Today on “Bachelor Happy Hour,” Joe and Serena sit down with Joey to discuss his upcoming journey as our next Bachelor! Coming right off of the big announcement at “After the Final Rose,” Joey discusses his shock over actually becoming the Bachelor, what he is looking for in his future wife, and why he can’t wait to see what’s in the card that Jesse presented to Leah at “After the Final Rose.”
Plus, he shares his biggest fears in being named the Bachelor and gives us an update on whether we’ll be seeing more from Uncle Joe as his journey continues.
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Hey, everyone, welcome back to another episode of Bachelor Happy Hour. I'm here with my lovely wife.
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We have Joey the Bachelor. Joey, what's up? Welcome to Happy Hour.
Hey guy, It's glad to be here.
This glad to have you. This is your second time here.
I know I feel like I'm a reoccurring, obviously, I guess I'm a regular. It's just nice to finally see you guys in person and have this combo.
I know, very different circumstances this time around.
Yeah, a lot different dude you have.
When we interviewed you the first time, was there any like inklings of like potentially being the next Bachelor.
I mean, obviously, when I talked to you, I knew how far I went, so I knew there was a decent chance I was gonna get a lot of screen time. But uh no, I mean for me, I'm I'm someone doesn't go in with expectations.
I don't. I don't try to like think of what's coming next.
I was just at that moment we talked, was taking thing days by and trying to see what it was going to actually look like on screen. So yeah, I wasn't quite there yet. I would love to say it was, but I wasn't quite there yet.
And just because you're the bachelor, I still want my tennis lessons.
We're going to make that happen for sure. I just want to.
I want to check on that out. Okay, was like.
Before we podcast, I need to make sure I lock in the tennis lessoner.
This is not happening.
I am positive I'll find my way in New York and we will make that happen nice.
All right.
So this was a very hectic night. This was, you know, essentially Charity in Dotton's night. But we see your dramatic and very sad breakup. So why don't you just take us back to that day and how that felt?
Yeah, I mean today it was.
It was very raw, like it's it's crazy to relive that moment. I said it multiple times, but I truthfully did like blackout.
I don't remember it that much.
So to finally see it on screen, to see me that upset, it was tough. I honestly was more emotionally and even thought it was going to be tonight because the feelings and how I processed it, I felt pretty confident that I knew what it was going to be like. But to see me that just shrat and heartbroken was really hard to watch.
It is crazy for anyone that's been on this show, they can relate to this. You never have probably in your LAFE. I remember thinking this, at least when I was watching it. You've never watched yourself be so upset. So sitting there like watching yourself cry and be heartbroken and emotional is a surreal experience in itself of like wow, like I lived this and now I'm watching this back.
I hope I'm not like rubbing salt in the woond.
It's just like.
It just really sucks.
You're right, though, because everyone has that feeling when you first hear your voice on TV, you first see yourself on TV. There's little things that you have, this kind of out of body experience where you're seeing yourself like this is kind of weird. But the serious emotions, the actual vulnerability and something like that, that was the first time. But you know, as I said multiple times, I knew what I signed up for and I've gotten a lot of time to sit with it, but it was wrong today.
I won't lie about it.
When you went to go down on one knee and she stopped you, oh yeah, yeah, that sucks. But was there any part of you that thought maybe she was still gonna choose you like me, it was just like her turn to talk, or you knew it was. When she stopped you, it was over.
That was one of the last things I remembered was when she stopped me.
And I had to be top. I wouldn't ask for anyone to be in that position.
Yeah, because I'm glad she's gonna let me actually pull out the ring like she could have been a lot worse.
But no, she she I remember clearly.
She grabbed my arms and then I looked out to this beautiful Fiji mountain and then it was just darkness.
Like then I was.
I knew she said so much, but in that moment, as soon as she got me, I was like, it's it's not me. She wouldn't have stopped me if it was me.
Yeah, okay, So then she she sends you home, You're in the sprinter van, whatever it is, what's going through your head.
To be honest, you're an idiot kind of thing, and that's just how I am in that moment, was how do you let yourself get to this point?
I can't believe like you fully gave yourself.
But it was because in that moment, what I wanted to be when I was with her was strong and let her know like it was her day at that moment.
So when I got into the sprinter.
