no, no, wait, we're going to ease into this.

No, no, no, wait, we're going to ease into this.

So, so we're right on top of holidays here, I suspect do you celebrate Hanakah?

So, so we're right on top of holidays here, I suspect do you celebrate Hanakah?

I do celebrate Hankkah? Okay, maybe every single eight nights.

I do celebrate Hankkah? Okay, maybe every single eight nights.

But so that was so I am of a I am of a mixed marriage. My dad was Jewish and my mother was the religion of the day, depending on who she was married to. So we always celebrated both religions and both holidays. And this year Hanakah, if I am correct, begins on Christmas.

But so that was so I am of a I am of a mixed marriage. My dad was Jewish and my mother was the religion of the day, depending on who she was married to. So we always celebrated both religions and both holidays. And this year Hanakah, if I am correct, begins on Christmas.

Christmas Day really all of us, which means share me.

Christmas Day really all of us, which means share me.

When you send me that fabulous paper clip necklace, you can send it to me for Christmas or Hanukkah first day Hanka.

When you send me that fabulous paper clip necklace, you can send it to me for Christmas or Hanukkah first day Hanka.

That's when you get the big guests, right.

That's when you get the big guests, right.

Is that the big one? Is that the first was the list?

Is that the big one? Is that the first was the list?

It's eight days.

It's eight days.

No, so you get seven little gifts in one big one.

No, so you get seven little gifts in one big one.

Well, everyone doesn't differently.

Well, everyone doesn't differently.

I'll send it to you, okay, I'll take it. Did you raise your kids like mixed?

I'll send it to you, okay, I'll take it. Did you raise your kids like mixed?

So my husband was not Jewish, and as you well know, I grew up in a completely Jewish neighborhood, but I was a Shiksa because my mother was not Jewish. All my boyfriends, every one of them was Jewish until I got married.

So my husband was not Jewish, and as you well know, I grew up in a completely Jewish neighborhood, but I was a Shiksa because my mother was not Jewish. All my boyfriends, every one of them was Jewish until I got married.

So really, yeah, but I my dad.

So really, yeah, but I my dad.

I'm sorry, I've never dated it you.

I'm sorry, I've never dated it you.

Is it important to marry?

Is it important to marry?

It's it depends if you asked me or my family.

It's it depends if you asked me or my family.

Your mother. Your mother would say different.

Your mother. Your mother would say different.

I don't. I personally don't care what religion I'm married, but I do want my kids to be brought up with a sense of.

I don't. I personally don't care what religion I'm married, but I do want my kids to be brought up with a sense of.

Their Yeah, so my kids, you know, I have a menora that was my dad's and we lit the minora. But because my husband was not Jewish, my kids went to they went to church. They went to a Methodist church, which is the country club of the Christian faith. Anything goes.

Their Yeah, so my kids, you know, I have a menora that was my dad's and we lit the minora. But because my husband was not Jewish, my kids went to they went to church. They went to a Methodist church, which is the country club of the Christian faith. Anything goes.

But enough about that, we do a topic of the day first, Susan, go for it.

But enough about that, we do a topic of the day first, Susan, go for it.

Yes, we do.

Yes, we do.

We start off this episode with question of the Day and we want to know your thoughts on this one. What do you think is the best way to handle change in a relationship. We're always growing, learning and changing, so how do you make room for that in a long term partnership.

We start off this episode with question of the Day and we want to know your thoughts on this one. What do you think is the best way to handle change in a relationship. We're always growing, learning and changing, so how do you make room for that in a long term partnership.

See Jeremy, We're going easy on you to begin with, we're talking in generations. Then we're going to get down to specifically your day, and so go ahead and answer that question.

See Jeremy, We're going easy on you to begin with, we're talking in generations. Then we're going to get down to specifically your day, and so go ahead and answer that question.

I don't know if that's easy, but I mean you just sort of alluded to it that everyone's changing, like we're not going to be the same people we are in ten years, right, won't be the people we are and you know, ten months. I think I think the most important thing is acceptance. You know, when you choose someone, you just need to you're choosing them for them as a person, and you need to accept that they will change. And it's more about the the effort you put into change and grow with them. And communication is obviously.

I don't know if that's easy, but I mean you just sort of alluded to it that everyone's changing, like we're not going to be the same people we are in ten years, right, won't be the people we are and you know, ten months. I think I think the most important thing is acceptance. You know, when you choose someone, you just need to you're choosing them for them as a person, and you need to accept that they will change. And it's more about the the effort you put into change and grow with them. And communication is obviously.

Import Yes, yes, you've got that good answer. How old are you, Jeremy, I'm thirty. Wise man, you're so.

Import Yes, yes, you've got that good answer. How old are you, Jeremy, I'm thirty. Wise man, you're so.

I'm telling you everyone that we interview that's been off The Bachelor come off one of the shows is I don't know, is it the show that doesn't?

I'm telling you everyone that we interview that's been off The Bachelor come off one of the shows is I don't know, is it the show that doesn't?

Do you feel like it changed you at all? Or the way you think or the way not?

Do you feel like it changed you at all? Or the way you think or the way not?

Really? No, I know it is another experience, and I think I've just been shaped by, you know, one experiences and two how I was raised.

Really? No, I know it is another experience, and I think I've just been shaped by, you know, one experiences and two how I was raised.

So, yeah, where did you grow up, Jeremy?

So, yeah, where did you grow up, Jeremy?

I grew up in Stanford, Connecticut, so about an hour outside.

I grew up in Stanford, Connecticut, so about an hour outside.

The City, Susan grew up in Philly and I grew up in Boston.

The City, Susan grew up in Philly and I grew up in Boston.

