Hey, everybody, about once a month or five weeks, we will start dropping in these special small episode clips, and what they are are answers to ask me anything. Premium members are allowed to ask me anything, and we're going to take the time occasionally to answer ask me anything questions. Now, if you want to ask me anything, become a Premium member. You'll get bonus content from episodes and you'll be able to ask me anything, and we'll choose a question and answer it. So the question this time is how do I, as a white privileged person show up at an obviously black outreach program. I'm ready to roll up my sleeves and dig in, but I'm not sure about the reception. Do I just keep showing up? Well, I'm going to answer that for you the best I can, right after these brief messages from ours andner sponsors. All Right, everybody, the question again is this, how do I, as a white privileged person show up at an obviously black outreach program. I'm ready to roll up my sleeves and dig in, but I'm not sure about the reception. Do I just keep showing up? Loaded question here and a lot to unpack first, and I get it. There is this uh preconceived notion about how one person of one race will be received by another person of another race. And I think with regard to that, you need to drop your insecurities about your race or your privilege at the door, most of you. But now I've heard the Turkey person's story, and it doesn't matter if what color you are or what color the people are that you see to serve. If you are committed, consistent, and motivated by the right thing, which is the simple edification of a person who's not as blessed as you, you'll eventually be received well. But if you wear this concern about race and privilege on your sleeve and you and you allow that personal perception of yourself to interrupt the work that you're doing, people will see it and it comes off false. So I would say, you know, drop your concerns about race, drop your concerns about privilege, be consistent, and serve for the right reasons. Second of all, the last part of this just keep showing up. I love that question because I love that part of the question because it's true. Yes, don't expect. Look, when you go to serve people who are in an outreach program, more than likely the people you seek to serve have suffered some kind of trauma, whether it's financial trauma, whether it's abuse. So people that many people that come from situations like that are very very accustomed to having people in and out of their lives, and so a new person showing up a couple of times, honestly, the expectations those people are going to go away just like most people have. And so it does take consistency, very regular consistency, to show that you're uncommon, because in outreach programs and the people you're dealing with, the only thing that is typically common is dysfunction and change. And the thing that looks uncommon is can consistency and not dysfunction. And the way you illustrate that is, yes, by just keep showing up. Last, there's a thing called a Ben Franklin close, and a Ben Franklin closes this you take a blank sheet of paper, You draw a line across the top and a line directly down the middle, and at the top of the first column you put a plus, and at the top of the second column you put a minus. And then you ask yourself, what are all the positives and negatives that are going to come out of this initiative, whether it's starting a business, whether it's getting involved in your community, whatever decision you make, and you list all the positives you can think of, and you list all the negatives you can think of, and if the positives outweigh the negatives, then it's probably something worth doing. And if the negatives out worth a positive, then you need to pause and probably not do it. That's called a Ben Franklin close. And the reason I know about it is because in sales people use that a lot. When you're pitching a product or pitching an idea. You list the positive the negatives, and you say, hey, the positives are way going to aweigh the negatives, So this is a good decision. And candidly, that approach to evaluating initiatives and decisions and lots of different things is a really good approach. When you're going to serve in an outreach program, you're going to serve in disadvantaged communities, You're going to serve in places that have subject that have suffered abject poverty and loss and disenfranchisement. The negatives will probably always outweigh the positives when you start listing them. And what you have to reconcile is whatever or whatever check marks are in the positive column probably wouldn't happen if it wasn't for engagement. So when you go into an outreach type program and you're serving some of the most disadvantaged among us, understand there's going to be losses. Understand there's not going to be a massive list of winds. Understand it's going to be hard, and understand it's going to be difficult, But most importantly, understand the positive that do happen. Every one of them is one hundred percent that positive because they probably wouldn't have happened without your work in the first place. So don't be discouraged by the losses and celebrate the winds, however few they are, because without that work, those few winds would not have been there. And each of those wins can possibly affect somebody's life in ways you can never imagine. So how do I, as a white privileged person, show up in an obviously black outreach program. I'm ready to roll up my sleeves and dig in, but I'm not sure about the reception. Just keep showing up one drop your own concerns about privilege and race at the front door. Trust me. The people who need help ultimately will not give a crap about your color or your privilege if they see that your work is motivated by the right things, and you're going to be consistent and serve them and help them grow their own lives. So don't worry about it. Second, yes, be consistent, because consistency and steadfastness is uncommon, and when you become uncommon, you become important. And the last thing is, don't worry about the losses because mosteturely is going to be some. But celebrate all the winds because the winds that happen probably wouldn't have happened had you not gotten involved, and those winds change lives. Guys. I hope that adequately answers Ask me anything. If you enjoyed the short episode, share it with friends and on social subscribe to the podcast, rate and review it. Become a premium member at Normalfolks dot us. All these things that will help us grow an army of normal folks for premium members. Keep to ask Me Anything. Questions coming for new premium members. Send in questions. We'll have little short episodes to answer them for you. I'm Bill Courtney. I'll see you next week,