Van, what I felt was finally all the emotions I was holding in was how like, how do you let yourself get to this point and get your heart broken on national TV?
Like that's the worst thing possible. But it was brief.
It was just for that moment that I felt that way, and then I really went back to appreciation.
But it was a human moment where I was like, you idiot, why did you let yourself do this?
Wow?
I feel like that is so human, Like getting your heart broken. Everyone kind of wants to punch themselves in the face a bit of like how did I let myself get my heart broken? But it really is just something that you can't control, and like in that environment, like it just shows that you really let yourself lean into the process, which is a lot harder to do than people realize is to really let yourself lean in. And I think that's gonna be a good quality as a bachelor.
Yeah, I'm not gonna hold that in.
I'm not gonna lie and say it was all appreciation, like it hurt.
I was like, if you were sitting in that van, I'm just kidding.
Yeah, I appreciate her still, like that would be pretty wide.
One thing. Are you aware that one thing that Bachelor Nation loves is a heartbreak?
Yes, I am fully aware.
I am, and it's it's yeah, it's the narrative now, which is which is okay because it did actually happen, and in that moment, I was just I was.
I was stunned.
I don't know if you could tell enough from tonight and just the connection we had, but it wasn't in any way other than me really thinking it was me Like I remember walking up there and just feeling so confident and it was there was no doubt how it was going to end. So that was the first time I was able to release that moment and be aware that it.
Was finally over and that was not what was going to happen.
Well, yeah, you were wrong. So it's unfortunate, but looking forward, we had some great news. You are the next batch. How how when did they like when you got the call?
Yeah? How excited were you?
I mean, honestly, again, I was kind of in shock when they told me. I knew it was a good possibility, but I wasn't having any expectations.
So who did you think? Would you think there was anybody competing with you for that role?
Yeah?
I mean I know, I know there was a buzz online about like John b And truthfully, before Xavier had his departure, I didn't really know as much about it because I wasn't in it. So when I saw that, I was like, Okay, that's a hard narrative to spin, but I know how amazing a person Xavier is. Those were the two that kind of at the top of my head. And I loved Tanner Tans with my best friends, So if I was thinking of guys from the season, those were the three I know that got the most love. But and you know how Bachelor Nation works, they probably have someone else always in the in the chamber ready to fire, so they.
Probably I probably had someone else.
I have no idea, so I I just know that nothing is concrete until they say it on the screen.
So I wasn't. I was not expecting anything. I was just hopeful. Yeah, how how are you?
Friends and family taking it?
They're excited.
So my sister, I mean Carly, my older sister, my younger sister, Ellie, my dad, they're all so excited for me.
My mom, Carle, Joey, Ellie. H three names that end in why slash.
I we all have I don't know because we all have very proper full names. Like my older sister is Caroline, I'm Joseph, and Ellie's Eleanor do you have.
A middle name, Yeah, Joseph Michael, Joseph Michael, and Joseph Anthony.
Nice.
My fun thing about my middle name is actually named after a girl. So my godfather's Joe, uncle Joe, so Joseph, and then my my godmother's Michelle, so that's why they came up with it. So it's really Joseph Michelle, but we can't have that, so it's Joseph Michael.
That's so interesting.
I've never heard of someone being like, I'm going to give you a girl's middle name and.
Just switch it to the closest thing. That's the dude version they.
Tell me, that's what I'm going off. I heard that story before, so I'm sticking with it.
How's Uncle Joe going to handle this? Is he gonna come because when he dropped the bomb that are you really sure you get the real Joe?
Let's go quick on it.
But yeah, yeah, okay, never mind.
We'll be fast.
The best thing I'll give you about Uncle Joe, he is, as I said, my mentor, is someone I was extremely close with, but he is always going to be one of my biggest critics, like I am to myself. And in that moment, he said to me personally, if he could have saw the season, if he could have actually seen every episode, he would have never said anything like that. He was holding on to what he saw in the tennis court, and he's atern guy that sticks to his opinion.
And he was just like, are you sure you're being yourself?
Because I was awkward and he felt that correctly, but yeah, he he just was he's happy with it now, but he was just being a little tough.
That's interesting because he does know you so well. So I think people did hear his opinion and go like, okay, like this is someone super close to him like this has weight to it.
But he was both right and wrong.
You were off and you maybe weren't being one hundred percent yourself, but for not because you were on a TV show and not like you were being like that the whole.