Characters, my best friends live in Boston. My younger sister lives in Philly.

Characters, my best friends live in Boston. My younger sister lives in Philly.

Really were Oh god, you know that's okay.

Really were Oh god, you know that's okay.

We don't want to give her out.

We don't want to give her out.

I was just going to ask you where your friends lived in Boston.

I was just going to ask you where your friends lived in Boston.

Yeah, Coolidge Corner. Oh that's a great place.

Yeah, Coolidge Corner. Oh that's a great place.

So you know, like when they say, how do you make room for that a change and a lot, Like, what kind of a question is that?

So you know, like when they say, how do you make room for that a change and a lot, Like, what kind of a question is that?

Well?

Well?

I think I think Jeremy answered it.

I think I think Jeremy answered it.

It's you growing together, communicating, so to make sure you're both in sync and step as you change and developed, because we all do.

It's you growing together, communicating, so to make sure you're both in sync and step as you change and developed, because we all do.

I feel like you guys would have the answer to that better than me. The longest relationship relationship I've been in this a few years, but probably longer for you guys.

I feel like you guys would have the answer to that better than me. The longest relationship relationship I've been in this a few years, but probably longer for you guys.

Well you have some long ones.

Well you have some long ones.

Yeah, Like my marriage was almost forty six years, so yeah, that's been.

Yeah, Like my marriage was almost forty six years, so yeah, that's been.

A while and are not as easy to handle.

A while and are not as easy to handle.

All right, well, all right, now we're getting down to it. You've warmed up.

All right, well, all right, now we're getting down to it. You've warmed up.

What have you been up to.

What have you been up to.

Since gen season? You're dating to come on, are you keep it in touch with the guys? Are you're dating?

Since gen season? You're dating to come on, are you keep it in touch with the guys? Are you're dating?

Give it all to us. We want to scoop.

Give it all to us. We want to scoop.

Yeah, that's that's a lot of questions in one.

Yeah, that's that's a lot of questions in one.

Okay, we've heard rumors. I'm just telling you, we've heard rumors.

Okay, we've heard rumors. I'm just telling you, we've heard rumors.

No, it's been it's been six months, like almost to the day. Life's been pretty normal. I went back to work, you know, a week after I got back, and the show didn't start airing until two months after I wrapped up a few months ago. Life's been normal. Obviously, I have more friends now within my cast and people that I met through Bachelor Nation.

No, it's been it's been six months, like almost to the day. Life's been pretty normal. I went back to work, you know, a week after I got back, and the show didn't start airing until two months after I wrapped up a few months ago. Life's been normal. Obviously, I have more friends now within my cast and people that I met through Bachelor Nation.

But you keep in touch with the guys, Oh.

But you keep in touch with the guys, Oh.

Yeah, I mean you guys went through the experience on such a deep level. I talked to every single day. Yeah, I've gotten to me some other great Bachelor Nation people, and you just have like this, you've all been through a similar thing. So it's a very easy ground to work off of. No, but that's been the same besides for like, you know, getting recognized on the street.

Yeah, I mean you guys went through the experience on such a deep level. I talked to every single day. Yeah, I've gotten to me some other great Bachelor Nation people, and you just have like this, you've all been through a similar thing. So it's a very easy ground to work off of. No, but that's been the same besides for like, you know, getting recognized on the street.

Yeah, that's cold though, you know what you're dodging. Have you dating? Are you dating? Are you dating?

Yeah, that's cold though, you know what you're dodging. Have you dating? Are you dating? Are you dating?

I'm from Boston. We have the direct question.

I'm from Boston. We have the direct question.

Chare I'm direct too. I've not been dating.

Chare I'm direct too. I've not been dating.

Me either, well, I guess I'm going to be the third one there.

Me either, well, I guess I'm going to be the third one there.

Yeah, we're all three of them, you know, Bucketeer, you're why are you not dating?

Yeah, we're all three of them, you know, Bucketeer, you're why are you not dating?

May? I ask?

May? I ask?

Because you're a handsome guy.

Because you're a handsome guy.

I appreciate that, Thank you. It's just been life's been busy between work and and I have more opportunities to go out to cool stuff and going out and singing friends.

I appreciate that, Thank you. It's just been life's been busy between work and and I have more opportunities to go out to cool stuff and going out and singing friends.

And you're happy.

And you're happy.

I'm happy. So I obviously do want to meet someone. It just hasn't been It's not that it hasn't been a priority. It's that I know that if I, if I do start dating, I want to make them a priority. And like, now life's getting more normal and I'll have more time, so I will. I will start dating again.

I'm happy. So I obviously do want to meet someone. It just hasn't been It's not that it hasn't been a priority. It's that I know that if I, if I do start dating, I want to make them a priority. And like, now life's getting more normal and I'll have more time, so I will. I will start dating again.

So have you dated anybody from Bachelor?

So have you dated anybody from Bachelor?

No?

No?

Really?

Really?

Yeah?

Yeah?

Interesting? What did I hear about an Airbnb?

Interesting? What did I hear about an Airbnb?

Yeah?

Yeah?

What's where's your Airbnb? We want to rent it?

What's where's your Airbnb? We want to rent it?

Ok, you guys can get a free stay.

Ok, you guys can get a free stay.

Wait? Where is it for free? I want to know where it is.

Wait? Where is it for free? I want to know where it is.

It's up in the cat Skills.

It's up in the cat Skills.

Oh no, wait, I'm serious about that.

Oh no, wait, I'm serious about that.

I have never been to the Cat Skills and my daughter just went rented an airbnb? Probably yours? I? Oh no, we I will touch base of you. I do.