Hey, everybody, about once a month or five weeks, we will start dropping in these special small episode clips, and what they are are answers to ask me anything. Premium members are allowed to ask me anything, and we're going to take the time occasionally to answer ask me anything questions. Now, if you want to ask me anything, become a Premium member. You'll get bonus content from episodes and you'll be able to ask me anything, and we'll choose a question and answer it. So the question this time is how do I, as a white privileged person show up at an obviously black outreach program. I'm ready to roll up my sleeves and dig in, but I'm not sure about the reception. Do I just keep showing up? Well, I'm going to answer that for you the best I can, right after these brief messages from ours andner sponsors. All Right, everybody, the question again is this, how do I, as a white privileged person show up at an obviously black outreach program. I'm ready to roll up my sleeves and dig in, but I'm not sure about the reception. Do I just keep showing up? Loaded question here and a lot to unpack first, and I get it. There is this uh preconceived notion about how one person of one race will be received by another person of another race. And I think with regard to that, you need to drop your insecurities about your race or your privilege at the door, most of you. But now I've heard the Turkey person's story, and it doesn't matter if what color you are or what color the people are that you see to serve. If you are committed, consistent, and motivated by the right thing, which is the simple edification of a person who's not as blessed as you, you'll eventually be received well. But if you wear this concern about race and privilege on your sleeve and you and you allow that personal perception of yourself to interrupt the work that you're doing, people will see it and it comes off false. So I would say, you know, drop your concerns about race, drop your concerns about privilege, be consistent, and serve for the right reasons. Second of all, the last part of this just keep showing up. I love that question because I love that part of the question because it's true. Yes, don't expect. Look, when you go to serve people who are in an outreach program, more than likely the people you seek to serve have suffered some kind of trauma, whether it's financial trauma, whether it's abuse. So people that many people that come from situations like that are very very accustomed to having people in and out of their lives, and so a new person showing up a couple of times, honestly, the expectations those people are going to go away just like most people have. And so it does take consistency, very regular consistency, to show that you're uncommon, because in outreach programs and the people you're dealing with, the only thing that is typically common is dysfunction and change. And the thing that looks uncommon is can consistency and not dysfunction. And the way you illustrate that is, yes, by just keep showing up. Last, there's a thing called a Ben Franklin close, and a Ben Franklin closes this you take a blank sheet of paper, You draw a line across the top and a line directly down the middle, and at the top of the first column you put a plus, and at the top of the second column you put a minus. And then you ask yourself, what are all the positives and negatives that are going to come out of this initiative, whether it's starting a business, whether it's getting involved in your community, whatever decision you make, and you list all the positives you can think of, and you list all the negatives you can think of, and if the positives outweigh the negatives, then it's probably something worth doing. And if the negatives out worth a positive, then you need to pause and probably not do it. That's called a Ben Franklin close. And the reason I know about it is because in sales people use that a lot. When you're pitching a product or pitching an idea. You list the positive the negatives, and you say, hey, the positives are way going to aweigh the negatives, So this is a good decision. And candidly, that approach to evaluating initiatives and decisions and lots of different things is a really good approach. When you're going to serve in an outreach program, you're going to serve in disadvantaged communities, You're going to serve in places that have subject that have suffered abject poverty and loss and disenfranchisement. The negatives will probably always outweigh the positives when you start listing them. And what you have to reconcile is whatever or whatever check marks are in the positive column probably wouldn't happen if it wasn't for engagement. So when you go into an outreach type program and you're serving some of the most disadvantaged among us, understand there's going to be losses. Understand there's not going to be a massive list of winds. Understand it's going to be hard, and understand it's going to be difficult, But most importantly, understand the positive that do happen. Every one of them is one hundred percent that positive because they probably wouldn't have happened without your work in the first place. So don't be discouraged by the losses and celebrate the winds, however few they are, because without that work, those few winds would not have been there. And each of those wins can possibly affect somebody's life in ways you can never imagine. So how do I, as a white privileged person, show up in an obviously black outreach program. I'm ready to roll up my sleeves and dig in, but I'm not sure about the reception. Just keep showing up one drop your own concerns about privilege and race at the front door. Trust me. The people who need help ultimately will not give a crap about your color or your privilege if they see that your work is motivated by the right things, and you're going to be consistent and serve them and help them grow their own lives. So don't worry about it. Second, yes, be consistent, because consistency and steadfastness is uncommon, and when you become uncommon, you become important. And the last thing is, don't worry about the losses because mosteturely is going to be some. But celebrate all the winds because the winds that happen probably wouldn't have happened had you not gotten involved, and those winds change lives. Guys. I hope that adequately answers Ask me anything. If you enjoyed the short episode, share it with friends and on social subscribe to the podcast, rate and review it. Become a premium member at Normalfolks dot us. All these things that will help us grow an army of normal folks for premium members. Keep to ask Me Anything. Questions coming for new premium members. Send in questions. We'll have little short episodes to answer them for you. I'm Bill Courtney. I'll see you next week,