Time for sure.
Okay, So, as the batchelor, what are you looking for?
Oh?
Such a good question, I really I keep saying it, but it's truthful. I'm looking for my person, like yeah, And I know for me, as I've gotten older, I realized that there isn't a type. It's more about a personality and a type of person, and I just need someone that's willing to really be open and taken on life with me.
I want someone adventurous.
I want someone that's going to love every day and try to make the most of it.
So I don't know what that looks like.
I'm one of those people that believe I'll know when I see it, But I'm just really excited for the idea that I might actually find that person.
Do you plan on staying in Hawaii right now?
Currently?
Actually, right before all this month started, I decided to take a little bit of a break.
I'm living in Philadelphia.
Area with my sister Okay, So I moved out there just to I knew this month was going to be crazy.
I didn't know if it was going to be what it is now, and I'm very glad that I decided to make that move.
But yeah, I just kind of knew that I needed to take a break from Hawaii while I figured out what all this was going to be.
So I'm currently in Philly, so taking a little break. Nice.
Nice, So let's break down tonight. Then tonight you were announced as the Bachelor. Let's start with like, how did that feel?
Again? Surreal? Like it's still sinking in by the minute.
Yeah, in this moment, what are your thoughts on the two women in the audience? And then only one of them chosen?
I felt terrible, right, but it's I also am on the side that it's probably good because for me for this season in general moving forward, like I care a lot, I think about other people, and for me, I was like, that's I feel so bad for the other girl.
Leo was amazing. I can go on that forever. She seemed awesome.
Can't wait for her to be on the season to get to know her more. But I also know in this role, like you're some time is gonna have to be like just thinking about yourself and being a little bit more selfish, and I naturally would be.
So she seems amazing.
The other girl, I think your name was Ann, I didn't really see her, an she seemed awesome. I don't know if she'll still be on the season or what will happen, but uh, yeah, all I can go off is the girl I actually talked to and it seems awesome.
What do you think was in the card?
I don't know. That's kind of it's through me for a loop. I like that they're trying to change things up. I really do. But yeah, I was like, what are we doing card? What does this mean?
We were like, girlfriend, like hold it up to the light, like what is in them?
We can see something. She was funny though, she said right away.
To me, she's like, these girls are gonna hate me when I walk into this house, like.
She's aware of it already. That's that's a little bit of a game changer. I was. I was like, you'll be fine, it's okay, we'll be back.
Oh, I'd be hiding that envelope I watched in the house and like, no.
One needs you know, all those girls are probably watching tonight too, are going to so they.
Know it's gonna be Yeah.
Wow, I didn't even think about that, to be honest. That's crazy. That's gonna be a fun twist, a new wrinkle.
That's ever been on the show. I think it's exciting.
I hope it's not anything too crazy, but that's I don't know what it is, so we'll see.
We'll see what charity. So charity ends up, you know, having her fairy tale love story, she did fall in love with two guys. Are you worried at all about falling in love with multiple women?
One hundred percent?
Yeah, it's just truthful, I know from her side and just how it was. She did such a good job of really giving all of herself to the person she was with, and I'm hoping to do the same that I did really believe that what we had was just for us. And I can see that just from this. If you have a lot of amazing people and you're giving all of yourself, that can happen. I don't know how I'll navigate it. I don't know if I'll say I love you to two people. That's something I won't know to them. In that moment, but be careful.
I know, be careful.
I get it, I get it, trust me, I know what it was from my side. When someone says it to you, how much it does change your mindset. But I can also be honest that I wouldn't have gotten to the point to be able to get down on one knee if she didn't say that to me. So there's there's a there's both sides of it. And I know she was just being honest and truthful to how she was feeling and I couldn't ask for anything else.
So again, I don't I don't know. I'm hoping. I'm not dropping a lot of I love you bombs, but I can fall hard, so I gotta I gotta be careful.
My gosh, do you have any other big fears going into the season.
Yeah, I think it's natural in general to have a fear of losing yourself in some way. I mean, this is crazy, this is going to be something that no one ever preps you for.
So yeah, just you know, staying present.
I think, I'm really that's my going to be my mantra, and my goal through this is to consistently stay present.
And if I have a fear.