I have never been to the Cat Skills and my daughter just went rented an airbnb? Probably yours? I? Oh no, we I will touch base of you. I do.

Until until I bought the house, which is a bit of a risk. But it's in a great area. Hudson's beautiful, great ret it's in Hudson. It's fifteen minutes away from Hudson.

Until until I bought the house, which is a bit of a risk. But it's in a great area. Hudson's beautiful, great ret it's in Hudson. It's fifteen minutes away from Hudson.

Wow, a lot of snow there.

Wow, a lot of snow there.

Actually haven't been up there in since before I filmed.

Actually haven't been up there in since before I filmed.

But don't you never go? Well, I do, but on DV.

But don't you never go? Well, I do, but on DV.

I rented out so it gets booked up.

I rented out so it gets booked up.

But okay, what's the best time to go there?

But okay, what's the best time to go there?

Asking for a friend?

Asking for a friend?

I think I think September is beautiful. It does get a little chillier up there, but it has a nice.

I think I think September is beautiful. It does get a little chillier up there, but it has a nice.

Do you think, like when the leaves change, Like October's gorgeous.

Do you think, like when the leaves change, Like October's gorgeous.

But November is not bad either.

But November is not bad either.

So you guys can go good hiking.

So you guys can go good hiking.

Yeah, I mean everything's so spread out, so you'll need to drive no matter what. But there are some good hikes for sure.

Yeah, I mean everything's so spread out, so you'll need to drive no matter what. But there are some good hikes for sure.

Nice.

Nice.

I'm definitely gonna have to send us some pictures of this place. Do you manage it yourself?

I'm definitely gonna have to send us some pictures of this place. Do you manage it yourself?

Do you manage it myself? Really not as much work as you think. I have like good people in place to help me with it, like cleaners and stuff.

Do you manage it myself? Really not as much work as you think. I have like good people in place to help me with it, like cleaners and stuff.

But I've always thought about doing this, but it just seemed like a nightmare that somebody would, you know, break all the dishes and the housekeeper wouldn't show up and they'd get them to be racked. You know, little mice that made made a nest of the bed, you know, just stuff that happens.

But I've always thought about doing this, but it just seemed like a nightmare that somebody would, you know, break all the dishes and the housekeeper wouldn't show up and they'd get them to be racked. You know, little mice that made made a nest of the bed, you know, just stuff that happens.

You just got to be on top of things. But it hasn't been obviously, you have guests here and there that could be a little of a pain book. It hasn't been too bad.

You just got to be on top of things. But it hasn't been obviously, you have guests here and there that could be a little of a pain book. It hasn't been too bad.

That's awesome. We're gonna have to check it out.

That's awesome. We're gonna have to check it out.

Okay, I want the family and friends discount.

Okay, I want the family and friends discount.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I love that you kept in touch with everybody from the show and you made good friends that were so blessed to have all experienced that. But what I want to know is do you feel like something inside you has changed the way you think or approach even dating, even though you're not dating right now.

I love that you kept in touch with everybody from the show and you made good friends that were so blessed to have all experienced that. But what I want to know is do you feel like something inside you has changed the way you think or approach even dating, even though you're not dating right now.

But it did for me. How about you? What did you get out of it for yourself?

But it did for me. How about you? What did you get out of it for yourself?

I think that as as older, you know, as of age, I've realized how important communication is and this was just like that that you know, you only have limited amount of time, and I wasn't out there like trauma, dumping or anything. But you still need to communicate.

I think that as as older, you know, as of age, I've realized how important communication is and this was just like that that you know, you only have limited amount of time, and I wasn't out there like trauma, dumping or anything. But you still need to communicate.

Yes, yeah, and that's something that you didn't really dwell on prior to going.

Yes, yeah, and that's something that you didn't really dwell on prior to going.

Yeah, not necessarily, I think. I think if you ever get into a relationship where the other person is not a good communicator, you've.

Yeah, not necessarily, I think. I think if you ever get into a relationship where the other person is not a good communicator, you've.

Realized you really really Yes did you wait?

Realized you really really Yes did you wait?

Did you go? Were you on dating apps? Are you on dating apps? I know you're not right now obviously, but where were you? Because the reason I'm asking it's again multi prong question. Susan and I were on dating apps before we went on the show, and we're not now. It's just it's just been not very successful at all. I'm curious what you think about the dating culture in general, but specifically dating apps.

Did you go? Were you on dating apps? Are you on dating apps? I know you're not right now obviously, but where were you? Because the reason I'm asking it's again multi prong question. Susan and I were on dating apps before we went on the show, and we're not now. It's just it's just been not very successful at all. I'm curious what you think about the dating culture in general, but specifically dating apps.

Yeah, I uh, I did have dating apps. I didn't, that's on it. I don't like dating apps besides the fact that I do like to meet people in person because you sort of know.

Yeah, I uh, I did have dating apps. I didn't, that's on it. I don't like dating apps besides the fact that I do like to meet people in person because you sort of know.

You can if you're going to feel an energy. Yeah, want to waste time. But also I feel like with apps, you people or are trying to like fit you into this like circle, into this idea of what they want for someone.

You can if you're going to feel an energy. Yeah, want to waste time. But also I feel like with apps, you people or are trying to like fit you into this like circle, into this idea of what they want for someone.

It's just like this forced thing. And I think I sort of view life like you should live life. You need to be able to be happy, alone and independent, and someone walks into your life that makes it better than you could.

It's just like this forced thing. And I think I sort of view life like you should live life. You need to be able to be happy, alone and independent, and someone walks into your life that makes it better than you could.

How do you feel about much older women, Jeremy, who would be willing to convert?

How do you feel about much older women, Jeremy, who would be willing to convert?

I'm out of.

I'm out of.

What would your first date with this older woman look like?

What would your first date with this older woman look like?

And will you pay the bill?

And will you pay the bill?

Maybe we'll put some some bridge at the country club?

Maybe we'll put some some bridge at the country club?

Do you pay golf? You play golf? Do you golf?

Do you pay golf? You play golf? Do you golf?

I'm not a big golfer. I'm more of a tennis guy.

I'm not a big golfer. I'm more of a tennis guy.

Okay, all right, no pickleball. Did you see me play pickleball on TV? I hit the lady the fan in the chest with the ball.

Okay, all right, no pickleball. Did you see me play pickleball on TV? I hit the lady the fan in the chest with the ball.

Can I just so?

Can I just so?

I I on the I don't if you watched our show, but I won the pickleball contest with one of the other women. And Gary had called me the other day from our show and he said, you know, I want to play pickleball with you. He thought, you know, he's a pretty good pickleball player. But I think he thinks he's going to give me lessons now. Thank you very much trying know how to play the game. Thank you so much.

I I on the I don't if you watched our show, but I won the pickleball contest with one of the other women. And Gary had called me the other day from our show and he said, you know, I want to play pickleball with you. He thought, you know, he's a pretty good pickleball player. But I think he thinks he's going to give me lessons now. Thank you very much trying know how to play the game. Thank you so much.

I love I haven't I've only played it both times with so much, especially from like being able to play tennis. And it's a little different.

I love I haven't I've only played it both times with so much, especially from like being able to play tennis. And it's a little different.

But it's a lot shorter, like you don't have to run as far.

But it's a lot shorter, like you don't have to run as far.

So what I want to know you? You said you live in uh in New York, in Brooklyn. Uh, what do you do there?

So what I want to know you? You said you live in uh in New York, in Brooklyn. Uh, what do you do there?

You know?

You know?

I smart ass?

I smart ass?

He's a smart ass.

He's a smart ass.

Okay, have those of these that are listening. He is available. But you got to put up with that now.

Okay, have those of these that are listening. He is available. But you got to put up with that now.

Yeah, I do have a normal job. I work in real estate property management. I run sales for a property management.

Yeah, I do have a normal job. I work in real estate property management. I run sales for a property management.

Oh wait a minute, that's that's why you have no problem with the AIRBN.

Oh wait a minute, that's that's why you have no problem with the AIRBN.

I had the AIRBB before I did this job.

I had the AIRBB before I did this job.

But okay, wait a minute.

But okay, wait a minute.

If Susan and I want a little piano terre in in uh Manhattan, can you make that happen to.

If Susan and I want a little piano terre in in uh Manhattan, can you make that happen to.

I personally cannot make that happen, but I could put you in touch with people who can.

I personally cannot make that happen, but I could put you in touch with people who can.

You know people, it's always good. It's good to know they're very good.

You know people, it's always good. It's good to know they're very good.

So, Jeremy, we play this little game.

So, Jeremy, we play this little game.

Oh no, wait, we have one more question.

Oh no, wait, we have one more question.

We do go ahead.

We do go ahead.

Susan, Oh, I'll let the honors here because she's been asking everybody.

Susan, Oh, I'll let the honors here because she's been asking everybody.

I can't believe you've forgotten.

I can't believe you've forgotten.

Would do you if you're asked go on Paradise and keep in mind there maybe goldens on Paradise?

Would do you if you're asked go on Paradise and keep in mind there maybe goldens on Paradise?

Exactly?

Exactly?

Not good?

Not good?

Wait wait, wall, it's not to date us, like wow, if we came, like maybe we'd give some advice on like Jeremy, take off the necklace and give it to me.

Wait wait, wall, it's not to date us, like wow, if we came, like maybe we'd give some advice on like Jeremy, take off the necklace and give it to me.

I told you that two months ago, that kind of advice.

I told you that two months ago, that kind of advice.

Would you go on Paradise?

Would you go on Paradise?

Yeah, as far as I know, it's still a long time away, so I don't. If I'm single, I'm open to it. I think it would be. I mean, it'll be a great experience from people who I know who've been on it. And you know, I love the people from Bachelor Nation, and I also love the producers, which people forget.

Yeah, as far as I know, it's still a long time away, so I don't. If I'm single, I'm open to it. I think it would be. I mean, it'll be a great experience from people who I know who've been on it. And you know, I love the people from Bachelor Nation, and I also love the producers, which people forget.

I don't.

I don't.

I miss them the most. I really did.

I miss them the most. I really did.

We always That's funny you say that because Susan and I always acknowledge it and talk about the producers.

We always That's funny you say that because Susan and I always acknowledge it and talk about the producers.

They are great people.

They are great people.

They are.

They are.

Is there any female that you wish or would hope.

Is there any female that you wish or would hope.

That would be there?

That would be there?

No, I'm open to meeting anybody.

No, I'm open to meeting anybody.

Okay, all right, Well, I could tell you we've interviewed a lot of uh of women that were on various seasons, and let me just tell you something, you could do a whole lot worse than going to Paradise.

Okay, all right, Well, I could tell you we've interviewed a lot of uh of women that were on various seasons, and let me just tell you something, you could do a whole lot worse than going to Paradise.

So I think it would be hand picked perfection.

So I think it would be hand picked perfection.

I just think the experience would be awesome, just like the experience of being on the show.

I just think the experience would be awesome, just like the experience of being on the show.

And it wouldn't be it wouldn't be an interview with me if I didn't ask you, is your father married her?

And it wouldn't be it wouldn't be an interview with me if I didn't ask you, is your father married her?

That's a joke. He was teasing. I was teasing.