It's the lack of staying present, thinking too much ahead, getting lost in all of it, and forgetting why you actually are here. So that's really where I'm not worried about it. It just that's where my head's at.
Well, maybe that's like something you end up looking for and the girls is like finding someone that helps you stay present. Yeah, is there anything else that may be you're looking for in these women? Like I know you said you don't have a type, but like going in like specifically in.
This process, I obviously talked about the idea of someone being adventurous, but I would also say someone that can just kind of command a room, give you that sense of comfortability. I want funny. I want fun I want people not take things so serious. Yeah, I'm just looking for someone that mirrors me very well but challenges me too. I just I could go down a huge list of things I would love in a woman, But at the same time, it's I'll know, I know, I just will know.
Yeah, if you can travel anywhere on this season, where do you want to go?
I mean, I've been lucky enough to go to Europe, but I would love to go again and anywhere in Europe honestly, I've been to Italy, Spain, I've all those different spots, but I would love to go through Europe again. Asia has been on top of my list, like a Tokyo a Japan type or something like that. And Australia has been there for a bit for me too. I've always wanted to go to Australia since I been a kid. So that's obviously I just said like three of the confidents in the world. But you know, yeah, because there's a lot to travel too, so yeah.
Yeah, take take note of that, please.
I gave a lot of Australia every.
Single place in Europe and then anywhere in Asia.
When you went on the Bachelorette, were you ready to get engaged? Were some of that you thought.
You were there? Yeah?
I think if I'm being completely honest, I would have to say, I don't know. My idea going onto this show was it was like something I could I couldn't pass up, Like what could this be?
What could come out of it? I don't know.
But if it was any chance of me finding my forever person, that was the real thing that was driving me. And I know personally I grew a ton through it and had to look within and find out that I really do want this. So by the end, I'm one thousand percent sure that I was ready to get engaged. But go going in, if I was on a line detective test, I might have I might have banged the wrong way because I was.
That's an honest answer. I think that's and I think that's the right way to go into the show. I think anyone that's like, I want to get engage right now, because.
You have to know the person. How can I say I'm going to get engaged but I don't even know.
Charity was an idea at that time, and I didn't know if our connection was going to be strong enough. So the idea of getting engaged has to do with the individual. It has nothing to do with where I'm at.
I agree, would you have gone on Paradise?
Hell no, no, I it's just me personally.
I am not interested in ever fighting over a girl with multiple dudes again.
Yeah, that's that's just me. I thought.
I I was so lucky with how our season went, that the guys were so amazing. There was so much, so many levels of respect that I thought I got away with, Like, I know how it can be so I was just I, Yeah, the idea of fighting over a girl with multiple guys. Again, it worked for you guys, and I've seen the success. It's not that I don't believe it. I just me personally was not interested in that.
Again, No, that's totally fair. It's not it's not fair.
It works, there's been more, it's been as successful as possible. You think I'm not watching my boys, I'm fully and I cannot wait for this season. I got so many of the guys that I care about deeper that are going to be in it.
Yeah, it's gonna be fun. I'm excited for it.
Yeah, it'll be it'll be a fun season. One more, I'm gonna hit you with, are you at all worried about potentially falling for someone and her not being there?
Yeah?
I would probably add it to the list when you ask things I'm afraid of, because, yeah, this ends with two heartbreaks in a row.
Your boy's gonna be hurting for a bit.
We don't want that. We don't want that, we.
Don't want it.
But yeah, it's truthful that that's a possibility.
And I don't know.
I think love's reciprocated, so I don't think I'll be feeling it unless someone else is bringing it to me as well, So I'm hopeful that won't happen. But I know from being on it how stressful it is towards the end and how quickly.
That engagement comes, and there's a lot of emotions.
So it's going to have to do with the communication and the honesty at that time and if we can really get to that point.
But I'm open to try to work with whoever. I think my person's gonna be awesome.
All right, Well, are you excited?
Thank Yeah, I'm excited. I'm yeah. I'd be crazy to say I'm not excited.
All right, Joey, thank you so much for coming on Happy Hour. We cannot wait for your season of The Bachelor. It's going to be a lot of fun to watch and to our listeners. We love you guys.
Thank you so much, and we will have lots more exclusive interviews just like this one, dropping every single week, so be sure to subscribe.
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Joey, thank you so much for coming and we will see you guys soon.
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