That's a joke. He was teasing. I was teasing.

Was just teasing, not teasing.

Was just teasing, not teasing.

First off, I need to get asked to be on Paradise.

First off, I need to get asked to be on Paradise.

But decision, yeah, all right, yeah, I mean if you're not in a relationship, why would you not?

But decision, yeah, all right, yeah, I mean if you're not in a relationship, why would you not?

Right?

Right?

All right?

All right?

We do this thing.

We do this thing.

We do an advice segment where we answer questions that people write in, and we'd like to ask you to weigh in with us after the questions that you game yes, yeah, yeah, all right, all right. The first one is from a non Hi Kathy, and when they don't even tell you what, you don't know the name Hi Kathy. And Susan and now Jeremy. I think my boyfriend's mom really doesn't like me, and I'm freaking out. We're both twenty three and have been dating for the past year. I met his parents the other night, since they're both in town visiting us. We went to dinner together and I just felt like his mom was not vibing with me. There's nothing that I can think of that I said that could have made her upset, just an overall feeling. My boyfriend hasn't mentioned anything to me, but it's weighed on me. Should I ask my boyfriend this happened last night, so it's still really fresh.

We do an advice segment where we answer questions that people write in, and we'd like to ask you to weigh in with us after the questions that you game yes, yeah, yeah, all right, all right. The first one is from a non Hi Kathy, and when they don't even tell you what, you don't know the name Hi Kathy. And Susan and now Jeremy. I think my boyfriend's mom really doesn't like me, and I'm freaking out. We're both twenty three and have been dating for the past year. I met his parents the other night, since they're both in town visiting us. We went to dinner together and I just felt like his mom was not vibing with me. There's nothing that I can think of that I said that could have made her upset, just an overall feeling. My boyfriend hasn't mentioned anything to me, but it's weighed on me. Should I ask my boyfriend this happened last night, so it's still really fresh.

What do you think?

What do you think?

Yeah, I think it's still if it just happened, it's still fresh. I think that you know, mothers are protected of their sons. You know, they take some you know, breaking in to do so maybe she should get her flowers the next time she goes to their house, bring a little gift, kiss a little. But if it continues to happen, maybe you need to get the boyfriend involved, because obviously there needs to be good chemistry between the partner and their family or else that's like a recipe for disaster. But yeah, I think it's still too early.

Yeah, I think it's still if it just happened, it's still fresh. I think that you know, mothers are protected of their sons. You know, they take some you know, breaking in to do so maybe she should get her flowers the next time she goes to their house, bring a little gift, kiss a little. But if it continues to happen, maybe you need to get the boyfriend involved, because obviously there needs to be good chemistry between the partner and their family or else that's like a recipe for disaster. But yeah, I think it's still too early.

I can't imagine that she didn't get in the car on the way home and say something.

I can't imagine that she didn't get in the car on the way home and say something.

I would have said something right then and there what's up? Did you subject?

I would have said something right then and there what's up? Did you subject?

I don't know if she would have said anything. It's a very sensitive subject.

I don't know if she would have said anything. It's a very sensitive subject.

I would have said, your mom don't like me. I feel like, what's.

I would have said, your mom don't like me. I feel like, what's.

My mother, Jeremy. My mother in law did not like me. I'm being honest, I'm not I'm not joking because my husband was her oldest child and her only son, and I took away. In her mind, I took away her son. And she had two daughters, uh my two sister in laws that were not you know, the best. My my husband was the one that kind of took care of his mom.

My mother, Jeremy. My mother in law did not like me. I'm being honest, I'm not I'm not joking because my husband was her oldest child and her only son, and I took away. In her mind, I took away her son. And she had two daughters, uh my two sister in laws that were not you know, the best. My my husband was the one that kind of took care of his mom.

So, you know, it's a real thing. It happens.

So, you know, it's a real thing. It happens.

I think you touched on an important thing. It's like the you have taken them away. You can't make them feel like you're taking their son away.

I think you touched on an important thing. It's like the you have taken them away. You can't make them feel like you're taking their son away.

I didn't. I'm joining the family. I didn't.

I didn't. I'm joining the family. I didn't.

I tried everything, but it just, you know, some people just aren't open to it.

I tried everything, but it just, you know, some people just aren't open to it.

So what do you think I said that she is I like his advice. What would you tell her.

So what do you think I said that she is I like his advice. What would you tell her.

Kat I would tell her she needs to talk to her husband about it in a kind and gentle way, because, like you said, Jeremy, you want to build a strong relationship on the other hand, these they're twenty three year olds, so they're pretty young.

Kat I would tell her she needs to talk to her husband about it in a kind and gentle way, because, like you said, Jeremy, you want to build a strong relationship on the other hand, these they're twenty three year olds, so they're pretty young.

Maybe the mother thought you're really not going to be the one. She don't even realize how he feels. We don't know how he feels, you know, But you were right. I think she should have brought flowers the first time. I hope she did, or a pie or something.

Maybe the mother thought you're really not going to be the one. She don't even realize how he feels. We don't know how he feels, you know, But you were right. I think she should have brought flowers the first time. I hope she did, or a pie or something.

If it were just that easy.

If it were just that easy.

Yeah, if my mother in law had liked me, if i'd brought a pie, why didn't I think of that?

Yeah, if my mother in law had liked me, if i'd brought a pie, why didn't I think of that?

It's not that easy? But who doesn't like being thought of?

It's not that easy? But who doesn't like being thought of?

Yeah that's flowers? Damn, Jeremy, you're flowers? Are you a flower?

Yeah that's flowers? Damn, Jeremy, you're flowers? Are you a flower?

Oh? Yeah, I love I love giving gifts.

Oh? Yeah, I love I love giving gifts.

Language of.

Language of.

Language.

Language.

I forget all of them, but when I've been told them, I think all of them.

I forget all of them, but when I've been told them, I think all of them.

Yeah, you're definitely like me. I like them all. I can't. But if you have to pick one, I can't. I can't.

Yeah, you're definitely like me. I like them all. I can't. But if you have to pick one, I can't. I can't.

Words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, acts of service.

Words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, acts of service.

I think maybe quality time is.

I think maybe quality time is.

One right, Quality time, Yes, it is.

One right, Quality time, Yes, it is.

I think quality time would be number one if I to pick one?

I think quality time would be number one if I to pick one?

Nice? Nice? Do you like to give gifts or received gifts?

Nice? Nice? Do you like to give gifts or received gifts?

I like to give gifts.

I like to give gifts.

Damn that necklace is coming my way.

Damn that necklace is coming my way.

That's that's the fourth time you've said it, so.

That's that's the fourth time you've said it, so.

Yes, make sure you understand.

Yes, make sure you understand.

I have a mini one like this.

I have a mini one like this.

And Kathy goes, why don't you have that necklace on? I have it on today, she's got the paper.

And Kathy goes, why don't you have that necklace on? I have it on today, she's got the paper.

Wait wait a minute before we get gone to the next question, Jermy, could you hold up your risk.

Wait wait a minute before we get gone to the next question, Jermy, could you hold up your risk.

I see a bracelet on you. I might want to Oh yeah, I'll take that.

I see a bracelet on you. I might want to Oh yeah, I'll take that.

Just stay clear. Okay, all right, this is from Laura. Hey, ladies and you. Of course.

Just stay clear. Okay, all right, this is from Laura. Hey, ladies and you. Of course.

My first ever relationship that lasted for three and a half years, ended a few months ago. I was devastated. We broke up because he cheated on me. I feel like now I'm finally ready to get back out there.

My first ever relationship that lasted for three and a half years, ended a few months ago. I was devastated. We broke up because he cheated on me. I feel like now I'm finally ready to get back out there.

What advice do you have for me?

What advice do you have for me?

I only dated one person and we were together for a while, so I feel really out of practice. What are some green or red flags I can look out for? How should I start meeting people? What do you think I should have on my dating profile? I'm looking for anything and everything.

I only dated one person and we were together for a while, so I feel really out of practice. What are some green or red flags I can look out for? How should I start meeting people? What do you think I should have on my dating profile? I'm looking for anything and everything.

Thanks so much. I love you, lady. That's a lot.

Thanks so much. I love you, lady. That's a lot.

Look at Jeremy.

Look at Jeremy.

Jeremy question mark another question mark? Should we break it down?

Jeremy question mark another question mark? Should we break it down?

It down?

It down?

Let's break it down.

Let's break it down.

Let's break it Okay, first of all, he's a jerk, he's a cheater.

Let's break it Okay, first of all, he's a jerk, he's a cheater.

What do you think about that once to cheat a row was a cheater?

What do you think about that once to cheat a row was a cheater?

What do you think So she's getting ready to get back. What advice do you have for me? Uh? Out of practice?

What do you think So she's getting ready to get back. What advice do you have for me? Uh? Out of practice?

Like you know, wait right, wait, we asked once to cheat Row was a cheater, Jeremy or not.

Like you know, wait right, wait, we asked once to cheat Row was a cheater, Jeremy or not.

No, I've never cheated. I've never been cheated on. I want to say it's hard to change people, but at the same time, like you want to be able to give someone another chance.

No, I've never cheated. I've never been cheated on. I want to say it's hard to change people, but at the same time, like you want to be able to give someone another chance.

Yeah, people do regret.

Yeah, people do regret.

I personally wouldn't want to be with someone if I've known they've cheated, So I might be biting my tongue on that.

I personally wouldn't want to be with someone if I've known they've cheated, So I might be biting my tongue on that.

But yeah, when she says some green or red flag, I can tell you about red flags, Well, what's a green flag? Like?

But yeah, when she says some green or red flag, I can tell you about red flags, Well, what's a green flag? Like?

I think this girl sounds to me like she's been burned, and so she's trying to systematically and logically pick a boyfriend, which isn't the way.

I think this girl sounds to me like she's been burned, and so she's trying to systematically and logically pick a boyfriend, which isn't the way.

It's a feeling. Typically, it's a feeling. There is no rule.

It's a feeling. Typically, it's a feeling. There is no rule.

I mean, if you want a green flag, it sounds like, you know, look at his check book, check his teeth, you know, does he have a lot of hygiene, you know, does he respect his mother? Or his clothes neatly folded in the drawer. I mean these are all.

I mean, if you want a green flag, it sounds like, you know, look at his check book, check his teeth, you know, does he have a lot of hygiene, you know, does he respect his mother? Or his clothes neatly folded in the drawer. I mean these are all.

What better but very important.

What better but very important.

So I don't know what do you think?

So I don't know what do you think?

How how should I start meeting How should she start meeting people?

How how should I start meeting How should she start meeting people?

Well?

Well?

You got to get out there, right, No, go.

You got to get out there, right, No, go.

To a bar, join a running club.

To a bar, join a running club.

I don't a club that we say that all the time. Doing a group of something that you meet new people.

I don't a club that we say that all the time. Doing a group of something that you meet new people.

Just don't be afraid to talk to someone. I think everyone wants a connection with someone. Just don't be afraid to talk to someone on the street.

Just don't be afraid to talk to someone. I think everyone wants a connection with someone. Just don't be afraid to talk to someone on the street.

Yeah, I think when you talk about meeting people, it's exactly what you just said. She's got to get out and you know, if you like to sail, get out and join a ceiling club. You want to play tennis, go join a tennis club, you know, do something where you have like minded people.

Yeah, I think when you talk about meeting people, it's exactly what you just said. She's got to get out and you know, if you like to sail, get out and join a ceiling club. You want to play tennis, go join a tennis club, you know, do something where you have like minded people.

But she says, here, what do I think? What do we think we should put on her dating profile? I'm looking for anything and everything. You need to slow your role.

But she says, here, what do I think? What do we think we should put on her dating profile? I'm looking for anything and everything. You need to slow your role.

Okay, don't put like a baby picture on your dating profile. I remember when girls used to do that. I'm like, you only have so many pictures?

Okay, don't put like a baby picture on your dating profile. I remember when girls used to do that. I'm like, you only have so many pictures?

Why, like and guy look like in thirty years, don't take selfies in the men's room. Like so many guys have this romself. What do you think about all those questions like, well, could you tell her?

Why, like and guy look like in thirty years, don't take selfies in the men's room. Like so many guys have this romself. What do you think about all those questions like, well, could you tell her?

Oh my god, that's a lot. Don't don't be I will say this, don't be looking for anything right, just to try to live because you can't. And I know people who've like like girls who have wanted guys who are like, oh, they need to be six four, they need to be fit, and then they'd end up.

Oh my god, that's a lot. Don't don't be I will say this, don't be looking for anything right, just to try to live because you can't. And I know people who've like like girls who have wanted guys who are like, oh, they need to be six four, they need to be fit, and then they'd end up.

What's wrong with that, Jeremy, Nothing's.

What's wrong with that, Jeremy, Nothing's.

Wrong with that, but like you should be looking for something specific. It's more like you will know if you're into them.

Wrong with that, but like you should be looking for something specific. It's more like you will know if you're into them.

Yeah, I just think she's It sounds to me, Lara, like you are so worthy that you're going to get cheated on that you're trying to write out numbers one through ten and if they meet these criteria, then it'll be a good guy. And I think Jeremy's on to something. You just gotta get out and date and meet people and live your life and see who comes into it and the way that you need.

Yeah, I just think she's It sounds to me, Lara, like you are so worthy that you're going to get cheated on that you're trying to write out numbers one through ten and if they meet these criteria, then it'll be a good guy. And I think Jeremy's on to something. You just gotta get out and date and meet people and live your life and see who comes into it and the way that you need.

We've all been schooled to write your list if you will what you can accept or what you can't accept that you need to know about yourself, right, Yeah, like that's the red flag green flag thing.

We've all been schooled to write your list if you will what you can accept or what you can't accept that you need to know about yourself, right, Yeah, like that's the red flag green flag thing.

Yeah, I think I think the simple answer is what Jeremy said, get out there, just get out there.

Yeah, I think I think the simple answer is what Jeremy said, get out there, just get out there.

And yeah, and based off of her million questions, maybe think a little.

And yeah, and based off of her million questions, maybe think a little.

Less slow fill. What's the red flag for you.

Less slow fill. What's the red flag for you.

If you're not nice? Like I don't know if you're.

If you're not nice? Like I don't know if you're.

Not what's the first thing you notice about a woman when you meet her? What is the very first thing you noticed?

Not what's the first thing you notice about a woman when you meet her? What is the very first thing you noticed?

Jeremy, eyes, eyes, a smile, Like a smile is the most attractive thing for me?

Jeremy, eyes, eyes, a smile, Like a smile is the most attractive thing for me?

Yeah, and then Susan stopped smiling.

Yeah, and then Susan stopped smiling.

That's what I do.

That's what I do.

And that was raised around around girls like I noticed nails.

And that was raised around around girls like I noticed nails.

Nails.

Nails.

Wow, I don't think I've ever heard a guy say that.

Wow, I don't think I've ever heard a guy say that.

I can't really see it from here, but like I will know if they are done recently.

I can't really see it from here, but like I will know if they are done recently.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

Let me ask you, is as I hold up my nails, is that because it talks about grooming?

Let me ask you, is as I hold up my nails, is that because it talks about grooming?

Like I would have thought you would.

Like I would have thought you would.

Have said, I like blondes, or I like a taller woman, or I like an athletic figure, like iest.

Have said, I like blondes, or I like a taller woman, or I like an athletic figure, like iest.

I've never heard of me on nails.

I've never heard of me on nails.

Look me in the eyes, smile. I know.

Look me in the eyes, smile. I know.

I like it, and I think, like if you and this is not like shitting on girls who don't get their nails tone, but I think it's like sort of you know, ties into maybe like up keeping hygiene.

I like it, and I think, like if you and this is not like shitting on girls who don't get their nails tone, but I think it's like sort of you know, ties into maybe like up keeping hygiene.

And that's what yeah, so that they care about.

And that's what yeah, so that they care about.

So do you want a girl? We're you know, we're getting your dating profile going here. You just don't know it yet.

So do you want a girl? We're you know, we're getting your dating profile going here. You just don't know it yet.

Do you like?

Do you like?

Uh?

Uh?

Do you like athletic girls or girly girls, blondes, brunettes, where are you?

Do you like athletic girls or girly girls, blondes, brunettes, where are you?

I really don't have a type. They could be you know, tall shore, blonde, brunette, white black.

I really don't have a type. They could be you know, tall shore, blonde, brunette, white black.

Do you have an outgoing like an outgoing personnelity Like I.

Do you have an outgoing like an outgoing personnelity Like I.

Was just talking to my buddy about this, I feel like I tend to like girls who are more outgoing. Now I can be outgoing, but I'm also like a quiet person.

Was just talking to my buddy about this, I feel like I tend to like girls who are more outgoing. Now I can be outgoing, but I'm also like a quiet person.

I would say, yeah, I never met you before today, and I would you strike me as a guy who is sincere but a little bit on the quieter, introspective side.

I would say, yeah, I never met you before today, and I would you strike me as a guy who is sincere but a little bit on the quieter, introspective side.

Yeah. So I do like a girl who's outgoing because I feel like that brings it out of me and I like it being brought out of me.

Yeah. So I do like a girl who's outgoing because I feel like that brings it out of me and I like it being brought out of me.

I like that, How tall are you, Jeremy.

I like that, How tall are you, Jeremy.

Five to eleven. I haven't reached that. Maybe i'll grow another inch in the next few years.

Five to eleven. I haven't reached that. Maybe i'll grow another inch in the next few years.

Yeah, that's cool enough. You're you're tall enough. You're fine, don't worry about it.

Yeah, that's cool enough. You're you're tall enough. You're fine, don't worry about it.

I never I always thought I was a good height until the second I walked into the Bachelor House and all.

I never I always thought I was a good height until the second I walked into the Bachelor House and all.

These Wait, that is so funny you said that.

These Wait, that is so funny you said that.

I was just doing a podcast the other day and I was, Uh, the of the women that stayed, I was the tallest woman, and I'm like five seven and a half. I mean there were all these women that were like five two and five three, A few Susans like five five. Joan is five seven. She's like half an inch shorter than I. But I mean, I didn't feel like I was that tall until I went on that show.

I was just doing a podcast the other day and I was, Uh, the of the women that stayed, I was the tallest woman, and I'm like five seven and a half. I mean there were all these women that were like five two and five three, A few Susans like five five. Joan is five seven. She's like half an inch shorter than I. But I mean, I didn't feel like I was that tall until I went on that show.

It's never I never thought about it. It's never been a problem with My ex girlfriend is taller than me, so I don't really care about that.

It's never I never thought about it. It's never been a problem with My ex girlfriend is taller than me, so I don't really care about that.

Taller than five to eleven. Yeah, wow, was she a model? I was just gonna say she was a model figure.

Taller than five to eleven. Yeah, wow, was she a model? I was just gonna say she was a model figure.

Not that I know of.

Not that I know of.

Well wait a minute, I'm sorry you broached this and we've got all the time in the world here because my hotel room isn't ready yet.

Well wait a minute, I'm sorry you broached this and we've got all the time in the world here because my hotel room isn't ready yet.

So what happened?

So what happened?

Nothing? Great girl?

Nothing? Great girl?

Did you date a long time?

Did you date a long time?

It was like a year. It was a COVID relationship, so sort of.

It was like a year. It was a COVID relationship, so sort of.

But you didn't have a problem with her being taller than you, and it was she were heels, she'd be even more tall, I mean even taller. Yet that didn't some men feel insecure about that?

But you didn't have a problem with her being taller than you, and it was she were heels, she'd be even more tall, I mean even taller. Yet that didn't some men feel insecure about that?

No, No, I found it attractive.

No, No, I found it attractive.

Oh my gosh, you have said two things that I really liked were like, I'm gonna I'm gonna hook you up with some great girls out of Austin, Texas Southern Bells.

Oh my gosh, you have said two things that I really liked were like, I'm gonna I'm gonna hook you up with some great girls out of Austin, Texas Southern Bells.

You've never been to Austin.

You've never been to Austin.

Oh wow, I lived in Texas for nine years, not that when I went to Austin, it's like you're not in Texas anymore.

Oh wow, I lived in Texas for nine years, not that when I went to Austin, it's like you're not in Texas anymore.

Oh. I forgot to mention the speaking of Austin because when we were originally supposed to record this podcast, the night before I'd met Zach shallcross of you guys and sends his regards.

Oh. I forgot to mention the speaking of Austin because when we were originally supposed to record this podcast, the night before I'd met Zach shallcross of you guys and sends his regards.

Let me tell you.

Let me tell you.

Katie was at my house. We were watching uh TV. She came over to watch something with me. The other night and I love those two. Uh they that has been a joy for me to get to know them. They're lovely people.

Katie was at my house. We were watching uh TV. She came over to watch something with me. The other night and I love those two. Uh they that has been a joy for me to get to know them. They're lovely people.

And that's Zach is a great guy.

And that's Zach is a great guy.

Yeah he is.

Yeah he is.

And let me tell you something, Katie is the real deal. I mean he he got a gem with her.

And let me tell you something, Katie is the real deal. I mean he he got a gem with her.

Well, I hate to do this to us, but we got to wrap it up for this episode. I want to thank you for sharing with us, for giving some advice, for opening up and letting us question you to that.

Well, I hate to do this to us, but we got to wrap it up for this episode. I want to thank you for sharing with us, for giving some advice, for opening up and letting us question you to that.

I don't think it was a lot of fun.

I don't think it was a lot of fun.

I really, I really hope if we get to go to Paradise and you get to go to Paradise, that we get to chat again and really, you are a joy to have.

I really, I really hope if we get to go to Paradise and you get to go to Paradise, that we get to chat again and really, you are a joy to have.

I'll be down there, bend in your ear.

I'll be down there, bend in your ear.

I'll be the bartender I'm.

I'll be the bartender I'm.

Going to be. I'm going to mix drinks.

Going to be. I'm going to mix drinks.

If you guys are in New York, we can grab a drink here.

If you guys are in New York, we can grab a drink here.

I would love that.

I would love that.

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We'll hook you up now and we can rent his hair.

We'll hook you up now and we can rent his hair.

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